Comments on: This is why all your goals are bad for you http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/19/this-is-why-all-your-goals-are-bad-for-you/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Sat, 21 Nov 2009 07:14:08 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Bluestone http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/19/this-is-why-all-your-goals-are-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-187382 Bluestone Mon, 15 Jun 2009 01:10:48 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1973#comment-187382 I still believe a dominant thought (goal) can become true for most people if they assume they already have achieved it. I still believe a dominant thought (goal) can become true for most people if they assume they already have achieved it.

]]> By: Working long hours can kill you… or resurrect you! - Alan Furth — The Blog http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/19/this-is-why-all-your-goals-are-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-185662 Working long hours can kill you… or resurrect you! - Alan Furth — The Blog Fri, 15 May 2009 12:36:38 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1973#comment-185662 [...] These people’s motivation is not only in achieving the level of exceptional excellence they aim for — they actually love the practicing per se. [...] [...] These people's motivation is not only in achieving the level of exceptional excellence they aim for — they actually love the practicing per se. [...]

]]> By: James http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/19/this-is-why-all-your-goals-are-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-181387 James Mon, 23 Feb 2009 06:06:44 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1973#comment-181387 I went to the Marilyn Munroe exhibit at the Glenbow Museum in Calgary (It's on its way to Winnipeg as I write this). They had this huge display dedicated to the icon that was Norma Jean, but wasn't. I was deeply moved by the imagery and had to leave part way through. There were so many comments of a negative nature and my gut just knotted - I don't even really understand why. I have always felt sorry for Marilyn - like she was given a goal and the means to get it, but never owned it. A couple of older women were talking about Marilyn's breast size while gazing at a few nude images. They were comparing their own breast sizes and talking like the attention was "mis"focused. It was all about them. It took what was an image of the youthful exuberant sexuality of that Forever Blonde, and made it obscene. Marilyn probably cried in her grave. I covered my ears and said, blah, blah, blah... as maturely as possible. I accompanied my sister-from-another-mother. I feel like I need to explain that - let's just say she's this great friend and I'd get the paper work done to make it legal if it mattered cause it just fits. Anyway, a play followed. It was a one-person, one-act play and starred Marilyn's reincarnation right down to that breathy laugh that made the world turn its head. She switched costumes on set behind a screen and wore the tightest red dress that made me wish I was fabric. How the hell can anyone be so sexy? When my sister (fam) and I debriefed the show we talked about what it means to "know thyself". We spent hours dissecting it. What we came up with, was what all of us already inherently know - life's a journey, people change, and lotsa times we need a relationship to act as a mirror so we can strip away what is false and wrap our arms around what is truth. No man is an island. (And neither is any woman...) I just wonder why it's taking so long to find a partner that is intimate enough to have that dialog. I guess the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flow_%28psychology%29" rel="nofollow">flow</a> comes when you are immersed in your passion and "know thyself", but I don't think it's something we can do alone. I went to the Marilyn Munroe exhibit at the Glenbow Museum in Calgary (It's on its way to Winnipeg as I write this). They had this huge display dedicated to the icon that was Norma Jean, but wasn't. I was deeply moved by the imagery and had to leave part way through. There were so many comments of a negative nature and my gut just knotted – I don't even really understand why. I have always felt sorry for Marilyn – like she was given a goal and the means to get it, but never owned it.

A couple of older women were talking about Marilyn's breast size while gazing at a few nude images. They were comparing their own breast sizes and talking like the attention was "mis"focused. It was all about them. It took what was an image of the youthful exuberant sexuality of that Forever Blonde, and made it obscene. Marilyn probably cried in her grave. I covered my ears and said, blah, blah, blah… as maturely as possible.

I accompanied my sister-from-another-mother. I feel like I need to explain that – let's just say she's this great friend and I'd get the paper work done to make it legal if it mattered cause it just fits.

Anyway, a play followed. It was a one-person, one-act play and starred Marilyn's reincarnation right down to that breathy laugh that made the world turn its head. She switched costumes on set behind a screen and wore the tightest red dress that made me wish I was fabric. How the hell can anyone be so sexy?

When my sister (fam) and I debriefed the show we talked about what it means to "know thyself". We spent hours dissecting it. What we came up with, was what all of us already inherently know – life's a journey, people change, and lotsa times we need a relationship to act as a mirror so we can strip away what is false and wrap our arms around what is truth. No man is an island. (And neither is any woman…) I just wonder why it's taking so long to find a partner that is intimate enough to have that dialog.

I guess the flow comes when you are immersed in your passion and "know thyself", but I don't think it's something we can do alone.

]]> By: Fit Body Elite » Blog Archive » Sat 1-31-09 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/19/this-is-why-all-your-goals-are-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-180240 Fit Body Elite » Blog Archive » Sat 1-31-09 Sat, 31 Jan 2009 06:15:05 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1973#comment-180240 [...] For the full article and the explanation of the 5 steps to take toward more fun goal setting, follow this link - This Is Why All Your Goals Are Bad For You [...] [...] For the full article and the explanation of the 5 steps to take toward more fun goal setting, follow this link – This Is Why All Your Goals Are Bad For You [...]

]]> By: jho87 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/19/this-is-why-all-your-goals-are-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-180204 jho87 Fri, 30 Jan 2009 16:57:04 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1973#comment-180204 This post is very inspirational! I agree that you should choose a goal that you work hard at, but it should be pleasureable! This post is very inspirational! I agree that you should choose a goal that you work hard at, but it should be pleasureable!

]]> By: Joe http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/19/this-is-why-all-your-goals-are-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-180113 Joe Thu, 29 Jan 2009 05:28:57 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1973#comment-180113 Very informative article. I like the addition of flow, the idea to follow your passions, and focusing on the process. I've always lived by the old addage "Do what you love and the money will come". Also, flow and process are very key to success. If you have tunnel vision because you're not being flexible to meet your goal, then you're at a loss. But if you go with the flow keeping the process and end result in mind then you will achieve your goal faster and have a more enriched self along the way. Very informative article. I like the addition of flow, the idea to follow your passions, and focusing on the process. I've always lived by the old addage "Do what you love and the money will come".

Also, flow and process are very key to success. If you have tunnel vision because you're not being flexible to meet your goal, then you're at a loss. But if you go with the flow keeping the process and end result in mind then you will achieve your goal faster and have a more enriched self along the way.

]]> By: Queercents » Blog Archive » Queercents Weekly Roundup: New Year’s Resolutions? http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/19/this-is-why-all-your-goals-are-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-179933 Queercents » Blog Archive » Queercents Weekly Roundup: New Year’s Resolutions? Sat, 24 Jan 2009 21:46:10 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1973#comment-179933 [...] provoking article on why your goals are bad for you. Ok, so maybe I’m a little biased…(Read it at Brazen [...] [...] provoking article on why your goals are bad for you. Ok, so maybe I'm a little biased…(Read it at Brazen [...]

]]> By: Jason Kiesau http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/19/this-is-why-all-your-goals-are-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-179755 Jason Kiesau Thu, 22 Jan 2009 15:50:57 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1973#comment-179755 Great post! There is SO much talk about goal setting, yet I see very few focusing on how to reach them. - The mindset - The resources - The process - The timeframe - The accountability YES. . . goals are important, BUT let's talk about how we're going to make it happen! Again, great post! Great post!

There is SO much talk about goal setting, yet I see very few focusing on how to reach them.

- The mindset
- The resources
- The process
- The timeframe
- The accountability

YES. . . goals are important, BUT let's talk about how we're going to make it happen!

Again, great post!

]]> By: Diana Maus http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/19/this-is-why-all-your-goals-are-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-179709 Diana Maus Wed, 21 Jan 2009 19:30:01 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1973#comment-179709 @hutchie I avoid it too. For me it is the separation that's painful. Even though I am still alone if I don't go in the studio, I can turn on the TV or just watch the world go by and feel a part of it. When I am in the studio, time seems lost or to stop. We are social animals. I guess that's at the bottom of it. @hutchie I avoid it too. For me it is the separation that's painful. Even though I am still alone if I don't go in the studio, I can turn on the TV or just watch the world go by and feel a part of it. When I am in the studio, time seems lost or to stop. We are social animals. I guess that's at the bottom of it.

]]> By: hutchie http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/01/19/this-is-why-all-your-goals-are-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-179674 hutchie Wed, 21 Jan 2009 15:27:29 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/?p=1973#comment-179674 Ugh. It's getting to that state of flow which is so painful...Why do we resist it? Is it because we are separated from the world when we are in a state of flow? Time is lost? It's weird, because I'll spend way too much time skirting around immersing myself in something...but those avoidance hours are SUCH a waste of time (except when I come here and read your blog, of course.) It's like a little kid fighting sleep. Ugh. It's getting to that state of flow which is so painful…Why do we resist it? Is it because we are separated from the world when we are in a state of flow? Time is lost? It's weird, because I'll spend way too much time skirting around immersing myself in something…but those avoidance hours are SUCH a waste of time (except when I come here and read your blog, of course.) It's like a little kid fighting sleep.

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