Comments on: Five ways to feel less guilty quitting – and why Gen Y feels guilt giving notice http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Thu, 09 Feb 2012 18:19:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Mommy_of2_2011 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/comment-page-1/#comment-264902 Mommy_of2_2011 Tue, 29 Nov 2011 07:27:00 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/#comment-264902 Ok so i have to tell my boss in the morning that i am done i got a better job aford to me today and it was one of them one where it was you had to let them know right now if you wanted it and of course i need something different my current job i am at i have been at for 7 years and my hours got cut and i didnt work this past summer and could not collect unemployment and my income is what my family is living off right now and the job i can get more hours and it is all year long i feel bad for not being able to give a two week notice but i have been looking sent june for a different job so i know that she has had to receive calls about it and this should not be a suprise to her but i feel bad and why do i it not like they have been very nice in the last year. Ok so i have to tell my boss in the morning that i am done i got a better job aford to me today and it was one of them one where it was you had to let them know right now if you wanted it and of course i need something different my current job i am at i have been at for 7 years and my hours got cut and i didnt work this past summer and could not collect unemployment and my income is what my family is living off right now and the job i can get more hours and it is all year long i feel bad for not being able to give a two week notice but i have been looking sent june for a different job so i know that she has had to receive calls about it and this should not be a suprise to her but i feel bad and why do i it not like they have been very nice in the last year.

]]> By: Kiosha Gregg http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/comment-page-1/#comment-262340 Kiosha Gregg Thu, 06 Oct 2011 16:56:00 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/#comment-262340 This was very, very helpful. I am dealing with this issue now. This was very, very helpful. I am dealing with this issue now.

]]> By: rogers beasley http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/comment-page-1/#comment-260127 rogers beasley Tue, 13 Sep 2011 03:26:00 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/#comment-260127 awesome article. i am interviewing in the morning with a top 25 company for double what i currently earn, the type of work i look forward to doing and full benefits. unfortunately i work in a very small, tight knit company that has sort of become family and i am having extreme guilt.  the reality is i very much depended on and make one of the lowest salaries in the office yet i was feeling guilty...(sucker) thanks for the article. it has gotten me refocused for my interview tomorrow. awesome article. i am interviewing in the morning with a top 25 company for double what i currently earn, the type of work i look forward to doing and full benefits. unfortunately i work in a very small, tight knit company that has sort of become family and i am having extreme guilt. 

the reality is i very much depended on and make one of the lowest salaries in the office yet i was feeling guilty…(sucker)

thanks for the article. it has gotten me refocused for my interview tomorrow.

]]> By: Natalie http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/comment-page-1/#comment-257725 Natalie Wed, 10 Aug 2011 18:27:25 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/#comment-257725 Hello Penelope, Just wanted to let you know, first of all, I get a kick out of reading your blog. Your advice is inspiring and can make anyone think twice, your mini-stories are entertaining as well. Ok, so here goes I'm 20 years old and I've been coming back to your blog and re-reading the same posts. Why? Do you ask, see the thing is (you can call me crazy if you want to) I've realized that I don't know exactly what I want. Let me elaborate, I currently work in what I call hell I absolutely hate my job and I admit that. I took this job for the sole purposes of money, I wanted to start "living my life" as they say. In these past couple of months I've realized everything I had planned out for myself, I'm not sure I want to do that anymore. It's as if I have a dense fog in my head and I can't see in front of me. I've thought about quitting my job and taking some time to, I guess figure out what the hell I want but, guilt sets in. I feel not only guilt, I also feel worried that I'll get distracted and then I have my mother who's going to be breathing down my neck about when I'm getting another job. I think way to much, usually not the best-case scenario's. I try to express everything in my blog, how I'm feeling at the moment. I can say I'm extremely confused and my mom isn't exactly someone I can talk to about it. Any suggestions? Thanks in advance. Hello Penelope,

Just wanted to let you know, first of all, I get a kick out of reading your blog. Your advice is inspiring and can make anyone think twice, your mini-stories are entertaining as well.

Ok, so here goes I'm 20 years old and I've been coming back to your blog and re-reading the same posts. Why? Do you ask, see the thing is (you can call me crazy if you want to) I've realized that I don't know exactly what I want. Let me elaborate, I currently work in what I call hell I absolutely hate my job and I admit that. I took this job for the sole purposes of money, I wanted to start "living my life" as they say. In these past couple of months I've realized everything I had planned out for myself, I'm not sure I want to do that anymore. It's as if I have a dense fog in my head and I can't see in front of me. I've thought about quitting my job and taking some time to, I guess figure out what the hell I want but, guilt sets in. I feel not only guilt, I also feel worried that I'll get distracted and then I have my mother who's going to be breathing down my neck about when I'm getting another job. I think way to much, usually not the best-case scenario's. I try to express everything in my blog, how I'm feeling at the moment. I can say I'm extremely confused and my mom isn't exactly someone I can talk to about it. Any suggestions? Thanks in advance.

]]> By: DrFreeman http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/comment-page-1/#comment-252700 DrFreeman Thu, 09 Jun 2011 23:09:08 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/#comment-252700 Penelope, Thanks for this, I have been sitting here stewing for half an hour now because I have to quit my job in the morning to go to a new one and give my two weeks. Your article cemented a perspective I have always believed but didn't seem to take personally until now. Thanks. Penelope,

Thanks for this, I have been sitting here stewing for half an hour now because I have to quit my job in the morning to go to a new one and give my two weeks.

Your article cemented a perspective I have always believed but didn't seem to take personally until now. Thanks.

]]> By: Anamika http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/comment-page-1/#comment-230491 Anamika Mon, 02 Aug 2010 06:57:34 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/#comment-230491 Hi! Thank you so much for your post Penelope! I'm 25 years old and I resigned from my job of 1 year just yesterday. I still feel this guilt eating away at the pit of my stomach, even though I should be out, celebrating; I will be starting my MS/PhD program this fall. Unlike most people, I had a really bad boss; my nicname for her is "dragonista". She is as self-centered as they get. Even though ours was an educational institution, she didn't seem the least bit interested that I was quitting to pursue my academics to do research in a subject that means a lot to me (diabetics with heart issues). I don't get why I still feel guilty for leaving. This woman slashed 5K from my initial offer because she 'changed her mind', offered me healthcare initially and then went back on her word and then refused to pay me for overtime. I LOVEd my job. I loved teaching the kids and making a difference in their lives. I've never felt so passionate about a job ever before. But I couldn't pass off the opportunity to earn my PhD in 5 years, at a good school, good research, with funding! Why couldn't she see that? How could I have expected her to!? I really didn't want to burn this bridge but I feel like there was no other way out. I am going to miss my students the most. I really felt like I made a difference with some of them. Also, being a small company of less than ten people, I was an important component and I feel as though I let them down, bigtime. Hi! Thank you so much for your post Penelope! I'm 25 years old and I resigned from my job of 1 year just yesterday. I still feel this guilt eating away at the pit of my stomach, even though I should be out, celebrating; I will be starting my MS/PhD program this fall.
Unlike most people, I had a really bad boss; my nicname for her is "dragonista". She is as self-centered as they get. Even though ours was an educational institution, she didn't seem the least bit interested that I was quitting to pursue my academics to do research in a subject that means a lot to me (diabetics with heart issues). I don't get why I still feel guilty for leaving. This woman slashed 5K from my initial offer because she 'changed her mind', offered me healthcare initially and then went back on her word and then refused to pay me for overtime. I LOVEd my job. I loved teaching the kids and making a difference in their lives. I've never felt so passionate about a job ever before. But I couldn't pass off the opportunity to earn my PhD in 5 years, at a good school, good research, with funding! Why couldn't she see that? How could I have expected her to!? I really didn't want to burn this bridge but I feel like there was no other way out. I am going to miss my students the most. I really felt like I made a difference with some of them. Also, being a small company of less than ten people, I was an important component and I feel as though I let them down, bigtime.

]]> By: Melissa http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/comment-page-1/#comment-228267 Melissa Thu, 27 May 2010 17:36:08 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/#comment-228267 Thank you, thank you. This describes me exactly. I've been with my job for over a year now, and I'm about to take another job. I haven't told my boss yet, because I can't figure out how to tell her. I keep getting these overwhelming feelings of guilt about leaving the people and worrying about what they'll do once I'm gone. This post helped me put things into perspective and I feel much less guilty. Thank you. Thank you, thank you. This describes me exactly. I've been with my job for over a year now, and I'm about to take another job. I haven't told my boss yet, because I can't figure out how to tell her. I keep getting these overwhelming feelings of guilt about leaving the people and worrying about what they'll do once I'm gone.

This post helped me put things into perspective and I feel much less guilty. Thank you.

]]> By: tryingtoquit http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/comment-page-1/#comment-227617 tryingtoquit Mon, 10 May 2010 07:49:39 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/#comment-227617 I'm a Gen Y, I'm 22 years old and I resigned my job last week in writing & gave 4 weeks notice? and now my boss is trying to force me to resign early. I've worked here for 2 years and last december I tried to resign but my boss made me feel guilty about leaving because then she wouldnt be able to take a holiday in the new year for a month, As she needs me to run the office. So we came to a verbal agreement that I would work up until her return and then give my four weeks notice, finish up and hand over my projects at the end of that four week term. I have 3 weeks left to go and today I requested a leave day to go for a job interview and she reacted in saying that she didnt realise i was job hunting (as she has been hinting at giving me a part time position once my current contract is up) however since nothing has been confirmed naturally i am looking for work in other places. In this same conversation regarding the fact that she was unware that i was job hunting she then told me she didnt want to waste her money on me and if i wasnt going to do the work properly for the next 3 weeks i might as well just walk out now. Later on in the day another conversation was had along these same lines. I havent made any major errors and my work ethic hasnt changed even though I am leaving in a few weeks, I am happy to finish up my work there as usual but I feel like she is trying to force me out so that she doesnt have to pay me for the remander of notice. How do I deal with this. If she fires me before my notice is up does she still have to pay me up to that date? Helllpppp I dont want to walk out obviously as thats going to be 2 yrs of my career down the drain, how can i deal with this? I am in NSW Australia I'm a Gen Y, I'm 22 years old and I resigned my job last week in writing & gave 4 weeks notice?
and now my boss is trying to force me to resign early.
I've worked here for 2 years and last december I tried to resign but my boss made me feel guilty about leaving because then she wouldnt be able to take a holiday in the new year for a month, As she needs me to run the office. So we came to a verbal agreement that I would work up until her return and then give my four weeks notice, finish up and hand over my projects at the end of that four week term.
I have 3 weeks left to go and today I requested a leave day to go for a job interview and she reacted in saying that she didnt realise i was job hunting (as she has been hinting at giving me a part time position once my current contract is up) however since nothing has been confirmed naturally i am looking for work in other places. In this same conversation regarding the fact that she was unware that i was job hunting she then told me she didnt want to waste her money on me and if i wasnt going to do the work properly for the next 3 weeks i might as well just walk out now.
Later on in the day another conversation was had along these same lines. I havent made any major errors and my work ethic hasnt changed even though I am leaving in a few weeks, I am happy to finish up my work there as usual but I feel like she is trying to force me out so that she doesnt have to pay me for the remander of notice. How do I deal with this. If she fires me before my notice is up does she still have to pay me up to that date?
Helllpppp I dont want to walk out obviously as thats going to be 2 yrs of my career down the drain, how can i deal with this?

I am in NSW Australia

]]> By: Matt http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/comment-page-1/#comment-171081 Matt Tue, 30 Sep 2008 11:05:50 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/09/12/five-ways-to-feel-less-guilty-quitting-%e2%80%93-and-why-gen-y-feels-guilt-giving-notice/#comment-171081 Hi, Great post, but I did accept the counter offer. Really regret it and now want out. But I feel real bad that I'm mucking everyone around. How do I resign well? Hi,

Great post, but I did accept the counter offer. Really regret it and now want out. But I feel real bad that I'm mucking everyone around. How do I resign well?

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