Comments on: Lessons in self-confidence (from Amanda Blank)

By: Resveratrol

Resveratrol — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 11:13:14 +0000

Just because shes taking the classes doesn't mean she wants to join a strip club Leave her alone ! im sure shes just talking about keeping it in the bedroom and giving her fella a thrill……good for you love, i hope you have lots of fun….im going to burlesque classes with my mate next week should be a giggle : )
People who slate you for doing something different are just jealous anyway x……miserable sods !

By: econobiker

econobiker — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 21:35:03 +0000

"Don't you realize that P has deviated from 'career stuff' to random thoughts about life and how she lives."

And this noted before the miscarriage blog posting plus added publicity on that…

By: Kate

Kate — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 05:53:03 +0000

I keep getting into trouble in relationships because I am used to being the bitch/poor decision maker/emotionally unavailable one/whatever. Then I go along with whatever the other person is assuming about me and the relationship because I am the one who always makes mistakes, I MUST be wrong, and they must have it all figured out.

I realised the other day that I am allowed to be right. It was a depressingly simple concept for such an enlightening feeling.

By: Will at Virtualjobcoach

Will at Virtualjobcoach — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 01:39:10 +0000

Of course the obvious answer is that fresh = fresh (a common word in the rap world that can be equated with the word 'cool' in common English) and 'painful' is pure bravado that is used to project power to others who may 'disrespect' her. So the line basically translates to "don't screw with me, I am the best" which would be inline with the norms of the 'rap community'. Which would be the simple interpretation but I am not the intelligentsia so could be totally wrong :^)

By: Will at Virtualjobcoach

Will at Virtualjobcoach — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 01:07:05 +0000

Don't you realize that P has deviated from 'career stuff' to random thoughts about life and how she lives. Her stories tend to be interesting (in her 'oversharing way') and well written but maddening to those who expect anything that resembles practical career advice. She definitely has her audience, but my fear is that this demographic may be too narrow to drive a return that her investors are looking for.

Of course, I could be totally wrong and she actually IS the voice of Gen Y, I cannot say for certain as I am not a member of that group.

Her stories are funny though!

By: Rae Opengart

Rae Opengart — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 06:25:05 +0000

I don't understand "doing life wrong". The only way one can live "wrong" is to be dead.

I have never thought of myself as being very confident but after reading your post and the comments that have been made, I may have to re-think it. Do we all define and identify confidence the same way? Probably not, not exactly.

For what it's worth, these are the precepts to which I try to adhere:

Never compare yourself to others; it is apples and oranges. Compare yourself to yourself but only if you find comparisons necessary.

Stop taking everything personally. 999 times out of 1000 whatever "wrong" you think you've suffered has nothing to do with you. The rude clerk, the car that cut you off – you have no idea what may be happening in another person's life but you can be fairly certain it has nothing to do with you.

Mistakes are only bad if you don't learn anything from them. You can't learn from mistakes if you can't admit to making them.

No one is happy all the time; why would anyone want or expect to be? As a society, we are too quick to demand happiness. Perhaps if people recognized that depression is a sign that life changes need to be made instead of just masking it with anti-depressants, we wouldn't have gotten into a frenzy of debt-financed consumerism that fueled the housing bubble that led to the current economic problems that are a good reason to be really depressed!

By: Jenny

Jenny — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 15:42:12 +0000

I think you just have to find some stand-in siblings…like long-term friends.

By: Jennifer Ellis

Jennifer Ellis — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 04:44:44 +0000

Are you suggesting that the assumption you are a lesbian is somehow a penalty? That seems a little offensive.

By: Steve Errey - The Confidence Guy

Steve Errey - The Confidence Guy — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 09:07:29 +0000

I'm not aware of Amanda Blank or her pussy, but I'm certainly aware of the role confidence plays in everyday life.

I define confidence – real confidence – as being able to choose your behaviour with implicit trust in that behaviour.

That fits in exactly with what you say about thinking your decisions are good ones. It's being able to trust yourself to make decisions and take steps in your life, no matter what happens as a result of that behaviour.

That's the thing, even if your decision proves to be not so good or if it ends up being downright bad, you can trust yourself to make another decision and take another step.

Trust yourself implicitly to get involved your life, and everything tastes sweet :P

By: neve

neve — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 02:11:56 +0000

Happiness is simple. Either you seek it, or you spend it.
Confidence however, is more complicated- you have to hide most of it, spend some of it, and save for all of it.