Comments on: Vulnerability is the key to likability at work (and on the farm) http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:29:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Aw http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-2/#comment-270671 Aw Fri, 03 Feb 2012 07:24:59 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-270671 I just would like to say this has been superbly perfect! I needed to read something just like this for a certain amount of direction. Finding the piece both applicable in work and personal life. See I've been told by many men that I am vulnerable. Turns out I seem to pick the ruthless men who end up being my friends because they won't have a sexual relationship with me as I am vulnerable. I just would like to say this has been superbly perfect! I needed to read something just like this for a certain amount of direction. Finding the piece both applicable in work and personal life. See I've been told by many men that I am vulnerable. Turns out I seem to pick the ruthless men who end up being my friends because they won't have a sexual relationship with me as I am vulnerable.

]]> By: Anonymous http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-2/#comment-262511 Anonymous Mon, 10 Oct 2011 15:10:00 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-262511 This actually makes a great deal of sense to me.  I'm not sure if I should admit that.  This actually makes a great deal of sense to me. 

I'm not sure if I should admit that. 

]]> By: Anonymous http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-2/#comment-262512 Anonymous Mon, 10 Oct 2011 15:10:00 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-262512 This actually makes a great deal of sense to me.  I'm not sure if I should admit that.  This actually makes a great deal of sense to me. 

I'm not sure if I should admit that. 

]]> By: mamasmouth.com :: How to Know What to Look For :: http://www.mamasmouth.com http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-2/#comment-262477 mamasmouth.com :: How to Know What to Look For :: http://www.mamasmouth.com Sun, 09 Oct 2011 14:23:02 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-262477 [...] it made the world so much more simple to me: People who cannot connect cannot be vulnerable. That makes sense to me. And vulnerability in myself is easier to look for than looking for someone else to connect with. I [...] [...] it made the world so much more simple to me: People who cannot connect cannot be vulnerable. That makes sense to me. And vulnerability in myself is easier to look for than looking for someone else to connect with. I [...]

]]> By: Resume Advice You Never Hear - RESUME PORTAL – RESUME PORTAL http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-2/#comment-262323 Resume Advice You Never Hear - RESUME PORTAL – RESUME PORTAL Thu, 06 Oct 2011 11:18:14 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-262323 [...] we wrote a first few stories about  him, he got nervous. He told me “he doesn’t wish people to get a wrong idea.” [...] [...] we wrote a first few stories about  him, he got nervous. He told me “he doesn’t wish people to get a wrong idea.” [...]

]]> By: How to Know What to Look For http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-2/#comment-262144 How to Know What to Look For Tue, 04 Oct 2011 03:42:54 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-262144 [...] it made the world so much more simple to me: People who cannot connect cannot be vulnerable. That makes sense to me. And vulnerability in myself is easier to look for than looking for someone else to connect with. I [...] [...] it made the world so much more simple to me: People who cannot connect cannot be vulnerable. That makes sense to me. And vulnerability in myself is easier to look for than looking for someone else to connect with. I [...]

]]> By: Sarah http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-2/#comment-254420 Sarah Thu, 07 Jul 2011 15:00:38 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-254420 Sounds like the farmer needs to put in a bit more compromise. If you need to talk to be able to build up intimacy then he needs to play ball. And maybe you don't like to strip. So why force yourself? If you don't like to do it, then don't do it. (Does he strip for you?) The question you need to ask yourself is, has this man done enough to earn my trust? Without trust you cannot maintain intimacy which is essential to "vulnerability" Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I wish you the best. Sounds like the farmer needs to put in a bit more compromise. If you need to talk to be able to build up intimacy then he needs to play ball. And maybe you don't like to strip. So why force yourself? If you don't like to do it, then don't do it. (Does he strip for you?)

The question you need to ask yourself is, has this man done enough to earn my trust? Without trust you cannot maintain intimacy which is essential to "vulnerability"

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I wish you the best.

]]> By: Racer X http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-2/#comment-236642 Racer X Sat, 04 Dec 2010 23:26:49 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-236642 "People think I'm being intimate with the talking, because for example, I told the guy who I want to be on my board that I waxed off all my pubic hair because I read that 90% of Generation Y girls wax it off and I wanted to see what I was missing." I prefer a girl with a bush. Read one of my post on it. We call it the GNP:The Glorious Natural Pelt. Granted, most men and women seem to preferred the wax look, but call me old fashioned. A woman looks more womanly when she is all natural down there. "People think I'm being intimate with the talking, because for example, I told the guy who I want to be on my board that I waxed off all my pubic hair because I read that 90% of Generation Y girls wax it off and I wanted to see what I was missing."

I prefer a girl with a bush. Read one of my post on it. We call it the GNP:The Glorious Natural Pelt. Granted, most men and women seem to preferred the wax look, but call me old fashioned. A woman looks more womanly when she is all natural down there.

]]> By: Nomi http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-2/#comment-189984 Nomi Thu, 30 Jul 2009 18:56:28 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-189984 Wow... I like your writing style, Penelope, but I think I keep reading the relationship ones mostly out of mystified fascination. (The business ones are a different story; I like those for different reasons.) You are so different from me. I don't even understand what you're talking about half the time. I'm considered an astute businesswoman, but I haven't dated in something like 10 years and wouldn't even know where to start. "It already took me three weeks to get rid of the underwear that could have passed for a bathing suit." I'm thinking, ok, she's upgraded to more modest underwear because her old underwear was skimpy, and the farmer seems conservative so maybe he didn't like that. "So now I have the sexy underwear," Ummm... ok, I guess I got that wrong, but what underwear covers less than a bathing suit? "But I can't really use it." Use it how, other than wearing it? tying him up with it or something? And this shaving thing... why would anyone do that? What's the point? Doesn't it prickle horribly when it's growing back in? And the talking vs. not-talking... I guess I just have been out of the relationship world too long. I can't even understand the issues. I do understand fear of vulnerability though. To me, daring sex would be having a light on. So yeah, your blogs are like a peek into an alternate universe. Wow… I like your writing style, Penelope, but I think I keep reading the relationship ones mostly out of mystified fascination. (The business ones are a different story; I like those for different reasons.) You are so different from me. I don't even understand what you're talking about half the time. I'm considered an astute businesswoman, but I haven't dated in something like 10 years and wouldn't even know where to start. "It already took me three weeks to get rid of the underwear that could have passed for a bathing suit." I'm thinking, ok, she's upgraded to more modest underwear because her old underwear was skimpy, and the farmer seems conservative so maybe he didn't like that. "So now I have the sexy underwear," Ummm… ok, I guess I got that wrong, but what underwear covers less than a bathing suit? "But I can't really use it." Use it how, other than wearing it? tying him up with it or something? And this shaving thing… why would anyone do that? What's the point? Doesn't it prickle horribly when it's growing back in? And the talking vs. not-talking… I guess I just have been out of the relationship world too long. I can't even understand the issues. I do understand fear of vulnerability though. To me, daring sex would be having a light on. So yeah, your blogs are like a peek into an alternate universe.

]]> By: Love and the Vulnerable Heart | merewisdom.org http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-2/#comment-181687 Love and the Vulnerable Heart | merewisdom.org Sat, 28 Feb 2009 21:12:29 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-181687 [...] Let me note this importance of vulnerability isn’t just about the love between lovers, but also between parents and children, and also between close friends. Some see it within the workplace as well as in dating. [...] [...] Let me note this importance of vulnerability isn't just about the love between lovers, but also between parents and children, and also between close friends. Some see it within the workplace as well as in dating. [...]

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