Comments on: Vulnerability is the key to likability at work (and on the farm) http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Sun, 08 Nov 2009 04:20:06 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Nomi http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-3/#comment-189984 Nomi Thu, 30 Jul 2009 18:56:28 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-189984 Wow... I like your writing style, Penelope, but I think I keep reading the relationship ones mostly out of mystified fascination. (The business ones are a different story; I like those for different reasons.) You are so different from me. I don't even understand what you're talking about half the time. I'm considered an astute businesswoman, but I haven't dated in something like 10 years and wouldn't even know where to start. "It already took me three weeks to get rid of the underwear that could have passed for a bathing suit." I'm thinking, ok, she's upgraded to more modest underwear because her old underwear was skimpy, and the farmer seems conservative so maybe he didn't like that. "So now I have the sexy underwear," Ummm... ok, I guess I got that wrong, but what underwear covers less than a bathing suit? "But I can't really use it." Use it how, other than wearing it? tying him up with it or something? And this shaving thing... why would anyone do that? What's the point? Doesn't it prickle horribly when it's growing back in? And the talking vs. not-talking... I guess I just have been out of the relationship world too long. I can't even understand the issues. I do understand fear of vulnerability though. To me, daring sex would be having a light on. So yeah, your blogs are like a peek into an alternate universe. Wow… I like your writing style, Penelope, but I think I keep reading the relationship ones mostly out of mystified fascination. (The business ones are a different story; I like those for different reasons.) You are so different from me. I don't even understand what you're talking about half the time. I'm considered an astute businesswoman, but I haven't dated in something like 10 years and wouldn't even know where to start. "It already took me three weeks to get rid of the underwear that could have passed for a bathing suit." I'm thinking, ok, she's upgraded to more modest underwear because her old underwear was skimpy, and the farmer seems conservative so maybe he didn't like that. "So now I have the sexy underwear," Ummm… ok, I guess I got that wrong, but what underwear covers less than a bathing suit? "But I can't really use it." Use it how, other than wearing it? tying him up with it or something? And this shaving thing… why would anyone do that? What's the point? Doesn't it prickle horribly when it's growing back in? And the talking vs. not-talking… I guess I just have been out of the relationship world too long. I can't even understand the issues. I do understand fear of vulnerability though. To me, daring sex would be having a light on. So yeah, your blogs are like a peek into an alternate universe.

]]> By: Love and the Vulnerable Heart | merewisdom.org http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-3/#comment-181687 Love and the Vulnerable Heart | merewisdom.org Sat, 28 Feb 2009 21:12:29 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-181687 [...] Let me note this importance of vulnerability isn’t just about the love between lovers, but also between parents and children, and also between close friends. Some see it within the workplace as well as in dating. [...] [...] Let me note this importance of vulnerability isn't just about the love between lovers, but also between parents and children, and also between close friends. Some see it within the workplace as well as in dating. [...]

]]> By: Crossmage http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-3/#comment-181661 Crossmage Sat, 28 Feb 2009 05:22:23 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-181661 Thank you for this. What a beautiful gift to find when out searching about vulnerability. Thank you. Thank you for this. What a beautiful gift to find when out searching about vulnerability. Thank you.

]]> By: Guru Gilbert » The paradox of vulnerability in relationships http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-3/#comment-181452 Guru Gilbert » The paradox of vulnerability in relationships Tue, 24 Feb 2009 17:03:41 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-181452 [...] that you have to complain to be likable but you need to vulnerable somehow. As Penelope advises admit shortcomings, confess stuff (which also builds trust), and ask for advice to name a [...] [...] that you have to complain to be likable but you need to vulnerable somehow. As Penelope advises admit shortcomings, confess stuff (which also builds trust), and ask for advice to name a [...]

]]> By: Hep http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-3/#comment-178549 Hep Wed, 31 Dec 2008 11:46:09 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-178549 Well, you're probably right about the bad girlfriend stuff if you have to argue every time you want to do it. But sometimes that's hot. But not if you always win, and you're obviously smart enough to. "Most of the time," as Dylan once sang. Appreciate your candor though. I tend to tell people personal stuff like that, too. Stakes a claim. TMI, my ass! Jay Well, you're probably right about the bad girlfriend stuff if you have to argue every time you want to do it.

But sometimes that's hot. But not if you always win, and you're obviously smart enough to. "Most of the time," as Dylan once sang.

Appreciate your candor though. I tend to tell people personal stuff like that, too.

Stakes a claim.

TMI, my ass!

Jay

]]> By: ENTJ females - MBTI Central http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-3/#comment-172830 ENTJ females - MBTI Central Mon, 10 Nov 2008 19:01:20 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-172830 [...] on youtube anyways. That's not really their cup of tea, from what I've learned about them. I've quoted one here before (she knows she's an ENTJ and her posts fit very well). [...] [...] on youtube anyways. That's not really their cup of tea, from what I've learned about them. I've quoted one here before (she knows she's an ENTJ and her posts fit very well). [...]

]]> By: Almostgotit.com | The one where Almostgotit blogs like Penelope Trunk http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-3/#comment-172363 Almostgotit.com | The one where Almostgotit blogs like Penelope Trunk Wed, 29 Oct 2008 19:41:56 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-172363 [...] because (a) I got my husband’s permission to talk about our argument and (b) I did not mention anyone’s genitalia, shaved or [...] [...] because (a) I got my husband's permission to talk about our argument and (b) I did not mention anyone's genitalia, shaved or [...]

]]> By: James http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-3/#comment-171765 James Sun, 12 Oct 2008 06:48:46 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-171765 Anyone and everyone can write about the "shaving debate". So cutting edge! Gasp! Talking to a board member about pubes. What a 'firecracker'.... Come on Penelope, you can do better than this. Anyone and everyone can write about the "shaving debate". So cutting edge! Gasp! Talking to a board member about pubes. What a 'firecracker'….

Come on Penelope, you can do better than this.

]]> By: How do ENTJs become likeable and less threatening to others? - Page 4 - MBTI Central http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-3/#comment-171387 How do ENTJs become likeable and less threatening to others? - Page 4 - MBTI Central Mon, 06 Oct 2008 01:12:51 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-171387 [...] Read this blog entry from Penelope Trunk, a noted ENTJ. (Was first a pro beach volleyball player, worked on Wall St., made gazillions of dollars in marketing, then started her own business, now is a very successful writer...) Vulnerability is the key to likability at work (and on the farm) __________________ *You don't have a soul. You are a Soul. You have a body. *Faith is the art of holding on to things your reason once accepted, despite your changing moods. C.S. Lewis [...] [...] Read this blog entry from Penelope Trunk, a noted ENTJ. (Was first a pro beach volleyball player, worked on Wall St., made gazillions of dollars in marketing, then started her own business, now is a very successful writer…) Vulnerability is the key to likability at work (and on the farm) __________________ *You don't have a soul. You are a Soul. You have a body. *Faith is the art of holding on to things your reason once accepted, despite your changing moods. C.S. Lewis [...]

]]> By: Modite - Social media is difficult like intimacy http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/comment-page-2/#comment-170661 Modite - Social media is difficult like intimacy Thu, 18 Sep 2008 04:43:14 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/08/26/vulnerability-is-the-key-to-likability-at-work-and-on-the-farm/#comment-170661 [...] really bad at this. Or mostly I’m bad at it, but I’m trying to be better because I understand vulnerability is good. But practicing it is something different [...] [...] really bad at this. Or mostly I’m bad at it, but I’m trying to be better because I understand vulnerability is good. But practicing it is something different [...]

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