What counts as coronavirus if we don’t have any tests? What counts as self-isolation if we can’t get away from our kids?

Each country reveals so much about itself by its approach to coronavirus. China pretended nothing was happening—the country with the best disinformation system applied it to the virus. South Korea figured out a way to test 400 people a day using a drive-through system—the country with the strongest video game teams applied their team gaming […]

Why I waited ten years to sign up for a writing course.

The first writing class I signed up for I told myself I could leave in the middle if it sucked. And I told myself it would definitely suck because who would want to be in a writing group if they were letting me in? So I didn’t go to the class. In fact, I found […]

We’re in New Hampshire campaigning for Bernie!

 Last night at midnight, our theoretical family bedtime, we were listening to the most recent episode of our favorite podcast, Chapo Traphouse. And they started screaming at listeners to go to  New Hampshire to get people to vote for Bernie. “Go to Durham, New Hampshire! Bernie needs your help in Durham!” I said to […]

The crazy lengths companies will go to hire and retain high-level women

Companies that have both men and women in high-level positions see improvements in productivity, innovation, safety, and profitability. Yet the number of women with jobs at the top is still decreasing. You know why you would not want one of those jobs: 80-hour weeks, monthly travel, other people raising your children. But I wonder if […]

Kobe Bryant confessed to rape. That’s part of his story.

As we sat down to dinner last night, my son said, “Look. Kobe died.” I looked at the phone screen. My first thought was: he was so young and oh my gosh his daughter. My next thought was: the rape. I have never stopped thinking about the night Kobe raped a 19-year-old woman while she […]

Can you get a career back after your kids grow up?

I coach lots of parents who look at scaling back work and worry about what they’ll do when their kids grow up. If you are one of those people, you are about to save the $350 coaching fee. What you want to do for work when your kids are young is not what you want […]

Boys in crisis: the decay of masculinity and how to renew it

Feminism provided girls with a whole new language to express the myriad problems-that-have-no-name, but there have been no credible equivalents for boys. In fact, the definition of masculinity seems to be contracting, according to Peggy Orenstein. When asked what traits society values most in boys, only 2% of male respondents in PerryUndem’s survey asked men what traits […]

Why the final blow to feminism will be autism

Feminism celebrates women who choose paths typical to men over women who choose paths typical to women. The problem with this approach is that in the last ten years researchers have found that women who think like men are not neurotypical women; these women have Aspergers. 

Read this if you think you don’t have autism

Recently I wrote about how most women over 40 working full-time in an office have autism. One of the comments on that post was from Marcy. She wrote:

Here’s why there are no women over 40 in your office

The US is one of the only countries in which working extremely long hours is extremely rewarding. Other countries tax very high income to the point that it’s not worth earning. In those countries, it’s possible to take care of children and have an interesting job. Because even if a job is really interesting, people […]