The fact that good-looking people make more money is truer for women than men, which is especially unfair, because it is very hard to not gain a million pounds when you’re pregnant; I gained sixty. This column is about my two-month quest to lose that weight, and the importance of making a plan for any large and difficult goal.
I happen to have a book deal that is predicated on a grand speaking tour, and the speaking tour is predicated on me not being overweight, and the bookings need to start in September. If I can’t line up speaking gigs, I can’t promote my book, and if I don’t promote my book, it won’t sell and I won’t get another contract. So losing weight became my number one job.
This is what my agent said three days after I delivered the baby: “I don’t mean to be harsh, but you look terrible."
This is what my husband said two days later: “The stress of you having to lose so much weight so quickly will kill us both. Give back the money you got for the book."
I did what works best for me when I’m in trouble: I wrote lists and schedules. I wrote a schedule for two visits a day to the gym and lists for what I would do there each day. I wrote a schedule for the babysitter, who had to come to the gym with me because the baby is not on a bottle. (Yes, I got off the treadmill to breastfeed.) I wrote a list of food — what to carry with me each day, and when to go food shopping, because if I’m starving in front of a bakery with no food in my backpack I’ll do the bakery. Finally, I scheduled the date I would go to my agent’s office to show her that I lost the weight.
It worked. I lost twenty pounds just by delivering the baby. But I lost forty pounds in two months. People are shocked to see me, and they ask me how I did it. First I tell them that if you had to lose weight in order to earn a living, you’d be able to do it, too. I gained insight into ultra-thin Hollywood; not being able to work if you take too many bites of cookie gives you a lot of self-discipline.
But the bigger factor here is that I came up with a schedule and followed it. And I realized that I could do this for any goal, not just weight loss.
Many times we are scared that we won’t meet our most important goals. Decision points cater this fear– they open the door to self-doubt and inaction. But meticulous scheduling up front, and a belief in your planning abilities will allow you to relax; tune out your worries and just follow the plan.
You can’t take this advice for everything in life. But making an extremely detailed, well-thought-out schedule to support an ambitious plan, is a great way to ensure you meet your most important goals – the ones that will make or break your career.
Some of you will realize that your career really is stalling because your weight makes you look out of control. For most of you, though, weight loss will not be all that important. But you might have other goals that you worry you won’t achieve, such as switching careers, going back to school, or growing your consulting business.
Make a commitment to yourself and to your most important goals by reserving time in your day and space in your head to meet your goals. Great ambitions are not met haphazardly, and many times are not met at all. You can increase your odds tremendously by planning meticulously.
My next step is finding good places to book my speaking tour. I had been worried that this would not work out. But now I feel more confident. I am making a plan, as detailed as I made for the weight loss. And I know if I execute the plan on a daily basis, I will end up with a speaking tour that I like.










Congrats.
That's great if you have nothing else to do but lose weight and take care of your baby and you can afford to have a babysitter follow you wherever you go, but what if you work, too, and are trying to finish your novel and you don't have a huge advance? How do you lose that much weight in that short a period of time for the every day woman who can't go the gym twice a day? What do you recommend? Not everyone is a Hollywood woman.
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Wait. Is this a joke? First of all, I was trying to finish a book while was doing this. Second, I support a family of four and did not take any maternity leave (which I absolutely do not recommend to anyone). I do not have tons of money. This was an enormous expense to us. It's about prioritizing. I did this while I lived in a 500 square foot apartment with two kids in New York City. I have written about all this on the blog. Take a look around. I'm a lot more like you than you think.
-Penelope
Posted by CJ on 07/04/2007 at 02:37pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I think it's great and you breastfed on top of it – way to go, P! Now, will you share your lists. :-)
Posted by Leah Trabue on 09/29/2007 at 11:57pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
It would be great if you could now link your PPD story to this.
Posted by Andrea C>> Become a consultant blog on 02/13/2008 at 08:16pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
very true
my wife said the same thing
such hard work when you have a baby to look after
Posted by james on 04/26/2008 at 07:28pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
Penelope,
Way to go!!! That is a major accomplishment and only hope i can pull it off. You see i have gained 37 pounds so far this pregnancy and will be induced in about a week and a half and have about 50 pounds i want to lose after the baby. You are an inspiration and i have to wonder how you did it in spite of all that was going on in your life. I have 2 other children, this is my third, and i have to go back to work at 6 weeks post-partum and am finishing my research paper for my master's degree in nursing. Don't take to heart the comment by the negative lady, many women have a hard time coping with the fact that they have so much weight to lose and when someone else does it they panic in fear that they may not be able to do the same. I am proud of you for doing it and thank you again for your encouraging words.
Posted by Jennie on 10/15/2008 at 10:43am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Great stuff Penelope. Some very much encouraging and inspirational words. Way to go. Losing that much weight during such short time with other work is simply amazing. My wife and I are also expecting baby this article would be ideal for her. Thanks a lot
Posted by Diet Plans on 02/02/2009 at 10:14am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Nice article Penelope. It's such a great thing to hear. Me and my hubby are expecting a baby boy soon and your words are simply encouraging to me. Thanks a lot. Appreciate you writing this for mom's like us to read.
Posted by Kristi @ Low Book Sales on 02/04/2009 at 12:05am | permalink | Reply to this comment
What you did was a great achievement and it illustrates how all you need is motivation. You needed to loose weight to make a living… so you did. I'm sure it was far from easy, but you did what you had to do. Great.
A lot of people are just looking for excuses – they have slow metabolism and big bones and their work schedule doesn't allow them to eat healthier or work out… But in the end it always comes down to motivation, determination and commitment.
That being said, you probably shouldn't gain as much weight as you did during the pregnancy. It's hard, I know. Your appetite is at the all time highest and everybody's telling you that you're now eating for two. And yes, you have to gain some weight, it's only natural. But still, forty pounds sounds a bit too much.
Posted by Michelle on 02/10/2009 at 06:29am | permalink | Reply to this comment
You've got a really awesome blog here. Just thought to comment here as well. After pregnancy you gain a real lot of eight. i can almost 50 pounds. Which was really not a goo thing. It took me a very long time to bring my weight back to normal.
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Posted by Beauty Healthy Life Girl on 04/09/2009 at 05:00am | permalink | Reply to this comment
cool article , maybe my wife would find this useful.
thank you.
Posted by Horgan on 06/14/2009 at 12:37am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Yes,It is really hard to loose the weight after pregnancy.I got 75 pound during pregnancy and after delivery it was very difficult for me to loose the weight but i worked hard in gym and lost weight.
Posted by apartments croatia on 06/18/2009 at 09:58am | permalink | Reply to this comment
I think its disgusting and unfortunate that in our society you can't sell books because you are considered "over weight" just because you had a baby. Obviously you are proud of your weight loss but are you proud of the noose that hangs around your neck all the time? I mean you might as well have just said "my credentials, intelligence and talent don't matter, but my looks do". I think its too bad that you felt so pressured to lose the weight so fast. Obviously you are motivated and that is great for you but I feel sorry for you that you live in a world that you feel you have to cater to in order to survive. I can see why a model or an actress would need to lose weight but an author? Seems a bit ridiculous. I wish as a society we could all cut the crap and stop expecting people (and ourselves) to be so perfect. Personally, I'd buy a book from someone whether they are 125lbs or 250+lbs.
Posted by Mary on 06/28/2009 at 10:29am | permalink | Reply to this comment
We needed this info. Going to look properly again after work. Thank you so much. *Bookmarked*
Posted by Baby Shopper on 09/29/2009 at 02:57pm | permalink | Reply to this comment