Comments on: Lessons in self-confidence (from Amanda Blank) http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/09/04/lessons-in-self-confidence-from-amanda-blank/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Thu, 09 Feb 2012 13:32:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Arlene Marie Daniels http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/09/04/lessons-in-self-confidence-from-amanda-blank/comment-page-1/#comment-254430 Arlene Marie Daniels Thu, 07 Jul 2011 16:54:53 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=3375#comment-254430 I really love your writing style...and how you think. You were able to connect the rapper with the relevant life learning about confidence. Brilliantly done! :) Confidence really is important in order to succeed. But what happens if depression, anxiety and fears get the best of you? Here's a great book that you guys might be interested to read. http://www.depressionatwork.com I really love your writing style…and how you think. You were able to connect the rapper with the relevant life learning about confidence. Brilliantly done! :)

Confidence really is important in order to succeed. But what happens if depression, anxiety and fears get the best of you? Here's a great book that you guys might be interested to read. http://www.depressionatwork.com

]]> By: How to know if you’ll be good at sales « Plaedes's Blog http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/09/04/lessons-in-self-confidence-from-amanda-blank/comment-page-1/#comment-228154 How to know if you’ll be good at sales « Plaedes's Blog Mon, 24 May 2010 07:17:46 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=3375#comment-228154 [...] me that in general, when I’m in hand-to-hand combat—on the volleyball court, in divorce court, in Ryan Healy’s office—I tend to give in so that the whole process ends sooner and I can get back to whatever is going [...] [...] me that in general, when I’m in hand-to-hand combat—on the volleyball court, in divorce court, in Ryan Healy’s office—I tend to give in so that the whole process ends sooner and I can get back to whatever is going [...]

]]> By: Jonha http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/09/04/lessons-in-self-confidence-from-amanda-blank/comment-page-1/#comment-225862 Jonha Sun, 11 Apr 2010 22:27:23 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=3375#comment-225862 "If you frame things in a positive light, you'll be happier later in life. The optimists win." There's nothing more important in this life but our perspective in things. "If you frame things in a positive light, you'll be happier later in life. The optimists win." There's nothing more important in this life but our perspective in things.

]]> By: Resveratrol http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/09/04/lessons-in-self-confidence-from-amanda-blank/comment-page-1/#comment-212017 Resveratrol Mon, 19 Oct 2009 11:13:14 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=3375#comment-212017 Just because shes taking the classes doesn't mean she wants to join a strip club Leave her alone ! im sure shes just talking about keeping it in the bedroom and giving her fella a thrill......good for you love, i hope you have lots of fun....im going to burlesque classes with my mate next week should be a giggle : ) People who slate you for doing something different are just jealous anyway x......miserable sods ! Just because shes taking the classes doesn't mean she wants to join a strip club Leave her alone ! im sure shes just talking about keeping it in the bedroom and giving her fella a thrill……good for you love, i hope you have lots of fun….im going to burlesque classes with my mate next week should be a giggle : )
People who slate you for doing something different are just jealous anyway x……miserable sods !

]]> By: econobiker http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/09/04/lessons-in-self-confidence-from-amanda-blank/comment-page-1/#comment-207040 econobiker Mon, 05 Oct 2009 21:35:03 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=3375#comment-207040 "Don't you realize that P has deviated from 'career stuff' to random thoughts about life and how she lives." And this noted before the miscarriage blog posting plus added publicity on that... "Don't you realize that P has deviated from 'career stuff' to random thoughts about life and how she lives."

And this noted before the miscarriage blog posting plus added publicity on that…

]]> By: Kate http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/09/04/lessons-in-self-confidence-from-amanda-blank/comment-page-1/#comment-204566 Kate Tue, 29 Sep 2009 05:53:03 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=3375#comment-204566 I keep getting into trouble in relationships because I am used to being the bitch/poor decision maker/emotionally unavailable one/whatever. Then I go along with whatever the other person is assuming about me and the relationship because I am the one who always makes mistakes, I MUST be wrong, and they must have it all figured out. I realised the other day that I am allowed to be right. It was a depressingly simple concept for such an enlightening feeling. I keep getting into trouble in relationships because I am used to being the bitch/poor decision maker/emotionally unavailable one/whatever. Then I go along with whatever the other person is assuming about me and the relationship because I am the one who always makes mistakes, I MUST be wrong, and they must have it all figured out.

I realised the other day that I am allowed to be right. It was a depressingly simple concept for such an enlightening feeling.

]]> By: Will at Virtualjobcoach http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/09/04/lessons-in-self-confidence-from-amanda-blank/comment-page-1/#comment-200792 Will at Virtualjobcoach Fri, 18 Sep 2009 01:39:10 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=3375#comment-200792 Of course the obvious answer is that fresh = fresh (a common word in the rap world that can be equated with the word 'cool' in common English) and 'painful' is pure bravado that is used to project power to others who may 'disrespect' her. So the line basically translates to "don't screw with me, I am the best" which would be inline with the norms of the 'rap community'. Which would be the simple interpretation but I am not the intelligentsia so could be totally wrong :^) Of course the obvious answer is that fresh = fresh (a common word in the rap world that can be equated with the word 'cool' in common English) and 'painful' is pure bravado that is used to project power to others who may 'disrespect' her. So the line basically translates to "don't screw with me, I am the best" which would be inline with the norms of the 'rap community'. Which would be the simple interpretation but I am not the intelligentsia so could be totally wrong :^)

]]> By: Will at Virtualjobcoach http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/09/04/lessons-in-self-confidence-from-amanda-blank/comment-page-1/#comment-200787 Will at Virtualjobcoach Fri, 18 Sep 2009 01:07:05 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=3375#comment-200787 Don't you realize that P has deviated from 'career stuff' to random thoughts about life and how she lives. Her stories tend to be interesting (in her 'oversharing way') and well written but maddening to those who expect anything that resembles practical career advice. She definitely has her audience, but my fear is that this demographic may be too narrow to drive a return that her investors are looking for. Of course, I could be totally wrong and she actually IS the voice of Gen Y, I cannot say for certain as I am not a member of that group. Her stories are funny though! Don't you realize that P has deviated from 'career stuff' to random thoughts about life and how she lives. Her stories tend to be interesting (in her 'oversharing way') and well written but maddening to those who expect anything that resembles practical career advice. She definitely has her audience, but my fear is that this demographic may be too narrow to drive a return that her investors are looking for.

Of course, I could be totally wrong and she actually IS the voice of Gen Y, I cannot say for certain as I am not a member of that group.

Her stories are funny though!

]]> By: Rae Opengart http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/09/04/lessons-in-self-confidence-from-amanda-blank/comment-page-1/#comment-200345 Rae Opengart Wed, 16 Sep 2009 06:25:05 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=3375#comment-200345 I don't understand "doing life wrong". The only way one can live "wrong" is to be dead. I have never thought of myself as being very confident but after reading your post and the comments that have been made, I may have to re-think it. Do we all define and identify confidence the same way? Probably not, not exactly. For what it's worth, these are the precepts to which I try to adhere: Never compare yourself to others; it is apples and oranges. Compare yourself to yourself but only if you find comparisons necessary. Stop taking everything personally. 999 times out of 1000 whatever "wrong" you think you've suffered has nothing to do with you. The rude clerk, the car that cut you off - you have no idea what may be happening in another person's life but you can be fairly certain it has nothing to do with you. Mistakes are only bad if you don't learn anything from them. You can't learn from mistakes if you can't admit to making them. No one is happy all the time; why would anyone want or expect to be? As a society, we are too quick to demand happiness. Perhaps if people recognized that depression is a sign that life changes need to be made instead of just masking it with anti-depressants, we wouldn't have gotten into a frenzy of debt-financed consumerism that fueled the housing bubble that led to the current economic problems that are a good reason to be really depressed! I don't understand "doing life wrong". The only way one can live "wrong" is to be dead.

I have never thought of myself as being very confident but after reading your post and the comments that have been made, I may have to re-think it. Do we all define and identify confidence the same way? Probably not, not exactly.

For what it's worth, these are the precepts to which I try to adhere:

Never compare yourself to others; it is apples and oranges. Compare yourself to yourself but only if you find comparisons necessary.

Stop taking everything personally. 999 times out of 1000 whatever "wrong" you think you've suffered has nothing to do with you. The rude clerk, the car that cut you off – you have no idea what may be happening in another person's life but you can be fairly certain it has nothing to do with you.

Mistakes are only bad if you don't learn anything from them. You can't learn from mistakes if you can't admit to making them.

No one is happy all the time; why would anyone want or expect to be? As a society, we are too quick to demand happiness. Perhaps if people recognized that depression is a sign that life changes need to be made instead of just masking it with anti-depressants, we wouldn't have gotten into a frenzy of debt-financed consumerism that fueled the housing bubble that led to the current economic problems that are a good reason to be really depressed!

]]> By: Jenny http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/09/04/lessons-in-self-confidence-from-amanda-blank/comment-page-1/#comment-200064 Jenny Mon, 14 Sep 2009 15:42:12 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=3375#comment-200064 I think you just have to find some stand-in siblings...like long-term friends. I think you just have to find some stand-in siblings…like long-term friends.

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