Comments on: Gen X are the revolutionaries (and the NYT coverage of shared care stinks) http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Thu, 09 Feb 2012 18:19:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: The Steve Jobs Anti-Eulogy | stevejobsvision.info http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/comment-page-1/#comment-268106 The Steve Jobs Anti-Eulogy | stevejobsvision.info Mon, 02 Jan 2012 22:42:27 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/#comment-268106 [...] to take care of kids. Or maybe the dads who turned down promotions to stay home with kids. (All hail Gen X on this, of [...] [...] to take care of kids. Or maybe the dads who turned down promotions to stay home with kids. (All hail Gen X on this, of [...]

]]> By: What Gen Yers don’t know about themselves | Penelope Trunk « catherinealdana http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/comment-page-1/#comment-256390 What Gen Yers don’t know about themselves | Penelope Trunk « catherinealdana Sat, 23 Jul 2011 20:10:10 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/#comment-256390 [...] 5. Gen Y mistakes their own practical behavior for revolutionary behavior. In general, Gen Y tries to go through life by ruffling the least feathers. So, for example, Gen Y might appear to be creating a revolution at work by demanding flex-time, fair-wage salaries, and good mentoring. But really, Gen X wanted all this stuff when they were twentysomething as well, but they couldn’t get it. So when Gen X took over, they gave it to Gen Y. Gen X is the revolutionary generation. [...] [...] 5. Gen Y mistakes their own practical behavior for revolutionary behavior. In general, Gen Y tries to go through life by ruffling the least feathers. So, for example, Gen Y might appear to be creating a revolution at work by demanding flex-time, fair-wage salaries, and good mentoring. But really, Gen X wanted all this stuff when they were twentysomething as well, but they couldn’t get it. So when Gen X took over, they gave it to Gen Y. Gen X is the revolutionary generation. [...]

]]> By: Colet http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/comment-page-1/#comment-242779 Colet Fri, 04 Feb 2011 16:05:17 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/#comment-242779 My husband is a teacher, and so we do 'shared care' in the summers, loosely speaking. It always seems like it will be a break, but it really just becomes a confusing, contentious, crabby mess. Our home works best as a (benevolent) dictatorship, *not* a democracy! My husband is a teacher, and so we do 'shared care' in the summers, loosely speaking. It always seems like it will be a break, but it really just becomes a confusing, contentious, crabby mess. Our home works best as a (benevolent) dictatorship, *not* a democracy!

]]> By: Volkswagen Super Bowl ad is an anthem to Gen X http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/comment-page-1/#comment-242767 Volkswagen Super Bowl ad is an anthem to Gen X Fri, 04 Feb 2011 12:06:34 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/#comment-242767 [...] we look back, we will see that Gen X redefined family and work. We are the first generation that gave women a choice to do anything they want. So we’re the [...] [...] we look back, we will see that Gen X redefined family and work. We are the first generation that gave women a choice to do anything they want. So we’re the [...]

]]> By: ' + title + ' - ' + basename(imgurl) + '(' + w + 'x' + h +') http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/comment-page-1/#comment-160591 ' + title + ' - ' + basename(imgurl) + '(' + w + 'x' + h +') Fri, 01 Aug 2008 18:38:19 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/#comment-160591 [...] I was merely peeved. But the Brazen Careerist, aka Penelope Trunk, was livid. [...] [...] I was merely peeved. But the Brazen Careerist, aka Penelope Trunk, was livid. [...]

]]> By: May http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/comment-page-1/#comment-160529 May Fri, 01 Aug 2008 16:53:22 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/#comment-160529 Penelope, I do believe you were Out-Brazened by Marc and Amy ;) Weighing in belatedly.... www.startribune.com/cribsheet Penelope, I do believe you were Out-Brazened by Marc and Amy ;)

Weighing in belatedly….
http://www.startribune.com/cribsheet

]]> By: Dale http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/comment-page-1/#comment-154841 Dale Mon, 21 Jul 2008 15:27:26 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/#comment-154841 If you place your children and the idea of parenting first, as anyone who makes a conscious decision to be a parent should, then everything falls into place - eventually. The question is when do you decide to place your children first? Is it before they are born, after conception, once they've been born, or after a period of time when problems have started to rear their ugly mugs:) The decision on parenting, lifestyle, career, and any other potentially lifelong "project" should be considered, tested and finally decided upon after much shared exploration, discussion, equally weighted decision making, and genuine caring by each partner, about the needs of the other parent and the children. Whatever the final decision on lifestyle, it should not be weighted too heavily in the direction of (for the benefit of) any of the stakeholders in the mix. Too much toward the parents and the children suffer, too much toward the children, and the parents lose themselves and eventually each other. Balance in all things, lots of research and observation, and the advice of trusted caring mentors are needed. You may still feel like you fail miserably, but the think of the possible alternatives if we don't do our homework beforehand... we see them all around us. My two cents worth. If you place your children and the idea of parenting first, as anyone who makes a conscious decision to be a parent should, then everything falls into place – eventually. The question is when do you decide to place your children first? Is it before they are born, after conception, once they've been born, or after a period of time when problems have started to rear their ugly mugs:)

The decision on parenting, lifestyle, career, and any other potentially lifelong "project" should be considered, tested and finally decided upon after much shared exploration, discussion, equally weighted decision making, and genuine caring by each partner, about the needs of the other parent and the children.
Whatever the final decision on lifestyle, it should not be weighted too heavily in the direction of (for the benefit of) any of the stakeholders in the mix. Too much toward the parents and the children suffer, too much toward the children, and the parents lose themselves and eventually each other. Balance in all things, lots of research and observation, and the advice of trusted caring mentors are needed.
You may still feel like you fail miserably, but the think of the possible alternatives if we don't do our homework beforehand… we see them all around us.

My two cents worth.

]]> By: Aaron http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/comment-page-1/#comment-153679 Aaron Fri, 18 Jul 2008 20:07:11 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/#comment-153679 Jen, Crappy people make crappy parents. Full time workers, part time workers, shared caregivers, stay at home parents; makes no difference. It is who you are as a person and the environment you create for a child that puts them in the best position for success. Aaron Jen,

Crappy people make crappy parents. Full time workers, part time workers, shared caregivers, stay at home parents; makes no difference. It is who you are as a person and the environment you create for a child that puts them in the best position for success.

Aaron

]]> By: Jen http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/comment-page-1/#comment-153287 Jen Thu, 17 Jul 2008 17:29:23 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/#comment-153287 Oh my dear. Shared parenting gives you a crappy career because you will never be able to give your work the focus or time that it needs? Then working full time makes you a crappy parent. If I have to choose, and PT implies that I do, then I choose being a good parent - to hell with my career advancement. Oh my dear. Shared parenting gives you a crappy career because you will never be able to give your work the focus or time that it needs?

Then working full time makes you a crappy parent.

If I have to choose, and PT implies that I do, then I choose being a good parent – to hell with my career advancement.

]]> By: Jessica http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/comment-page-1/#comment-153224 Jessica Thu, 17 Jul 2008 12:22:33 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/07/07/gen-x-are-the-revolutionaries-and-the-nyt-coverage-of-shared-care-parenting-stinks/#comment-153224 I'm glad someone else read that article and thought "shared care" was a joke. I'm not a career crazed chick, but I like working part time. I'm lucky that I have found opportunities to keep using my brain and earn a few bucks along the way. Since I work part time, I still take on more of the child related responsibilities and that's fine. Of course, my DH does the laundry on the weekends, does that mean we do "shared care"? I don't think so, but I do think we have a nice division of labor in our home that works for us. "Shared care" is just a silly catch phrase and an annoying, created "ideal" for us all to feel depressed about not achieving. Like I said before, I'm glad I'm not the only one who sees it this way. I'm glad someone else read that article and thought "shared care" was a joke. I'm not a career crazed chick, but I like working part time. I'm lucky that I have found opportunities to keep using my brain and earn a few bucks along the way. Since I work part time, I still take on more of the child related responsibilities and that's fine. Of course, my DH does the laundry on the weekends, does that mean we do "shared care"? I don't think so, but I do think we have a nice division of labor in our home that works for us. "Shared care" is just a silly catch phrase and an annoying, created "ideal" for us all to feel depressed about not achieving. Like I said before, I'm glad I'm not the only one who sees it this way.

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