Thanks to dating sites, we have a great way to gather data about the human condition without having to write grant proposals to the National Science Foundation. I first became aware of this bastion of data when OK Cupid announced that older women benefit from showing cleavage in their photos, but younger women don't. I immediately [...]
Browsing category "Fulfillment"The biggest triumph is getting out of bed
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March 9th, 2010
Psychology Today did an interview with me. It was about my most triumphant moments in my life, and how I overcame obstacles to get there. I knew immediately that the interview was going to be a disaster, so I told them I wanted to do the interview written, rather than on the phone. How to be more creative at work
Posted to: Fulfillment | How to blog
February 18th, 2010
My current favorite blogger is Dave Portnoy at Barstool Sports. (Not safe for work.) His topic, as far as I can tell, is smut and snobbery. I think that even though my blog is pointed at the intersection of life and work, I wish it were at the intersection of smut and snobbery. Because I am [...] Test: Is your life happy or interesting?
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February 16th, 2010
The culmination of my four-year obsession with happiness research is that I think people need to choose between an interesting life or happy life. (Note: This does not mean you are interesting or not interesting. I am talking about what values guide your decision making.) I think the things that make life happy have to do [...] Being an expert takes time, not talent
January 28th, 2010
I've been walking around with the July/August 2007 issue of the Harvard Business Review constantly, for close to three years. Sometimes, if I’m getting on a plane, I’ll put it with the other heavy stuff into my luggage, and then get it out later. When my last car broke down in the middle of an [...] Do you overemphasize happiness?
Posted to: Fulfillment | Knowing yourself
January 14th, 2010
I think I’m over the happiness thing. I think I am thinking that the pursuit of happiness is, well, vacuous. I don’t think people are happy or unhappy. Because I think knowing if we are happy would require knowing the meaning of life, or the ultimate goal, or the key to the world, or something [...] Popular posts of 2009. Sort of.
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December 28th, 2009
It’s the time of year when I list my top posts of 2009. When I first started doing this top-posts-of-the-year thing, I felt obligated to actually give you the real version of what was most popular. Now I don’t feel so obligated. Leverage the advantages of being an introvert at work
November 30th, 2009
The workplace is set up to reward extroverts. For example, ENTJs make up only 3% of the population but they comprise a wide majority of the world's CEOs. The bias against introverts in American society is well documented, including research that shows that a spot on the cheerleading team foreshadows career success much more reliably [...] This is what it looks like to have a hard time making a change
Posted to: Fulfillment | Knowing yourself
November 20th, 2009
Some days I look through old posts, reminding myself of posts that I've written that I like and that I should link to. Often, this process serves to let me procrastinate writing while pretending to be engaged in writing. If I were a body builder, this would be me looking in the mirror instead of [...] We overestimate the gap between nonprofit and for-profit jobs
Posted to: Finding a career | Fulfillment
October 30th, 2009
My ex-husband worked in the nonprofit sector for a while. And you know what? He rarely got health insurance. At one point, we were completely stressed out about not being insured, and he asked his boss what everyone else was doing, and she said, “Can’t you get insurance from your spouse? That’s what we do.” How to deal with doubt: Take a leap
Posted to: Fulfillment | Parenting
October 22nd, 2009
The farmer broke up with me five times the first five months we were together, last year. So I learned that he had huge commitment issues. All career issues are religious issues. Maybe.
Posted to: Fulfillment | Learn to take advice
September 28th, 2009
I starting to think that the most effective preparation for a good career is religion. How to deal with an insane commute
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September 16th, 2009
I usually leave work at 2:30 to pick up my kids. But on days when I ditch the kids and work to go to the farm, I allay my guilt by staying at work well after 2:30 so everyone will think I stayed late. I call the farmer when I’m on the road because I [...] All advice on how to manage creative people is awful
Posted to: Fulfillment | Management
August 27th, 2009
A good manager is someone who makes everyone feel like he or she is creative in their work. Because creative work is the most fulfilling work, and we are each capable of that kind of work. 4 Reasons traveling is a waste of time
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August 17th, 2009
I'm growing sour on travel. I have always disliked it. When I was a kid my parents took us all over Europe and the Caribbean, and it really exhausted me. Now that I'm a grown up, I am better able to articulate why I think travel is a waste of time. Here are four reasons [...] The sign of a great career is having great opportunities, and saying no
Posted to: Fulfillment | Knowing yourself
July 29th, 2009
This is about the farmer. The guy I met last year, and I drove through tornados, twice, to see. He dumped me. But I kept his toothbrush in my bathroom for five months while other men paraded through. And the way you can gauge if you love someone is if you keep the toothbrush even after the toothpaste [...] Will taking drugs help your career? Maybe you need Adderall
Posted to: Fulfillment | Productivity
July 23rd, 2009
Most of us have a terrible time focusing on our work. Sarah Palin's resignation inspires me
Posted to: Fulfillment | Goal setting
July 13th, 2009
There are a million times we intuitively know what we should be doing in our careers, but the chatter around us makes us question ourselves. Too much. If I have one regret in my career it’s that I didn’t trust myself more, earlier. Do you belong in NYC? Take the test
Posted to: Fulfillment | Money
June 11th, 2009
More than 80% of young people say they want to live in New York City, according to Time Out New York. I can understand that. I lived there for seven years. Of course, NYC is amazing. But I have also lived for about ten years each in Chicago, LA, and Boston. And now I live [...] How to decide where to live
Posted to: Fulfillment | Money
May 21st, 2009
Three years ago, I made a decision to move from New York City to Madison, WI based purely on research. I put economic development research together with positive psychology research. Then I combed the Internet for city statistics, and I moved. (If you want to read the research I used, I linked to it all [...] |
You can't be a debt snob and be entrepreneurial. Almost all startups are founded on credit cards or money from parents. http://bit.ly/d3Hruw 2 days ago
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