High-income women get more oral sex. Maybe.
It is well known in the sex research arena that the more educated a woman is the more often she will receive oral sex.
I have always wondered if this is true for salary as well. For example, if your salary goes up by $50,000, how much more likely are you to receive oral sex?
I cannot find research to support that women who earn more receive more oral sex, which is why I am conducting my own research on this week's poll.
But I have a hunch, based on a string of research that I have cobbled together:
People who are open to new experiences live in big cities (except for Chicago), and high-earning women do best in big cities.
High earning women do well dating because they are better looking than average, and because men prefer dating women who make a lot of money.
The highest earning women tend to be single, and women who are single and high earning tend to look harder to find those who are good in bed.
So, it goes to reason that women who make a lot of money receive more oral sex than women who do not make a lot of money.
Whenever I mention the fact that I have an editor for my blog, people ask why. Today is a good example: You cannot be a CEO writing about how much oral sex your own demographic receives without having someone take a look at the post to see if it's okay to run.
And, for those of you who doubt the usefulness of my editor, here is his input on the topic:
“Let’s assume that men give oral sex only because women ask for it. That’s probably 95% true. Then who asks for it? Women who consider themselves at least equally deserving of that sort of consideration -the women who are going to be better earners because they are educated enough to know that they deserve it (both the income and the oral.) So I think they are coincidental, not causal. A woman who earns more has the self-confidence (and the self-worth, boosted by external factors like earning ability, education, etc.) to ask for oral.”
I'm hoping that his comment is the first in a string of insightful comments on the causal or not causal relationship between salary and sex.
I don’t think women and oral sex is correlated to class and incomes levels…. The lowest classes of women all over the world (e.g. even prostitutes in slums) have it regularly..mind you they don’t have regluar/normal relationships with men however, it is just a form of pleasure and that’s all it is.. WHat’s also important is how they guy is treating the women outside of bed.. as that is a true test. If a women has both – well she’s got a good guy and catch.
jiz monkey, next time get her to rinse it off.
Statistics in my opinion, are a description. Like adverbs and adjectives can be used to describe anything. The most important thing is are you getting the oral sex you want. Are you happy? Are you living your life to the full? Are you enjoying life? Do you have the guts to turn negatives around when life takes a turn, because fortunes are subject to change. Anything else is irrelevant. Your argument is illogical because those are not the requirements for oral sex, nor for happiness. You just have statistics to support what you want to believe instead. The range of people getting the oral sex they want is a lot wider that your so-called statistics.
One of the men’s magazines(playboy or hustler), had a statistic on oral sex. It said, women in higher income jobs got more sex, only because they had more partners.
yes older rich women do love oral sex. I have been down on a lot of older rich women and they are clean and love being eaten.
Ryan, really? You must let me know where you meet this kind of woman.
silly – most men’s willingness to give oral sex is directly related to how hot the woman is and how attractive your vagina is. If your gorgeous and have a hot body a guy will want to inhale every part you. He will also want to please you more. The less attractive the female is, the more likely her vagina isnt kempt or attractive enough to want to put your mouth and tongue on. more importantly however there is little incentive to please the woman if she isnt hot. sad but true.
Just the other day I was trying to work out why I like your blog … firstly I love your headings … very catchy and intersting!!
Secondly I like your style … its simple and very much to the point! Not many people can write like that (I know I cant, but I would love to!)
Lastly with the risk of sounding a bit like a pervert …. I think you are one sexy woman and I love to hear you talk about oral sex!
So there you have it ….
I don’t make a lot of money, and I only have an associates degree. But my man can’t get below the Mason/Dixon line fast enough. He is well educated, makes 5 times my pay, not counting bi-annual bonuses. He can’t get enough, and I am more than happy to let him have his way.
On the other side of the line I do have something that many women do not. I am in that lucky 10% of woman who can and do have multiple Os. Not just one or two, I am talking soaking through blankets. pillows and clothing.
He tells me I am like live porn with my natural ability, and that I am the only woman he has ever been with to have this ability. He calls it my Superpower.
But over achiever men, make fabulous lovers as they put everything into it. They will take you for a ride, play all the games you want, and enjoy the ride as well. They are very proud of themselves, and want to make sure you know their skills.
I get more oral sex than the sex itself, we both have Bachelor degrees. He enjoys giving it to me !!!
I enjoy giving it and receiving it. It’s the best appetizer to say the least.
Love it. Ditch the research and the stats, I just want to hear about you getting oral.
I love giving oral so it doesn’t a matter a whit the economic level, although how attracted I am to the girl DOES matter. So, if I’m only mildly attracted, she only gets oral some of the time. The quality decreases with the attraction level as well. I’m attracted to intelligence, looks to a certain extant, and how she makes me feel. That may or may not be related to salary.
I’m dating a girl now who is a high earner, the highest earner I’ve ever dated, and she is getting some SERIOUSLY quality oral, and lots of it, from me.
SEX sees no race, salary and status. When two people are in total comfort, each other’s body is utilised maximum. Choosiness precedes entry into bedroom. When two are not chemically in tune, even a kiss is not possible, the hug show restrain. Atight hus, a good cuddle, the look in each other’s eyes, all add up in the room on the bed. Comfort with each other, trust ( the reason why the highly paid and positioned men and women are careful) and wanting to give the maximum to each other is oral, 69, positions the other likes and of course the lengthened time, relaxed with each other.
Most any man, can adjust in total comfort, with an attractive woman. Women are different, than men, she has to “feel” comfortable. A man can kiss a woman that is not in tune with him, and he can enjoy the kiss tremendously. Not so with females….
Attention, Men! Read this article: Oral Sex Increases Throat Cancer Risk, Scientists Say:
http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/70495.php
This is especially true if you are going down on a woman with multiple sex partners, like Penelope.
Well, Joe, the article was interesting. First, it is a very small, unbalanced sample size (100 with cancer and 200 without); hence, you should be instantly suspicious. Also, it can not be stated enough as most Americans are woefully ignorant about science, correlation does not equate causation. If a large study confirms the conclusions of this article, then it would be more reasonable to believe the results. But, this looks like a preliminary study rather than one that you should base you life on.
Personally, I expect all my partners to have had multiple partners before I came along. If the study is true and my risk is increased, then I think it is a reasonable trade off. There is no way to be completely safe in life.
Now, for a comment on the article… :)
Again, correlation does not necessarily equate causation. I have been with educated women that didn’t especially care for oral sex – giving or receiving. And, I have been with a recent woman that greatly enjoyed it who was a dichotomy of ideas – politically conservative and religious yet very aware of the rights of women around the world and willing to have premarital sex.
Since I haven’t researched this topic, I can’t reasonably state for sure that the premise is false. But, my gut suggests that there is no causation.
Interesting!
I don’t think my sex life has fluctuated in anyway with my income levels though.
…It hasn’t fluctuated?…ahhh, I am sorry…
This is an interesting post. I don’t really care about the income part, but I found the correlation between education and oral sex to be new information.
I did my undergrad research paper on sex. It wasn’t on this topic (it was race and promiscuity), but I came across a lot of interesting facts on sex. I think race would be more of an indicator on whether a woman receives oral sex or not. Some races get straight to the book and others perform more foreplay.
Regardless, it would be interesting to see sexologists give the break down facts on who is receiving oral sex and why.
I definitely disagree that 95% of men only give it if asked. I’ve been with women I wanted to give head that just wanted to be “rabbit-fucked” although in fairness, for much longer than 90 seconds. I guess I am educated as I have a degree, but am certainly not a high income individual. In fact, I’m unemployed right now. I think it’s unfair to take such a pessimistic view on all men as being uncaring. I think the number of women that genuinely like giving blowjobs is probably similar to the number of men that genuinely like giving head.
HOWEVER, I do think that giving oral sex involves some submission and I think women in our society specifically may be more comfortable with that submission than men because of how men and women are conditioned.
“High earning women do well dating because they are better looking than average”
– Didn’t know that was true, nor do I see any logical reason for a correlation there. If anything, it’d be assumed that women who earn well actually look worse than average; as to explain why they find it necessary to work hard in the first instance. Very good looking women often aim to get by socially on their looks rather than working towards being financially successful.
“..and because men prefer dating women who make a lot of money.”
– ? Who ever said this? Men prefer dating women who make a lot of money? .. Haha. O kay; then why don’t we see this very often: a man dating a woman with a lot of money? Once again, if anything men seem to prefer dating women who make less money than themselves.
I dont know much about that but your research is really interesting you know and it really can get real when some high earning ladies will come up here and present truth about themselves… :)
I think your research is very interesting. It is based not on statistic, but on your personal point of view. And as we know: so many men, so many minds.
I dunno… I LOVE to give Oral.. I think it’s my favorite thing to do, frankly.. so, any woman who i get with knows pretty quickly that she’s going to get as much oral as she can take… it has nothing to do with socio-economic anything. I just love to go down on a woman.
And they say money doesn’t buy happiness
I beleive that in fact, money is not a way to show intelligence. There is plenty of people making a lot of money beeing more stupid than other dedicated on their personal life choosing to make less money for it. So Money should not be a variable to this logic.
Intelligence definitely is a variable to it, as most probably intelligence is bringing the fact that the goal is to both enjoy from it (beeing less egoist, as this will definitely open the same to happen again with the same person !), and is less animal as the rabit evocated above.
I think the ‘string of research’ that you have ‘cobbled together’ is very inaccurate. To say ‘better looking than average’ based on who’s opinion? There is no scale for that, just beauty pageants.
As far as the whole high-income, more oral sex..that has been charted and researched.
I am highly educated but am a “stay at home mom with kids while my husband works.” My income is zero and I am actually a huge drain on spending, random book purchases every other day, a housekeeper, I like shoes etc. in total I am a financial drain on the “household.” I am decent looking, average pretty much. I get lots of oral sex and never have to ask, ever, I rarely give it but damn do I like sex.
Firstly, I find Penelope to be bold, innovative and inspiring with her blog, so any topic she elects to present does not require special approval.
Secondly, everyone should be clear that Penelope does not require agreement with her perspective or insights here. The intrinsic value is up to the individual.
Just as everyone is entitled to their viewpoint, so is she, and those following her blog digest as much accordingly.
Onto the subject matter, I found this article very interesting. Speaking for myself, as a professional (in the finance and production industry), just as men are categorized (fairly or unfairly) in today’s modern concrete jungle as being a better hunter/gatherer by their income level, or professional status, this is also true of women, and find appeal in this regard too.
A woman who is strong, independent, self-sufficient and confident is by nature found attractive by many men, particularly if she is also physically attractive. One complements the other.
Its ironic, I have always had a weakness for the emotionally and financially dependent women in my life too, because they were so intense with their romance and intimacy. The stimuli felt so dramatic.
But the greater sexual tension and deeper burning desire was always for the aforementioned professional, status women because they were not needy and getting the time with them had to be earned and qualified and thus this caused greater attraction.
With regards to the oral on a woman aspect, this (perhaps due to special hardwiring in me) has always been very alluring and important for me. Even as a young child, I would struggle with classroom attentivnessnes (thus grades) by being distracted (fantasizing) over my attractive teachers. I did not really know or understand sex then – I just knew I was attracted to them there.
Later in life I developed increased interest for this and its become critical towards my sexual attraction to women (for better or worse). When she’s good down there (visually, scent, etc.), there is nothing in this world more tantalizing and appealing. When she’s not, it greatly hinders the sexual desire.
Its also important that she is desirous (especially verbally expressive during), and not just appeasing me of her interest with this. I like it in return, but only from those that have equal desire – nothing engineered or artificial works.
So, on the point of why higher income women may receive more oral sex (if this is indeed true and can even be accurately measured), my thoughts would be that beyond the fact that greater income could also help with self-maintenance (conditioning and hygiene), that the confidence and allure factor would certainly increase the tension and desire in their direction.
Sure would for me.
Finally, if that stat is true about so many women needing to ask for oral interludes from their men, then this is more sad than anything else. If they were dating me, there would be no favor requesting – its either there (desirous) or its not.
Pardon my Gettysburg Address here. ;)
95% is ridiculous, I have asked exactly once in my life, with a boyfriend I had been with for 6 years. As in adult, most of the men that I have been with (I don’t mean casual sex, long term relationships. three years or more) LOVE this, they did it without any provocation from me. Honestly, if someone isn’t “into it” then who needs it? I don’t want to do it with someone who finds the act disgusting. And at the risk of being crude, guys that don’t love it give lousy head anyway, so what’s the point?
BTW, I have a graduate degree, and most of my relationships have been with similarly educated men.
I love going down on a woman no matter how much she makes. Its one of my favorite things to do and I am sure more than 5% of men like to do it
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I know this is a really old post, and therefore my comment will most likely be unread but I really just have to say this; why are you talking about oral sex like it doesn’t happen often or you have to confident enough to ask for it? Is this not like saying you have to be lucky to win the lotto? Oral sex is as much a right as voting. I have been with the same man for 20 years, was a virgin when we met, and although I know we have probably had sex without oral first it was probably because we were in the pool, as opposed to it being even an infrequent occurrence. I have friends who have sex with their partners and never come, I don’t understand it. The husband of a friend once asked me if I expect to come every time I have sex with my husband – of course I do, I expect to come twice. I cannot imagine a guy stopping before he came, although I did know a girl who used to stop as soon as she had come. Oral sex is not optional, it’s part of the whole thing ladies, and if your man can’t or won’t do it, move on, because life is too short for shoddy sex!
Your marriage will be strong forever because you understand what is important. Great sex binds you and your husband together like cement!
Your marriage will be strong forever because you understand what is important. Great sex binds you and your husband together like cement!
Hi,
This is a very interesting topic. I would say that the main reason why women with high income get more oral sex is that they end up “having fun” with men who are smarter – also from high income bracket. Often times high performing people want to ensure that the other one also enjoys the activities and are willing to do a lot to make it happen. And of course, high performing people like to achieve something: one of the best achievements is to make your woman reach the climax. :)
From personal experience, I used to receive oral sex often when I was single in my late teens and twenties. I found that if you were hot and desirable, nice figure, long hair and large breasted, men will give oral sex in the anticipation of having sex. Typically I would say I did not intend to have sex, but they would want to pleasure me anyway, so there was heavy all over kissing and rubbing once I achieved orgasm from receiving oral I would say it was time to stop. My point is, I am intelligent, but I was certainly not considered in a high income bracket.
Mary, I guess you have to be a man or a gay woman to really understand why most men love going down on a woman. She has to be desirable to the guy who wants her and all the time,he is hopeing that she will go ahead and have intercourse with him. Even without the prospect of intercourse, most men will enjoy the intimacy of oral with a beautiful woman. A pretty lady would find men lined up to taste her goodness, its wonderful.
my tongue dont care about money. if women want it,yes ask, and you get, but do richer women return favor.
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:) Tom… ‘squirm’ was an insightful choice of words.
“Let’s assume that men give oral sex only because women ask for it. That’s probably 95% true”
Surely these men are missing a trick. The more warmed up your woman is, the more intuitively flexible and elaborate she can be internally, and the more up for it we will be during it and afterwards. When she is very up for it, he will find it feels incomparably better.
As a well-educated girl I’m not attracted to people who won’t engage with me intellectually or about ideas. So the people I take to bed are likelier to read up on things they want to be good at (pleasing women) and practise the finer artisan craft of this (giving expert oral) as they notice the other benefits (more attractive woman, and she’s more enthusiastic and nice to you) they have some results to compare with other sex where they don’t volunteer early oral.
Like most higher-earners and higher-educated patterns these men (and me) put in work at the start for a better outcome. Like farming. Or investing. Smart men don’t need to be asked. This is why they succeed in life.
Most guys that do not give oral sex, don’t do it because from what they tell me they find it disgusting, but I think it’s because they don’t really know how to. They don’t want to get emabarassed. That’s my take on it, and that is from budies of mine that I have spoken to. It could be cultural as well.
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Nina Meixner of Hinsdale, Illinois misses getting her pussy eaten out now that she got infested with ringworm. Don’t know how that happened to a middle-aged bitch like Nina. Nobody wants a smelly cunt with little black worms crawling out of it! Ringworm cunt.
I have absolutely no income at the moment. For a short time in the past, I had a minimum wage job. I receive plenty of oral sex now. I received roughly the same amount of oral sex when I had a job. I have never asked for oral sex. I have never had to give oral sex in order to get it, either. Also, I have never particularly cared whether or not I receive oral sex. In fact, most of the time, my partner has to ask if I would be okay with it if he went down on me.
Oh, just to add something I forgot…
I am a high school drop out who got a GED at the age of 17 (the youngest I was legally allowed to get it at). I took some college courses while I was waiting to get the GED. I also took a couple after I got the GED. Then, I did what I did in high school: got bored as fuck… then quit. So, I’m not highly educated. Though, I may be, someday.
I am disgusted at how many women i have met that their ex did not eat them. I don’t understand. If you are having sex with a woman its because you find her attractive and hopefully you know at least a bit about her and are being clean and safe. When that is taken care of there is no reason as to why a pussy won’t make your mouth water. It is our responsibility to deliver results and our mouths and fingers are the starting pitchers. As to successful women getting more head i agree. It is quite logical. I’m 23, so the best part is when i get to score with that gal in her 30’s or 40’s who because of her economic stability, keeps herself in a very inviting condition and is all business. Plus i constantly remind myself that between 30 and 40 women are at their sexual prime. Maturity, Success, and Confidence in women mean they know what they deserve, and some of us guys love to give thanks. Gals like that appreciate guys like us especially after a long day of work and having a high paced life. Women might date successful men for money, but i would have a working business woman that is mentally and physically attractive sit on my face any day. Pussy is tasty, but a tasty pussy with a confident gal attached to it will send you home with a huge smile.
I learned how to perform oral on a lady by another lady!!! In those days I was a clumbsy clueless young man, but I was willing to learn! I dated her for almost 2 years and gained a ton of knowlege about women and sex.
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I have two words to sum this up, Ginger White… Case Closed!
I guess I would be the anomalous 5% of men your editor refers to who actually *like* going down on girls!
I stumbled onto this blog because I can’t seem to get enough of ‘giving’ oral sex to my wife and was researching for groups of women who are looking for safe, friendly oral sex. I mean if I could figure a way to do it, I’d be the call guy for every housewife that can’t seem to convince their hubby to go down. That’d be my gift to society, keeping people (women) happy. Ha! Remember Mr. Pussy from ‘Sex and the City’?
Upon reading this essay, I find it interesting that affluent women receive more oral. Mainly because the one pleasure ride we can take for free is sex, if we let it happen. It’s too bad that society has boxed sex up into this ‘no no no…only when the time is right’ offering. Anytime is the right time. And just like conversation, sports and dinner parties, the more we practice the better we get!
Here’s to me giving more cunnilingus to more women of every income level & culture! Cheers!
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