It is well known in the sex research arena that the more educated a woman is the more often she will receive oral sex.
I have always wondered if this is true for salary as well. For example, if your salary goes up by $50,000, how much more likely are you to receive oral sex?
I cannot find research to support that women who earn more receive more oral sex, which is why I am conducting my own research on this week's poll.
But I have a hunch, based on a string of research that I have cobbled together:
People who are open to new experiences live in big cities (except for Chicago), and high-earning women do best in big cities.
High earning women do well dating because they are better looking than average, and because men prefer dating women who make a lot of money.
The highest earning women tend to be single, and women who are single and high earning tend to look harder to find those who are good in bed.
So, it goes to reason that women who make a lot of money receive more oral sex than women who do not make a lot of money.
Whenever I mention the fact that I have an editor for my blog, people ask why. Today is a good example: You cannot be a CEO writing about how much oral sex your own demographic receives without having someone take a look at the post to see if it's okay to run.
And, for those of you who doubt the usefulness of my editor, here is his input on the topic:
“Let’s assume that men give oral sex only because women ask for it. That’s probably 95% true. Then who asks for it? Women who consider themselves at least equally deserving of that sort of consideration -the women who are going to be better earners because they are educated enough to know that they deserve it (both the income and the oral.) So I think they are coincidental, not causal. A woman who earns more has the self-confidence (and the self-worth, boosted by external factors like earning ability, education, etc.) to ask for oral.”
I'm hoping that his comment is the first in a string of insightful comments on the causal or not causal relationship between salary and sex.
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This is drivel. Unfortunately for all the rich, ambitious hags out there, you can really can’t buy beauty, or talent in bed. Those of us who’ve experienced plenty of different women from different walks of life know that a prada bag and expensive make up don’t mean anything when it comes to the good stuff.
Of course that would be nice, wouldn’t it? Work hard, make network connections, make alot of money, have more orgasms, buy whatever you want, it’s the American dream baby.
You have to be asleep to believe it.
Posted by Zach on January 24, 2009 at 7:37 pm | permalink |
I read this and had to laugh. It’s because they put relationships off until too late in life, when Mr. Graybeard, Liberal Lifetime Mate, has bought two tickets on the Flaccid Express. There’s an old joke, and poor country girls know how true it is: What’s the difference between an uptown girl and a country girl? The country girl has fake diamonds and real orgasms. Give me a break! If you have to stick your face in her crotch all the time you are doing something wrong.
Posted by Thor on January 28, 2009 at 1:26 pm | permalink |
More salary means more sense of independence, authority and control. And also to some extent more stress.Going oral is sort-of- reflection of any or of all the above.
Research can also be revealing when it is conducted to find out about the ‘nature of oral sex’ and its link to the nature of job, salay and perk structure. For a highly paid woman scientist may prefer a relatively ‘softer or less wilder oral sex’ than a high paid marketing or military professional. The idea is may be the nature of job, being less aggressive or more aggressive help professionals develop ‘related traits’ and that may ‘express’ itself in oral sex making it ‘soft’ or ‘hard’
The idea is the more the microscopic research, the more the revealation. And that is more ‘knowledge’ more understanding ‘ and more fulfilments.
Yes, positive research increases life’s happiness level.
Posted by ashok on January 29, 2009 at 4:33 am | permalink |
Hi Penelope,
You seem to be an intellegient woman. I think there are lot of better things and topics we can discuss ‘HERE’.
Posted by AN INDIAN on January 29, 2009 at 9:56 am | permalink |
I think about your post the other way around. I am the mother of 2 kids and work full time. So, at the end of the day I have given all my energy to the job, kids and house and cannot summon up the desire to be with my husband. However, if he contributed to making my life easier (such as earning more money, allowing me to be a stay at home mom, resulting in getting dinner cooked, homework done, kids to activities, etc, before 6pm), then I would have the energy and desire to be with him at night. In my opinion, men who make their wive’s lives easy deserve and get more sex.
Posted by Jane on February 3, 2009 at 9:30 am | permalink |
How about this one…. the higher income women bathe more frequently, thus presenting a more tantalizing set of goods. I LOVE going down on a freshly bathed woman – can’t get enough of it. However, quite the opposite is true for a less-than-hygienic woman. I’m still trying to get the taste out of my mouth from my college girlfriend… nasty.
Posted by Jiz Monkey on February 5, 2009 at 4:36 am | permalink |
At a singles seminar, I heard the therapist say, “A man that goes down on a woman, and does not demand reciprocity, is, god.”
Posted by hunter on February 12, 2009 at 11:03 pm | permalink |
I don’t think women and oral sex is correlated to class and incomes levels…. The lowest classes of women all over the world (e.g. even prostitutes in slums) have it regularly..mind you they don’t have regluar/normal relationships with men however, it is just a form of pleasure and that’s all it is.. WHat’s also important is how they guy is treating the women outside of bed.. as that is a true test. If a women has both – well she’s got a good guy and catch.
Posted by YoYO on February 13, 2009 at 10:19 pm | permalink |
jiz monkey, next time get her to rinse it off.
Posted by hunter on February 14, 2009 at 2:43 am | permalink |
Statistics in my opinion, are a description. Like adverbs and adjectives can be used to describe anything. The most important thing is are you getting the oral sex you want. Are you happy? Are you living your life to the full? Are you enjoying life? Do you have the guts to turn negatives around when life takes a turn, because fortunes are subject to change. Anything else is irrelevant. Your argument is illogical because those are not the requirements for oral sex, nor for happiness. You just have statistics to support what you want to believe instead. The range of people getting the oral sex they want is a lot wider that your so-called statistics.
Posted by byrd on February 16, 2009 at 12:57 pm | permalink |
One of the men’s magazines(playboy or hustler), had a statistic on oral sex. It said, women in higher income jobs got more sex, only because they had more partners.
Posted by hunter on February 17, 2009 at 12:44 am | permalink |
yes older rich women do love oral sex. I have been down on a lot of older rich women and they are clean and love being eaten.
Posted by Ryan on February 27, 2009 at 3:43 am | permalink |
Ryan, really? You must let me know where you meet this kind of woman.
Posted by hunter on February 28, 2009 at 9:01 pm | permalink |
silly – most men’s willingness to give oral sex is directly related to how hot the woman is and how attractive your vagina is. If your gorgeous and have a hot body a guy will want to inhale every part you. He will also want to please you more. The less attractive the female is, the more likely her vagina isnt kempt or attractive enough to want to put your mouth and tongue on. more importantly however there is little incentive to please the woman if she isnt hot. sad but true.
Posted by goldenseed on April 26, 2009 at 6:18 pm | permalink |
Just the other day I was trying to work out why I like your blog … firstly I love your headings … very catchy and intersting!!
Secondly I like your style … its simple and very much to the point! Not many people can write like that (I know I cant, but I would love to!)
Lastly with the risk of sounding a bit like a pervert …. I think you are one sexy woman and I love to hear you talk about oral sex!
So there you have it ….
Posted by Shafiq Hamid on May 17, 2009 at 6:26 pm | permalink |
I don’t make a lot of money, and I only have an associates degree. But my man can’t get below the Mason/Dixon line fast enough. He is well educated, makes 5 times my pay, not counting bi-annual bonuses. He can’t get enough, and I am more than happy to let him have his way.
On the other side of the line I do have something that many women do not. I am in that lucky 10% of woman who can and do have multiple Os. Not just one or two, I am talking soaking through blankets. pillows and clothing.
He tells me I am like live porn with my natural ability, and that I am the only woman he has ever been with to have this ability. He calls it my Superpower.
But over achiever men, make fabulous lovers as they put everything into it. They will take you for a ride, play all the games you want, and enjoy the ride as well. They are very proud of themselves, and want to make sure you know their skills.
Posted by The Black Canary on June 13, 2009 at 6:21 pm | permalink |
I get more oral sex than the sex itself, we both have Bachelor degrees. He enjoys giving it to me !!!
Posted by Jen on July 14, 2009 at 1:32 pm | permalink |
I enjoy giving it and receiving it. It’s the best appetizer to say the least.
Posted by Jen on July 14, 2009 at 1:58 pm | permalink |
Love it. Ditch the research and the stats, I just want to hear about you getting oral.
I love giving oral so it doesn’t a matter a whit the economic level, although how attracted I am to the girl DOES matter. So, if I’m only mildly attracted, she only gets oral some of the time. The quality decreases with the attraction level as well. I’m attracted to intelligence, looks to a certain extant, and how she makes me feel. That may or may not be related to salary.
I’m dating a girl now who is a high earner, the highest earner I’ve ever dated, and she is getting some SERIOUSLY quality oral, and lots of it, from me.
Posted by Lance on July 30, 2009 at 10:51 am | permalink |
SEX sees no race, salary and status. When two people are in total comfort, each other’s body is utilised maximum. Choosiness precedes entry into bedroom. When two are not chemically in tune, even a kiss is not possible, the hug show restrain. Atight hus, a good cuddle, the look in each other’s eyes, all add up in the room on the bed. Comfort with each other, trust ( the reason why the highly paid and positioned men and women are careful) and wanting to give the maximum to each other is oral, 69, positions the other likes and of course the lengthened time, relaxed with each other.
Posted by Thisel on August 18, 2009 at 8:24 pm | permalink |
Most any man, can adjust in total comfort, with an attractive woman. Women are different, than men, she has to “feel” comfortable. A man can kiss a woman that is not in tune with him, and he can enjoy the kiss tremendously. Not so with females….
Posted by hunter on August 18, 2009 at 11:33 pm | permalink |
Attention, Men! Read this article: Oral Sex Increases Throat Cancer Risk, Scientists Say:
http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/70495.php
This is especially true if you are going down on a woman with multiple sex partners, like Penelope.
Posted by Joe on September 6, 2009 at 10:53 pm | permalink |
Well, Joe, the article was interesting. First, it is a very small, unbalanced sample size (100 with cancer and 200 without); hence, you should be instantly suspicious. Also, it can not be stated enough as most Americans are woefully ignorant about science, correlation does not equate causation. If a large study confirms the conclusions of this article, then it would be more reasonable to believe the results. But, this looks like a preliminary study rather than one that you should base you life on.
Personally, I expect all my partners to have had multiple partners before I came along. If the study is true and my risk is increased, then I think it is a reasonable trade off. There is no way to be completely safe in life.
Posted by Steve on September 25, 2009 at 9:08 pm | permalink |
Now, for a comment on the article…
Again, correlation does not necessarily equate causation. I have been with educated women that didn’t especially care for oral sex – giving or receiving. And, I have been with a recent woman that greatly enjoyed it who was a dichotomy of ideas – politically conservative and religious yet very aware of the rights of women around the world and willing to have premarital sex.
Since I haven’t researched this topic, I can’t reasonably state for sure that the premise is false. But, my gut suggests that there is no causation.
Posted by Steve on September 25, 2009 at 9:12 pm | permalink |
Interesting!
I don’t think my sex life has fluctuated in anyway with my income levels though.
Posted by debbie on October 31, 2009 at 5:25 pm | permalink |
…It hasn’t fluctuated?…ahhh, I am sorry…
Posted by hunter on October 31, 2009 at 8:12 pm | permalink |
This is an interesting post. I don’t really care about the income part, but I found the correlation between education and oral sex to be new information.
I did my undergrad research paper on sex. It wasn’t on this topic (it was race and promiscuity), but I came across a lot of interesting facts on sex. I think race would be more of an indicator on whether a woman receives oral sex or not. Some races get straight to the book and others perform more foreplay.
Regardless, it would be interesting to see sexologists give the break down facts on who is receiving oral sex and why.
Posted by Lisa on November 30, 2009 at 5:32 pm | permalink |
I definitely disagree that 95% of men only give it if asked. I’ve been with women I wanted to give head that just wanted to be “rabbit-fucked” although in fairness, for much longer than 90 seconds. I guess I am educated as I have a degree, but am certainly not a high income individual. In fact, I’m unemployed right now. I think it’s unfair to take such a pessimistic view on all men as being uncaring. I think the number of women that genuinely like giving blowjobs is probably similar to the number of men that genuinely like giving head.
HOWEVER, I do think that giving oral sex involves some submission and I think women in our society specifically may be more comfortable with that submission than men because of how men and women are conditioned.
Posted by Victor on December 10, 2009 at 11:41 am | permalink |
“High earning women do well dating because they are better looking than average”
- Didn’t know that was true, nor do I see any logical reason for a correlation there. If anything, it’d be assumed that women who earn well actually look worse than average; as to explain why they find it necessary to work hard in the first instance. Very good looking women often aim to get by socially on their looks rather than working towards being financially successful.
“..and because men prefer dating women who make a lot of money.”
- ? Who ever said this? Men prefer dating women who make a lot of money? .. Haha. O kay; then why don’t we see this very often: a man dating a woman with a lot of money? Once again, if anything men seem to prefer dating women who make less money than themselves.
Posted by Airtight on January 9, 2010 at 6:40 am | permalink |
I dont know much about that but your research is really interesting you know and it really can get real when some high earning ladies will come up here and present truth about themselves…
Posted by News on January 28, 2010 at 2:26 am | permalink |
I think your research is very interesting. It is based not on statistic, but on your personal point of view. And as we know: so many men, so many minds.
Posted by Russian Lady on February 25, 2010 at 8:40 am | permalink |
I dunno… I LOVE to give Oral.. I think it’s my favorite thing to do, frankly.. so, any woman who i get with knows pretty quickly that she’s going to get as much oral as she can take… it has nothing to do with socio-economic anything. I just love to go down on a woman.
Posted by varese on February 25, 2010 at 8:17 pm | permalink |
And they say money doesn’t buy happiness
Posted by MediaSwing on March 3, 2010 at 10:22 am | permalink |
I beleive that in fact, money is not a way to show intelligence. There is plenty of people making a lot of money beeing more stupid than other dedicated on their personal life choosing to make less money for it. So Money should not be a variable to this logic.
Intelligence definitely is a variable to it, as most probably intelligence is bringing the fact that the goal is to both enjoy from it (beeing less egoist, as this will definitely open the same to happen again with the same person !), and is less animal as the rabit evocated above.
Posted by Emo on April 25, 2010 at 8:24 am | permalink |
I think the ‘string of research’ that you have ‘cobbled together’ is very inaccurate. To say ‘better looking than average’ based on who’s opinion? There is no scale for that, just beauty pageants.
As far as the whole high-income, more oral sex..that has been charted and researched.
Posted by Megan on April 26, 2010 at 6:11 pm | permalink |
I am highly educated but am a “stay at home mom with kids while my husband works.” My income is zero and I am actually a huge drain on spending, random book purchases every other day, a housekeeper, I like shoes etc. in total I am a financial drain on the “household.” I am decent looking, average pretty much. I get lots of oral sex and never have to ask, ever, I rarely give it but damn do I like sex.
Posted by layla on April 26, 2010 at 11:05 pm | permalink |
Firstly, I find Penelope to be bold, innovative and inspiring with her blog, so any topic she elects to present does not require special approval.
Secondly, everyone should be clear that Penelope does not require agreement with her perspective or insights here. The intrinsic value is up to the individual.
Just as everyone is entitled to their viewpoint, so is she, and those following her blog digest as much accordingly.
Onto the subject matter, I found this article very interesting. Speaking for myself, as a professional (in the finance and production industry), just as men are categorized (fairly or unfairly) in today’s modern concrete jungle as being a better hunter/gatherer by their income level, or professional status, this is also true of women, and find appeal in this regard too.
A woman who is strong, independent, self-sufficient and confident is by nature found attractive by many men, particularly if she is also physically attractive. One complements the other.
Its ironic, I have always had a weakness for the emotionally and financially dependent women in my life too, because they were so intense with their romance and intimacy. The stimuli felt so dramatic.
But the greater sexual tension and deeper burning desire was always for the aforementioned professional, status women because they were not needy and getting the time with them had to be earned and qualified and thus this caused greater attraction.
With regards to the oral on a woman aspect, this (perhaps due to special hardwiring in me) has always been very alluring and important for me. Even as a young child, I would struggle with classroom attentivnessnes (thus grades) by being distracted (fantasizing) over my attractive teachers. I did not really know or understand sex then – I just knew I was attracted to them there.
Later in life I developed increased interest for this and its become critical towards my sexual attraction to women (for better or worse). When she’s good down there (visually, scent, etc.), there is nothing in this world more tantalizing and appealing. When she’s not, it greatly hinders the sexual desire.
Its also important that she is desirous (especially verbally expressive during), and not just appeasing me of her interest with this. I like it in return, but only from those that have equal desire – nothing engineered or artificial works.
So, on the point of why higher income women may receive more oral sex (if this is indeed true and can even be accurately measured), my thoughts would be that beyond the fact that greater income could also help with self-maintenance (conditioning and hygiene), that the confidence and allure factor would certainly increase the tension and desire in their direction.
Sure would for me.
Finally, if that stat is true about so many women needing to ask for oral interludes from their men, then this is more sad than anything else. If they were dating me, there would be no favor requesting – its either there (desirous) or its not.
Pardon my Gettysburg Address here.
Posted by Chris on May 8, 2010 at 9:33 pm | permalink |
95% is ridiculous, I have asked exactly once in my life, with a boyfriend I had been with for 6 years. As in adult, most of the men that I have been with (I don’t mean casual sex, long term relationships. three years or more) LOVE this, they did it without any provocation from me. Honestly, if someone isn’t “into it” then who needs it? I don’t want to do it with someone who finds the act disgusting. And at the risk of being crude, guys that don’t love it give lousy head anyway, so what’s the point?
BTW, I have a graduate degree, and most of my relationships have been with similarly educated men.
Posted by jade on May 22, 2010 at 10:30 am | permalink |