My column was late. Not to you, but to my editor. It is surprising, really, that my column was late, because the time zone difference is in my favor. But this week I would have needed my editor to be in another galaxy.
I will not tell you why I was late because the only thing worse than being late telling why you were late. I am not talking about being late because your family’s house burned down. I am talking about being late because of slow traffic, a late babysitter, a presentation that ran too long. Upward mobility requires that people can depend on you to be on time.
If you are a person who is always late, you will get in trouble. People who are always late think they are only sometimes late, so if you think you are sometimes late, you are probably in trouble.
There is no need to give advice on how to be on time, because everyone knows how to be on time. (Here’s the proof: If the President of the United States invited you to dinner would there be any risk that you’d be late? No.) But perhaps there is a need to show why *all* deadlines and appointments are as important as dinner with the President.
The basic problem with being late is that you reveal too much about yourself. In the end, being late reveals either disrespect or incompetence, both of which are important things to not have at work, and if you do have them, hide them by being on time, always.
If you are late to a meeting, for example, you are disrespectful to everyone in the room. If your boss is there, forget the promotion. If your direct reports are there, imagine ten years from now when everyone has new jobs at new companies, and your bonus depends on cutting a deal with someone who used to report to you, and that person remembers how disrespectful you were. No bonus.
Sometimes people are on time to the meeting but they don’t have the report. Forget the excuses because everyone in the room will see you as incapable. There are shades of incapable. There is incapable of doing the report so you procrastinate. There is perceiving that you are incapable even though you are capable which makes you incapable with low self-esteem. There is overloaded and did not get to the report which really means you cannot set limits at work, which translates to low self-esteem, or worse yet, no knowledge of your own limits.
How can you fix the problem? Being honest with yourself goes a long way in the late arena. Once I was late to dinner and someone at the table said to me, “You must be a time optimist." I had no idea what he was talking about. But then he explained that most people are late because they are too optimistic about how quickly they can do things – which is a nice way of saying that people are late because they are not honest with themselves about how long things really take. So if you really want to be on time, you will start being a better judge of how much time tasks really take – and you will add some time to each estimate.
I used to teach a college-level business class, and some days I would give a pop quiz during the first five minutes of class. The quiz would be easy but it would count for a significant percentage of a student’s overall grade. Some students would approach me after class to tell me that they had an excuse for lateness and that my surly pop quizzes were ruining their chance of getting into law school. I told the students that the quiz was my way of emphasizing that it doesn’t matter how much you know about business, if you’re late, you will undermine your success.
Luckily, my editor does not quiz me, and luckily, I am not applying to law school.







this is a great
Posted by Julia on 10/31/2006 at 07:01pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
this is eerie- you wrote this on my 46th birthday but i didnt see it until now. i think that says it all. but i am, finally, at 49 years of age, starting to be a time realist instead of an optimist. if only i'd seen this sooner…
thanks for this & your advice on how to stop procrastination & why it happens. i have printed them out & hopefully will not put them in a pile, but keep neatly in a file to refer to later, if needed.
even though i am the antithesis of a brazen careerist, these are extremely helpful life tips that all of us can use.
Posted by terry on 04/27/2007 at 09:42am | permalink | Reply to this comment
When I read this article, I thought that it had a lot of truth to it. It made me see being late in a way that I had never seen it before. I had never thought of being late as disrespectful, I merely brushed it off to the fact that I had to look faboulous everywhere that I went, and that time was the price that I had to pay in order to acheive that goal. Unfortunately for me, that way of thinking has translated into, my losing of jobs that I really loved and wanted to have a real future with. If you haven't guessed already, I am a person who is chronically late….no I mean SERIOUSLY CHRONIC….throughtout the years, I have missed important tests, (in both high school and college), meetings at work (or otherwise), and various social gatherings where my attendance was expected ( one time I was supposed to be a guest at my cousin's wedding, and walked in just in time to see them walking down the aisle AFTER saying their vows and kissing!). And with all this being said….I'm only 23…I've got a long road to go, before I actually get into my career (with the help of God!)Long story short…I need help, I don't know what to do….am I cursed with the inability to make anywhere on time?
Posted by Erika McGowan on 09/30/2007 at 05:10pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I found this link by googling my own name, and followed it because someone by the name of Erika McGowan already read it!
I have a problem with being late despite it being my biggest pet peeve. I was impressed with your article, and I'm going to print it out and hang it in my dorm room. Thanks for writing it.
Posted by Erika McGowan on 05/31/2008 at 12:31am | permalink | Reply to this comment
oh my god, im so pissed. my boss told my co worker that if im late again then my boss needs to be notified. i guess the worst of it is knowing that my boss is involving other coworkers, and none the less i was informed by the co worker who was not about to rat me out. its horrible.. couldn't stop thinking about it.. had to put that traumatic event out there for everyone to see, thanks for reading. think encouraging thoughts for me. thanks
bye
Posted by ashamed on 02/05/2009 at 01:52pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
I just found your blog yesterday and have been reading it for hours, my partner is tired of me looking up and saying 'but can I just read this piece to you' NO YOU CANNOT YOU READ TOO FAST. Darn.
I have never read so many amazing, insightful, fabulous, posts in one place. You say stuff that has been in my head but didn't even know how to articulate. Your latest post about artists! So great, your career advice, blogging. I have never signed up to follow anyone on twitter in my life. I am so looking forward to receiving your posts in my inbox!
Hope you are feeling better!
Posted by Maria Killam on 02/08/2009 at 11:43pm | permalink | Reply to this comment
The best part of this blog I think is the statement "Time Optimist." I have been chronically late for years. It is true, I can show up on time to things I enjoy or is of interest to me. Thanks for the mirror!
Posted by Serenity on 04/15/2009 at 11:07am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Thank you for this article. As much as I didn't enjoy hearing the truth, but I do realize it is the truth. I am always late. I have managed to be successful with an MBA and a good job, but lateness has always been a HUGE problem. Who know, perhaps I would be even more successful if I were on time. I am late to things I enjoy doing and late to things I hate doing. It is the most stressful for me, who gets frustrated and annoyed with myself for being late. I really have to make a conscious effort to give myself plenty of time to get somewhere. Could it ever be considered a disorder? Or is that just another excuse?!
Posted by Nicole on 05/22/2009 at 09:03am | permalink | Reply to this comment
Nicole, I think the disorder is called 'procrastination'. It's a serious and very common disease, that I am infected with as well :(
Posted by Mark Spencer on 06/23/2009 at 10:30am | permalink | Reply to this comment