If more marriages were run likes businesses, we'd have fewer divorces. The best is when two self employed spouses can help each other with strategic advice and vision, and then blow off steam in bed.

Actually bed is the worst place; bed is for sleep. Make love on the floor. Memory foam pad full size for just that purpose of love. calico coverlet.

They did a study of women and asked women what they really wanted to do in bed. Most women really would like to get more SLEEP when they are in bed.

This is probably tied to the rush-rush-rush overstressed lifestyle that most women live. I don't know how women who are wives and mothers, as well as work outside the home, do everything they do.

I love what he said about candidates just letting people know what they're great at. Good advice, provided you're able to meet people who can offer you something you'd like to do.

I think I have a similar problem to yours in that I'm constantly networking. As soon as I meet someone new, there's this little filofax in my head that spins until it comes up with something: Tom Smith, builds custom amps. And then out of my mouth: "You're a jazz guitarist? How cool. I know this guy who builds custom amps if you ever needed something . . ."

But I realized at some point that this is less of an effort at networking – although I love to help people out and get people together – and more of an effort to find something in common with the person. That's how women establish rapport in our culture. Once I realized that that's why I did it, I was able to look more objectively at whether the "connection" was really something worth mentioning — and I also was able to listen more so that I would learn more about the person, rather than seize on the first thing I could.

Maybe for you it's as simple as setting conscience boundaries for yourself when you go on dates, and then making yourself stick to them (I will focus on getting to know this person. I will not think about business.). It's like giving yourself permission to relax.

I agree that we all have ways of trying to make instant connections. I find that when I meet a new woman, I will compliment her on her shoes/outfit/handbag. I don't consciously do it and I don't lie about liking something but it's one of the best ways I've found to create a "common ground" with a stranger.

Can't believe I'm responding to my own comment, but I must because I'm an editor. I meant "conscious", not "conscience." Oy.

Please, dearest Penelope. Give yourself a break from men. You are a relationship hopper and it is a form of escape from yourself. You need to get get right with who you are before you invite anyone else in.

Your posts are an open book into your soul and it is obvious that you've got issues (as we all do).

Please give yourself a good year at least of not even thinking about dating.

You know, I completely don't agree with this. One finds out more about themselves in interacting with others. I know the common prescription is "time alone, figuring yourself out" but from experience, that feels like avoidance and one-stop-shopping. Penelope will figure out what is best for her as she does it – through experiencing.

Perhaps I'm sensitive – after a divorce or a relationship break up, people often give the "time to yourself" advice. But reality is this: you learn more about yourself when you are interacting with other people than you ever do sitting on a mountaintop.

There's a difference between time alone and time not dating. After I had a bad breakup I made a conscious choice not to date for awhile but I also increased my volunteering, joined a riding class, and began a weekly dinner with friends. I made great friends, learned how to do things I didn't think I could, discovered the careeer area I truly want, and yes, did eventually end up dating a fantastic guy I met at the first friend dinner. I'm glad though that I didn't try to date him when we first met, I had too much else to learn about myself without locking myself into one person.

You must be an extrovert – in which case, I would say it's good advice for people who are energized by other people, but horrible advice for introverts.

Judgemental, much? First of all, I don't think P is a relationship hopper, she's dating. Dating is a healthy thing. We all do it. It's normal to want to find a connection with someone beyond the mundane business relationships or friendships. Taking a year off from dating is the worst possible advice anyone can give… obviously the purpose of this article is to find a balance between dating and worklife. Eliminating the dating aspect doesn't seem like balance to me.

Actually in response to Katherine (it won't let me nest, sorry!). To be honest, I'm terrified when I meet new people and forcing myself to interact on a social level with new people is one of the hardest tasks I've ever tried. However, I can talk to people when I have a purpose (advice on animals, what food to order, etc) which helps me get over my natural tendency toward shyness. I think it's good to try and scare myself every now and then and not let my nature win. If I don't push past my comfort zone I'll never grow.

I've been on a no-relationships sequester for the past two months with four more to go. I'm a serial monogamist, so it's been difficult, but very eye-opening. Maybe it's not bad advice to give it a break for a while. I've learned a lot about what I really want and need already, and literally each week I spend alone, the more that evolves and reveals itself to me.

I soooooooooo agree with Joe. Give yourself some time to heal from the divorce and from the Farmer. I would suggest you spend time with JUST YOU(this may come after work, phone calls, kiddos, and whatever else), but my point is, take some time. And no, I'm not recommending you sit on a mountaintop or isolate yourself, just pull back a little and put the dating/men/"what am I doing wrong" thing on the side burner for a little while.

You deserve the "best" you!

LOL – at least I'm not the only woman who does this. You get so in the habit of work that it's hard to break it when it comes time for fun. Autopilot kicks in.

If you figure out how to break, please let the rest of know how you did it!

"Then he said that the best candidates never let anyone know they are looking. They just let people know what they're great at."

You've got your answer right there (I think you probably know that, though). And I would add, they are also good and finding out what the other person is great at and letting them know.

To focus on relating to men as dates and not as business transactions, you cannot move. The problem is not where you live. If you move to another city, you'll face this problem even more because you'll meet a greater number of business-oriented men.

Perhaps you have a lot going on with your company, your recent divorce, and your family and you don't have space in your head to find another guy endlessly fascinating. That would be okay too.

Why do you want to date? Other than sex, what do you want from it? Maybe getting clearer on that will give you some answers on how to date effectively.

I have to agree with the commenter upthread. You define yourself with your job. Every aspect of your life HAS to relate, in some way, to your job, and you're brain is making you look for Significant others like you'd look for an employee, what can this person bring to the equation, and not in an emotional way, but in furniture, or money, or business advice.

I understand that running a start up is similar to drinking molten lead, and that when it's your money on the line work never ends. But you need to set limits, boundaries, or at least a closing time. You mentioned in a post that being your own boss means you get to tuck your kids in at night, but after they're tucked in, what are you doing? Are you reading a book for fun, watching some cheesy movie, writing for no one other than yourself, talking on the phone with a friend about random things other than work, or are you right back at the job as soon as you close the kids door.

You need to decompress, your brain is full or work and nothing but work. You haven't let it think about anything BUT work in years, and so it's trained to relate everything you do or think about to work, what else does it have to draw on.

One week, be home in time to feed your kids dinner (not saying you don't feed your kids or anything, but if I just said dinner, you'd eat dinner at 10pm), turn off your cell phone, shut down your e-mail, and just relax, watch TV, read the newspaper other than the business section. Find some part of Penelope that isn't related to work.

Just the feeling I get from reading this blog post:

I really think that your mind is focused on work because that's the most pressing detail right now. Your divorce is final. You actually have a quality relationship with your ex. Your kids are happy and doing well. The thing that is the least "under control" is the business, and in a way, that relates directly to your feelings of self-worth as a single woman. Right now, your business IS your personal life.

Perhaps instead of listening to everyone saying "take some time away", you need to actually give business MORE time. If it is inserting itself into all aspects of your life, usually that says that you feel as if something is unfinished. Can you go finish it? Can you send the kids to dad's for a weekend and dedicate yourself heart and soul to working on the nagging problem?

I'm not trying to say you don't give your business enough time. I'm trying to say that perhaps it needs a little focused, uninterrupted time on a few issues. And then, maybe it'll stop hijacking the rest of your life. Focus that unsatiated sexual energy at the business for a bit, and it might free up your mind for non-business pursuits.

Just a thought.

Having been through a divorce and 5 years of dating, I identify with your plight! Dating was just networking and business, even when there was romantic potential.

My favorite is how I helped my techie "boyfriend" find an exec level job by teaching him about SEO. That was what cinched the deal on the first interview. That more than paid for the $400 he spent on my hair that he ended up hating anyway and that I dumped him over. But he's richer for having dated me. Another man said my internet marketing advice improved his business – and he quantified it by how much. Can I use that on a resume??

I went through a phase of dating to get guys to help me with my businesses. Do things for me for free. It worked really well. But I usually ended up doing just as much in return by teaching them things they needed to know.

I also dated successful businessmen who I could rely on even after we dated. I called them for business advice.

My favorite is the millionaire who cried on our first date because he was lonely, and tried to get me to spend the night with him in a sly way. He also asked if I wanted to get married. That was the end of that.

Eventually I decided if I wanted a relationship, I needed to make room. So I started clearing space. Literally and personally. I made friends with women and built a social life with people who cared little about business. When dating didn't go well, they were still there.

Basically you avoid emotional risk when you make it all business. It's safer. But you grow out of it (or at least I did). Then you decide it's worth risking for closeness.

Almost every divorced woman I know dated defensively by hiding behind something. Until they were ready to have real relationships. Usually several years later.

So it's pretty normal. I hope you find funding, good advice, and a great network of successful men because of your dating life. Sounds like you're choosing well, so keep going. Don't limit yourself to locals either. When you travel, set up dates by networking. It's a great way to see a new city. Ever thought of trying internet dating – you'd have hilarious fodder for your blog.

This is already too long.

Janet

See, and I'd say I married defensively by hiding behind something, and got divorced when I was ready to have a real relationship. I just didn't know it at the time. And I relate to helping put all my partners into a better financial space.

I think you have some interesting insights in your comment.

"Then he said that the best candidates never let anyone know they are looking. They just let people know what they're great at." – Best pillow talk line I've heard in a while!

As harsh as it sounds, there is a great deal of scapegoating going on in your reasons for having unsuccessful dates. The solution isn't to move to where there are more men. If you have already identified that you turn dating into a business transaction, what good will moving do? It won't make your mind think differently. The change will come when you stop identifying yourself by your job. You gave up the radio not because you didn't like it, but because it didn't benefit this site. When you described to the real estate mogul why your marriage didn't work, you didn't say that you two couldn't work things out, you said that Asperger's caused you to be unable to work it out. You asked for business advice post-coitus.

A new location will not be the solution. Whatever is already in your mind will follow you to any place you visit. The only way to move forward is to change your thinking. Turn off the computer for a day, take a bubble bath and read a book for pleasure, go to a museum and enjoy the artwork (turn off your phone first!). There is so much more you can do to improve your situation than to immediately escape. Try that first.

Penelope- maybe change isn't the answer. Perhaps it's just finding the person who also approaches every situation in life with the potential for business. There's nothing wrong with that! In fact, my boyfriend and I work together well because we approach our life together from a business perspective, and we each have strengths that the other doesn't have. So he helps me with the economic side of business, and I help him market himself at work toward promotions and raises.

It's not you, it's men. I know that's a crap thing to say, but hey, they're total pigs so just find a clean, nice pig who lets you be who you want to be.

Exactly. What you should do is go out on the schmooze circuit — give talks at exec conferences, etc. — and find some cute, young, single Silicon Valley venture capitalist or angel investor (or have Guy Kawasaki fix you up. Then start a long-distance relationship both enhances & leaves you plenty of time for your business.

As for the take a year off stuff: That's what I did after my big break up(s). I found that all that introspection led me to kinda lose my social skills. Once I was ready to date again, it was really hard (whereas when I first broke up, there were LOTS of guys interviewing for the new boyfriend job.)

Who says you need to separate your work life from your personal life? You're passionate about your work. Why not stop trying to change your dating style and embrace it? There are plenty of wonderful and successful guys out there who'd get a kick out of discussing spreadsheets between the sheets. Look for one of those. If you don't, chances are that you'll keep dating guys you're not really compatible with and soon find yourself sabotaging yet another mediocre relationship.

The problem with moving to a different location is that you can't leave the part of you behind that caused the initial problem.

Look into dating a guy who is in the initial stages of building something huge. You'll probably have more to talk/fight about than you would with some dude who has already made his name.

But you won't do that, will you? =)

This isn't complex. Or even about "who you are" and "time for yourself" and certainly not about "healing". Leave those discussions to women with more self help books than sense. It's easy. And you'll have to trust me because I'm 22 and 3/4 and am going on 3 dates this weekend. Actually, I date more than anyone I know who isn't paid for it. I just like first dates and get asked on lots of second, third and fourth ones. So listen and try this:

Date guys who can't help you. I'm in marketing for luxury fashion. I never date guys in advertising, marketing, PR, or even really cpg execs. If I date them, they will be older and I will spend tons of time asking them for advice about work, job leads, trouble shooting, and where the market's headed. That's not romantic.

So I date doctors, lawyers, bankers, hedge fund guys, and architects. They're smart, funny, sexy…whatever. Exactly what I want, need and expect from a guy. And none of them are poor. But they're also not so rich that they can fund my bugeroning start up idea, and they're not in my field so they can't offer me advice(I once dated an entreprenuer…all pillow talk was business talk.). I think this will work for you too. Date doctors and scientists. You have no (work)use for them. I promise.

Is your transparency for real or is it shock jockeying? Either way, I think you're telling the truth, in which case, I need to tell you that dates grow on trees.

Dating is a disastrous. Have you read I Kissed Dating Goodbye or Choosing God's Best? They're available from Amazon. Don't you just hate it when people recommend books for how to make your life perfect? Ha!

Have you heard the story of Rebekah? She was chosen to be Isaac's wife by Abraham's servant. The reason? Because she proved to be a hard worker – willing to draw water from the well for a thirsty, tired stranger. Who knows where all your hard work will lead you?

This whole discussion is very creepy. There is a word for people who have sex in return for monetary gain or its equivalent (a houseful of furniture, for instance). Ugh!

As a man who enjoys mild aspergers, it was of a great help to me to learn there are rules and patterns to dating. Focusing on these rules helps keep that part of my mind busy, and thus happy.

The rules are different for women and men, and they'll sound terribly cliche, but I had to start with the basics.

I can't tell you what your rules will be, but I'll share a few of mine. Note that they're masculine in nature; I don't know what similar rules would be for women.

1. If a woman shares a problem, don't try to fix it. Instead, show her she is desired or loved despite the problem. Flirt, hug, or admire in response to a woman sharing a problem.
2. Dating is part performance, part relaxation. When initiating contact, perform a little – show off cleverness, sensuality, or humor. Once you're together, reveal more about yourself. When you first meet, it will be mostly performance. The third date should only include perhaps 30 minutes.
3. Interrupt cyclical thoughts and focus on the interaction between the two of you. Look for explicit signs – even if I don't catch them instinctually and have to take a moment to interpret them, that's still better than missing them altogether. And women seem to always be sending signs. You can even look these up online for men and women; just don't get too paranoid about them either.

Note that these rules aren't about manipulating women, but being more loving, more attentive, more in the moment, yet without sacrificing my own quirks.

Hi Penelope,

Did you take Wired's aspie test? I scored off the charts! ;)

http://www.wired.com/wired/archive/9.12/aqtest.html

I think that women who easily think of ways to do business with a man on a date come across as creative. I think that successful men would enjoy the possibility of having someone who they can date and also have as a business partner. However, that is based on the assumption that the woman and the man are in some kind of continuous relationship. If she dates a variety of men and is planning businesses with all of them, then he may feel like just another business plan.

I find it interesting that you have been able to enter into sexual relationships with men so quickly after your divorce. Do you think that the characteristics of sex within your marriage made it easier to do so? I ask this based on the assumption that you only had sex with your husband while you were married. I also ask because I think that if my wife and I divorced, it would be very difficult for me to enter into a sexual relationship with another person. I would need quite a bit of time (probably at least a year) to recover from the failure of my marriage.

Thanks for continuing to write though provoking entries!

How can any meaningful relationship occur when one party is trying to use the other from day one?

Yeah, that's a good recipe for happiness.

Why do people insist on editing Penelope's blog for her? It gets a bit annoying after a while.

And Penelope — I'd say that it would be incredibly difficult to separate work life from personal life. I don't think the goal should be to separate the two, but to find a way to interconnect them that works for you! And, if a man doesn't appreciate the way your mind works in a strategic, business-like fashion at times, then I'm guessing he's not the one for you. ;-)

This new man I've been sleeping with and I use your blog as foreplay. Keep up the good work.

Best. Comment.

ah, you've found the secret to madison. it's a great place to go to school, a great place to work, a great place to raise kids, but not a great place for single people, especially above the age of 30-ish. Especially, a business-minded, entrepreneurial, woman.

i've been asked why i can't separate my business from my life, and the culture that is my business just doesn't separate like that, and i'm not sure it has to. and many of my friends are peers in my industry. for example, whether it's a healthy one or not, is Google, where they cultivate a culture (for their employees) around their business.

i've got no answers for you, as i'm in the same boat as you. i run my own business, i'm single and i do well financially. i've noticed some or all these things are a little intimidating to most of the guys i've dated recently.

maybe we should collaborate about this, two heads might be better than one in this respect. the next doubles tourney, perhaps?

If I remember correctly, you wrote quite a bit about how wonderful life was in Madison, and why it was such a good idea as compared to NYC. Now you're seeing that not all quality of life measurements are a matter of cost of living or other dollar based measures.

As to your relationship issues, do you ever consider what it looks like from the viewpoint of your dates? I mean "Let's go to bed and do you want to invest in my company?" is not a line that will captivate many men. It sounds to me like you don't have any sort of life outside of work, but if that is the case, why fight it? If the business is so important right now, why not focus as much of your energy as possible towards it? At some point down the road, when you are ready, you'll be able to step back and seperate yourself from that. then would be the time to start thinking about building a life away from work.

Reading this post reminded me of this article: http://tiny.cc/sixux

Mattress King Selects Wife From Small Wisconsin Village

Do successful career women..sleep around more than the average gal?

wow a bit anxious commenting after john … what is a POS … I know what a FIG JAM is and maybe John is one of them … hmmm

Anyways P both husband one and two and the third I have on offer (no intent to take up) I have meet at work … so what is the rush to separate work and play … common ground is a useful thing for prolonging and expanding the connection I feel.

So my challenge to you – mix it up – make work personal .. most of the people I hire I would choose to have a personal relationship with – friend or lover – it gives me a nice feeling knowing I value them on a number of levels – not just for the sake of work and work alone.

As always my best le

Wanna hear something crazy? I went through a bad breakup myself about 2 years ago. We'd dated for about a year (long-distance) and I was desperately in love, so I moved from Buffalo to Washington DC to be closer and to "advance" the relationship. We broke up almost the moment I got here…
So, to combat my broken heart and be less lonely, I started going to wine tasting events, joined a running club, and even took acting lessons. Three years later, I'm a working actor in the DC area, a respected wine connoisseur, and I've run 4 marathons.

Funny where life takes you when you're not looking…
-Paul-

You are a riot. What a joy to read about you vicissitudes with regard to life, work and love/sex. Sometimes being lost in the moment occurs for many of us. Used to get my lady laughing so hard she would lost concentration and be unable to stop laughing and we would end up asleep without the sex but with a smile none the less.

P interesting post.

I think you need to move. You post very few complimentary things about the city you live in. I am not sure why you have to live in Madison, your compnay doesn't seem to have a physical presence, and it if it does, sure Madison is less than optimal.

From your stories of Silicon Valley and life in New York, I can't imagine how you have lasted this long. As someone who has lived on both coasts and small midwestern towns, each city is not for everyone. You said that you have worked through much of the 'dateable' population. Surely a city like Seattle or LA will provide the lifestyle you are looking for.

Good luck.

Penelope,

It's likely you're simply feeling a loss of control (which has great repercussions for an ENTJ) so you take control where you feel competent (businessmen). You're trying to diagnose yourself with a label (autism spectrum) just because the categorization and organizing brings you peace.

You're, by necessity, living an unbalanced life at the moment. Once things get less stressful, if you balanced your intellectual/social/physical/spiritual selves you would notice a huge improvement in your ability to have a healthy relationship.

You're too competent at understanding relationships to be on the spectrum. Once you can take time to feed your introverted intuition rather than needing to bulldoze for your business with your strong extraverted thinking you will be fine, I promise.

Penelope, your greatest strength and your greatest weakness is that your are an opportunist. But I think an opportunist lives a hard life–always hyperalert for the opportunity around the corner OR scrambling to create an opportunity. And yes, as others have said, your datee may feel used.

You are not clear about whether you are lonely, in need of an in-depth relationship; or simply needing to scratch an itch (sex). When you said that you fell asleep in the guy's arms . . . that seemed to be the tenderest and most authentic moment (to me).

I have no inspiration or advice–except that I agree with the responses that say you should relax and stop trying so hard. Seems to me, opportunities come when you are NOT trying so hard to create them/take control. Like when you want to have a baby and cannot get pregnant, but as soon as you stop trying and stop stressing about it, it happens. Just a little lesson to demonstrate how we simply cannot be in-control, no matter how hard or how smart we work at it.

If the above strategy is any good at all, you will meet someone around a common interest, in a relaxed setting where "the first date" is hardly recognizable as such.

Chris from Wisconsin

Talk about outing yourself as a gold digger…PT, you only seem to care about money, power, and prestige. I pity you, because there is so much more to life. I'm glad you did finally wise up and realize that your career advice was about as professional as a little league baseball team and gave up on it. At least now you can just "dish" about your life and not attempt to make it into something it is not. It sounds like karma is starting to catch up…

Do successful career women..sleep around more than the average gal?

No, they work until they pass out at the end of the day and sleep.

Getting a new dining room set for a radio plug isn't a business transaction–it's using someone. You need to learn the difference between a transaction between two corporate entities and favors between friends. If you have any friends.

Please stop thinking about what's in it for Penelope.

But that's what she does, work the angles. What you call "using", she might call "networking". I don't recall that she ever claimed to be a saint.

Have you ever slept with someone without expecting anything but the O? Just curious

Because work takes up so much of your day, I have to agree that it is sometimes hard not to talk about it on a date….whether it is to try and impress, you are letting off steam or to find it to be an easy topic of conversation. Unfortunately this is all surface material. You really find out who someone is after say the 4th or 5th date I think.

Two words:

Switch.
Teams.

Think about it.

I dunno if it's you. I spend a lot of time in a counseling and the biggest thing everyone seems to need to learn there is to accept themselves the way they are. I mean, always strive to be better, yadda yadda yadda, but how you feel inside, your intuition… you know what? It's ok.

Lots of people who commented here seem to have advice on how you should be but I think anyone in your boat might end up feeling the way you do. But yeah, if you had more men to pick from that would help. People are always saying to connect with those likeminded, say if you LOVE scrabble, join a scrabble group and find someone as intense about it as you. Maybe the right guy will be one who is equally ambitious.

Your divorce wasn't that long ago – this is just a transitory time. But I love when you write about your love life because it helps me deal with my own, which is rocky and tremulous and not such a great place to be. Your bravery helps me with my own fear, so thanks for your candidness.

Call me romantic or post-feminist, but put I think a woman needs to be able to relax and put the burdens down when she is dating, especially if she wants to hook up with a man with any quality at all. Judging from your posts since the divorce, you want to have a great connection with someone substantial who you can trust and respect, and a relationship that is deeply and irrationally erotic. A guy like the one you want is going to be bored by a money pitch or work talk; he won't connect with you the way you want him to connect with you.

I have to say I'm kind of scratching my head over this post. Are you looking to date for the sake of having fun and sex? Or are you interviewing candidates to be your next husband? Or to be your next investor? They seem all mixed up to me–like you think you're looking for something romantic/sexual but in reality you're looking for funding.

In any of these cases, I really don't think moving somewhere where there are more single men is going to make any difference–after all, it's not the quality/quantity of men you're meeting that is causing your inability to turn your business mind off. It's you.

Maybe it's because I am not a business person that dating/relationships/sex have never been problems for me. I am as into my career as the next person and have a hard time turning it off in my head, but I was never looking for guys who could further my career when I was dating–I was looking for guys I was attracted to and wanted to date.

I'm not saying this next thing facitiously and I know everyone reading this will be horrified, but maybe you should consider dating guys who are not single. I don't mean going around plucking guys from their happy married lives and stealing them; I mean there are many, MANY guys out there who are married only for appearances or finances and whose wives could care less what they're doing because they're doing the same. It would keep you from having to worry about all the what-ifs as far as you having to support them if you ever got divorced. I don't know that it would solve the whole not being able to think about anything but business in bed thing, but who knows–maybe with the possible marriage pressure off the table you'd be able to just relax and enjoy instead of trying to close a business deal.

As to the work/dating question–I met my husband at work. We talked about work some–ok, a lot–but when it was time for fun or sex, thinking about work didn't occur to me. Maybe the problem is that the guys you're dating are no good in bed; if they were, your mind wouldn't be wandering.

Penelope,
Your dating is just another thing to accomplish on your "to-do" list. Does it really feel good, or does it feel good because you like crossing things off the list?

You've been with men in your industry, you've been with men outside your industry. It's not about the men, or lack of them. C'mon, you know this. Don't hide behind your own comfortable quirky neediness. What is the payback that you have been receiving for it? Is it really that great?

Desperation just attracts desperation. There are some things that shouldn't be squeezed in or forced. Trust that God has something in store for you and just wait for it for a while. Be up for the challenge of standing on your own, trusting that you already have all that you need.

Have you read, "Eat, Pray, Love", or is that just too obvious. Watch "Groundhog Day". Very spiritual.

All the best.

Well said!

Well said Grace!

p.

that's hilarious. in a sad way. but still hilarious. i own a MRI franchise. (recruiting franchise) i am constantly thinking about who goes where, who knows who. it's manic.

i met a woman at a restaurant and she was a dental hygenist (sp) (great teeth!) but of course i thought, she belongs in sales. so we talked about it, instantly turning what was amazing chemistry into a transaction. she probably thought to herself, omg a headhunter! i can get into sales now… and i've lost.

that happens to me a lot.

do you think your openeness about your personal life affects your funding and corporate life?

matt

ps can u send any of your brunette athletic spanish or italian friends in NC or NYC my way? u r a recruiter right!

I had to go to a lot of effort to find dating circles that were so totally removed from work that I wasn't tempted to co-mingle the two. It took ages to figure it out. It eventually worked, but now I have a different problem: because I have a husband who is not in my field and who is not a workaholic (like me), we struggle over things that I never expected to struggle over.

Pick your battles. No matter which ones you win, there will be plenty of others waiting in the wings to kick your ass.

> supporting…for the rest of my life

Hilarious. How about posting a correction?

They did a study of women and asked women what they really wanted to do in bed. Most women really would like to get more SLEEP when they are in bed.

This is probably tied to the rush-rush-rush overstressed lifestyle that most women live. I don't know how women who are wives and mothers, as well as work outside the home, do everything they do.

This all work, no play lifestyle that appears to be upon us these days is taking it's toll on family life of that there is no doubt. The worldwide recession will only add to this. Proper family values are gone and will never be the same sadly.

Work to live, don't live to work

This is the problem with letting your work take over your life. We all need to take a step back sometimes and re-evaluate our priorities.

Modern life has nothing to do with human being nature. Our society is brainwashed by following the examples of others they see in the media.

informative entry not just for the ladies I suppose.
It is hard to find the right balance between personal and work and unfortunately for many of us it is the work that we do that defines who we are as people and that is hard to switch off.

What makes a successful marriage…when you find out do let me know

Funny – I always enjoy a dollop of wit in the blogs I read. Keep up the good work.

This has confirmed some stuff for me,

Agree that women tend to separate the dating world from the world of work. I even don't wear my hair down at work for risk of looking bimbo-ish and not being taken seriously. But then there is a body of 'evidence' that suggests that women who wear make-up at work earn 25% more than those who don't. Hmmm what on earth does that mean?

Guys have similiar issues with work and dating.

Commitment is a big word to most guys myself included, the sooner girls realise this the better