We overestimate the gap between nonprofit and for-profit jobs
October 30th, 2009
My ex-husband worked in the nonprofit sector for a while. And you know what? He rarely got health insurance. At one point, we were completely stressed out about not being insured, and he asked his boss what everyone else was doing, and she said, “Can't you get insurance from your spouse? That's what we do.”
That's …
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Asperger’s at work: Why I’m difficult in meetings
October 29th, 2009
Eighty percent of adults with Asperger Syndrome do not have full-time work. This not because they can't do the work. It's that they can't manage to be socially acceptable while they get the work done. “?
Countless studies show people would rather have pleasant and personable co-workers than a co-worker who is always right. I try …
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Why men should give women flowers
October 28th, 2009
Here's the deal with giving flowers. Women like receiving flowers. Men think flowers are stupid.
Men think: Flowers die, they don't do anything when they are alive, they are expensive, and they are a clich. Men know that women in general like flowers, but men also believe that women they know personally do not like flowers. …
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How to deal with doubt: Take a leap
October 22nd, 2009
The farmer broke up with me five times the first five months we were together, last year. So I learned that he had huge commitment issues.
I tried to do the advisable thing to do when you're with someone who has commitment issues. I tried to fall in love with someone else. But I didn't. I …
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4 Lies about social media
October 21st, 2009
Everyone knows that the best way to get a job is to leverage your network. And almost everyone knows that social media is a great way to build your network.
But many of you are making lots of social media mistakes. I know because so many people tell me that social media is a waste of …
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The Internet has created a generation of great writers
October 19th, 2009
The best writers in the history of the world are graduating from college, right now. So everyone can just shut up about how no one can write anymore.
Newsflash: No one could write in the Middle Ages, when the good writers wrote in Latin and everyone else spoke colloquial languages like French and English, which priests …
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4 Types of questions get us in trouble
October 12th, 2009
How far you get, in almost anything, is limited mainly by your ability to ask good questions.
The problem is that we are not taught to ask good questions. We're trained to answer questions. But only answering questions doesn't make an interesting life. After all, if you have all the answers, and you're spewing them all …
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Obama. Wow. And one thing about work.
October 9th, 2009
I was in the process of setting up Dora the Explorer for my four-year-old so that I could make breakfast. But when Yahoo popped up on the screen, I paused. Then I said, “Look. There’s President Obama. He won a big award.”
My son said, “For what?” Then he pointed to an advertisement for Target — …
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Blogs without topics are a waste of time
October 6th, 2009
Stop thinking that you are such an incredibly wide-ranging thinker with so many interests and insights that you cannot be pinned down to just one topic. The top bloggers are all wide-ranging thinkers. That's why they are interesting. The more information and angles you can draw from, the more interesting your insights are.
I challenge you …
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My miscarriage — on CNN, ABC and AOL
October 1st, 2009
Embedded video from CNN Video
I don’t usually post clips of myself when I go on TV. But I’m posting this one, where I talk about trying to get an abortion in Wisconsin and end up with a miscarriage at work instead. It was a difficult interview, which is why I like it. And, remarkably, I …
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