Comments on: The hardest part of my job is that everyone lies about parenting

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By: mr luggage

mr luggage — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 01:51:14 +0000

parenting should not be for everyone…..i saw today i mother probably not even 23 years old, feeding her crying baby in a restaurant and not even touching the poor child, she was feeding the poor thing while it was seating on the high chair and she was on her phone

By: Suzie Harfnan

Suzie Harfnan — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 12:29:45 +0000

I'll tell you what, raising kids is one of the hardest things you will ever do. It also is probably one of the best things that ever happens to you, aside from getting married to your lifelong (hopefully) love.

Watching them grow up and deal with failure and success all at once and finally see them become the best of best at what they do, fulfilling their destinies is probably the best thing that can ever happen.

You'll see, and at that moment you'll be so proud you'll wonder what else your kids could accomplish.

By: Shannon

Shannon — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 02:06:54 +0000

I totally agree with what you are talking about. You see these celebrities all the time on the television, or in the magazines with their children; smiling and looking like it is so easy to raise children, especially when they do have a lot of help. I have 2 children of my own and I can honestly say that I would rather be at a job because you are right it is easier to deal with other people then children. Don't get me wrong I love my children with all my heart and would do anything for them, but i am home with them on a daily basis and sometimes I just wish I had an outside job.mothers at home

By: Robin

Robin — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 01:06:56 +0000

You talk about women who build 'brands'. What does parenting have to do with your 'brand'?? Isn't branding what you do at work? Your bankable skills? You career?
By building brands around 'being themselves', these women have incorporated parenting into their mass marketed image, i.e. what will sell best. So you're proving Ms. Trunk's point for her, right?
Would YOU include a picture of yourself with the kids along with your professional resume? Didn't think so.

By: Alora

Alora — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 03:23:54 +0000

As someone who has made the choice not to have kids, I have to say that the part that actually bothers me the most is that so many mothers I know talk about of both sides of their mouth:

On one hand, they are stressed, lonely at home, and unhappily doing the lion's share of the domestic work while their husband's lifestyle seems to have barely changed at all and they feel completely unable to say anything to most people for fear of being judged.

Only to then have them do the same to those of us who do not want to have kids, pointing out that life is incomplete without them and implying that we are somehow deluding ourselves that a life without kids is even worth living.

I think the most insidious thing about "Mommy Porn" isn't so much that mothers eat it up, it's that even knowing that it's total crap, they still try to spoon feed it to the rest of us.

By: top-post.ru

top-post.ru — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 08:46:21 +0000

I've got my pitchfork and torch! Who are we lynching again? Is it the magazine editor, the celeb, or the men?

The gentlemen who said that men do not subscribe to the idea that they have to be perfect or do it all was exactly right. It's simply not realistic to think that you can have it all or do it all as a man/woman or a father/mother. Just roll your eyes and maybe have a good laugh at such ideas. In the meantime be the best parent/spouse you can be. Also know yourself and do what is best for the family (this includes yourself as well. Not just your spouse and kids.) Don't let completely unrealistic crap in the media bother you. Just live in the real world instead.

By: Anna Colette (aka Part Mummy Part Me)

Anna Colette (aka Part Mummy Part Me) — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 15:08:10 +0000

As a part-time (or 'shared care') parent, I completely agree with your comment that it is hard to write about loving your kids but not loving being with them ALL the time. I strive to do this, as I think it is important to inspire and to reassure other parents who also experience difficulties, as well as the joys. Thank you for doing this so well.

By: chicks

chicks — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 13:31:05 +0000

I enjoyed reading your blog, but I guess I'm not the type of woman that enjoys reading these magazines celebs appear on. I don't even watch TV (I rather much watch movies). I stay away from gossip blogs too.

So what I am basically saying is that I don't know how these celeb mom's look like or what exactly 'mommy porn' is. I just know that I am not trying to be like anyone. I had already set reasonable goals and expectations before I became a mother. I'm 24 now and I have a beautiful baby. I wish I could do everything under the sun for my new baby girl, but even with the so called time most people think a homemaker would have I just don't have enough of it.

By: onufer

onufer — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 10:37:06 +0000

Why mommy porn? Why not mommy idealism or mommy unrealistic freaking expectations or …
So okay, mommy porn is easier to say and connotes the same meaning.