As a bulimic in college, the cafeteria was my focal point. At first, it was where I gained fifteen pounds. Not that anyone saw those pounds on me. In college I had the body of a model. Not that anyone saw that, either, because I wore an A-line skirt down to my ankles and an extra-large sweatshirt. Every day. A guy once asked me if I was an Orthodox Jew because I was so covered up all the time. I thought he was an idiot. That’s how big an idiot I was. Read more

I spend a lot of time complaining to my husband that he never leaves the farm. When I was dating him I thought it was charming that he talked about how “city traffic is exhausting” when he was driving in Madison, WI. Read more

On a good day I would tell you that I have my own startup and a successful blog and I work from home. On a bad day I would tell you that I homeschool and every minute I’m not refereeing brotherly fights, I am cleaning up from one meal or cooking the next.

On a bad day you’d ask me when I work and I’d snap back at you, because on bad days I’m snappy, and I’d say that I work in between everything else. Read more

This webinar will show you how to leverage your strengths by understanding personality type.  It includes four days of of video sessions and email-based course materials.  You can purchase this webinar for anytime, on-demand access. The cost is $199.

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The most popular webinar I’ve done is about personality type. I’ve taught thousands of people how to crack the code on personality type to get what they want in life.

But you know what? The on-deamand webinar that people have been downloading is really bad video quality. And people complain. To be honest, it’s mostly the ISTJs who complain, and ISTJs hate personality type anyway, because it is in their nature to hate everything except what is perfectly logical to them.

But even if I ignored the ISTJs, which, being an ENTJ, I am inclined to do, it is still true that the video quality of the webinar stinks. So I’m doing a second round of the course.

I could tell you that the course is so so fun and everyone loves it. But maybe you would think I’m saying that only because it’s so fun for me to make money from the course.

So here’s proof:  Melissa and I started doing the courses together when Melissa was always on the verge of not making rent. But since then, Melissa has taken everything she knows about personality type and turned it into a recruiting business and she’s on track to make half a million dollars this year.

Can you believe it? Even as I write this, I’m shocked.

So, anyway, you can be sure that I am not paying Melissa six figures to do this course with me, but she’s doing it with me anyway, because we have so much fun. The courses we do together always make us so happy, and we love meeting the people who attend, and I sort of feel like I am inviting you to a party and not a webinar.

Although I am charging you. But I think you get the point.

I am going to have to tell you what you’ll get from the course because I know people like to know that:

You will find out all the terrible aspects of each personality type. You will find out why your boss misses deadlines, why your spouse can’t stop arguing with you, and why you are not a millionaire by now.

You will find out essential tidbits about everyone’s strengths. For example ENTPs are the most adventurous in bed and ISTPs are the most competent in bed. Quick—pick which trait is more important to you.

Did you pick?

The course will also show you why you picked what you did.

I will show you tricks for memorizing traits of each type. For example, it’s hard to memorize that INTJs like to make elegant plans for complex problems, and ENTJs like to lead people with a big all-encompassing plan. But it’s easy to memorize how if an INTJ were going to commit a crime it would be murder and if an ENTJ were going to commit a crime it would be racketeering.

The reason I’m fanatically in love with learning about personality type is that it’s helped me so much in my life. Understanding what motivates me, and the people around me, has made me a better sales person, a better mom and a better wife. When I want to tell my brother to shut up, I remember his personality type and I remind myself what he really means when he says what it is that I want him to shut up about.

The best part of personality type, though, is that when I coach people they think I’m a mind reader. Almost all the time. The truth is that my coaching is a combination of two things: My ability to know what people are thinking and feeling based on their personality type, and my ability to say things to people that no one else will tell them.

I like that people tell me I’m clairvoyant, but you can get that too. Well, you can get the part where you can see it. I’m not sure if you can get the part where you will say it. That might be a special trait that gets you selected for special education in school, and top coaching awards as an adult.

I was going to put links in there — to special education and top coaching awards – but I am an ENTJ. Which means I’m very goal-oriented. And what I want you to do right now, before you read about my career as a special ed student, is to sign up for the course.

Here’s an outline of the course, which I may or may not stick to. But I promise you will learn tons about personality type and you’ll have a lot of fun.

What you get: Everyone will receive course materials, including a link to take a personality type test, and you will receive an explanation of your personality type. And, if you cannot watch the sessions live, you can download the recordings later. Plus, we’ll cover the following topics: Read more

I was talking to this woman who’s in her late 20s about how you have to know what you want to be respected for in order to feel respected.

People can’t respect you if you don’t respect you.
I can’t tell you her name. Let’s call her Imogene because it’s one of the most popular names of 2014 and I want this blog to feel fresh even though I’m writing about a topic that I have not been able to shut up about for five years. Read more

Did you notice there is a person in hiding on the Quistic team page?  He won’t let me show you his picture or give you his real name because he’s scared people will find out he works for an American company and they will come to his house to take his money.

“What? Who would do that?” I ask.

“The mob. Or the police. In Ukraine it’s the same thing.”

So I used this site that picks Russian names to find one for our team page. I suggested some and we settled on Dmitry Petrov. Read more

I told Matthew it’s time to take the kids apple picking. “Do you want to come with us?” I said. “We’re going to a place in Illinois.”

“What? What’s wrong with the apple trees here?”

“We have apple trees?”

So the kids and I got in the back of the truck, and Matthew drove over hills and through gates to a pasture full of  apple trees. Read more

I’m driving to the Madison airport to pick up Ian, my new partner in my new secret startup. I’m wearing the sunglasses that Melissa’s boyfriend said make her look too rich and too Type-A. The glasses are perfect for today.

I am also wearing a new, green shirt that I got at JC Penney. Did you read about how the new CEO overhauled women’s fashion and alienated all the loyal customers? This makes me think it’s okay that I like the shirts they sell. (Or used to sell—since he just got fired for selling clothes I like.)

I email Melissa a picture of me driving with the shirt on. Then I call her. Read more

This webinar will show you how to make the most of your 20s so that you can set yourself up for an engaged, fulfilling life. It includes four days of of video sessions and email-based course materials. You can purchase this workshop for anytime, on-demand access. The cost is $195.

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The most important thing to do in your 20s is figure out where you fit. Find your place in the world, pick your friends and family. You will make 85% of the major decisions in your life by age 35. And your earning in the first ten years of your life has exponential impact on your earning throughout the rest of your life. So act like your 20s matter, because if you act like they don’t matter, then they won’t matter.

To make the most of your 20s you need to make mistakes, because mistakes show that you’re moving forward and trying new things. But it’s important to make intentional mistakes. This means that you need to have goals, and plans, and when they don’t work out, you make new goals, and new plans. This four-day webinar will show you how to do that: Read more

One of the things I had to do as an adult was learn to see what makes a good job. Some people intuitively know how to find a job that feels good. Most of us spend the first half of our lives trying to learn what feels right and the second half of our lives trying to get it. Maybe this post can speed up that process for some of you.

The bottom line of a good job is that it makes you feel like you have unlimited energy for your work because it’s so fulfilling. Psychologists would say the job matches your personality type. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi would say it puts you in the state of flow. However you approach the idea of a good job, though, The Economist presents research to show that good work has these four components: Read more