The only resolutions that work are lifestyle changes, and if you are really ready to do a lifestyle change, you don’t wait for January 1. Which is one of the gazillion reasons why most New Years’ resolutions don’t stick. 

At New Year’s I used to do summaries of the most popular posts from the year. I didn’t like the posts that came up as most popular, so I started redefining the phrase most popular. Until I was just giving an end-of-year lists of posts I wanted you to read.

And then I realized what was happening is that the posts I chose for everyone to go back and read were tending toward those where I wrote about women and families (they had the most impact online).

But I don’t want to be known as a person who writes for women. I’d really rather be known for my posts with good pictures (because I’d like to be known for having a life as charmed and gorgeous as The Pioneer Woman.) or posts with particularly good writing (because someday there will be National Book Awards for bloggers, and I want one.)

Resolutions work best if you pick just one. And the best resolutions are those you can write in a simple way.

So for 2016 I’m going to accept who I am:  Someone who struggles every day to accept the realities of parenting in the context of a world that celebrates people who give up everything for work.

I am always trying to figure out how to get credit for being a stay-at-home parent and get credit for being a successful entrepreneur. Probably this means I have to redefine those terms.

So don’t  know exactly what success looks like. (and, maybe it looks like the picture up top – my son playing in the window of my banker’s office.) But somehow, last year, I earned six figures coaching people about how to have a successful career.

I think I did it by being a good sounding board for other people, and the reason I can be that is because you are all together such an amazing sounding board for me. The conversation on this blog about defining career success and stay-at-home parenting, and about all the pile of lies we feed each other—that conversation is more difficult and more stimulating than any I’ve had in my life.

So, in the interest of embracing who I am in 2016, here is a list of the posts that made a big impact in 2015. They are all about careers, but also about women and parenting:

A fresh view of feminism for 2015

Ten bad reasons to get a job

Do we still have to lean in if Dave Goldberg is dead?

What would life look like if we said no to work-life balance (and a nod to Amazon, of course)

Science behind high-powered women leaving their job