It's my birthday. I'm going to give a gift to myself today. I'm going to post five posts that make me happy. I hope you will like reading them. I hope you haven't read all of them already.
Also, maybe in the comments section, you will post your favorite post back to me. And tell me why it makes you happy. That would be a good gift.
Top Ten Jobs to Have, April 2006
I like this one because it is one of the first posts I did. It reminds me that each time I've tried something new I have been tentative, and largely terrible at it. This is not really a post as much as a start of a post. But I like the last line.
My financial history, and stop whining about your job, March 2007
My personal finances have been sort of a wreck since about 2001. It's very scary to have a messy financial life. It's even scarier to be a career advisor in a financial mess. I was so scared, all the time, that people would find out and then hate me. So it was a huge relief to write this post and come clean about who I am, and how I got here. And there were absolutely no negative ramifications from writing this post. It taught me so much about the value of being who I am, and trusting that it will be okay to be me.
Gen X updates outdated work and family goals, September 2007
I don't write a lot about gen X. Because I have a company that is an anthem to generation Y, but also because everyone who is not gen X hates hearing about gen X. We're a generation that has nothing to lose, so we take huge risks all the time. In history, it is the marginal, overlooked, overshadowed generations that are revolutionary. That's how I know that history will mark gen -X as the real revolutionaries of this era. And this post collects the data I have running through my head to support this conclusion.
Try to be funny, even if you're not, March 2008
It took me so long to realize that I have Asperger Syndrome. It was a result of lots of tiny little pieces of information piling up. One of them was after this post. I lamented the fact that I was funny but men don't like funny, they like hot. And my friend told me, "You're not funny. I mean, you are, but you don't know when you are." At first I thought this was informative because now I could just focus on being hot. But really, it was informative because it's true that I am never really sure when something's funny.
Tips for coping when your startup is out of cash, May 2009
I remember this day so clearly. I thought I was going to die from the pressure I was under, and I felt so totally isolated in a room full of parents with overachiever violin students. I wondered if they could tell I was falling apart. I wondered if my son thought I looked like other parents. The only way to keep myself sane that day was to write the post as the post was happening. It makes me happy that I have a place to publish something like this.
People ask me all the time how they can get more readers to their blog. The answer is that you have to be learning on your blog. If you're not learning, no one else is learning. You can't fake it. It's safe to talk about what you know, but it's not that interesting; no one likes a know-it-all. My favorite posts are the one's when I was doing something scary, but doing it with grace. In fact, I actually think those are my favorite times of life.









Happy Birthday!!
my birthday was two days ago and I hope that your day is wonderful.
do something to celebrate yourself.
Posted by funnylawyer on 12/10/2009 at 01:08pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/07/08/how-to-have-more-self-discipline/
this is one of my favorite posts.
i re-read it when I need to get myself back on track
Posted by funnylawyer on 12/10/2009 at 01:10pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I loved the post on self discipline as well. It was after this post that I started telling all my friends that they needed to read your blog.
Posted by mktgexec on 2009-12-10 15:17:45 | (Comments wont nest below this level)
Happy Birthday! i wish you a healthy and cheerful life
I got here while randomly searching google`s.. and really liked some of your posts.
My name is Gil, nice to meet you.
Posted by Gil on 12/10/2009 at 01:08pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday! It's my husbands birthday as well.
I loved this one because it was so outrageous a title it made me laugh out loud in the office!
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/06/high-income-women-get-more-oral-sex-maybe/
Posted by Kelly on 12/10/2009 at 01:13pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Hi Penelope! Happy Birthday.
I really enjoyed the webinar last night and proceeded to blog about it today. I hope you have a great rest of your day.
My favorite blog post is this one:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/09/23/how-to-find-the-right-job-for-you/
Great writing always, and thanks again for a fun discussion last night.
~Beth
Posted by Beth Oppenheim on 12/10/2009 at 01:18pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/01/16/the-connection-between-a-good-job-and-happiness-is-overrated/
This post is one of my favorites. It reminds me that my career isn't the only part of my life that is important to my happiness and that I can/should focus on other parts of my life when work has me down.
Posted by Jessica on 12/10/2009 at 01:24pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
oh.. my favorite post – try to be funny
You said "My gut tells me that most funny women are gay", well, I sure hope not!
And I dont think that men are funnier. The joke needs to be understood by the woman, wich means that she has the "funny" part of the brain working perfectly well. The difference is that she doesnt need to expend time and energy creating some clever comment to pleasure someon else`s ears, she can put that energy into other things, wich would get her to the top fastest.
sorry for any english mistakes, im talking from Brasil.
Posted by Gil on 12/10/2009 at 01:26pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
My favorite post:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/10/29/aspergers-at-work-why-im-difficult-in-meetings/
Quite likely because it's the first piece I read from you and you are the first person with Asperger's that I've come across that I feel like I can relate to.
Cheers and Happy Birthday,
DL Cummings
Posted by DL Cummings on 12/10/2009 at 01:29pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I read your blog on my inbox feed and rarely comment, but I am educated and entertained by every one of your posts. Thank you, and Happy Birthday.
Posted by Sheryl on 12/10/2009 at 01:32pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday!
All your posts make me happy, except for the last one, which made me sad.
I hope you have yummy cake, or whatever it is that will make you happy.
Posted by Cheryl on 12/10/2009 at 01:39pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I added a line at the end of that last post – to say why it makes me happy.
And thanks for the nice birthday wishes :)
-Penelope
Posted by Penelope Trunk on 12/10/2009 at 01:54pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy birthday Penelope
My favourite post of yours was the line you said "..I'm a lot more weird in person.." – I nearly fell off my chair at that one.
In case you have still given up on trying to be funny in favour of trying to be hot remember that women only really start getting to their best in their 40's.
Your writing is elegantly sparse and I think you are very pretty
All the best
Pete from NZ
Posted by pete on 12/10/2009 at 01:48pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday!! And even though I know how %$#@% cold it is in Madison today (it's where I am as well), I hope you have the opportunity to enjoy your favorite fermented beverage at your watering hole of choice tonight.
Oh, and the post about hating Tim Ferriss should be on anyone's top 10 list!
Posted by ScottS on 12/10/2009 at 02:00pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday!
Have a very lovely day now!
/Marcus
Posted by Marcus Eklund on 12/10/2009 at 02:05pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday, Penelope! I hope your day is really rewarding and wonderful.
I love all of your posts about Asperger's but especially this: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/11/24/aspergers-syndrome-at-the-office-6-ways-to-be-less-annoying/
Not only did it make laugh (not because it was funny – it's because I worked with Asperger's kids for years so it was rather a laugh of recognition) but it helped my co-workers see that a person we work with is the same way. Penelope Trunk: Bringing ASD co-workers together! Hurrah!
And now, one of my other co-workers thinks you're hot. So there's that, too!
Personally, I love the post about registering your car. A little self-recognition there. My husband thinks I married him just so I wouldn't have to deal with my car or taxes. He's only partly correct.
Thanks for your writing. It's honest, funny, and human. A gift for us, Birthday Girl!
Posted by barchbo on 12/10/2009 at 02:10pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday, Pen! Wasn't expecting so much content today. Will have to come back later and read it all. Promise to tell you my favorite "happy-making" post.
Jay
Posted by Jay on 12/10/2009 at 02:13pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy birthday Penelope!
I can't say I have read everything yet as I started only a couple of months ago, However, you have become favorite reading, which I look forward to every time I see a new post, and I struggle sorting out a few favorites. Your latest "Why I need a cick day to register my car" and "There's no magic pill for being lost" was however very good as I think you presented your situation good with feelings and self insight. That being said I wait for positive updates and pray you are well.
Posted by Jacob on 12/10/2009 at 02:22pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happiest of birthdays to you!
Posted by Green on 12/10/2009 at 02:23pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
How about that – it's my daughter's birthday as well. Happy birthday to you. We made chocolate mocha fudge cake – I hope someone made you a cake.
Posted by Mike CJ on 12/10/2009 at 02:33pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday!
Posted by Brendan on 12/10/2009 at 02:56pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday Penelope!
I love all your posts and it's so hard to choose a favorite. There are so many that make me smile. This post though is probably my all-time favorite: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2004/08/08/lessons-from-a-french-chicken-farm/
It is the one I always send to friends and coworkers when I tell them about your blog.
It reminds me that there are such great lessons you can learn from even the strangest of experiences.
I hope you have a great birthday!
All the best,
Melanie
Posted by Melanie on 12/10/2009 at 02:57pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday! wishing you all the best! I've been reading your blog regularly for a month or two and I love it. One of my favorite posts is "your can't manage your worklife if you can't comment about it"
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/09/24/miscarriage-is-a-workplace-event/
I love that post because you are bold and honest and then went on TV and gave some people an education!
The best quotes, in my opinion:
"That we don’t acknowledge this is absurd. That it is such a common occurrence and no one thinks it’s okay to talk about is terrible for women."
"It is absolutely outrageous how difficult it was going to be for me to get an abortion, and it’s outrageous that no one is outraged."
Thank you for all that!
Posted by Alison on 12/10/2009 at 02:58pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I'm sorry, I got the title wrong. "your can't manage your work life if you can't TALK about it"
Posted by Alison on 12/10/2009 at 02:59pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy birthday, Penelope!
I'm not much of a commenter usually, but I had to tell you that I loved this post:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/04/16/dont-be-the-hardest-worker-in-your-job-or-in-your-job-hunt/
As someone who was always convinced that being the hardest worker in the office was a good thing, and always feared being seen as a slacker, your thoughts changed the way I think about it. I've often quoted this as an interesting piece of workplace insight that really stuck with me.
So, thanks for that. And happy birthday!
Take care,
Jen from the WBJ
Posted by Jen Conner on 12/10/2009 at 03:02pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
delurking to say HAPPY BIRTHDAY, Penelope! And I like your last paragraph in this uber-post even better than the 5 main posts (all of which are still rewarding in one way or another). In the uber-post, you point out (a) practical advice: how to increase blog readership, and (b) philosophical fundamentals: if you're not learning, no one's getting anywhere (and, by implication, "arriving", wherever that is, still doesn't mean you no longer have to learn!). WO-HOO!!
C.
P.S. One of my mentors used to say "anything worth doing is worth doing 'badly'!". It drove many of us crazy. Took me a while to realize what he meant. If you beat a baby for falling, it will never learn to walk. Not just accepting failure but actually engaging in it is the necessary precursor to success — and to experiencing life at its fullest, as well! If you aren't willing to do something badly at first (until you get enough practice to become good at it), you can't ever risk purposely trying anything new. What a waste of a good life.
(…but it's taken me a lot of birthdays to come to grips with this, and many of those who know me would say I haven't really, even now!) :)
Posted by csts on 12/10/2009 at 03:19pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday, PT. My favorite post – the one about your son and the violin. When you cried.
Posted by jen on 12/10/2009 at 03:23pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday, Penelope!
It is so hard to think of my favorite post because there are so many where I've said, "This is my favorite." I learn so much from you. You've made me braver and kinder. And I loved your last post where you gave shout-outs to the comments because this is the only blog where I read the comments as closely as the blog posts. I even have favorite commenters (hello, Caitlin and Shefaly!).
But the most memorable post for me is: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/07/21/how-to-decide-how-much-to-tell-about-yourself-on-your-blog/
That post is the essence of what you're doing here: telling the truth. And revealing why secrets are so toxic. I lived with awful secrets for most of my life and I know those secrets–and not the bad things that happened to me–are what held me back in my life. Your bravery in the face of soul-shaking truth is a total inspiration. That post also made me tell you I love you because I do. I think you're fantastic.
Also a favorite of mine, is not a post but an interview, which I can't find, where you and another blogger talk about how writers used to be something other than just writers and how that's a good thing for your writing. And you mentioned Raymond Carver. Since I read that, I realized I didn't have to sit around being scared of moving forward if I couldn't write professionally. I could just have a life and write anyway. So, I'm thinking of going to nursing school, which I've mentioned here a few times because I hated editing and I want to help people, connect with people, provide for my family and certainly get some good stories out of it, written or not.
Happy Birthday!!!
Posted by Joselle on 12/10/2009 at 03:25pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Out of these 5 my favorite is Try to be funny, even if you're not. This is the story of my life. I was a very serious boy in my early teens. I finally started lightening up when I went off to college. That's when I began clicking with women. It took work to make myself into a guy that makes people laugh. There was a lot of lameness to push through.
I just copied the funny people in my life and kept working at their way of cracking jokes until they molded into my personality. Now the jokes come much easier and there are still times that I'm the only one laughing, but that's ok because it feels good. It just feels good to try.
Posted by Karl Staib - Work Happy Now on 12/10/2009 at 03:35pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I like SO many of your posts its hard to narrow it down. I think I started reading your blog about 2 years ago. My husband used to call you my internet girl crush because I loved every post so much and would want to talk about them all the time. I also have recommended your blog to numerous friends with a little more fervor than they are comfortable.
One of my favorite posts is :
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/02/03/dont-try-to-dodge-the-recession-with-grad-school/
because I was *almost* at the same conclusion to bypass grad school and your post put the nail in the coffin. I always thought it was the next logical step and just a matter of timing. The more I thought about it the less it made sense. In the construction industry where I am and plan to remain employed, there is no direct correlation to salary or position based on post-graduate education. I believe there is another post that you basically commit yourself to paying back those enormous loans and potentially tethering yourself to a career or company because you have the mountain of debt. You posts helped me to be confident in my decision.
Happy birthday!
Posted by Erin A. on 12/10/2009 at 03:42pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
By far, my favorite is:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/08/27/your-family-would-be-better-off-with-a-housewife-so-would-mine/
Enjoy your day!
Posted by Jean Johnson on 12/10/2009 at 03:45pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/06/11/book-excerpt-how-to-turn-a-bad-boss-into-a-good-one/
This post – which I found in the archives – helped me change my life this year.
happy birthday
Posted by Anon on 12/10/2009 at 03:46pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy birthday!! I hope you enjoy it.
I appreciate all your posts that deal with Asperger's and the workplace (the series as a whole was great), but I like this one the best.
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/11/24/aspergers-syndrome-at-the-office-6-ways-to-be-less-annoying/
I have problems with people- and sensory-overload, and you made some great points in there that made me feel slightly more normal. :)
Posted by Lori on 12/10/2009 at 03:47pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I love the one where you go to the DMV and get lost. I'm ADD, and I'm practically helpless at daily "minutiae." I can get my job done, or I can get errands and stupid stuff done with big stress. Your post makes me feel less alone.
I also love it whenever you talk about the challenges of Asperger's. You spell social rules out, because you need to, but even some of us without Asperger's are social idiots and like to have things spelled out. :-) It's comforting.
Happy Birthday, Penelope!
Posted by Natasha Fondren on 12/10/2009 at 03:48pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday!
My favorite post goes back awhile. I can't find a link online, but I have a copy on my hard drive. The first line is "The 'brand of you' is over." The copy I have is from 2004. That article really stuck with me, and I have saved it, and still re-read it from time to time. I keep it in a file along with an article about detailing the 5 warning signs of job burnout.
Posted by Lynn on 12/10/2009 at 04:00pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday, Penelope.
Every time I read your blog I feel like I am getting a gift, so I don't know what to give You other than my gratefulness. I am learning so much from you. I enjoyed that Gen X post and I'm thankful for the validated feeling it gave me.
Julia 32
Nashville, TN
Posted by Julia on 12/10/2009 at 04:03pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday Penelope! Although I love all of your posts (I learn something from every one and they all make me a better worker) I must say I just about live for your Tweets! Most of the time they make me laugh and when they are serious, I am feeling for you. They are always interesting and I look for them especially.
I must tell you my favorite post is this one: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%E2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/
Even though I decided to stay at my job, just knowing the ideas you shared here has made me stick up for myself and feel better about being in the place I am in. Of course I would feel guilty leaving, but because of that post, I know I could do it if the right opportunity came along.
Thank you for writing about all the things I always wondered about at work but no one ever talks about. Thank you for being a source of inspiration in a callous world. I hope you have the happiest birthday possible and know that things can only go up from here!
Posted by Chickybeth on 12/10/2009 at 04:28pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
These two, because they are nothing but straightshooting awesomeness:
#1 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/01/get-married-first-then-focus-on-career/
#2 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/08/living-up-to-your-potential-is-bs/
I like that #2's point is: "we're here to be kind to others."
It made me think about why people love your blog: being human around other humans is such a sorely lacking gift today, but you're always ready to share, ingenuously, about your life.
happy birthday:)
Posted by Alison on 12/10/2009 at 04:29pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
All the best and many happy returns, Ms Trunk!
Posted by Prolific Programmer on 12/10/2009 at 04:29pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Hi Penelope,
My vote goes to TOP TEN JOBS. It is funny to see that it was written just three years ago, but according to the development of the work market, it seems that the post was written 20 years ago.
If one observes the ranking position for jobs as "financial advisor" one can not help smiling. Some of the jobs would never be in that position nowadays.
Happybirthday ¡
Posted by Angel Vallejo on 12/10/2009 at 04:31pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday Penelope-I have 2 favourite posts. The one you mention above about Gen X -I find that hugely comforting because I gave up my career because I wanted to bring up my kids. It was hard and your post reminds me why I did it. I also love the one about materialism-where you put everything into storage and then realised you didn't need it. I had a huge clean out around that time and I let a lot of stuff go- your words echoed in my head and I was way more ruthless than I would have been otherwise. I realised later that I processed alot of what you wrote in that post when I reread it later. It made me happy not to be held to ransom by things. http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/08/07/5-steps-to-taming-materialism-from-an-accidental-expert/
Posted by Heather on 12/10/2009 at 04:40pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday!
Your blog has inspired me endlessly. You inspired to start a blog about aging, which will launch in about a week.
I am 59 and I have stayed young in spirit by constantly learning something new. Thank you for keeping me on my path for new knowledge.
Posted by Ann on 12/10/2009 at 04:42pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I graduated in 2005 with a BFA in painting. I have a day job, and I now make $67,000/year. But I also still paint, teach, and sell my art.
I could have NEVER gotten to where I am without having read your book. So of course my favorite post is this:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/02/06/how-to-build-a-career-as-an-artist/
Because of #5, which made me cry: "You are not a better artist if you can do it full time."
Thank you for writing that. I grappled for 4 years with how to justify working a full-time corporate job when what I really want is to be a great painter. But that post made me feel proud for doing both.
Thanks for everything. Happy birthday!
Posted by Elizabeth on 12/10/2009 at 04:54pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Number 5 makes me cry, too. Because sometimes, when I don't write as much as I want to, I tell myself I need more time to write. And then I think back to number five on that post and I think, I don't need more time to write. I need to be more self-confident and just sit down and write instead of doing time-wasting b.s. that is my preamble to writing.
Penelope
Posted by Penelope Trunk on 12/10/2009 at 08:57pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday, Penelope!
I've been a regular on this site, but I've never commented on anything until now. I guess there really is a first time for anything.
This is probably kind of hokey, but this is the post that started my daily readership of your blog:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/11/10/the-easiest-instructions-for-how-to-start-a-blog/
You actually inspired me to blog, and I keep coming back to this post whenever I need a fresh outlook on the direction my blog is taking.
I actually first started reading your blog about a year ago when I was playing with Google Reader on my iPhone. I stopped reading it for a while, actually up until about two months ago when I ran across a random post of yours that was still on my Reader. I read it, then I clicked on it, got here, then I read some more. Then I found the above post and started my own blog. Now, I read you daily. If not your latest post, than something from your archives.
Thanks for inspiring me, Penelope!
Posted by T. Scott on 12/10/2009 at 04:59pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Thanks for coming out of hiding to comment, T.
When I first started blogging, I thought it was so weird when people told me it was their first comment on my blog. Now I think of it as a big moment. When someone is moved to say something back. I'm always curious about what moves them, and I always feel this hope that the person will like commenting so much that they will comment more.
I think this is right: that if you comment on a blog you get more out of it. You have to think more. And we are all better thinkers if there are more of us commenting. So when someone like T. says it's their first one, I feel a little urge to do a victory jig.
Penelope
Posted by Penelope Trunk on 12/10/2009 at 09:00pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday! The last one you listed is my favorite for this line – "Success does not come in a linear fashion." I re-read it every time I want to cry about my company running out of money. It really helped me to see someone else make it through the same things.
Posted by RS on 12/10/2009 at 05:14pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
My favorite was "Asperger's at work: 5 ways to be less annoying." It was the first one I read, and the one which I passed on to others, too.
The title made me chuckle, even before I read it, largely because I work with people who regard themselves as being highly skilled interpersonally, but they are not even introspective enough to consider how they treat others.
Happy birthday.
Posted by mj on 12/10/2009 at 05:18pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Its my moms b-day today too, so I'll probably remember yours from now on too. Have a great day and keep on learning. I hope to have a blog as successful as yours some day. :)
Posted by frugalapolis on 12/10/2009 at 05:24pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday, Penelope!
I subscribe via email but did not get one today so I went on the site. I can't decide my favorite so I choose 3.
The first because I can totally relate, and I'm still in a mess, financially.
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/19/my-financial-history-and-stop-whining-about-your-job/
The second, because I can also relate, having been married 6 yrs (when I was 23) and I am now realizing that I am too broke for kids anyways, which brings me back to the first one! Also that you can have a great career or marriage but not both, because life is not fair. Amen to that, sister!
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/01/get-married-first-then-focus-on-career/
Then the third one really hits home, because I first started reading you by a google search as I am just not happy, not where I live because I've been trying to GTFO of London for as long as I have been here, which is a catch 22 – cant afford to save up and move out of the country, if you cant afford to survive.
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/05/21/how-to-decide-where-to-live-2/
Happy Birthday! I hope what remains of it, you can do something you enjoy and find a bit of happiness!
xx Vanna
Posted by Vanna on 12/10/2009 at 05:27pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/07/21/how-to-decide-how-much-to-tell-about-yourself-on-your-blog/
I love so many of your blog posts, but "How to decide how much to reveal about yourself" stands out among my favorites. It speaks to the issues of privacy and honesty so powerfully, it's cathartic, it's freeing — and it's one of the bravest and most moving pieces I've read anywhere. I'll always remember it.
Thank you for you, and happy birthday!!!!
Posted by Esther on 12/10/2009 at 05:32pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday! I just discovered you a few days ago, and am very impressed. You're the second Asperger's person I know who writes very well. (Although I'm not sure she knows she has Asperger's!)
Posted by Michael L. Moore on 12/10/2009 at 05:40pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
This definitely wins as my favorite post:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/01/01/my-clean-slate-for-2007/
Happy birthday. Wishing you a year of sustained grace.
Posted by Sara Grace on 12/10/2009 at 05:45pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
My birthday was 3 days ago. In fact, except for those three days, I think we're the same age. happy b-day
Posted by planetheidi on 12/10/2009 at 05:54pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Yo, P ! I'm new to the blog, so have much catching up to do. So far, my two fav posts:
"My financial history, stop whining." — I found this to be a clear, insightful expression of the need to take personal responsibility for my choices (in both career as well as in life in general). Folks (myself included) actually have much more flexibility than they think – or will admit to themselves. Gave me a new perspective on what I fundamentally need to be content.
"Five steps to taming materialism, from an expert." — This was utter genius … very Zen, in fact. Makes me want to sell my silk Persian rugs because, as you said, if I ever get the (financial/life) rug pulled out from under me, the rug wasnt so great anyway. Life really can be made more simple, if only I'm ever brave enough to take control & make the decision to do it.
Stumbling across your blog in Oct was one of the highlights of late: and it's not even my birthday : )
P.S. Stay warm out there in snowy MadTown (the video of the 10ft snowball on University Ave is making me homesick) !
Posted by neko on 12/10/2009 at 05:56pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
This is my favorite:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2001/09/12/first-hand-account-of-911/
because you survived and it was how I re-found you.
This is my second favorite:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/05/my-name-is-not-really-penelope/
because it makes me remember how long we have known each other.
Happy Birthday
Posted by chris on 12/10/2009 at 06:19pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Oh god, I can't believe we're this deep in the comments until The Name post came up! Yes, that's a great one.
Posted by Joselle on 12/10/2009 at 08:26pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Hi, Penelope. I've been reading your blog for two years and this is my first comment. I've thought of adding a comment before, but didn't want to put myself out there. Today's your birthday, though, so in honor of your putting yourself out there for the benefit of all of us, here goes: my favorite post of yours is the abortion post. My second-favorite is your recent introvert post. They both just spoke directly to me and I'm really grateful that you wrote them. I hope you have a wonderful day!
Posted by deborah on 12/10/2009 at 06:25pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Thanks, Deborah. You deciding to comment for the first time is a good gift. I hope you'll comment more. We can't have a whole comment section full of extroverts :)
Penelope
Posted by Penelope Trunk on 12/10/2009 at 09:14pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday!
Here are a few favorites:
1. The post about how travel is overrated.
2. All the posts where you discuss office politics and explain it's all about being likable. This helped me a lot because I always feared there was some mysterious office politics knowledge out there that everyone else knew, and really, there wasn't.
3. The post about why you are difficult in meetings. It was so well written. I hope that maybe your son's teacher read it and understood you (and your son) a little better.
Posted by Laura on 12/10/2009 at 06:25pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I've found your website for about two months ago, my two favorite posts are the one about self-discipline and how you lost 20 lbs in two months before your speaking tour.
Posted by Howard Hermes on 12/10/2009 at 06:47pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Oh. I never link to that one about losing 20 pounds. I always forget.
Here's my favorite part:
This is what my agent said three days after I delivered the baby: “I don’t mean to be harsh, but you look terrible."
This is what my husband said two days later: “The stress of you having to lose so much weight so quickly will kill us both. Give back the money you got for the book."
Here's the link:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2005/08/22/big-goals-require-big-plans-losing-weight-after-pregnancy/
And thanks for reminding me about that!
Penelope
Posted by Penelope Trunk on 12/10/2009 at 09:17pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy birthday P!
I have lots of favourite posts but the best one is the one you wrote about deciding how much to reveal about yourself.
The writing was so clear and honest, it was great.
Posted by Jessica on 12/10/2009 at 07:35pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I am happy that you are giving yourself a great birthday!
My favorite posts are those about the "Do who you are" mantra. They always encourage me when I cannot make decisions.
Also, your latest post is always my favorite post, when I am reading it.
Posted by Isao on 12/10/2009 at 08:11pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday! I love you!
Posted by Charlie on 12/10/2009 at 08:12pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy birthday! Or something. I always hated it when I was in a bad space in life and people were wishing me happy birthday. So, I hope you don't hate it, and I hope you do have some happy in your birthday this year.
A favorite post of yours for me is: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/10/advice-from-the-top-marry-a-stay-at-home-spouse-or-buy-the-equivalent/
Posted by Eva Lyford on 12/10/2009 at 08:14pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Thanks for the link to the Gen X post — I really like what you had to say.
Hope you enjoy your birthday!
Posted by Jessica on 12/10/2009 at 08:16pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday. My favorite post because it's sexy and provocative at the same time: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/03/09/when-women-get-power-at-work-do-they-use-it-like-men-do/
Your horoscope: Even if you've got little authority, people still look to you for answers, especially on days like today. Your quick mind should bust out with everything that's needed, even if folks don't agree at first.
Posted by Lance on 12/10/2009 at 09:08pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/12/18/bad-career-advice-do-what-you-love/
This was the first post that I read on your blog, and it is still my favorite. I was very discouraged about my job search and kept getting that exact advice. It was a refreshing change to read and I found that once I stopped looking for the perfect job to make my life better, I found a great one. But the great thing about my life now is that it is things outside of work that make my life great. Thank you for helping me make that connection, I hope you have a wonderful birthday! Thank you for having the courage to be so candid in your posts, it touches more people thank you know.
Posted by Kristen K on 12/10/2009 at 09:09pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Once, I compiled this list for my friends in an e-mail string about career. Some of the stuff, I agree with you but in one of the posts I did not. Ha!
I called it "must reads."
And my good friend said, "Now you're convincing me to quit my job . . ." And he has a new and better one now. :)
Paste…this is how I described your posts to my friends:
Get out of a career when you're done doing it:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/07/13/sarah-palins-resignation-inspires-me/
Don't try to dodge the recession with grad school, it's pointless
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/02/03/dont-try-to-dodge-the-recession-with-grad-school/
Don't wait until you bottom out to make a career change
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2003/04/28/dont-wait-until-you-bottom-out-to-make-a-big-change/
Don't frame your career around fun versus not-fun jobs. (I pretty much disagree with her on a lot of this):
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/07/20/how-to-feel-steady-in-a-shaky-economy/
Make your life more stable by changing jobs frequently (this is REALLY good, advises against MBA)
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/07/13/2007/02/25/make-your-life-more-stable-by-changing-jobs-more-frequently/
Forget about the soul search, just do something (recommends trying out different careers because no job will match ALL your strengths. Also says to trust your resilience to survive, rather than you THINK you'll feel)
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/05/15/forget-the-soul-search-just-do-something/
What work traits will make you happy?
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/01/16/the-connection-between-a-good-job-and-happiness-is-overrated/
Nine biggest workplace myths
http://blog.guykawasaki.com/2007/05/the_nine_bigges.html
Studies show it only takes $40,000 per year to be happy
http://blog.guykawasaki.com/2007/05/ten_questions_w.html
People in their 20s change jobs every 18 months, frequent changes maintains passion
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/24/good-news-for-job-hoppers-frequent-change-maintains-passion/
New American dream: Success is not having more things than your parents, it's having more time
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/26/how-to-reach-the-new-american-dream/
Is Grad school right for you?
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2005/08/01/is-grad-school-right-for-you/
Five steps to a new life
http://finance.yahoo.com/expert/article/careerist/30949
Don't expect to change careers and be elated
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2004/06/09/checklist-for-career-change/
Gen-Y changes careers more often, unlike baby boomers who waited until midlife crisis
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/05/12/how-to-recognize-bad-advice-about-work/
Posted by Andrea on 12/10/2009 at 09:10pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I CANT believe nobody has mentioned this one yet. I hadnt become fully emersed in your blog PROBABLY until this day. You had me laughing in the quiet office space above my lab -out loud the entire time I read this:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/04/13/i-hate-david-dellifield-the-one-from-ada-ohio/
Not only did you do something that the rest of us wish we could do – publicly confront a completely ignorant know-it -all, but you confronted someone who thought they could judge another without consequence. Kudos, and thanks for the laugh.
Most memorable?
Here’s another idea, David. How about approaching all those guys with Blackberries at soccer games? Let me ask you something. Do those guys check their email when they’re getting a blow job? Of course not. Do you know why? Because it’s INTERESTING
that quote. Love it. Ive also introduced MANY friends to your column via that article alone.
Happy Birthday!!!!
Posted by Danielle on 12/10/2009 at 09:48pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday! My birthday is actually tomorrow.
This is my first of many visits to your blog so I have a lot of catching up to do. Enjoy your day!!
Posted by LexiB on 12/10/2009 at 09:51pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday!!!
Posted by Liz on 12/10/2009 at 09:57pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Favorites: the one about the mental ward, the one with your kid's violin lessons, the one where you decide what to reveal on your blog, and this old one which I think is a gem and I bookmarked to re-read anytime I think I'm too "busy": http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2003/10/23/dont-tell-me-youre-busy/
Happy birthday!
Posted by Nisha on 12/10/2009 at 10:52pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday!
I just wanted to say thank you for such a wonderful blog. I just recently stumbled upon it and have enjoyed going over old posts. I consider myself socially inept and am fairly new to the workforce. I really appreciate your candid advice. It has been very helpful.
I look forward to future posts.
Elisa
Posted by Elisa on 12/10/2009 at 10:57pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday, Penelope! I hope you treated yourself to some extra helpings of your gas station coffee.
You asked us to pick our favorites, but all your posts are always well thought out and always offer something new to think about, which is why I keep coming back. If I had to pick two, these are the ones:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/11/15/stop-worrying-that-your-twentysomething-is-lost/
This is a post I always read when I freak out about my career, and being a 20-something with no direction. It never fails to calm me down and put things in perspective.
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/12/04/theres-no-magic-pill-for-being-lost/
This one really touched me. I wanted to comment but I wanted to make sure I said something heartfelt and really genuine, and I was so nervous that I couldn't, so I never ended up saying anything.
Posted by Kam on 12/10/2009 at 11:02pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Oh! I forgot about the abortion post as well. It really hit home why I like you so much. You make your decisions and you're unapologetic. I strive to be that and having a woman role-model who is like that really reminds me that it is possible.
Posted by Kam on 12/10/2009 at 11:08pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday Penelope!
I love many of your posts since I got hooked about a year ago. I got randomly hooked to your blog one day after a frustrating day at work while I was googling "ROI of time" :)
It's hard to pick a favorite post. I do keep a list of favorite quotes from your blog posts. Here they are:
1. And every regret I can think of is about self-confidence.
2.Also, it is embarrassing to admit to wanting greatness knowing that there is a risk that I will not achieve it.
3. And our lack of time management comes from a lack of self-discipline which comes from a lack of focus which comes from a lack of knowing the meaning of life.
And we’ll never know that. So maybe we should just be happy that we have our lack of focus because that enables our creativity. And we don’t know the meaning of life, but we do know that we each get to create our own life, and that, in the end, may be the only guarantee we have.
4. I am sure that the best way to face self-doubt is to push through it
5. Because part of coping with adult life is allowing yourself to want something even if you are not sure you’ll get it.
6. The most important piece of self-knowledge is that our problems are not unique.
7. We can go where we can do what we want, how we want. We have to take risks to do that, though. We have to believe in ourselves and our own vision for what’s best.
8. Of course, some critics (like that voice inside you telling you to give up) are bad bad bad and you have to turn them off. But don't turn off all criticism: Mine your critics for people who can help you understand what it is that you do well.
9. People constantly undervalue the return on investment you get from taking risks to invest in your own career.
I also keep a list of quotes I come across through links from your posts, but I digress..:)
Hope you had a great day!
Posted by Tanya on 12/10/2009 at 11:30pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
My favorite post is the one I found when I was laid-off from my job and scanning the federal jobs paper at the library!
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/05/11/three-times-you-should-lie-at-work/
You are absolutely spot on about never telling anyone at work if you are pregnant. I myself got a raise because I kept my mouth shut while pregnant with my first child. I also witnessed over the years others who got passed over because they blurted it out practically 5 minutes after they found out they were pregnant.
Sometimes Penelope when I think a post is full of s*** I think back to this post and I know the person who was so perceptive about pregnancy at work must be on to something.
Happy Birthday!
Posted by Vicky on 12/11/2009 at 12:10am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday Penelope!!!
My favorite post is titled Penelope's Guide To Blogging. I gave you a rave in my Blogging category along with a hyperlink to the post mentioned above.
I can't tell you how many people have used that post to get ahead and how much they appreciate you.
Two words for you, the treasure, and that's all value. Thanks again for moving mountains and making such a dent in the world.
Warmly,
Bill Van Loan
Posted by Bill Van Loan on 12/11/2009 at 01:24am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy birthday, Penelope! My favourite is '5 steps to taming materialism from an accidental expert'. It helps keep me on track.
I love your honesty and I love your blog. Thanks!
Posted by Kate on 12/11/2009 at 02:44am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday old lady ;)
This is one of my favourites: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/27/five-ways-to-make-yourself-a-workplace-superstar/
I like it as it goes against the traditional career advice and sounds all wrong to others who don't get it, but it just feels so right for me.
I enjoy your "how to" posts that include steps that I can apply because although I'm good at getting knowledge about what I should be doing I'm not so good at actually taking initiative/action and just doing stuff (plus I love lists)!
Posted by Kat on 12/11/2009 at 02:55am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Most of you posts are my favourite posts, I find your writing eloquent and precise and beatiful and catchy. Thank you for writing your blog!
The most touching post so far was http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/07/21/how-to-decide-how-much-to-tell-about-yourself-on-your-blog/
Wish you happiness!
Posted by Hanna on 12/11/2009 at 03:44am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday!
I have lots of favorite posts, but this is the one I've taken the time to look for and send to people:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/01/get-married-first-then-focus-on-career/
I also think a lot about how being near friends and family is worth $150,000/year, but that's in a lot of posts.
These posts beg the question: which is more important, a marriage, or family and friends? (A question I am thinking about right now, as you may be.)
Rachel
Posted by Rachel on 12/11/2009 at 05:57am | permalink | Reply to this comment
I find my confidence (and resulting happiness) in your posts on interviewing and salary negotiations. I re-read them before any interview or job-related phone call. Especially this one: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/02/19/the-answer-to-the-toughest-interview-question/
Posted by Jaclyn on 12/11/2009 at 07:37am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Dear Penelope. I usually read without commenting, but since you asked! I have read you since I was house-hunting in 2002 many moves ago and found your column via Bankrate. I love the combination of truly helpful career advice, leads on positive-psych articles, and your unique writing voice, which has made me come to care about you personally over the years. I wish you a very happy birthday, and hope the sadness you are feeling about the farmer doesn't overwelm the flavor of your day, though it will of course darken it and make it more complex. I love the chicken-farm column too, but can say that this one truly improved my life:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2003/08/23/brag-is-not-a-4-letter-word/
I bought this book and was freed from only getting job offers from people who had already worked with me – I was so delighted to learn that interviewing well is a skill you can learn! Thank you so much!
Posted by Willy on 12/11/2009 at 07:42am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Penelope, just recently started following you. Of the five you posted for your birthday, well, makes me feel better about my life (about as crazy as yours!). Gives me hope that I'll make it!
Posted by Bryon on 12/11/2009 at 08:01am | permalink | Reply to this comment
I was so psyched to see that we share a birthday Penelope. I am several generations older than you but I feel like we are kindred souls. Reading your blog, I have come to realize that my husband may have Asperger's and you have given me insight and appreciation for his unique way of looking at the world. I love your work and am rooting for you to win your battles in business and love. You inspire me to be a better person to myself. Peace.
Posted by Chris on 12/11/2009 at 08:03am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy happy birthday! I loved this post: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/02/03/dont-try-to-dodge-the-recession-with-grad-school/
Very self-affirming. But really, I love the last sentence of this post about what makes a great blog. Sharing learning experiences as you go is key. Otherwise it just sounds like mental masturbation, and that's when the arrogance sets in.
Thank you for your thought-provoking (and often entertaining)observations. Here's to many more!
Posted by Andrea on 12/11/2009 at 08:46am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy birthday! I love your blog. It's like potato chips — I can never read just one post. When I first discovered it I spent way too much time reading it. My fave post is this one: the one about hating David Whathisname from Ohio. LOVED it. You gave voice to what I'd been thinking about a lot since I had my daughter.
Thanks!
Posted by Tami Forman on 12/11/2009 at 09:07am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday Penelope,
I hope this is a great year in your life, and I hope the farmer figures out that being with a smart, courageous woman is hot and will make his life an adventure. I especially liked your blog about Asperbergers. Your blog is thought provoking and always gives me something funny and poignant to ponder.
Cheers!
Luci
Posted by Luci Klebar on 12/11/2009 at 09:51am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday, Penelope! I'm glad to see you asking for presents here. I feel better knowing you are getting support. The replies so far have been so fun! I visualize you crowd surfing, your readers lifting you up and letting you ride the wave.
I found you when helping my husband establish his private practice in mental health counseling. I thought blogging would be a good way for a therapist to let his potential clients get a sense of who he was and whether they'd be able to relate to him comfortably. And I found: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/05/23/blogging-essential-for-a-good-career/
Now he blogs for our local paper (shameless plug: http://cincinnati.com/blogs/therapy ). Your advice has been a huge confidence booster for me as I prepare to plunge into my own small business. You do a lot of good stuff and I'm not even sure you know the impact of it all. Have a wonderful birthday!
Posted by rainie on 12/11/2009 at 10:15am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday and thanks for sharing your gift. My favorite post was "How to feel like you have time to read everything", because it was the first one I read. A friend had passed it along and right away I was captivated by your candor, insight and colorful way with language. Since then, I'm a regular and look forward to your posts everyday (and I don't tend to read blogs).
Thanks for sharing all you do for the sake of making me think better -
Cindy
Posted by Cindy O'Keeffe on 12/11/2009 at 10:24am | permalink | Reply to this comment
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/05/15/tips-for-coping-when-your-startup-is-out-of-cash/
loved it! loved it! loved it!
I'm going through that phase right now… run a business, support two broke brothers & manage home & a girlfriend!
I get frustrated and then I turn to your blog and say – Hey! She goes through that too! You help me keep my sanity :)
Love,
Mario
P.S.
A belated Happy Birthday, Pen!
Posted by Mario Braganza on 12/11/2009 at 10:40am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy birthday! I started reading your posts a little over a year ago and haven't had time to read the archived ones. So thanks for posting "Gen X updates outdated work and family goals, September 2007." I missed this one and was so glad to read it. I haven't had much interest in starting a family because I'm focused on career, but this post made it seem ok to step back and take some time…for kids, for my dogs, for my husband. Thanks!
Posted by Kristen Power on 12/11/2009 at 10:41am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday, and now this is my favorite post. You've probably said it before but "you have to be learning on your blog" just finally penetrated my thick skull. For my business blog, I'm always trying to be buttoned up, edited and certain. Certainly boring, I guess!
Posted by Theresa Quintanilla on 12/11/2009 at 10:46am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday! I'm a newcomer to your blog and enjoyed raeding this list. One of my favorites is "First, be honest about what you want."
The first few sentences talked about your memory of happiness being your grandparents' yard, and mine was my grandparents farm. I was also in the midst of making some major life adjustments when reading this blog post and it resonated with me. This is my favorite line:
The trick is to admit what we want, even if we are scared we won’t get it. We can only be who we are. And if we are disappointed, later on, well. I guess that’s just part of being a grown up and knowing what we want.
Posted by mktggrrl on 12/11/2009 at 10:47am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Belated Birthday!
Hope it was a good one. I used to think my favorite post was the one about your personal 9/11. It came in close with all the ones about dating the farmer, though, especially the one from first time you met him at the market. Then I just read the one you just re-posted about how to cope when your startup is out of money, and well, it might take the (birthday) cake. Then again, I still really like the 9/11 post. … The point is, it's always, always, always a delight to read your writing. It is poignant, inspiring, thought-provoking and sometimes even heartbreaking. The best thing about it, though, is that it often makes me laugh out loud and not give a damn who walks by at that moment to see me cackling at my computer screen.
Cheers,
Margaret
Posted by Margaret on 12/11/2009 at 10:50am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy belated Birthday! It was also my birthday too yesterday :-)
It's so refreshing to read your blog, because you write about who you are, without trying to be anything else.
Best wishes!
Posted by Nathalie on 12/11/2009 at 10:52am | permalink | Reply to this comment
I recently discovered you and am so inspired by your brave honesty and wit. I'm gearing up to start my own blog and you have been
a real gift. Enjoy your day. In my humble opinion, that farmer is an idiot if he doesn't choose you over anything.
Posted by Wendi Knox on 12/11/2009 at 11:12am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Belated Birthday. I just read your post in my e-mail.
Posted by Tina on 12/11/2009 at 11:46am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Hi Penelope,
I have been subscribed to your blog for a few years now.
I am a vocational expert and career counselor, and someone mentioned your blog on a professional listserve. I thought I would find tidbits of career-related advice to pass along to my clients, but I found so much more.
I want to wish you a wonderful birthday, because you never fail to brighten my days. I enjoy all of your posts because you are incredibly authentic and your keen awareness of your experiences is so touching.
I have never commented before, and now I know why. Whenever I link to your comments, I can't stop reading what others have to say! You are a source of inspiration that I can count on.
The post that stays with me the most is the one about behaving badly on 9/11. I cried for hours after reading that one, because you took us through the horrific trauma with you…and you are such an engaging writer.
I'm grateful that you made it Penelope. We need more people in the world who tell the truth – no matter how painful or embarrassing it may be.
You are a brave lady and you empower me immensely.
Thank you Birthday Girl! Abbe
Posted by Abbe on 12/11/2009 at 12:12pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Penelope;
You are an inspiration to me. That inspiration manifested with in me a determination to blog. Maybe I need this hell
for the change.
http://reinventingrichardsher.blogspot.com/
Richard Sher
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Posted by Richard Sher on 12/11/2009 at 01:18pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday Penelope!
My favorite post is "One enchanted evening" at:
My memory of my mother has dimmed, but this post was alive with memory. Remembering makes me happy. It means she was there, and I remember her.
Posted by Diana on 12/11/2009 at 01:18pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I'm sorry, I guess I didn't do the html correctly.
here is the URL
http://mosaicmoods.wordpress.com/2009/05/09/one-enchanted-evening/
Posted by Diana on 12/11/2009 at 01:19pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I like how you're honoring your birthday–and was dismayed to read in a previous post that your engagement had been called off. I recently read something that said, our relationships aren't to make us happy, they're to help us grow . Bet that doesn't help right now so I'll move onto your request for favorite posts. Mine is from Twitter, but first I want to say that I'm also glad that you're asking for what you want on your birthday–focusing in on what makes you happy. Though I don't have Asperger's, I prefer my spouse as a confidante–and rarely feel comfortable reaching out to friends as I tend to look "in" rather than "out" for counsel. Anyway, I'm not surprised you're a fellow Sagittarian (mine's 12/8)–and via request, here is the post (or tweet) that I most appreciated of yours because of its complete transparency: "I'm in a board meeting. Having a miscarriage. Thank goodness, because there's a fucked-up 3-week hoop-jump to have an abortion in Wisconsin."
Posted by Kelly Salasin on 12/11/2009 at 01:20pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
"post your favorite post back to me. And tell me why it makes you happy"
Uh, oh. I thought you meant "our" favorite post, not yours. Ouch.
Posted by Diana on 12/11/2009 at 01:23pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Penelope, I have felt that your writing achieved new depth when you met the farmer and allowed yourself to "fall" in love and become "lost". I have found your writing increasingly non-defensive, especially the Aspergers posts. My personal favorite is the post on introversion. I sent it to my HSP daughter, who can relate, as I can. You've got to know that when a boomer (in a traditional profession, nursing) relishes Penelope's writing and sends posts to her Gen X/Gen Y daughters (I actually don't much care about the labels or their cut-offs/accuracy) . . . well, it's a compliment of the highest order! I want my daughters to appreciate your wisdom . . .
Chris
Posted by chris Keller on 12/11/2009 at 02:10pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday Penelope,
May God be with you always. May he grant you happiness and peace.
Posted by rennie on 12/11/2009 at 02:32pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday! Sorry to repeat others but one of my favorites was:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/01/get-married-first-then-focus-on-career/
It was so spot on, yet in the comments section there was uproar. A lot of women and men spewing about how lame, or how wrong, backward this post was…that there was plenty of time. Unfortunately, many seemed to miss the point which I thought was – as a woman, if you KNOW you for certain want kids you should do it sooner rather than later, that's all no drama really.
My other favorite I can't find, but it was during your divorce proceedings. You were explaining to your lawyers and husband what your new company did, gave them the whole pitch. Then your (soon to be ex) husband said something quite insightful about your new company and there you both were in front of your attorneys getting a divorce but you said something like, "you're right it's the one weak thing we haven't quite figured out – you are so smart, that's why I married you." Don't know why but that was funny, sweet and sad all at once – which many of your personal posts are and that is why I keep coming back.
Posted by Betty in Munich on 12/11/2009 at 04:46pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Through the years I have read most (perhaps all) of your posts. My single favorite is "How to Write a Blog Post People Love" (March 31, 2009, blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/05/13/how-to-write-a-blog-post-people-love/). As a minister I write and deliver a new sermon each week. When I confront the occasional writer’s block your advice is a great place to start: Start strong; be short; have a genuine connection; be passionate; and have one good piece of research.
Your book is another of the great gifts you have given to your readers. Your writing is honest, inspiring and occasionally poignant. For example, you wrote, “Uncertainty is a good gift with bad wrapping paper. If you could see a movie of your life before you lived it, would you still want to live it? Probably not. The thrill of living is that you don’t know what’s coming. In other words, uncertainty is what makes our lives fun. Sure, it’s hard to see uncertainty in such a positive light when you’re out of work or when you feel like you’re flailing. But, uncertainty is another word for opportunity. And you can’t harness an opportunity until you recognize it’s there.”
I wish you all the best as you tear through the bad wrapping paper of a broken heart. Happy birthday.
Posted by David on 12/11/2009 at 05:15pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Dear Penelope,
I wish you a happy bithday. I discovered your wonderful blog by Chance. And It is a real PLEASURE to read your blog. For me it is a constant source of inspiration and I wish I will write as good as you do and did on day. Anyway it is a thrill to read a new post….
Your blog and your writing give me courage and I have to say it again :
You are a real source of inspiration and I want to thank you very much for that.
I want to apologize for any mistake I might have made in this comment but english is not my mothertongue.
I live in Switzerland and I speak french So your blog is amazing and
Joyeux anniversaire !
Posted by sylvain on 12/11/2009 at 05:32pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
On of my favorite post
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/07/08/how-to-have-more-self-discipline/
it helps me a lot
Posted by sylvain on 12/11/2009 at 05:33pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday, Penelope!! I've been wanting to write some about farmers, land, history, and some other things, but have not. But anyway, I wanted to wish you a great day despite this awful weather. But you're used to snowy Madison winters by now, right? Yours and my brothers are the only blogs I read regularly!!
Cheers,
Jan H.
Posted by Jan Hogle on 12/11/2009 at 06:37pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Hi Penelope — happy, happy birthday and my thoughts are with you throughout the recovery process…for what it's worth, I adore your posts, and having people love the work-me always makes me feel better when I'm going through a personl crisis.
I'm a young female lawyer, 29 years old, and I identify with your gender politics and entrepreneurial bent. In other words, I'm super ambitious, kinda bossy but learning hard lessons in life too.
My FAVORITE Penelope Trunk post was the one where you talk about that female rap artist's lyrics, why her self-confidence hurt you, and you later figured out the lyics hurt because all the regret you can remember about your 20s revolved around not having enough self-confidence. That really, really resonated with me…I'm easy on the eyes, smart, successful…and with a huge sense of bravado but no real self-confidence. I think about your post and your words whenever I need to feel centered right before a board meeting or before a court hearing. I think about your words and how I'm now way too old to be feeling self-conscious or lacking self-confidence…that I don't want to live another year or grow older without it.
Thanks, Penelope, or whatever your real name is…I hope you keep at this for a long, long time. :)
Posted by Susie on 12/11/2009 at 07:06pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
It's a chestnut, but my vote is also for: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/07/21/how-to-decide-how-much-to-tell-about-yourself-on-your-blog/
This post saves you. It makes it clear why you do what you do. It is unapologetic and unsentimental. And oh, so well-written.
It makes me root for you a million percent, even when I think you're nuts.
Happy birthday. I hope it all gets much better soon.
Posted by Elizabeth on 12/11/2009 at 09:33pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday! I'm de-lurking as well. My favorite changes with my mood. But at the moment, it's… http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/01/get-married-first-then-focus-on-career/
because I'm a grad student (starting a first career in science) with 3 children. People thought I was nuts for doing it "backwards." Its nice to know someone agrees that my way is a good way.
Posted by Mak on 12/11/2009 at 10:02pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Penelope…Happy Birthday..!
You are so inspiring. Your truth is like a light rocket exploding into the stars and lighting up the sky for others to shine brighter.
May you open up to the love that is you in the world around you. Enjoy!
Posted by Melissa on 12/11/2009 at 10:38pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
This comment makes me so happy, Melissa. Thank you.
Actually Elizabeth's, right up above yours makes me happy, too.
Actually, so many of these make me happy. I am lucky.
-Penelope
Posted by Penelope Trunk on 12/13/2009 at 07:22pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
My favorite post is "My birthday post." You compile a series of blog posts that aren't really your best, and you tell us how you grew/learned from them. It's basically a constellation of what I have begun to expect from you: imperfection just ready and anticipating the process towards perfection.
So to summarize, I love this quote from your birthday post, "You can't fake it. It's safe to talk about what you know, but it's not that interesting; no one likes a know-it-all. My favorite posts are the one's when I was doing something scary, but doing it with grace."
P.S. That you are willing to appreciate yourself without apologizing for it makes me love you even more.
Posted by surcey on 12/12/2009 at 07:37pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday Hope you feel young as you look
Posted by The Padrino Dot Com on 12/13/2009 at 08:25am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Hi, while I was trying to find my favorite post, I had some problems with the search function. I get the list of articles, but I can't click through to any of them.
Is it me?
Posted by Rachel on 12/14/2009 at 07:39am | permalink | Reply to this comment
My birthday is the day before yours – and I turned 30 this year. Just wanted to say Happy Birthday to another Saggitarius!
Posted by Sharon on 12/14/2009 at 10:03am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy birthday!
What makes me happy?
Realizing that someone knows everything about me, and somehow loves me anyway.
Tomatoes when they are in season.
A good night's sleep
Snuggling with my daughter
Coming home with a long to-do list in my head, part of which entails going to the grocery store and cleaning the house–only to come home to find out that my husband has cleaned the house and bought the groceries. This doesn't happen very often, but, when it does, I reward him with sex, and that makes me happy, too.
Whenever someone writes to tell me how much they appreciate my writing.
Sunlight.
Finding out that there is more money in my banking account than previously thought.
Ditto regarding the 401-K
The smell of freshly turned over earth in the spring
A good book
Posted by Alisa Bowman on 12/14/2009 at 10:17am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy belated birthday!
LOL, I think a lot of us chose favorite posts that validate our life choices–this one is mine:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/08/10/im-moving-out-of-new-york-city/
…Gretchen Rubin linked it on her blog, and I was hooked on Brazen Careerist from that moment. I liked this particular post because I had just moved out of New York and was feeling like I might be a quitter or a loser, retreating to the suburbs, even though I was a lot happier. But reading that post made me feel much more like it was a choice, and a good choice.
Posted by boots on 12/14/2009 at 01:34pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy belated birthday! I've been reading your blog for almost two years now, and while this is not my first comment, it's the first time I'm going to gush.
Last weekend my son saw a news story about a girl who got to shop to her heart's content in a closed Toys-R-Us, because she has terminal cancer and this was her wish. Son and I were talking therefore about what we would choose if we were granted such a wish, and he said he'd probably prefer to meet someone famous. I agreed, that was a better wish. So who would I want to meet, he asked me? I thought of the obvious, like movie stars or US Presidents. but frankly, yours is the name that most came to mind.
I've never met you, and don't expect I ever would, but you seem like the most fascinating person in my sphere. You are smarter than me, overcame more challenges than I ever want to consider, and still are the most articulate and funny and interesting person I "know."
Happy birthday, and I hope this next year is packed with more happy moments and fewer sad ones.
Posted by Carla on 12/14/2009 at 03:18pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy birthday, mine was on the 11th :)
Posted by George Birbilis on 12/14/2009 at 06:49pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I love every post, and you picked 5 of my favorites as well. I also like this one, http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/21/the-art-of-knowing-when-to-hide-and-when-to-reach-out/ and I love it when you talk about asking good questions.
Happy belated birthday!
Posted by Katie on 12/16/2009 at 12:04am | permalink | Reply to this comment
happy birthday from Romania … Sorry for the delay :D
Floryn
Camere video
Posted by Camere video on 12/19/2009 at 09:01am | permalink | Reply to this comment
"People ask me all the time how they can get more readers to their blog. The answer is that you have to be learning on your blog. If you're not learning, no one else is learning." Great observation. You have to get in the trenches and bake the recipe to know if something works — period. For instance, you don't go to a mechanic for heart surgery. Seek wise counsel — especially when it comes to business.
Posted by Young, Fabulous & Self-Employed on 12/21/2009 at 03:01am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy Birthday. Dec. 10 is my birthday too!
Posted by Patrick on 12/24/2009 at 12:27pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
This month, i get my birthday too but here in this place i m alone and no one here to wish me but telephonic wishes are not less and that is why i need some written too. So who is going to wish me first. Waiting???
Posted by Chicago Attorney's on 01/27/2010 at 05:01pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I'm really appreciate the Top Ten Jobs to Have List, Thanks!
Posted by VinC on 02/18/2010 at 07:31am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Happy birthday, wish you happy.
Posted by Toothbrush on 03/02/2010 at 03:14am | permalink | Reply to this comment