Comments on: Asperger's at work: 5 ways to be less annoying http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/11/24/aspergers-syndrome-at-the-office-6-ways-to-be-less-annoying/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Sat, 20 Mar 2010 21:13:45 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Alyson Bradley http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/11/24/aspergers-syndrome-at-the-office-6-ways-to-be-less-annoying/comment-page-1/#comment-220745 Alyson Bradley Sun, 14 Feb 2010 01:30:52 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4365#comment-220745 Penelope I always enjoy your articles, thought provoking, direct and to the point and I agree with this line, to the majority anyway "You will always be difficult to deal with. You need to make it worth everyone’s time." I do feel as I have found its almost like we have to overcompensate to be accepted, I always seem to have to over prove myself to get to point 1, when others have been given a free pass it feels to step 10.? and of course it should not be like this, but realizing how we impact on others help us adjust when we have to, but I so feel its about time the world started to be more adaptable to our needs... more on work siuations: http://asplanet.info/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=40&Itemid=83 Penelope I always enjoy your articles, thought provoking, direct and to the point and I agree with this line, to the majority anyway "You will always be difficult to deal with. You need to make it worth everyone’s time." I do feel as I have found its almost like we have to overcompensate to be accepted, I always seem to have to over prove myself to get to point 1, when others have been given a free pass it feels to step 10.?

and of course it should not be like this, but realizing how we impact on others help us adjust when we have to, but I so feel its about time the world started to be more adaptable to our needs… more on work siuations: http://asplanet.info/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=40&Itemid=83

]]> By: Online Classified Ads http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/11/24/aspergers-syndrome-at-the-office-6-ways-to-be-less-annoying/comment-page-1/#comment-218971 Online Classified Ads Fri, 22 Jan 2010 20:00:47 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4365#comment-218971 I believe that So you need to really look at peoples’ faces. And if you get a bad reaction when you say something, even if you think it’s not a bad thing to say, you need to stop and ask if you hurt someone’s feelings. I believe that So you need to really look at peoples’ faces. And if you get a bad reaction when you say something, even if you think it’s not a bad thing to say, you need to stop and ask if you hurt someone’s feelings.

]]> By: Online Classified Ads http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/11/24/aspergers-syndrome-at-the-office-6-ways-to-be-less-annoying/comment-page-1/#comment-218673 Online Classified Ads Wed, 20 Jan 2010 16:41:23 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4365#comment-218673 Well i think if you get a bad reaction when you say something, even if you think it’s not a bad thing to say, you need to stop and ask if you hurt someone’s feelings. Well i think if you get a bad reaction when you say something, even if you think it’s not a bad thing to say, you need to stop and ask if you hurt someone’s feelings.

]]> By: ar http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/11/24/aspergers-syndrome-at-the-office-6-ways-to-be-less-annoying/comment-page-1/#comment-218159 ar Fri, 15 Jan 2010 16:09:16 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4365#comment-218159 Are you asking to know or because you don't believe she has Asperger's? I assume the latter. If so why don't you check out the "raw" interview with her on youtube. You watch that and the other videos on you tube and you tell me she dosn't have it. Are you asking to know or because you don't believe she has Asperger's? I assume the latter. If so why don't you check out the "raw" interview with her on youtube. You watch that and the other videos on you tube and you tell me she dosn't have it.

]]> By: Apartments for sale Milton Keynes http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/11/24/aspergers-syndrome-at-the-office-6-ways-to-be-less-annoying/comment-page-1/#comment-218022 Apartments for sale Milton Keynes Thu, 14 Jan 2010 19:22:29 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4365#comment-218022 Well i think that when you ask specific questions about social situations, your boss will appreciate that you know you don’t know. And your boss will think you’re coachable. That helps when your boss sees you being a social moron. Well i think that when you ask specific questions about social situations, your boss will appreciate that you know you don’t know. And your boss will think you’re coachable. That helps when your boss sees you being a social moron.

]]> By: Jen http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/11/24/aspergers-syndrome-at-the-office-6-ways-to-be-less-annoying/comment-page-1/#comment-217156 Jen Sat, 02 Jan 2010 04:45:45 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4365#comment-217156 Thanks for verbalizing this, Kath, I totally agree with you, in the fact that I too would love to have more friends, and also I agree w/ you that ppl with AS should stop using the generalizing "we." Giving up ownership of a word, a label, practically a cussword, AS, for me it is hard to do. (I won't generalize) But I find I want to say, this is mine. This is who I am. I get to explain AS. But even that I don't get to do. This problem manifests itself in such different ways for ppl who have it. I think being humble is one of the hardest things. Other than that, I enjoyed the article though. Thanks for verbalizing this, Kath, I totally agree with you, in the fact that I too would love to have more friends, and also I agree w/ you that ppl with AS should stop using the generalizing "we." Giving up ownership of a word, a label, practically a cussword, AS, for me it is hard to do. (I won't generalize) But I find I want to say, this is mine. This is who I am. I get to explain AS. But even that I don't get to do. This problem manifests itself in such different ways for ppl who have it. I think being humble is one of the hardest things.
Other than that, I enjoyed the article though.

]]> By: sam http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/11/24/aspergers-syndrome-at-the-office-6-ways-to-be-less-annoying/comment-page-1/#comment-217028 sam Tue, 29 Dec 2009 20:52:46 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4365#comment-217028 I have never been diagnosed with asperger's, but certainly can relate to a lot of the ideas in your post. Social situations are stressful for me and I become easily frustrated in my interactions with others (even though I am good at hiding my frustration). I do agree very much with your statement about being a superstar at work. When you are the "weird one" at work, you have to make yourself indispensable. It won't be the social relationships you have because for the most part, you don't have them. When you are the star your work speaks for itself and is a reason for you to remain employed. I just discovered your blog. I enjoy reading your posts and find them insightful. I have never been diagnosed with asperger's, but certainly can relate to a lot of the ideas in your post. Social situations are stressful for me and I become easily frustrated in my interactions with others (even though I am good at hiding my frustration).

I do agree very much with your statement about being a superstar at work. When you are the "weird one" at work, you have to make yourself indispensable. It won't be the social relationships you have because for the most part, you don't have them. When you are the star your work speaks for itself and is a reason for you to remain employed.

I just discovered your blog. I enjoy reading your posts and find them insightful.

]]> By: kath http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/11/24/aspergers-syndrome-at-the-office-6-ways-to-be-less-annoying/comment-page-1/#comment-216392 kath Tue, 15 Dec 2009 18:31:17 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4365#comment-216392 You've never heard someone with Asperger's lament having no friends? OK, I'll bite. I most definitely lament this, and it is most definitely something I feel a loss about. So stop with the generalizing "we". (Before anyone asks, yes, I HAVE been diagnosed, now back off.) You've never heard someone with Asperger's lament having no friends? OK, I'll bite. I most definitely lament this, and it is most definitely something I feel a loss about. So stop with the generalizing "we".

(Before anyone asks, yes, I HAVE been diagnosed, now back off.)

]]> By: ASG http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/11/24/aspergers-syndrome-at-the-office-6-ways-to-be-less-annoying/comment-page-1/#comment-216202 ASG Fri, 11 Dec 2009 21:04:38 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4365#comment-216202 For what it's worth, I loathe it when people ask what my plans are for the weekend. Loathe it. Hatey hatey hate. Because most weekends I <i>have</i> no plans, and thus no answer, and the conversation stalls, and I feel like I've been put on the spot. This is the case even though I'm perfectly happy enjoying a weekend alone at home. More generally, I hate small-talk questions that make me feel like I have to come up with some kind of 'correct' or 'suitably interesting' answer. The whole point of small talk is to <i>avoid</i> challenging people or making them uncomfortable. That's why topics like the weather are considered safe, and why, IMO, "what are you doing?" questions shouldn't be. For what it's worth, I loathe it when people ask what my plans are for the weekend. Loathe it. Hatey hatey hate. Because most weekends I have no plans, and thus no answer, and the conversation stalls, and I feel like I've been put on the spot. This is the case even though I'm perfectly happy enjoying a weekend alone at home.

More generally, I hate small-talk questions that make me feel like I have to come up with some kind of 'correct' or 'suitably interesting' answer. The whole point of small talk is to avoid challenging people or making them uncomfortable. That's why topics like the weather are considered safe, and why, IMO, "what are you doing?" questions shouldn't be.

]]> By: Health Consulting http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/11/24/aspergers-syndrome-at-the-office-6-ways-to-be-less-annoying/comment-page-1/#comment-215827 Health Consulting Tue, 08 Dec 2009 17:51:40 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=4365#comment-215827 I am completely unable to accomplish office politics and definite limit my time with other people for the reasons listed above. I am completely unable to accomplish office politics and definite limit my time with other people for the reasons listed above.

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