Comments on: Keeping an eye on my career while I go through a divorce http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Sat, 20 Mar 2010 03:34:04 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Kim http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-188239 Kim Fri, 26 Jun 2009 17:17:58 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/#comment-188239 Why did you get a divorce? Why did you get a divorce?

]]> By: Tricia http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/comment-page-2/#comment-165528 Tricia Sat, 16 Aug 2008 05:31:51 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/#comment-165528 I just found you by googling "marriage counseling." Just wanted to let you know that even though I read through your fulfillment blogs, it's not because of the train wreck factor. Thanks for sharing. I think that it's been helpful. I just found you by googling "marriage counseling." Just wanted to let you know that even though I read through your fulfillment blogs, it's not because of the train wreck factor.

Thanks for sharing. I think that it's been helpful.

]]> By: Gail McDaniel http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/comment-page-2/#comment-152598 Gail McDaniel Tue, 15 Jul 2008 21:40:10 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/#comment-152598 I've been there. My children were 3 & 5. The best way I was able to keep my sanity (if, in fact, I did) was to throw myself into my work. Yes, work became my escape. It was those hours every day that I had the kind of distraction that allowed me to focus just on work. Divorce is tough, but you just have to get through that awful process in order to move to another place. Yes, it took a long time, but now it's a fading memory. I'm even friendly with my ex . . . many years later. I've been there. My children were 3 & 5. The best way I was able to keep my sanity (if, in fact, I did) was to throw myself into my work. Yes, work became my escape. It was those hours every day that I had the kind of distraction that allowed me to focus just on work. Divorce is tough, but you just have to get through that awful process in order to move to another place. Yes, it took a long time, but now it's a fading memory. I'm even friendly with my ex . . . many years later.

]]> By: Jay http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/comment-page-2/#comment-148895 Jay Fri, 13 Jun 2008 21:54:40 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/#comment-148895 I like reading your blog, but its not because of the divorce. I'm a single young guy. I like the honesty you exude in your writing about your divorce, although it seems like you have been integrating a lot of your divorce details lately, which sometimes, may not be of too much interest to me -- given my demographic (no marriage, no kids, no gf, but focused on career) I like reading your blog, but its not because of the divorce. I'm a single young guy. I like the honesty you exude in your writing about your divorce, although it seems like you have been integrating a lot of your divorce details lately, which sometimes, may not be of too much interest to me — given my demographic (no marriage, no kids, no gf, but focused on career)

]]> By: Harry Joiner http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/comment-page-2/#comment-148616 Harry Joiner Sun, 08 Jun 2008 16:45:43 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/#comment-148616 Holy cow! Congratulations to Robert Cullen for the single best comment I have ever read on any blog, about anything, ever. Holy cow! Congratulations to Robert Cullen for the single best comment I have ever read on any blog, about anything, ever.

]]> By: Robert Cullen http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/comment-page-2/#comment-148538 Robert Cullen Fri, 06 Jun 2008 03:15:14 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/#comment-148538 That you have sacrificed your children for your career is sad. Divorce is terrible for children. We have been married 23 years and yes, we had times where the grass looked greener on the other side of the fence. However, we learned that the grass is greener where you water it. As an ENTJ male and fellow writer, I understand your zeal to be published and successful. It was a very big deal for me the first time I was published in a national magazine. Now I wonder what I was striving for; fame, fortune, happiness? I find more happiness and fulfillment working one-on-one with individuals and families helping them enrich their lives and focus on their families. I hope you find peace in your life. Undressing yourself in public for money seems an odd way to seek fulfillment and happiness. Do you not feel a little like a stripper at the Internet Bar of leering readers? Before your divorce, had you suffered real loss? Our lives are dated before and after the death of our 19-year-old son. I pray you never face such an ordeal, standing at the bedside of your dying child, bargaining with God to exchange your life for your child's. It is at such an intersection of life and work that clamoring for fame and fortune becomes petty and trifling. I hope you find wisdom in your public stripping which can be difficult in the heady flood of success. I have not read enough of your writing to know if you have a spiritual base. Whether you believe in Christianity or no, the Bible has succinct guidelines for life. Have you sought a spiritual counselor in your geographic area? In your youthfulness you feel invincible, but at some time your body will tell you that you are no longer young -- and at that point wisdom and understanding will be more available to you. If you have not already shut me off, I offer two humble suggestions: Solomon was known as the wisest man of his time who enjoyed riches and fame and unbounded sex and sensuality. He is the author of Ecclesiastes: "What profit hath a man of all his labor which he taketh under the sun? One generation passeth away, and another generation comeht: but the earth abideth forever." Our American culture hypes riches, riches, riches, yet our truth it this: "As he came forth of his mother's womb, naked shall he return to go as he came, and shall take nothing of his labor, which he may carry away in his hand." Should you wish to communicate with a fellow ENTJ who is now 59 years old and glad to be freed from the siren call of publishing fame and fortune, I offer my address. Sincerely, Robert That you have sacrificed your children for your career is sad. Divorce is terrible for children. We have been married 23 years and yes, we had times where the grass looked greener on the other side of the fence. However, we learned that the grass is greener where you water it. As an ENTJ male and fellow writer, I understand your zeal to be published and successful. It was a very big deal for me the first time I was published in a national magazine. Now I wonder what I was striving for; fame, fortune, happiness? I find more happiness and fulfillment working one-on-one with individuals and families helping them enrich their lives and focus on their families. I hope you find peace in your life. Undressing yourself in public for money seems an odd way to seek fulfillment and happiness. Do you not feel a little like a stripper at the Internet Bar of leering readers?
Before your divorce, had you suffered real loss? Our lives are dated before and after the death of our 19-year-old son. I pray you never face such an ordeal, standing at the bedside of your dying child, bargaining with God to exchange your life for your child's. It is at such an intersection of life and work that clamoring for fame and fortune becomes petty and trifling. I hope you find wisdom in your public stripping which can be difficult in the heady flood of success. I have not read enough of your writing to know if you have a spiritual base. Whether you believe in Christianity or no, the Bible has succinct guidelines for life. Have you sought a spiritual counselor in your geographic area? In your youthfulness you feel invincible, but at some time your body will tell you that you are no longer young — and at that point wisdom and understanding will be more available to you.
If you have not already shut me off, I offer two humble suggestions: Solomon was known as the wisest man of his time who enjoyed riches and fame and unbounded sex and sensuality. He is the author of Ecclesiastes: "What profit hath a man of all his labor which he taketh under the sun? One generation passeth away, and another generation comeht: but the earth abideth forever." Our American culture hypes riches, riches, riches, yet our truth it this: "As he came forth of his mother's womb, naked shall he return to go as he came, and shall take nothing of his labor, which he may carry away in his hand."
Should you wish to communicate with a fellow ENTJ who is now 59 years old and glad to be freed from the siren call of publishing fame and fortune, I offer my address. Sincerely, Robert

]]> By: Charley http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/comment-page-2/#comment-148444 Charley Wed, 04 Jun 2008 20:15:36 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/#comment-148444 By the way - I like how you apply and connect the events in your personal and business lives to each other. I like doing that too. I like my career to define part of who I am. I am a graphic designer, husband, dad, brother, son, Catholic, community advocate, the list goes on... I think all the parts make a better whole. And I can use the different parts to supplement and enhance the others. By the way – I like how you apply and connect the events in your personal and business lives to each other. I like doing that too.

I like my career to define part of who I am. I am a graphic designer, husband, dad, brother, son, Catholic, community advocate, the list goes on…

I think all the parts make a better whole. And I can use the different parts to supplement and enhance the others.

]]> By: Charley http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/comment-page-2/#comment-148443 Charley Wed, 04 Jun 2008 20:08:24 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/#comment-148443 I found your blog today. I came looking for career advice/topics. You have great career advice. Smart, direct strategies. Things I will share with other people. And then I found this alarmingly exposed personal life. Wow. I give you much respect for blogging about your kids and divorce. But after thinking what to write as a comment (I had to, of course) I realize how honest your career-oriented blogs are. And I guess I am not surprised that your posts about your personal life would be just as straight forward. Its got to be scary where you're standing. But after reading about you for a couple hours (here's where I act like I have advice for you) you seem so strong. I think you can handle this. OK - enough of me acting like I know what you are going through. Thanks for posting. Keep moving forward. I found your blog today. I came looking for career advice/topics. You have great career advice. Smart, direct strategies. Things I will share with other people.

And then I found this alarmingly exposed personal life. Wow. I give you much respect for blogging about your kids and divorce.

But after thinking what to write as a comment (I had to, of course) I realize how honest your career-oriented blogs are. And I guess I am not surprised that your posts about your personal life would be just as straight forward.

Its got to be scary where you're standing. But after reading about you for a couple hours (here's where I act like I have advice for you) you seem so strong. I think you can handle this. OK – enough of me acting like I know what you are going through.

Thanks for posting. Keep moving forward.

]]> By: Dale http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/comment-page-2/#comment-148393 Dale Wed, 04 Jun 2008 04:11:39 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/#comment-148393 Penny, Nobody ever really recovers from divorce... don't even try! Just live one day to the next for a while and eventually the pain becomes discomfort, and the discomfort becomes barely noticeable - except around mutual friends and family:) Penny,

Nobody ever really recovers from divorce… don't even try! Just live one day to the next for a while and eventually the pain becomes discomfort, and the discomfort becomes barely noticeable – except around mutual friends and family:)

]]> By: Rob http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/comment-page-2/#comment-148145 Rob Thu, 29 May 2008 02:06:57 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/05/22/keeping-an-eye-on-my-career-while-i-go-through-a-divorce/#comment-148145 @gt - well put. @gt – well put.

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