Comments on: When women get power at work, do they use it like men do?

By: Mimi

Mimi — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 08:38:07 +0000

Sorry about the double-post – it didn't look like it went through the first time, so I changed the info and tried again.

By: Mimi

Mimi — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 08:36:50 +0000

I don't think the guy was manipulating her for work-help. I just think he thought she was attractive and wanted to hook up with her. Nothin wrong with that. Btw, I find that younger men are much easier to get with than men my own age. Hotter too. They think about sex more and calculations less. I don't generally take advantage of this dynamic, but I sure could if I wanted too. I discovered this when I got divorced. I was in my late thirties and the guys chasing me were in their early twenties. The same thing still held throughout my forties – and the guys were still in their twenties. I had a dating profile up and a very hot eighteen year old wrote me – I'm now in my early fifties. Yeah, I look good. Decent, at least. I don't go after those young guys, though, because I don't think there is any long-term potential there. They had zero interest in my 'helping' them with anything – I was not in any position to do so – just trying to survive post-divorce. So again – I just think that the young guy was interested in her, period.

By: Miriam

Miriam — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 08:35:15 +0000

By: Bill

Bill — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 23:44:29 +0000

Penelope, First, I'm at work, doing research on Mentoring. We are thinking about starting a formal program. Second, OMG! Should I be reading the above at work! Thank you for a view on "mentoring" that I hadn't expected. Also thank you for explaining how some of my lovers have been so irresistable! Bill

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By: Jonha

Jonha — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 00:20:34 +0000

Hi Penelope,

I am very much impressed with the 25-year-old's gutts and subtlety. I like it how at how you dealt with it. I know the things you may be doing sometimes may not be right, but for some weird reason, I love how you reason them out. You don't necessarily reason it out, you were merely telling us. It amazes me how you talk about your personal life like it's part of your life because after all, inspiring others in an odd way is your way of life.

Jonha

By: SuzyQ_826

SuzyQ_826 — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 23:25:35 +0000

Andrea and Heaven's Sake,

I really think that you're rushing to judgement in your responses of "you used your prior intimate relationships to boost your career" and "you slept your way up in your career". I'm not sure that you thoroughly considered Penelope's motives or intentions.

Penelope writes about men she dated as who happened to be in a position to help her achieve her career advancement goals and possibly introduce her to new opportunities. Nowhere in her post does it say or imply that she purposely sought out men who could further her career and deliberately initiated a sexual relationship with them. Now, that would be considered "sleeping your way to the top".

You admonish Penelope as if she wantonly traded sexual encounters with directors and CEOs for career advancement. Just because men she dated could or did help her career doesn't mean that was her only motive, so why do you assume that?

It's not a crime to help someone you care about, whether it's a friend, sibling, or significant other. And who would not want to help someone they were dating, especially if they were in a good position to do so?

By: Misha

Misha — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 15:50:03 +0000

Great post on a tricky issue. Seems like it's up to the individuals to decide what's right for themselves and their own consciences in a given situation. The moralistic idea that sex always has to be sacred is silly, and the ethical use of power is extremely complex.

The time stamp left me wondering, though, where was the farmer when all this was going on? Making cupcake power-plays with random 25-year-olds while in the midst of a committed relationship makes it less acceptable, in my view. Still up to the individual, I suppose, but somehow ickier.

By: Accept loss

Accept loss — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 19:37:49 +0000

The plan may be to force me to stay in this house. "This way they can show up and poison you." Like they were poisoned by mom?
Like they have poisoned their children, who will in turn poison their own children.
And the neighbor's kids too, no doubt. Good thing it's not an issue down south:::Her favor as a motherblood provides her protection from herself.
This cycle will continue until one of them decides to say "No." to temptation.
This is the individual among them who will be saved from Damnation, the one who will break the cycle. Otherwise their parents will do it to them again when they are reincarnated.
I think how they may have reincarnated grandma into Cris. I can't imagine they disliked her that much.
Of course it may be protection:::They like her so to save her from herself they isolate her, ensuring this potential hard-core preditor has no outlet for evil.
Except his father. After all, he lived with her before she "died".
I think we see this repeated in the Situation::::The Gods protected those with favor from themselves.
And savor poetic justice.
Accept loss.

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