Comments on: Guest post: What life's really like for a stay-at-home dad http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Wed, 04 Nov 2009 09:27:46 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Robert Dawson http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/comment-page-4/#comment-183463 Robert Dawson Fri, 10 Apr 2009 02:24:56 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/#comment-183463 Good Lord! I was a SAHD to an ADHD/BiPolar woman for 10 years here in Canada for over 10 years. The reason: to fill the negligence she had towards the kids. The result: divorce. I have nothing now, she has the kids & they are gong down the toilet fast. I stumbled on this blog & read two major threads. Think about this... If you put your focus (you commented on your lack of focus several times) towards your SAHD & kids, where it should be... would you have ant time to blog at all? Stupid Stupid People, The outcome IS predictable. Good Lord! I was a SAHD to an ADHD/BiPolar woman for 10 years here in Canada for over 10 years. The reason: to fill the negligence she had towards the kids. The result: divorce. I have nothing now, she has the kids & they are gong down the toilet fast. I stumbled on this blog & read two major threads.

Think about this… If you put your focus (you commented on your lack of focus several times) towards your SAHD & kids, where it should be… would you have ant time to blog at all?

Stupid Stupid People, The outcome IS predictable.

]]> By: Tennis Store http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/comment-page-4/#comment-177669 Tennis Store Tue, 23 Dec 2008 22:42:47 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/#comment-177669 I'm in an odd position here. I'm a work at home dad and my wife is a stay at home mom. I enjoy the perks of spending more time with my family than most people dream of. I definitely have my "work hours" but my lunch break is one that most people dream of. I think most women expect their men to contribute in some form or fashion beyond taking care of the kids. Women want to proud of their men for what they do beyond the house, even if it's just winning in some local tennis tournament. Mike I'm in an odd position here. I'm a work at home dad and my wife is a stay at home mom. I enjoy the perks of spending more time with my family than most people dream of. I definitely have my "work hours" but my lunch break is one that most people dream of. I think most women expect their men to contribute in some form or fashion beyond taking care of the kids. Women want to proud of their men for what they do beyond the house, even if it's just winning in some local tennis tournament.

Mike

]]> By: Bron http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/comment-page-4/#comment-174484 Bron Mon, 01 Dec 2008 13:42:50 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/#comment-174484 It is not that they don't care about the family but they feel that their partner does not give them the care that they deserve or need. It is not something to be proud of for sure, but it is human nature to be flattered by attention, particularly if one feels they are not getting it at home. I can understand receiving attention and even the flirting. Being able to cheat with someone is just as fulfilling as doing it as far as an ego boost. The minute he knocked on that door, he cheated. Career, Business-person being synonymous with cheater is a destructive theme being visited too often lately. It is not that they don't care about the family but they feel that their partner does not give them the care that they deserve or need. It is not something to be proud of for sure, but it is human nature to be flattered by attention, particularly if one feels they are not getting it at home.
I can understand receiving attention and even the flirting. Being able to cheat with someone is just as fulfilling as doing it as far as an ego boost. The minute he knocked on that door, he cheated. Career, Business-person being synonymous with cheater is a destructive theme being visited too often lately.

]]> By: SingleDaddy http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/comment-page-4/#comment-170725 SingleDaddy Fri, 19 Sep 2008 16:14:30 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/#comment-170725 If it looks and smells like shit... Its gonna be shit, and this is complete shit. From the start your story is flawed as you took over a years worth of emails and edited them into a short story that fit your agenda. I'm a Single Dad, of a 7 year old, whose struggling to make the bills on a regular basis, if you want to interview a dad instead of curving a story to fit your agenda.... Then interview one. You want to get into issues with the shattering of the classic gender roles in the world of parenting. Why don't you take on your own fellow women and share with us, why in recent years the number of deadbeat moms has exploded nation wide. More and more women leaving their kids lives everyday, creating more and more Single Father House holds every day.. If it looks and smells like shit… Its gonna be shit, and this is complete shit. From the start your story is flawed as you took over a years worth of emails and edited them into a short story that fit your agenda.

I'm a Single Dad, of a 7 year old, whose struggling to make the bills on a regular basis, if you want to interview a dad instead of curving a story to fit your agenda…. Then interview one.

You want to get into issues with the shattering of the classic gender roles in the world of parenting. Why don't you take on your own fellow women and share with us, why in recent years the number of deadbeat moms has exploded nation wide. More and more women leaving their kids lives everyday, creating more and more Single Father House holds every day..

]]> By: Mike Paahana http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/comment-page-4/#comment-151472 Mike Paahana Sun, 13 Jul 2008 03:44:14 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/#comment-151472 i watch my kids, i do laundry, i cook but i gotta work 2 b/coz my gf thnk she work so much but i still gotta pay all the bills i watch my kids, i do laundry, i cook but i gotta work 2 b/coz my gf thnk she work so much but i still gotta pay all the bills

]]> By: Mrs. Common Cents http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/comment-page-4/#comment-148744 Mrs. Common Cents Tue, 10 Jun 2008 20:12:31 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/#comment-148744 I don't see how this is a typical example of a stay at home dad. Usually, I love your blog - your writing is dead on and you offer unbiased advice. Every once in a while the posts are crude and lacking in autonomy. This is one of those times. This Stay at Home Dad is truly a piece of work. What a disgusting example of an otherwise promising endeavor. I don't see how this is a typical example of a stay at home dad.

Usually, I love your blog – your writing is dead on and you offer unbiased advice. Every once in a while the posts are crude and lacking in autonomy. This is one of those times.

This Stay at Home Dad is truly a piece of work. What a disgusting example of an otherwise promising endeavor.

]]> By: jdg http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/comment-page-4/#comment-147959 jdg Mon, 26 May 2008 18:55:39 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/#comment-147959 god "penelope" you really are a piece of work. god "penelope" you really are a piece of work.

]]> By: Lawrence Salberg http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/comment-page-4/#comment-147347 Lawrence Salberg Wed, 14 May 2008 22:50:01 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/#comment-147347 Anonymous? Well, of course. He's a lazy wuss who let's his wife bring home the bacon while he cheats on her. And he justifies it by saying "it's great for the kids". I almost half-thought, at first, that you made this up just to try and challenge stereotypes or something. But when I read it through, I realized that NO woman could have made this up. This is the dead-pan thinking of a total dolt of a guy. Why the heck has he been emailing you for a year? Aaaaah... yes.... he's a insecure knob that can't be a leader in his home. Worse, he can't be a leader in a career. Why don't you find a "WORK at Home Dad", not a "STAY at Home Dad". Yeah, he stays at home playing (probably video games, too) while his wife works. He's right about one thing: He switched genders. He's given up everything it means to be a man. Notice I didn't say "male", but man. He still plays with his maleness, but he has no manliness. He's not a leader, he's not an example, he's not a source of strength, or moral support. Of course, the joke is on him. Quite likely, his wife has been carrying on behind him for some time (why else does she just *love* going to work?). And his kids can't possibly respect him. If they do, they one day won't. Post should have been called, "What's life really like for a Stay At Home Loser". You captured it perfectly. If you had any chutzpah, you'd out him. Anonymous? Well, of course. He's a lazy wuss who let's his wife bring home the bacon while he cheats on her. And he justifies it by saying "it's great for the kids".

I almost half-thought, at first, that you made this up just to try and challenge stereotypes or something.

But when I read it through, I realized that NO woman could have made this up. This is the dead-pan thinking of a total dolt of a guy. Why the heck has he been emailing you for a year? Aaaaah… yes…. he's a insecure knob that can't be a leader in his home. Worse, he can't be a leader in a career.

Why don't you find a "WORK at Home Dad", not a "STAY at Home Dad". Yeah, he stays at home playing (probably video games, too) while his wife works.

He's right about one thing: He switched genders. He's given up everything it means to be a man. Notice I didn't say "male", but man. He still plays with his maleness, but he has no manliness. He's not a leader, he's not an example, he's not a source of strength, or moral support.

Of course, the joke is on him. Quite likely, his wife has been carrying on behind him for some time (why else does she just *love* going to work?). And his kids can't possibly respect him. If they do, they one day won't.

Post should have been called, "What's life really like for a Stay At Home Loser". You captured it perfectly. If you had any chutzpah, you'd out him.

]]> By: Always Home and Uncool http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/comment-page-4/#comment-147077 Always Home and Uncool Fri, 09 May 2008 05:22:17 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/#comment-147077 As a work-at-home dad, I find Penelope's guest post to be an offending load. This was the best example of a SAHD you could find, huh? You sound like a desperate careerist to me. Maybe men don't complain about staying at home because many of them did it by choice, not because that's what society dictated or expected them to do. Maybe we are more adaptable, caring, talented and understanding than you give us credit for? Maybe we don't feel the need to feed our ego by "playing with the big boys" as much as you. Get a better set of male friends. The ones you have are not good role models for kids or adults. As a work-at-home dad, I find Penelope's guest post to be an offending load. This was the best example of a SAHD you could find, huh? You sound like a desperate careerist to me.

Maybe men don't complain about staying at home because many of them did it by choice, not because that's what society dictated or expected them to do. Maybe we are more adaptable, caring, talented and understanding than you give us credit for? Maybe we don't feel the need to feed our ego by "playing with the big boys" as much as you.

Get a better set of male friends. The ones you have are not good role models for kids or adults.

]]> By: Joe http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/comment-page-4/#comment-147073 Joe Fri, 09 May 2008 01:21:56 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2008/04/30/guest-post-what-lifes-really-like-for-a-stay-at-home-dad/#comment-147073 Jules, huh?. The anonymous emails are Penelope's, not her husband's. Jules, huh?. The anonymous emails are Penelope's, not her husband's.

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