Comments on: The art of knowing when to hide and when to reach out http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/21/the-art-of-knowing-when-to-hide-and-when-to-reach-out/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Sat, 21 Nov 2009 07:14:08 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Rose http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/21/the-art-of-knowing-when-to-hide-and-when-to-reach-out/comment-page-1/#comment-180217 Rose Fri, 30 Jan 2009 19:07:03 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1986#comment-180217 As a follower of yours on Twitter, I don't think you are underutilizing Twitter. Your general flailing in your life makes me feel way better about the flailing in mine. It makes it easier to take your advice. Sometimes I find your posts infuriating and sometimes I find they move me to tears. And part of what makes those extremes possible is how real you seem trough your twitters. Now, I realize I am funding you in no way (other than blog traffic and word of mouth), but to me your twitters are perfect. Also, I drank while applying to jobs last night. You are right. It was not only more interesting, but I had the courage to talk myself up. Something I struggle with usually. So thanks. As a follower of yours on Twitter, I don't think you are underutilizing Twitter. Your general flailing in your life makes me feel way better about the flailing in mine. It makes it easier to take your advice. Sometimes I find your posts infuriating and sometimes I find they move me to tears. And part of what makes those extremes possible is how real you seem trough your twitters. Now, I realize I am funding you in no way (other than blog traffic and word of mouth), but to me your twitters are perfect.

Also, I drank while applying to jobs last night. You are right. It was not only more interesting, but I had the courage to talk myself up. Something I struggle with usually. So thanks.

]]> By: You need to stop what you’re doing and check out Brazen Careerist ¦ Online Media Cultist http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/21/the-art-of-knowing-when-to-hide-and-when-to-reach-out/comment-page-1/#comment-180027 You need to stop what you’re doing and check out Brazen Careerist ¦ Online Media Cultist Tue, 27 Jan 2009 22:41:11 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1986#comment-180027 [...] a little taste from a post called The art of knowing when to hide and when to reach out: So Ryan tells me not to use the credit card and I remind him that I am still in sulking mode. He [...] [...] a little taste from a post called The art of knowing when to hide and when to reach out: So Ryan tells me not to use the credit card and I remind him that I am still in sulking mode. He [...]

]]> By: Mark W. http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/21/the-art-of-knowing-when-to-hide-and-when-to-reach-out/comment-page-1/#comment-180021 Mark W. Tue, 27 Jan 2009 20:13:31 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1986#comment-180021 Penelope, I'm just now getting caught up on reading some blog posts. James over at 'Men With Pens' wrote a very good post on the same day as this post titled "Twitterranting: On Ego Pedestals and Auto Following" with many good comments in the comment section included - http://menwithpens.ca/twitterranting-ego-pedastels . The discussion includes who follows who and for what reason, etc. Mark Penelope,

I'm just now getting caught up on reading some blog posts. James over at 'Men With Pens' wrote a very good post on the same day as this post titled "Twitterranting: On Ego Pedestals and Auto Following" with many good comments in the comment section included – http://menwithpens.ca/twitterranting-ego-pedastels . The discussion includes who follows who and for what reason, etc.

Mark

]]> By: curiously random http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/21/the-art-of-knowing-when-to-hide-and-when-to-reach-out/comment-page-1/#comment-180002 curiously random Tue, 27 Jan 2009 06:51:33 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1986#comment-180002 "By-30" goals are crap. Twitter is crap. Why can't people relax? What is it with this frantic need to get ahead and make the big money as fast as possible? Quickquickquick don't miss this do it now network until your ears bleed but get ahead make more money make it now. By 30 I had two kids, a divorce and no financial security. By 40 I just want to have friends in interesting places so I can visit them and enjoy their company. I'll bring the wine. I don't want to burn out before I have the chance to meet my grandkids. Maybe that's why I'm not making six figures? And is it just me, or does that Guy fella look smarmy? Really, his website is so full of "look at me, I'm fantastic." Eh, I'll pass. "By-30" goals are crap. Twitter is crap.

Why can't people relax? What is it with this frantic need to get ahead and make the big money as fast as possible?

Quickquickquick don't miss this do it now network until your ears bleed but get ahead make more money make it now.

By 30 I had two kids, a divorce and no financial security. By 40 I just want to have friends in interesting places so I can visit them and enjoy their company. I'll bring the wine. I don't want to burn out before I have the chance to meet my grandkids. Maybe that's why I'm not making six figures?

And is it just me, or does that Guy fella look smarmy? Really, his website is so full of "look at me, I'm fantastic." Eh, I'll pass.

]]> By: Dale http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/21/the-art-of-knowing-when-to-hide-and-when-to-reach-out/comment-page-1/#comment-179954 Dale Sun, 25 Jan 2009 17:49:43 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1986#comment-179954 People often chide you for being too open, and at one time I did too. But the truth be told, both I and my wife have benefitted from the openness of others which includes sharing negative situations they've have been through, how they dealt with them, etc. This is particularly true in the case of marriage relationships where myths abound! People we share with are always suprised that we had big problems and continue to have relatively minor ones. Going into a shell only makes matters worse, but so is sharing with people who don't care, can't or won't help. But when the chips are down, and it is storming it's better to put in any port than to try to ride it out alone. There are always those who can help, sometimes we avoid them because they tell the truth:) People often chide you for being too open, and at one time I did too. But the truth be told, both I and my wife have benefitted from the openness of others which includes sharing negative situations they've have been through, how they dealt with them, etc.
This is particularly true in the case of marriage relationships where myths abound! People we share with are always suprised that we had big problems and continue to have relatively minor ones. Going into a shell only makes matters worse, but so is sharing with people who don't care, can't or won't help. But when the chips are down, and it is storming it's better to put in any port than to try to ride it out alone. There are always those who can help, sometimes we avoid them because they tell the truth:)

]]> By: Kate http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/21/the-art-of-knowing-when-to-hide-and-when-to-reach-out/comment-page-1/#comment-179791 Kate Fri, 23 Jan 2009 04:06:52 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1986#comment-179791 O, Paul, I feel as if you might be my new best friend! O, Paul, I feel as if you might be my new best friend!

]]> By: Kate http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/21/the-art-of-knowing-when-to-hide-and-when-to-reach-out/comment-page-1/#comment-179790 Kate Fri, 23 Jan 2009 04:04:36 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1986#comment-179790 My 'by 30' goal went unrealized, but it wasn't about kids. It wasn't about money, either. It was about the level at which I would be doing my work by that time. I direct plays, so it was about the size and quality of the venues at which I wanted to be working regularly by the time I turned 30. Didn't happen. Still fighting for it. Sullen happens in the course of that endeavor. My 'by 30' goal went unrealized, but it wasn't about kids. It wasn't about money, either. It was about the level at which I would be doing my work by that time. I direct plays, so it was about the size and quality of the venues at which I wanted to be working regularly by the time I turned 30. Didn't happen. Still fighting for it. Sullen happens in the course of that endeavor.

]]> By: Donna http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/21/the-art-of-knowing-when-to-hide-and-when-to-reach-out/comment-page-1/#comment-179784 Donna Fri, 23 Jan 2009 02:29:27 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1986#comment-179784 P - What you've achieved (among numerous things) that so many 30-, 40- or even 50-year-olds haven't is recognizing what you *really* need -- in the moment when you can actually do something about it. Versus waaaaay after the fact. Which means you're able to step outside yourself without getting wholly absorbed in the current moment. (And it means you can figure out what's at the heart of your reaction to Twitter/Guy's suggestions.) And don't be too hard on yourself. As you so wonderfully point out to us, in this blog and in so many others, there are more important moments and opportunities to embrace this tidal wave of stimuli called life. And more important than Twitter in so many instances. :) P – What you've achieved (among numerous things) that so many 30-, 40- or even 50-year-olds haven't is recognizing what you *really* need — in the moment when you can actually do something about it. Versus waaaaay after the fact.
Which means you're able to step outside yourself without getting wholly absorbed in the current moment. (And it means you can figure out what's at the heart of your reaction to Twitter/Guy's suggestions.)
And don't be too hard on yourself. As you so wonderfully point out to us, in this blog and in so many others, there are more important moments and opportunities to embrace this tidal wave of stimuli called life. And more important than Twitter in so many instances. :)

]]> By: Tina http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/21/the-art-of-knowing-when-to-hide-and-when-to-reach-out/comment-page-1/#comment-179774 Tina Thu, 22 Jan 2009 20:51:08 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1986#comment-179774 From Ellen: "I'm a 24 year old female, and I have the the goal to be a millionaire by 30. It's going to be hard to achieve because of my massive student loans, but I'm still working my ass off to try and achieve it. Even if I don't get to a million by 30, I'll at least have achieved gaining a large net worth and being completely debt free." Ditto. My situation/ plan exactly. From Kirsten Shaw: "I feel like at 30, I'll have a good enough career under my belt that I can take some time off for a pregnancy and then return. I'll be established enough to make this happen yet still young enough to not be daunted by mothering and holding a career at the same time." Interestingly, the book <i>Freakonomics</i> by Stephen Dubner and Steven Levitt makes the point that children tend to do better at school when their mothers are aged 30+ at the time of their first child, because they are more established in their careers, more likely to be better educated and more likely to want the baby, compared to younger mothers. I've always wanted kids after 30, for the same reasons as Kirsten. What I hadn't expected was to be completely blindsided by the strength of the hormones that hit sporadically in your 20's. Maybe this "kids by 30" goal is how many women deal with that little subconscious voice that says "getting pregnant would be a really good idea". Even though your brain thoroughly disagrees. From Ellen:
"I'm a 24 year old female, and I have the the goal to be a millionaire by 30. It's going to be hard to achieve because of my massive student loans, but I'm still working my ass off to try and achieve it. Even if I don't get to a million by 30, I'll at least have achieved gaining a large net worth and being completely debt free."

Ditto. My situation/ plan exactly.

From Kirsten Shaw:
"I feel like at 30, I'll have a good enough career under my belt that I can take some time off for a pregnancy and then return. I'll be established enough to make this happen yet still young enough to not be daunted by mothering and holding a career at the same time."

Interestingly, the book Freakonomics by Stephen Dubner and Steven Levitt makes the point that children tend to do better at school when their mothers are aged 30+ at the time of their first child, because they are more established in their careers, more likely to be better educated and more likely to want the baby, compared to younger mothers.

I've always wanted kids after 30, for the same reasons as Kirsten. What I hadn't expected was to be completely blindsided by the strength of the hormones that hit sporadically in your 20's. Maybe this "kids by 30" goal is how many women deal with that little subconscious voice that says "getting pregnant would be a really good idea". Even though your brain thoroughly disagrees.

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