Comments on: How to put blog comments to good use http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/12/08/how-to-put-blog-comments-to-good-use/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Thu, 09 Feb 2012 10:30:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Happiness http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/12/08/how-to-put-blog-comments-to-good-use/comment-page-1/#comment-262882 Happiness Mon, 17 Oct 2011 05:43:00 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4471#comment-262882 Can anyone define the word <a href="http://www.happinesspodcast.org/" rel="nofollow">Happiness</a>? What is Happiness we do not know because every single person has its own meaning of happiness. Finding the ways to be happy in life is only a way that can make everyone happy in this world. Can anyone define the
word Happiness? What is Happiness we do not know because every single person
has its own meaning of happiness. Finding the ways to be happy in life is
only a way that can make everyone happy in this world.

]]> By: The Dog Run | Bending the Rules http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/12/08/how-to-put-blog-comments-to-good-use/comment-page-1/#comment-258953 The Dog Run | Bending the Rules Sat, 27 Aug 2011 06:55:53 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4471#comment-258953 [...] it was happening. I knew I had to wait, though, until I figured out what to make of it. As always, “the difference between a blog post that reads like a diary entry and a blog post that someone wou... What’s to make of a pointless fight between spouses broken up by a bit of ironic bad luck, [...] [...] it was happening. I knew I had to wait, though, until I figured out what to make of it. As always, “the difference between a blog post that reads like a diary entry and a blog post that someone wou… What's to make of a pointless fight between spouses broken up by a bit of ironic bad luck, [...]

]]> By: Susan Lily http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/12/08/how-to-put-blog-comments-to-good-use/comment-page-1/#comment-243678 Susan Lily Sun, 20 Feb 2011 04:56:53 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4471#comment-243678 This blog post has really helped me get through some very painful moments in my life. I like having people like you to tell your life expeirnece. I am a feminist by choice like my friend Courtney: http://afeministresponsetopopculture.blogspot.com/ This blog post has really helped me get through some very painful moments in my life. I like having people like you to tell your life expeirnece. I am a feminist by choice like my friend Courtney: http://afeministresponsetopopculture.blogspot.com/

]]> By: Bloggy Women | Bending the Rules http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/12/08/how-to-put-blog-comments-to-good-use/comment-page-1/#comment-239602 Bloggy Women | Bending the Rules Fri, 17 Dec 2010 16:01:00 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4471#comment-239602 [...] Penelope Trunk inspires me to write. Publicly, and with frequency. To make statements and then argue my case, even if my ideas are half-formed or inconsistent and even if I think I might change my mind about something later on. This practice has made me a better writer and a better thinker. She also reminds me of the importance of editing, not for typos, but for content, and of letting time pass because “the difference between a blog post that reads like a diary entry and a blog post that someone wo... [...] [...] Penelope Trunk inspires me to write. Publicly, and with frequency. To make statements and then argue my case, even if my ideas are half-formed or inconsistent and even if I think I might change my mind about something later on. This practice has made me a better writer and a better thinker. She also reminds me of the importance of editing, not for typos, but for content, and of letting time pass because “the difference between a blog post that reads like a diary entry and a blog post that someone wo… [...]

]]> By: How to get good ideas for startups | Support Site for The Unemployed http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/12/08/how-to-put-blog-comments-to-good-use/comment-page-1/#comment-230624 How to get good ideas for startups | Support Site for The Unemployed Fri, 06 Aug 2010 02:04:41 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4471#comment-230624 [...] Maybe we should give that to the chickens.” • Email to a friend • Article Search • View comments • Track comments • [...] [...] Maybe we should give that to the chickens.” • Email to a friend • Article Search • View comments • Track comments • [...]

]]> By: Jonha @Happiness http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/12/08/how-to-put-blog-comments-to-good-use/comment-page-1/#comment-225038 Jonha @Happiness Sun, 28 Mar 2010 23:42:51 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4471#comment-225038 "The key is to be able to tune out what’s not right and to act on what is right, and take responsibility for fixing the roadblocks to doing better next time." There's always bits and pieces of your post that I really like. I copy them on my notebook. These are not the principles that I live by since I don't live by quotes. I just like how true they could get in real life. Sometimes I deal with situations by blaming myself. Then I would listen to a ton of advices and you are right about determining which should I listen to. "The key is to be able to tune out what’s not right and to act on what is right, and take responsibility for fixing the roadblocks to doing better next time." There's always bits and pieces of your post that I really like. I copy them on my notebook. These are not the principles that I live by since I don't live by quotes. I just like how true they could get in real life. Sometimes I deal with situations by blaming myself. Then I would listen to a ton of advices and you are right about determining which should I listen to.

]]> By: Ryan Paugh — startup guy, community builder, borderline hipster http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/12/08/how-to-put-blog-comments-to-good-use/comment-page-1/#comment-221769 Ryan Paugh — startup guy, community builder, borderline hipster Sun, 28 Feb 2010 23:36:42 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4471#comment-221769 [...] friend. Not a mentor. I have learned plenty about myself just from being around her, but I don’t [...] [...] friend. Not a mentor. I have learned plenty about myself just from being around her, but I don't [...]

]]> By: Major Fleeble http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/12/08/how-to-put-blog-comments-to-good-use/comment-page-1/#comment-218085 Major Fleeble Fri, 15 Jan 2010 01:57:35 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4471#comment-218085 Before the right one comes along, there are only wrong ones. I had a clumsiness that I thought was a symptomatic illness, until I learned about the mystery of near-sighted shoes. The solution made me feel the ground, which made me not clumsy, which made me confident, which propelled me toward the right one just around the corner. If this means nothing, then delete this as not pertinent. Before the right one comes along, there are only wrong ones. I had a clumsiness that I thought was a symptomatic illness, until I learned about the mystery of near-sighted shoes. The solution made me feel the ground, which made me not clumsy, which made me confident, which propelled me toward the right one just around the corner. If this means nothing, then delete this as not pertinent.

]]> By: Cathy http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/12/08/how-to-put-blog-comments-to-good-use/comment-page-1/#comment-216363 Cathy Tue, 15 Dec 2009 02:07:19 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4471#comment-216363 I so agree. Two issues have been (deliberately?) confused here. One is the relationship and the other is ownership of the farm. Scenario 1. The farmer works on the farm for cash. You are happy to move to the farm with him while he continues to work for cash. If the relationship fails, you leave, and don't claim the farm. If the relationship works, then in the long run the inheritance issue will have to be determined, SEPARATE to your relationship. Scenario 2. Somehow, the farmer convinces YOU that YOU(!!) have to take up the difficult inheritance issue with the parents. Everything falls apart. The big question: Why is the farmer not ok for you to move to the farm while he keeps working for cash and everything else stays the same? Why don't you ask him, P? And let us know... I so agree. Two issues have been (deliberately?) confused here. One is the relationship and the other is ownership of the farm.
Scenario 1. The farmer works on the farm for cash. You are happy to move to the farm with him while he continues to work for cash. If the relationship fails, you leave, and don't claim the farm. If the relationship works, then in the long run the inheritance issue will have to be determined, SEPARATE to your relationship.
Scenario 2. Somehow, the farmer convinces YOU that YOU(!!) have to take up the difficult inheritance issue with the parents. Everything falls apart.
The big question: Why is the farmer not ok for you to move to the farm while he keeps working for cash and everything else stays the same?
Why don't you ask him, P? And let us know…

]]> By: Kathmandu http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/12/08/how-to-put-blog-comments-to-good-use/comment-page-1/#comment-216361 Kathmandu Tue, 15 Dec 2009 01:30:17 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4471#comment-216361 Penelope, the extra information you gave this time makes an important difference. I'm going to quote it slightly rearranged to highlight the dynamics: <blockquote>I wanted to stay at the farm he has now, and not leave. And, I suggested that things would be easier if the farmer worked for cash, as he had been doing, and not worry about the land. And the farmer and the lawyer said no. It had to be the land. The farmer's lawyer recommended that the farmer threaten to leave the farm <strong>in order to get an irrevocable inheritance.</strong> So the farmer told me that <strong>I</strong> need to explain to his parents why <strong>I</strong> will have no security if they can revoke <strong>his</strong> inheritance at any time. Because with that arrangement, my behavior is always being tested. The farmer told me that if they still didn't want to give him an irrevocable inheritance, then he'd leave with me. I told them that, but in the conversation it became clear, as the farmer distanced himself from me, that he wouldn't leave. </blockquote> He was using you as a proxy. He wanted the land; he depends on it, but his parents won't give him the security of owning it. He got you to challenge them on his behalf, so he could blame you if the threat didn't work. And that's how it happened. He preserves his relationship with them, because he can claim wasn't trying for the land; it was that devil woman from away! When really <strong>he</strong> was determined to try for the land, even though it didn't matter to you and you advised him to not worry about it. Penelope, the extra information you gave this time makes an important difference. I'm going to quote it slightly rearranged to highlight the dynamics:

I wanted to stay at the farm he has now, and not leave. And, I suggested that things would be easier if the farmer worked for cash, as he had been doing, and not worry about the land.

And the farmer and the lawyer said no. It had to be the land. The farmer's lawyer recommended that the farmer threaten to leave the farm in order to get an irrevocable inheritance.

So the farmer told me that I need to explain to his parents why I will have no security if they can revoke his inheritance at any time. Because with that arrangement, my behavior is always being tested. The farmer told me that if they still didn't want to give him an irrevocable inheritance, then he'd leave with me.

I told them that, but in the conversation it became clear, as the farmer distanced himself from me, that he wouldn't leave.

He was using you as a proxy. He wanted the land; he depends on it, but his parents won't give him the security of owning it. He got you to challenge them on his behalf, so he could blame you if the threat didn't work. And that's how it happened.

He preserves his relationship with them, because he can claim wasn't trying for the land; it was that devil woman from away! When really he was determined to try for the land, even though it didn't matter to you and you advised him to not worry about it.

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