Comments on: I hate David Dellifield. The one from Ada, Ohio. http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/04/13/i-hate-david-dellifield-the-one-from-ada-ohio/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Sat, 21 Nov 2009 07:14:08 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: dmozz http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/04/13/i-hate-david-dellifield-the-one-from-ada-ohio/comment-page-7/#comment-213516 dmozz Thu, 05 Nov 2009 18:29:23 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=2370#comment-213516 hah, love it. LOVE IT. As a former stay at home dad (many read that as loser, and thats fine. it was my unloser'ish activity for the last 10 years that financially allowed me to take the time off. its just as everyone read penolope's desire to be outside the home as bad parenting) I applaud your post. i didn't even agree with the majority of it, but i still love it. continue to write your mind, codos. I also applaud your attempt to find david. the internet is full of spineless david's who use its anonymity to attack and act belligerent. there's no doubt david wouldn't have said that to your face. his comment is on equal footing with the office gossip who talks behind everyone's back. for some reason, when ppl go online the majority turn into that gossip. i think its wonderful you made the attempt to demonstrate there is an actual human being on the other end of his criticism. hah, love it. LOVE IT. As a former stay at home dad (many read that as loser, and thats fine. it was my unloser'ish activity for the last 10 years that financially allowed me to take the time off. its just as everyone read penolope's desire to be outside the home as bad parenting) I applaud your post. i didn't even agree with the majority of it, but i still love it. continue to write your mind, codos.

I also applaud your attempt to find david. the internet is full of spineless david's who use its anonymity to attack and act belligerent. there's no doubt david wouldn't have said that to your face. his comment is on equal footing with the office gossip who talks behind everyone's back. for some reason, when ppl go online the majority turn into that gossip. i think its wonderful you made the attempt to demonstrate there is an actual human being on the other end of his criticism.

]]> By: Career Advice: Penelope Trunk is a Charlatan | Danilo Campos.blog http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/04/13/i-hate-david-dellifield-the-one-from-ada-ohio/comment-page-7/#comment-213155 Career Advice: Penelope Trunk is a Charlatan | Danilo Campos.blog Sat, 31 Oct 2009 19:48:57 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=2370#comment-213155 [...] seem like a lot of fun at times and blowing off steam via Twitter is cheap, easy relief. Things got complicated when our thin-skinned heroine was sassed by some jackass in flyover country. What did Trunk do? For [...] [...] seem like a lot of fun at times and blowing off steam via Twitter is cheap, easy relief. Things got complicated when our thin-skinned heroine was sassed by some jackass in flyover country. What did Trunk do? For [...]

]]> By: Rebecca http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/04/13/i-hate-david-dellifield-the-one-from-ada-ohio/comment-page-7/#comment-213037 Rebecca Fri, 30 Oct 2009 06:34:59 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=2370#comment-213037 Geezus Friggin Christ. I've been a career woman, an entrepreneur, a stay at home Mom, and more, but...I can identify with every point except for #2... which is exactly the point: I enjoy watching "stupid" soccer practices because my kid ENJOYS them and it makes her HAPPY and PROUD... and seriously, if there is something better than that then... well, shit. I've told my sister she shouldn't have kids because she won't be able to comprehend that when you CHOSE to give birth you are dedicating yourself to being your CHILD'S cheering section, you do not give birth to your OWN cheering section. How is this so incomprehensible??? I was the oldest of 4. Got pregnant at 18. Had my next kid 10 1/2 years later. Friggin love every minute of it. I can't wait to be free of the obligations for the first time (in my adult life), but I cherish it now because I CAN realize and appreciate that this is a GIFT... a unique time in my life that I won't have an opportunity to "do again" (technically - had that opportunity!) an experience with "people" (uh, my KIDS!) that cannot be redone... and, oh yeah, the fact that they are cool as hell, will probably be the people later in life who are my best friends, and I'd rather have them change my diapers and hug me when I'm 95 than some crappy convalescent home worker. Oh. Sorry to shock anyone who can't see that far... I think if we can all just get over OURSELVES we might be able to appreciate this life we are gifted with and find happiness. Geezus Friggin Christ.

I've been a career woman, an entrepreneur, a stay at home Mom, and more, but…I can identify with every point except for #2… which is exactly the point: I enjoy watching "stupid" soccer practices because my kid ENJOYS them and it makes her HAPPY and PROUD… and seriously, if there is something better than that then… well, shit. I've told my sister she shouldn't have kids because she won't be able to comprehend that when you CHOSE to give birth you are dedicating yourself to being your CHILD'S cheering section, you do not give birth to your OWN cheering section.

How is this so incomprehensible???

I was the oldest of 4. Got pregnant at 18. Had my next kid 10 1/2 years later. Friggin love every minute of it. I can't wait to be free of the obligations for the first time (in my adult life), but I cherish it now because I CAN realize and appreciate that this is a GIFT… a unique time in my life that I won't have an opportunity to "do again" (technically – had that opportunity!) an experience with "people" (uh, my KIDS!) that cannot be redone… and, oh yeah, the fact that they are cool as hell, will probably be the people later in life who are my best friends, and I'd rather have them change my diapers and hug me when I'm 95 than some crappy convalescent home worker.

Oh. Sorry to shock anyone who can't see that far…

I think if we can all just get over OURSELVES we might be able to appreciate this life we are gifted with and find happiness.

]]> By: Kelli http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/04/13/i-hate-david-dellifield-the-one-from-ada-ohio/comment-page-7/#comment-212997 Kelli Thu, 29 Oct 2009 20:51:10 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=2370#comment-212997 "*shrugs*" just discredited your entire comment. how about you save supercute little idiocies like that for when you're writing love notes to your children in sparkly pens instead of contributing to a serious conversation with an insult. winky face. "*shrugs*" just discredited your entire comment. how about you save supercute little idiocies like that for when you're writing love notes to your children in sparkly pens instead of contributing to a serious conversation with an insult. winky face.

]]> By: Lisa http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/04/13/i-hate-david-dellifield-the-one-from-ada-ohio/comment-page-7/#comment-212769 Lisa Tue, 27 Oct 2009 22:42:49 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=2370#comment-212769 Very nice ladylike behavior. Lisa Very nice ladylike behavior.

Lisa

]]> By: roissy http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/04/13/i-hate-david-dellifield-the-one-from-ada-ohio/comment-page-7/#comment-198592 roissy Wed, 09 Sep 2009 19:20:46 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=2370#comment-198592 sounds like david dellifield hit a nerve. sounds like david dellifield hit a nerve.

]]> By: deepali http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/04/13/i-hate-david-dellifield-the-one-from-ada-ohio/comment-page-7/#comment-192472 deepali Sat, 22 Aug 2009 09:18:12 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=2370#comment-192472 I go back and forth on whether I like this blog or not. The career advice is good. I especially liked the article on discipline. But in person, I think I would dislike you very much. This is some seriously bad mojo and I am glad I don't know you personally, so I can justify why I continue to read this blog. But... let me take a few weeks off to clear the bad vibes and distaste after reading this one. I don't even know what the point was, I was too appalled by the malicious intent. I go back and forth on whether I like this blog or not. The career advice is good. I especially liked the article on discipline. But in person, I think I would dislike you very much.
This is some seriously bad mojo and I am glad I don't know you personally, so I can justify why I continue to read this blog.

But… let me take a few weeks off to clear the bad vibes and distaste after reading this one. I don't even know what the point was, I was too appalled by the malicious intent.

]]> By: G-Ma http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/04/13/i-hate-david-dellifield-the-one-from-ada-ohio/comment-page-7/#comment-189190 G-Ma Sun, 19 Jul 2009 16:36:31 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=2370#comment-189190 I just recently stumbled across this blog. I adore it. I don't always agree with everything Penelope says, but I dig her writing style. I much more than just admire her backbone. God Bless America for allowing the freedom to express yourself freely. I'll keep reading. Kids are not always fun. Anyone who says differently is asleep or lying. I'm raising my second set of kids, as one of the hundreds of thousands of grandparents who are having to do this, I stand behind Penelope's view on this matter. I just recently stumbled across this blog. I adore it. I don't always agree with everything Penelope says, but I dig her writing style. I much more than just admire her backbone. God Bless America for allowing the freedom to express yourself freely. I'll keep reading. Kids are not always fun. Anyone who says differently is asleep or lying. I'm raising my second set of kids, as one of the hundreds of thousands of grandparents who are having to do this, I stand behind Penelope's view on this matter.

]]> By: Deanna http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/04/13/i-hate-david-dellifield-the-one-from-ada-ohio/comment-page-7/#comment-188477 Deanna Thu, 02 Jul 2009 18:41:37 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=2370#comment-188477 Agreed. It's like you know that you have a large forum of readers who will rise to your defense. As if tracking him down to call him at work and home wasn't enough..... Grow up! Agreed. It's like you know that you have a large forum of readers who will rise to your defense. As if tracking him down to call him at work and home wasn't enough…..

Grow up!

]]> By: JewelD http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/04/13/i-hate-david-dellifield-the-one-from-ada-ohio/comment-page-7/#comment-188455 JewelD Wed, 01 Jul 2009 21:39:54 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=2370#comment-188455 As a single woman with no kids, I can only speak to the kid issue from my friends' and my Mom's perspective. My friend and full-time mom MaryLynn loved her kids, but even she used to tell me how she was losing her mind with two toddlers, very stressed, alone all day. Her husband was great, but of course he was gone all day, and sometimes gone completely on business trips. As kids, my brothers and I were all pretty well-behaved, and my Mom often said she loved being a mom, for the most part. And now that I caretake her, I can honestly say that it was a good thing she told those nuns at the hospital that (after having 2 sons) she was coming back the next year to have her daughter - I am the only one caretaking her, my brother do practically nothing to help (from what I hear, this is pretty typical.) I can tell you that caretaking a parent is probably one of the most glamour-free jobs around. So, yes - I can your point in calling out this David character on his hypocrisy. But I take issue on all those studies that make having kids seem so bad. Sure, there are some sacrifices. (No one seems to even consider making sacrifices anymore - but that's another rant.) But having kin around who may bond with you is part of what life's about. I for one wish that at least one of us 3 kids had presented my Mom with a grandkid - none of us ever did. As a single woman with no kids, I can only speak to the kid issue from my friends' and my Mom's perspective. My friend and full-time mom MaryLynn loved her kids, but even she used to tell me how she was losing her mind with two toddlers, very stressed, alone all day. Her husband was great, but of course he was gone all day, and sometimes gone completely on business trips.

As kids, my brothers and I were all pretty well-behaved, and my Mom often said she loved being a mom, for the most part. And now that I caretake her, I can honestly say that it was a good thing she told those nuns at the hospital that (after having 2 sons) she was coming back the next year to have her daughter – I am the only one caretaking her, my brother do practically nothing to help (from what I hear, this is pretty typical.) I can tell you that caretaking a parent is probably one of the most glamour-free jobs around.

So, yes – I can your point in calling out this David character on his hypocrisy. But I take issue on all those studies that make having kids seem so bad. Sure, there are some sacrifices. (No one seems to even consider making sacrifices anymore – but that's another rant.) But having kin around who may bond with you is part of what life's about.

I for one wish that at least one of us 3 kids had presented my Mom with a grandkid – none of us ever did.

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