Somehow, last year, I got too big-picture. It’s not surprising since I’m an ENTJ. I understand my deficit, which is one reason I picked the Farmer, an ISTP-—extremely short-term thinking. At the end of the day, the Farmer walks in the house and talks about his day’s accomplishments, and the weather. I used to tell […]
It’s been four days since I documented my own domestic violence, in almost real-time, between me and the Farmer. The most common response I’ve heard is some variation of: “Zero tolerance for domestic abuse!” And you know what? I have zero tolerance for things I am not prone to tolerate as well. That’s easy, isn’t […]
I think this year was a year of me looking for stuff. Trying to figure stuff out. Maybe trying to figure out what I’m looking for. It was also the year I discovered pictures for my blog, and I even redesigned the whole blog so the photos are more prominent. So it makes sense to […]
I am at a hotel. I think I’m dying. I have a bruise from where the Farmer slammed me into our bed post. I took the kids and went to a hotel so I could have time to think. I think I need to move into a hotel for a month. The Farmer told me […]
One reason I have achieved so much in my own career is that I’ve taken shortcuts. For example, I played professional beach volleyball without learning how to play indoor sixes very well—I can really only play doubles, which is what people play on the sand. But it allowed me to skip a lot of years […]
When we were at LegoLand I was struck by the high emotional intelligence of the employees. Their job is to make everyone feel like their Lego project is great. (You’d be surprised how many parents are there, swiping the white blocks from little kids at the Lego snowman contest.) High emotional-intelligence jobs are very hard, […]
This post is cross-posted at TechCrunch. We need to get more guys who are running tech startups to decide instead to be stay-at-home dads. What do you think of that? Stupid, right? That’s what it sounds like when anyone suggests that we need to get more women doing startups. If you are worried that women […]
It is the night of the new nanny. She is maybe a nanny or maybe a Spanish teacher. It is unclear. She is a blog reader who told me she could help me. Lots of people offer to come to the farm and help me get that mythic work-life balance that no one really has. […]
This post is sponsored by the American Cancer Society. After I realized that the most underrated skill is asking good questions, I realized that I am not very good at it. I don’t ask for help enough because I don’t know what question to ask. And also, I worry the question will be bad and […]
I confess that I don’t feel like I’m working to my potential. And it makes me feel sick. I know the signs. It starts with me not being able to cope with my to-do list. It all looks too overwhelming. So I scale things back: I take out everything that has to do with starting […]