Turning point

When the kids and I arrived at the farm the day of the wedding, I got out of the car and the farmer said, “You’re wearing black?”

Wedding day on the farm


My son went to the hen house to collect eggs. The farm cats love eating raw eggs, but on a farm, you only feed the cats scraps. My son saw a chance for an exception. He said to the farmer, “Since it’s your wedding day, can we give the cats an egg to celebrate?”

Feeding farm cats


We dressed the boys.

Dressing on the farm


My son said, “People don’t dress up on farms.”

I said, “They do for weddings.”

And then I tucked his shirt in for the twenty-sixth time.

Dressing for the wedding


The four of us were more than half of the guests at the wedding. My youngest son said: “Where is everyone?”

I said, “The important thing is that I have the three people here who I love the most.”

And he said, “Who?”

Penelope Trunk wedding


When the boys noticed the free-form nature of the ceremony, they spontaneously added their own touch: A lively rendition of the Sh’ma and a tear-jerker rendition of “You are My Sunshine.” Then the boys gave us the rings.

Penelope Trunk getting married


The after-party was kisses, a rope swing, and mattresses left over from moving out the farmer’s stuff to make room for all of us.

Rope swing on the farm

Jumping on a mattress


It took only twenty minutes for the farmer to lose his wedding ring. But it seemed okay: I love this picture because one thing I love about him is that he’s always looking for something.

Looking for a ring


And I think I am that way, too.

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  1. Carolyn Tann-Starr
    Carolyn Tann-Starr says:

    May the love that brought you all together grow and mature with each passing year. May the honesty of your communication continue to build a foundation of understanding, connection, and trust. You have a beautiful family. I think you are an amazing writer and I wish you all the very best in all things. Regards, C. ;-)

  2. shai99
    shai99 says:

    What a story, very heartwarming and simple and yet so filled with love and happiness…Congratulations Penelope and to your family…

  3. Bonnie Jones
    Bonnie Jones says:

    Amazing post, I got behind and had no idea you guys were getting married. I am so happy for you. I love the pics, you guys are a gorgeous family!! Keep them coming. He is very handsome!

  4. Kim Campbell
    Kim Campbell says:

    Wow penelope. That was so heartfelt and honest and beautiful that I kind of teared up. Congratulation!

  5. Will
    Will says:

    Penelope,

    Congratulations!

    Let me publicly repeat my best wishes to both of you for a lifetime of growth and happiness together.

    The pictures are great choices: quirky, authentic and joyful.

  6. Nicole
    Nicole says:

    So pure, so innoncent, and so beautiful…

    I wish you all of the love & happiness in the world…you all make a beautiful family!

    All the best,
    Nicole

  7. Harshi
    Harshi says:

    So happy seeing the photos Penelope! How absolutely ADORABLE are your sons! Love them. Thanks for sharing. Many Congratulations to both of you, and Wish you a very very happy and loving life together with your families. God bless!

  8. Sansa
    Sansa says:

    Congratulations on your wonderful day and the loving generosity of the Farmer (to be on your blog). You are a lucky woman! Enjoy!

  9. Nancy Carroll
    Nancy Carroll says:

    Penelope:
    You can feel the mood thru the pics. Thanks. There is so much in stepping out for real. You look sooooo happy. :)
    Love the new beginnings.

  10. Paula
    Paula says:

    I may not always identify with you or take your advice, but I enjoy the authenticity of your personal posts. And it can be good to be always looking for something.

  11. Sophie
    Sophie says:

    Do you know how couples who have been married a long time start to look like each other? Is it my imaginaiton, or do you guys already look like each other? I’m very happey for you. Congrats!

    Black is my favorite color, too. Very appropriate.

  12. Sophie
    Sophie says:

    Sorry for the typos. There seems to be big time lag between my typing and it showing up on screen. I lost patience.

  13. Indrani
    Indrani says:

    So very very happy for you. You all look lovely, radiant and happy. You have world’s cutest sons. Farmer looks hnadsome.

    I am an avid reader of your blog. I find it informative and fun. I have not always commented, as there was not often anything that I wanted to say. I thought about what you said and I think some part of my life was better.

    Do keep up the good job. And congratulations again!!

  14. Stephanie
    Stephanie says:

    You look beautiful in black! And those sunglasses are super stylish.

    Congrats on this new beginning in your life. I wish you much love and happiness.

  15. Emily
    Emily says:

    Congratulations. You and the boys look so happy. I can’t beleive you shared your farmer with us. Thank you and best wishes.

  16. Angie
    Angie says:

    Thank you for sharing! Your intimate ceremony made me day. Thank you for letting us in – what a gift!

    I married a former (and still sometimes) farmer 4 yrs ago after a bad 1st marriage & lots of emotional scars. Something about his kind heart & sensible nature… sigh. I’m still in love with him.

    I wish you that comfort, that constant sense of easy joy. All of the crap that comes with the new family… it will get easier eventually.

    Enjoy your blessings!

    • Angie
      Angie says:

      Still in love with my FARMER (just clarifying… mental note… read, read, read before posting)

      ;-)

  17. Jimmy
    Jimmy says:

    I can’t believe you did it!

    Congratulations on this exciting journey.

    The kids will do well, I hope she does too. ;)

  18. Jeremy
    Jeremy says:

    Congrats and very nice. Na sas zisete.
    Normally I can’t stand your posts but this ones a special moment not to be forgotten.

  19. Susan
    Susan says:

    Hmmmmmmmm a 2 1/2 week silence and a twitter admitting that she is having a problem. Perhaps all is not well in farmville.

  20. Miriam Valle
    Miriam Valle says:

    Congratulation!!
    What a great story, i grew up in a farm, until i met my hubby to be who at first move in with me in my farm, we had a blast, everyday was a journey until one day i couldn’t stand up from my bed my left limbs felt numb, we went to the city since it seemed something serious and it was i had an aneurysm.

    I had surgery the next day, luckily i am ok, but I still have to take Physical therapy, we live in the city now ,because of that, but on the weekends we go back to our love nest at the farm.
    God bless You.
    Miriam

  21. Pamela Slim
    Pamela Slim says:

    I am a little late to the party, but congratulations!

    I am so happy for you!

    Still remembering our convo in Scottsdale where you mentioned that you really are meant to be in stable relationship.

    Here you are.

    Hugs to you, the boys and The Farmer. :)

    -P

  22. Robbin
    Robbin says:

    Wow…so sweet. What a lovely viewpoint of a special day.
    Lucky girl. Two boys, living on a farm and having nature right out your back door.

  23. Priyantha
    Priyantha says:

    lovely to see these bright and shinny ideas and pictures. Specially when I am stressed i check this blog. it lighten ups me:-)

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