Find perfect ENFJ balance: Make people happy while getting things done

This live, online course helps ENFJs stop worrying that they are not capitalizing on their gifts (which are many!). The course runs August 31 – Sept. 3 at 8pm Eastern. The cost is $195 but if you sign up in the next five days the cost is $145. Sign up now!

This is Dana. Skydiving. Dana is a great specimen of an ENFJ.

She is flying through the air with her husband, Alex, an ESTP. Alex is an example of the most fun personality type in the whole world. As long as you don’t think fun is being emotional. Dana is a fun facilitator. For Alex. She is a work facilitator for Melissa. Which makes sense because Melissa is an INTJ so she thinks fun is work.

I’ve been doing all these personality type webinars, and I get so excited about the topic and the people I’m talking with  that even though I have an outline, I get new ideas constantly, adding them as I go. So when it comes time to send summaries of the session, it’s difficult for me to remember everything I said.

Dana knew this, so one evening right after a session she sent me a summary of what I said. I was SO RELIEVED! She knew exactly what I needed in order to completely love doing the webinars—I needed to not have to write my own summaries.

Watching Dana in action really crystalized the ENFJ type for me.

She is incredibly capable in her personal life. Every sky diver in the whole US wanted to date her before Alex got to her.

And she’s super capable at work as well. Melissa’s recruiting business is specialized and requires deep knowledge of personality type. Dana had done none of that but learned it all and quickly became indepensable to Melissa as the person who can make anyone feel comfortable.

Dana is like Melissa’s workplace fairy god mother, making everything around Melissa work well. Melissa even travels everywhere with Dana because Melissa says she gets more done in a  hotel room if Dana is there.

And that’s pretty much everyone’s experience of an ENFJ. Things go better when they are there.

So you’re probably wondering why ENFJs would need a webinar about their type.

Because ENFJs worry incessantly. They worry they are not getting enough done. They worry they are not helping people as much as they can. They want everything, and they want it all to balance. The choice of what to focus on and what to give up is what makes ENFJs worry the most.

All other types have a natural tendency to focus on one part of life over the other—INFJs don’t really like working all day, ENTPs don’t like being home all day. Each type has a clear tendency, but not ENFJs. So their tendency is to worry until they are almost debilitated by worry.

But that will never happen in our ENFJ land, because our ENFJs will take this course.

There is no perfect answer for all ENFJs. There is only the right answer for your ENFJ situation. This course will tell you how to find the perfect balance by showing you best practices for ENFJ greatness, and the secret path to squashing ENFJ worries.

And of course, Dana will take notes.

Here’s a description of the course. And you should sign up now!

Remember, the course costs $195, but if you sign up in the next five days the cost is $145.

Beliefs follow action; lessons from a pig farm bar mitzvah

I studied rustic weddings for a year and realized that all the rustic wedding stuff feels like a parody on a working farm. So we had a very simple bar mitzvah lunch: harvest tables and flowers from the garden. I made all the food myself, from our farm and the farms of our Amish neighbors.
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Don’t let your resume be a roadblock to your career

I am writing this post at the hairdresser. It’s my son’s second haircut this month. He loves the process of reinvention. While the haircuts feel extravagant, I like that he knows what he wants.
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Hey ENFPs! Channel your energy and imagination to inspire greatness wherever you go.

This live, online course helps ENFPs reconcile their incredible ability to do everything with the unlikelihood that they will finish any of it. The course runs August 24 – 27 at 8pm Eastern. The cost is $195.

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The ENFP is the type that has the widest range of strengths, and ENFPs can imagine themselves accomplishing a wider range of feats than any other type.
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I just read about the life-changing magic of tidying up

As someone who compulsively throws stuff out, I was thrilled to hear that the bestselling book worldwide right now is about throwing stuff out: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, by Marie Kondo.
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What neurologists tell us about goal setting

You should set goals because striving to meet a goal makes you happier. This is because a goal gives us structure and purpose, but also once you set a goal, your brain feels like you have already attained that goal. (This explains the euphoria we feel when we decide to “start a diet.”)
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Online course: Be your real INFJ self without feeling frustrated

This course includes four days of video sessions and email-based course materials. You can purchase this course for anytime, on-demand access. The cost is $195.

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The person I spend more time with than anyone else right now is Carla. She is an INFJ. And, I confess, I said I’d never work with an INFJ, because they are too hard to manage. But I retract everything after working closely with one.

I met Carla when I was interviewing for someone to help me in my garden and the biggest qualification was that they didn’t talk to me.
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The science behind high-powered women leaving their careers

The first thing I see when I look at this photo is my son’s mustache. It’s wispy but pronounced enough to show in a photo. I told him a few weeks ago that it’s time to shave.

He said, “Mom. You’re embarrassing me. Don’t talk about my body hair.”
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Play this game: What would you do if you were a millionaire?

When I ask my coaching clients what they’d do if they were millionaires, I ask with the understanding that really, anything they really want to be doing they could do right now.

Here’s how the conversation goes. I’ll do it for me. Like, I’m the coach and I’m the client.
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What your co-workers with Aspergers wish you knew

The first year we lived on the farm, my son showed pigs. He did okay (and I got one of my favorite posts of all time). But he realized that the county fair is not about pigs, it’s about social skills. You have to be able to guess what traits of a pig the judges will like this year, which requires talking to neighbors and pig feed sales guys who come by the farm. It’s a networking thing: “How’s the weather? How are hogs this year?”
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