Find perfect ENFJ balance: Make people happy while getting things done


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This is Dana. Skydiving. Dana is a great specimen of an ENFJ.

She is flying through the air with her husband, Alex, an ESTP. Alex is an example of the most fun personality type in the whole world. As long as you don’t think fun is being emotional. Dana is a fun facilitator. For Alex. She is a work facilitator for Melissa. Which makes sense because Melissa is an INTJ so she thinks fun is work.

I’ve been doing all these personality type webinars, and I get so excited about the topic and the people I’m talking with  that even though I have an outline, I get new ideas constantly, adding them as I go. So when it comes time to send summaries of the session, it’s difficult for me to remember everything I said.

Dana knew this, so one evening right after a session she sent me a summary of what I said. I was SO RELIEVED! She knew exactly what I needed in order to completely love doing the webinars—I needed to not have to write my own summaries.

Watching Dana in action really crystalized the ENFJ type for me.

She is incredibly capable in her personal life. Every sky diver in the whole US wanted to date her before Alex got to her.

And she’s super capable at work as well. Melissa’s recruiting business is specialized and requires deep knowledge of personality type. Dana had done none of that but learned it all and quickly became indepensable to Melissa as the person who can make anyone feel comfortable.

Dana is like Melissa’s workplace fairy god mother, making everything around Melissa work well. Melissa even travels everywhere with Dana because Melissa says she gets more done in a  hotel room if Dana is there.

And that’s pretty much everyone’s experience of an ENFJ. Things go better when they are there.

So you’re probably wondering why ENFJs would need a webinar about their type.

Because ENFJs worry incessantly. They worry they are not getting enough done. They worry they are not helping people as much as they can. They want everything, and they want it all to balance. The choice of what to focus on and what to give up is what makes ENFJs worry the most.

All other types have a natural tendency to focus on one part of life over the other—INFJs don’t really like working all day, ENTPs don’t like being home all day. Each type has a clear tendency, but not ENFJs. So their tendency is to worry until they are almost debilitated by worry.

But that will never happen in our ENFJ land, because our ENFJs will take this course.

There is no perfect answer for all ENFJs. There is only the right answer for your ENFJ situation. This course will tell you how to find the perfect balance by showing you best practices for ENFJ greatness, and the secret path to squashing ENFJ worries.

And of course, Dana will take notes.

Here’s a description of the course. And you should sign up now!

21 replies
  1. geekyhybrid
    geekyhybrid says:

    Love the pics in this post! Also – I now want an ENFJ friend to help me feel sane and productive (I’m an INTJ).

    • Jay Cross
      Jay Cross says:

      In my limited and admittedly anecdotal experience, ENFJs are the perfect best friend for an INTJ.

      I would be lost without mine.

      They are very intuitive in conversation but they look at the kinds of things INTJs are interested in (philosophy, systems, etc.) from perspectives INTJs would rarely or never consider.

  2. Christine
    Christine says:

    What a fabulous idea. Are you going to do one for INFPs? I know INFPs are supposed to be very difficult to work with in terms of fulfilling careers but I would love some guidance and this course sounds great – if only I was an ENTP! Thanks xxx

  3. Sharon Teitelbaum
    Sharon Teitelbaum says:

    Hope you’ll do an INFP workshop at some point! I believe it’s the least common MBTI type, but I’m one and SO many of my clients over the years have been INFPs. Would love to hear your take on us, your advice, caveats, all the great things you cover.

    • blueray
      blueray says:

      Yes, do INFPs next! These are troubled times and the world needs help. Instead of coaching those other personality types just so they can advance their careers and stuff, you could be helping the planet. INFPs want to save the world. I know that because you told us so Penelope, and it’s true, and the world needs saving like never before. But we can’t do it alone, we need your help. Don’t do it for us, do it for everyone. Do it for the children. Do it for the whales. Do it for world peace! But I’m begging you, please do it soon.

        • blueray
          blueray says:

          Well that’s simpler I guess, but whales are pretty cool though. She could do it for money and whales. I think INFPs would prefer that. Whales definitely would.

  4. Marck
    Marck says:


    I have this funny feeling that the ISTP is last on the webinar list. Am I right? I hope not.

  5. Ashley
    Ashley says:

    This soothes my ENFJ heart. I just started a new job and the worries are insane!!!

    The good news is I have won over most people on my team. The bad news is I worry that they don’t really like me and it’s all an act. Then I tell myself I know people. Then I worry that I am one of those people that think they are in tune with others but they are totally out of touch.

    It ain’t easy. But I love it.

  6. Elliott Diliberti
    Elliott Diliberti says:

    Problems arise for ENFJs when they have to make difficult choices more than any other type, it is crushing to an ENFJ to have to choose between family and career. Balance for an ENFJ is different than other types because there is not one part of life where an ENFJ is clearly deficient.

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