This is what I wish every woman on the planet could understand. Drive is what motivates people to walk on the moon, become President of the United States, be a mom of six kids, or be a mom and the PTA president. One of my best friends has three boys and she's working on her master's in Library Sciences while her husband finishes up his PhD in Chinese Modern History. They have always wanted kids and they knew that kids would be stressful on their studies and their finances, but they LOVE their children. Their passion for their family and their education drives them to succeed! They work hard at being a family, they work hard at their studies.

So many times we're talked into thinking that everything is either/or. My mom was the same way. Don't be a housewife. Get a job. Don't depend on a man. Don't have kids too young. Don't don't don't. I appreciate my mother's feminism and encouragement, but at the same time I wonder what I might have missed out by not having kids when I was in my 20s. I'm 34 now and my husband and I have decided that after 12 years of marriage that we don't want children. But don't get me wrong – that voice of my mother's was in my head a lot telling me, No, no kids now you don't have enough money. No, no kids now you don't have a good enough job. No kids now you'll be stuck home cleaning the house and cooking dinner. Well, I don't cook at all and I don't clean the house either.

While I wish you hadn't gotten abortions, I know what it's like to listen to too many people talking at the same time and not necessarily being able to listen to yourself because you're afraid or you don't know what to do, I do feel like you are blessed with your two children. Apparently the universe is forgiving and understanding and loving and still thought you able to be a good mom.

Oh, you have little support, and your children might not be happy? Have you considered aborting them?

I have experienced all these things, I had an abortion at 30 – mostly because the father was horrible and I was in a bad place in my life – I am everyday glad that I made that choice. It was't a simple choice, but it was the right choice.

Now I have a professional career – two children and tons of responsibility. I am always tired, always working (whether at home or at work), and feel as if there is little support out there for raising healthy, happy children.

I've had 1 abortion that I only talk about to those close to me. Here is part of my experience:

I don't regret it, but I never thought that it would haunt me to this day. Similar to your experience, I have not forgotten the man I had the abortion with. The difference is, he's the reason I'm so thankful I had the abortion. Although he never realized it, he was/is borderline abusive and to think of sharing anything with him now makes me cringe. We don't keep in contact, which suits me fine, and there is no doubt in my mind that keeping the baby would have changed my life for the worse in my particular situation. I have since met a wonderful man that I want to share a life with, who I'm not sure I would have met if I had decided to have the baby. Who really knows?

The only thing that has surprised me is how much I have thought about the baby I killed. I don't know if I've mourned this baby enough. My fiance has helped me grieve, but as you mentioned, it won't leave me.

Thank you for being so frank about your experiences in your blog. It really helps :)

Let me be as "explicit" as possible.

As far as my "preaching," "ranting" "diatribe," I suggest you look at some of the other long comments – that's kind of what this has become – a debate.

As for my "slur" of your character, I merely respond to your telling me to "STFU" and you consider it a "slur"? Sorry but, once again this is comical.

And it wasn't preaching as I used no religious arguments. It was a well-thought-out statement of my stance based on Facts (there's those caps again…sorry)

All I asked for was the same in return (which I guess is too much to ask) instead of emotional non-fact based whining.

And no, if you don't have any logical reasons for supporting infanticide, I still don't give a damn about any political, religious, or other views you have that aren't based on reason.

If that offends you, go to a feminist rally where everyone agrees with you without question as long as you hate men and helpless human life. (There's those "slurs" again.)