You need a mentor now; here’s how to get one
This is a piece I wrote for the new leadership section at Forbes.com.
Of course a good education and talent are keys to building a successful career, but for most people, school is over and the parameters of their talent were set on the day they were born. So what can you do now to get ahead? Get a mentor. In fact, get a stable of mentors for guidance on multiple aspects of your career.
“Executives who have had mentors have earned more money at a younger age,” writes Gerard Roche, senior chairman at the recruiting firm Heidrick & Struggles. Additionally, his research shows “those who have had mentors are happier with their career progress and derive greater pleasure from their work.” The majority of executives had mentors in their first five years of their career.
But finding a mentor is not easy. For a lucky few, mentors can be found through a privileged network of relatives, family friends or your parents’ business associates. For everyone else, the search requires patience, a clear focus and the self-confidence to be a nudge. “Not everyone can depend on nepotism,” says Alisyn Camerota, New York-based correspondent for Fox News. “I got where I am by turning reluctant people into active mentors.”
The easiest way to create allies is to build a reputation as an overachiever. That’s what Camerota did during an internship early on in her career at a Washington, D.C. –based news bureau. After earning the respect of her boss throughout the summer, she came to rely on her for advice and support. Eventually Camerota felt empowered enough to walk into her office and say, “My internship ends in a week and I don’t have a job. Can I have all your contacts?” She said yes. Camerota copied the whole Rolodex onto a legal pad by hand and cold called the contacts until someone agreed to interview her. Those calls later led to a full-time job.
Mentors aren’t just important for those starting out. They’re essential to rising through the ranks, too. “Obtaining a mentor is an important career development experience for individuals. Research indicates that mentored individuals perform better on the job, advance more rapidly within the organization (i.e., get promoted more quickly and earn higher salaries), and report more job and career satisfaction,” says Lillian Eby, professor of applied psychology at the University of Georgia.
As Camerota’s career progressed, she realized her main goal was to be a broadcast journalist. More specifically, she wanted to be in front of the camera. But for two years, she was stuck behind the scenes for America’s Most Wanted. That changed when Lance Heflin, the shows executive producer, became her mentor.
Camerota’s tactic of working hard and asking specific questions made Heflin aware that she was coach-able and focused on her career, attributes that attract the best sort of mentor. So by the time Camerota asked Heflin to help her get on-camera, he told her that if she was willing to do the work, he would help.
Camerota spent the next six months making terrible tapes. Heflin’s coaching started with her appearance: “Do not wear green ever again. Do you ever see people wearing green on TV?” Then he moved to more nuanced tips: “Treat the camera like it’s your friend,” he told her. And he showed her a tape from a broadcaster he liked, walking through a house as he talked to the camera, making the audience feel like they were right there with him.
The duo went through countless such show and tell sessions. And every now and then, Heflin would say, “Stop. Rewind.” And he’d go back to where Camerota smiled at someone or looked at the camera and raised an eyebrow. “That’s where you threw a nickel through the screen,” Which was his way of saying, “Something came alive here.” You can’t ask for advice like that. You have to inspire it.
Camerota’s hard work and raw talent earned her an outstanding mentor who devoted a large amount of time and energy to showing her how to become a television reporter. Keep your eyes open for someone who loves to help people grow.
There are more of those people than you’d think and they may need you, too. “Both mentors and protégés report benefiting from mentoring relationships,” writes Eby. Make your move now. Test the waters with a few people who seem like they might be good mentors. Ask specific questions, and heed the advice. You might find you get more than you asked for.



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Good thoughts here.
Two points to add.
1. Right about the two way street. Mentors give and get from the relationship…just like many school teachers say they learn a ton from their students.
2. There’s a difference btwn mentors and advisors. I think about advisors as specific to my business. “Mentors” connotes a broader relationship, including personal matters.
Posted by Ben Casnocha | September 27, 2006
Penelope: I’ve been reading some of your posts and they are so insightful and useful! Appears to me like you would be a good mentor yourself.
I’ll keep reading.
Posted by Åsa | September 28, 2006
Well i dont have anything “insigntful” to say or add. my question may even seem silly.
but iv been wondering if there is a mentoring program that offers fashion design that i could attend without being a college grad or attending college. if anyone has as information please email me it would be extremely helpful.
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Hi, Nicole. I don’t know an official mentoring program in that industry. But I know that if you contact a potential mentor with specific questions, that person is likely to help you. The questions should show that you have direction and vision for yourself and they should be questions that are not open-ended but can elicit specific, brief answers. By doing this routine a few times with the same person over a few months, you can establish a mentor relationship.
If it doesn’t work the first time, don’t be discouraged. Just try again.
Good luck!
-Penelope
Posted by Nicole Bond | February 21, 2007
well, i really don’t see how to “get” a mentor in this article. you talk of why its good to have one, and how some people progressed due to having a mentor. but you don’t talk specifics about how to get a mentor, apart from one point of being an overachiever. i would have expected better articulation for a piece that was actually part of a leadership section on Forbes.
Posted by some girl | June 25, 2007
like, what’s in it for the mentor?
Posted by some girl | June 25, 2007
ok, joke’s on me. i shoulda read other blog entries first before being abrasive!
Posted by some girl | June 25, 2007
Hello,
would like to know how can I find a mentor in my state(Rhode Island)that can guide me into starting up a modeling agency for children.
Thank you
Posted by dollie johnson | August 22, 2007
Penelope,
I’m a new reader and enjoying your posts.
I agree that a mentor can accelerate our growth and progress.
Lately I’ve been thinking that mastermind groups might be very powerful as well. Not only do they present an opportunity for brainstorming with and mentoring by our peers, they also add accountability into the mix.
I wonder what you think.
Posted by Larry Brauner | January 23, 2008
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