Penelope Trunk

Self-management

Asperger's at work: Why I need a sick day to register my car

Posted to: Diversity | Self-management
December 1st, 2009
+-----------------+

The guy who sold me my car cancelled the plates the very next week. Luckily, I didn’t know that because there was a November expiration sticker on the plate. So the fact that I was driving the car illegally for three months did not bother me. Until now. But now I’m at the DMV.
I know [...]

Read More...


+================+

Don't be a snob about career advice

Posted to: Self-management
November 16th, 2009
+-----------------+

I have found that the best way to manage myself is by asking for a lot of help. The question is, how do you know who to take advice from?
The answer is not always intuitive. For example, you'd think that if Bill Gates wants to give you career advice, you should take it, right? I [...]

Read More...


+================+

How to make business travel manageable

Posted to: Productivity | Self-management
November 11th, 2009
+-----------------+

Last year I traveled almost every week. Some weeks I traveled to three different cities.
If you are excited about business travel, thinking it’s a free ticket to see the world, you should stop reading now. But if you are having trouble maintaining your personal life in the face of tons of travel, these tips from [...]

Read More...


+================+

Why men should give women flowers

October 28th, 2009
+-----------------+

Here’s the deal with giving flowers. Women like receiving flowers. Men think flowers are stupid.
Men think: Flowers die, they don’t do anything when they are alive, they are expensive, and they are a cliché. Men know that women in general like flowers, but men also believe that women they know personally do not like flowers. [...]

Read More...


+================+

This week's series: How to deal with Asperger Syndrome at work

September 29th, 2009
+-----------------+

People often tell me that I should write career advice for people with Asperger Syndrome. This is because I am surrounded by people who have Asperger’s, and I have it myself.  Please, do not tell me I don’t have it. First of all, it looks very different in men and women, and most of you [...]

Read More...


+================+

All career issues are religious issues. Maybe.

Posted to: Fulfillment | Self-management
September 28th, 2009
+-----------------+

I starting to think that the most effective preparation for a good career is religion.
I am writing this post on the eve of Yom Kippur. I am constantly trying to figure out how religion fits in my life. Sometimes I think it doesn’t fit. I mean, I’m a Jew dating a pig farmer. And I [...]

Read More...


+================+

Knowing a problem is harder than solving it

Posted to: Self-management
September 9th, 2009
+-----------------+

Self-knowledge can solve all your problems. Because it's more difficult to understand what your problem is than to know how to solve it.
Most of the time we actually have the knowledge we need to solve a problem, but we don't like reality, so we pretend to not have the knowledge.
This reminds me of the bazillion [...]

Read More...


+================+

Lessons in self-confidence (from Amanda Blank)

Posted to: Management | Self-management
September 4th, 2009
+-----------------+

What I'm listening to right now: Amanda Blank. Here's a song to play when you're not at work.
Amanda is a white-girl rapper, darling of the hipsters, and hot-girl candy for the intelligentsia. Right up my alley, right? My favorite line so far is "My rhymes are painful and fresh/My p*ssy's tastin' the best."
Today, Ryan Healy [...]

Read More...


+================+

How to have more self-discipline

Posted to: Self-management
July 8th, 2009
+-----------------+

For a while I have been fascinated by the research about happiness. Some of my favorite research is from Sonja Lyumbomirsky, psychology professor at University of California Riverside. (She's great at listing really small things you can do to impact your happiness.) And from Dan Gilbert’s Hedonic Psychology Lab at Harvard. (I follow PhD students [...]

Read More...


+================+

How to be a tall person at work

Posted to: Management | Self-management
June 16th, 2009
+-----------------+

The Institute of Social and Economic Research recently published a study about the connection between popularity in high school and earning power later in life. New York magazine, information source to the rich and popular, summarized the study like this: "This study may seem to burst our Revenge of the Nerds fantasies, but it's logical [...]

Read More...


+================+

Good grammar might derail your career

Posted to: Journalism | Self-management
May 19th, 2009
+-----------------+

I love grammar. I can remember in sixth grade when we spent weeks parsing sentences. There was a moment of self-awareness when I thought to myself, “If I let anyone see how much I like this, I'll never get invited to good parties.”
So I know I love grammar and I know it’s not normal.
My first [...]

Read More...


+================+

How to recognize bad advice about work

May 12th, 2009
+-----------------+

Be careful who you take career advice from. Knowing who to take advice from is a really good skill for any aspect of your life, but especially in the field of work, because work is changing very fast right now. A lot of advice that was good ten years ago is not good now. And [...]

Read More...


+================+

Three times you should lie at work

Posted to: Job Hunt | Self-management | Women
May 11th, 2009
+-----------------+

Everyone thinks transparency and authenticity are great. But sometimes you need to rein them in. I’ve talked about how I do this with my blog, which is really an example of how I rein myself in at work. There are times we each have to do this at work, and in some cases, we need [...]

Read More...


+================+

Five steps to make yourself great

May 7th, 2009
+-----------------+

The best way to get control of your career and stability in your life is to be great at what you do. Superstars are not out of work right now. Really. Even in finance. If you have an amazing track record in your field of work, you’ll have a job. And if you need to [...]

Read More...


+================+

Gold digging Web 2.0 style

April 16th, 2009
+-----------------+

The guy I’m sort of dating asks me, “Do you know Glenda Bautista?”
I say, “No.”
He says, “We’re trying to hire her.”
So I check out her blog and dis her and he says, “She was dating Matt Mullenweg.”
I say, “Really.”
He says, “Yeah. I was talking with my business partner and we both thought it must really [...]

Read More...


+================+

Twentysomething: Gen Y is better than everyone else at marketing themselves

April 7th, 2009
+-----------------+

This is a guest post from Dan Schawbel. He is 25 years old and already, the New York Times has called him a "personal branding guru." Dan's book is Me 2.0: Build a Powerful Brand to Achieve Career Success, and it just came out today.
Personal branding describes a process where individuals differentiate themselves from [...]

Read More...


+================+

How to decide if you need a therapist

January 28th, 2009
+-----------------+

I receive about fifty career questions each week. The questions have a predictable diversity, but not my answers. My answers are almost always the same advice: Know yourself better.
Watch:
Problem: My boss is a jerk. How can I fix it?
Advice: Understand what you can do differently to make people act differently around you.
Problem: My coworker got [...]

Read More...


+================+

How to shift between work and dating

Posted to: Negotiating | Self-management | Women
January 23rd, 2009
+-----------------+

Here is a map of where all the single men are:
http://creativeclass.typepad.com/thecreativityexchange/2007/04/the_singles_map.html
I do not live near any single men. Well, I sort of do. My divorce lawyer has set me up with a few men in my hometown, Madison, Wisconsin. He told me that I am too focused on my work life. I need to get [...]

Read More...


+================+

Change how you walk to change your life

Posted to: Self-management
January 22nd, 2009
+-----------------+

We all know that people judge each other in the first five seconds they see each other. We talk about clothes, and weight , and tone of voice. But you can also judge someone by their walk.
Don’t tell me this is shallow. You can’t help but judge people by their gait. But the good news [...]

Read More...


+================+

Make better decisions for yourself by watching decisions celebrities make

December 10th, 2008
+-----------------+

This week's poll is about celebrities because I love peeking into their lives in order to see the world in new ways. I love learning so much that I think that’s even why I spent so much time with the farmer even though it was bad for a long time before I stopped dating him. [...]

Read More...


+================+



RSS Subscribe

64,151 People

Subscribe





Most Commented

Big Ideas

Recent Posts

Archives

By Month

View a Random Post  Go

Photos Only  Go

By Topic:


Featured Articles

Asperger Syndrome

How to Blog

Hey! Hold it. Who is...