Comments on: How to start a quality conversation with someone you don’t know http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Sun, 20 Jul 2008 11:10:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: 如何吸引别人的兴趣 - One Leo http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-147878 如何吸引别人的兴趣 - One Leo Sun, 25 May 2008 06:26:59 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-147878 [...] while back I wrote about Moira Gunn, and how she is good at interviewing people because she can find what’s [...] […] while back I wrote about Moira Gunn, and how she is good at interviewing people because she can find what’s […]

]]> By: farouk http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-143561 farouk Fri, 11 Apr 2008 08:59:52 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-143561 interesting topic, i agree with ivan interesting topic, i agree with ivan

]]> By: Mark W. http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-135522 Mark W. Mon, 11 Feb 2008 03:57:35 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-135522 Here's the other side of the coin that can be even more challenging - a quality conversation with someone you've known for a long time. You know their likes and dislikes, interests, habits, etc. so well that finding a 'new topic' can be difficult. You ask what's new in their life and then you go over what you've been doing lately. There's times I can only go so far and then I'm drawing blanks as to what the next topic of discussion should be. If both people are experiencing this predicament at the same time, it really gets to be awkward. This other side of the coin challenge is to maintain a lively and interesting conversation. Sometimes and with some people it will take nearly no effort at all. However there are those times when I really have to work at it by truly listening and being engaged in the conversation. Maybe all that is required is to use the same skills as you would with someone you don't know on someone you do know but in a different way or direction. Here’s the other side of the coin that can be even more challenging - a quality conversation with someone you’ve known for a long time. You know their likes and dislikes, interests, habits, etc. so well that finding a ‘new topic’ can be difficult. You ask what’s new in their life and then you go over what you’ve been doing lately. There’s times I can only go so far and then I’m drawing blanks as to what the next topic of discussion should be. If both people are experiencing this predicament at the same time, it really gets to be awkward. This other side of the coin challenge is to maintain a lively and interesting conversation. Sometimes and with some people it will take nearly no effort at all. However there are those times when I really have to work at it by truly listening and being engaged in the conversation. Maybe all that is required is to use the same skills as you would with someone you don’t know on someone you do know but in a different way or direction.

]]> By: jrandom42 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-134252 jrandom42 Thu, 17 Jan 2008 17:47:42 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-134252 As an introverted adult Asperger, running through an open field with an entire regiment of the North Vietnamese Regular Army shooting a month's worth of ammunition in 30 seconds at me, is far preferable to attempting to strike up a conversation with someone I don't know. Guess I'm really screwed, aren't I? As an introverted adult Asperger, running through an open field with an entire regiment of the North Vietnamese Regular Army shooting a month’s worth of ammunition in 30 seconds at me, is far preferable to attempting to strike up a conversation with someone I don’t know.

Guess I’m really screwed, aren’t I?

]]> By: Networking for Shy People | Cube Rules http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-118506 Networking for Shy People | Cube Rules Thu, 06 Dec 2007 18:16:14 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-118506 [...] It’s a serious issue, especially talking to people one on one. But Penelope Trunk offered some good advice in how to start a quality conversation with someone you don’t know. [...] […] It’s a serious issue, especially talking to people one on one. But Penelope Trunk offered some good advice in how to start a quality conversation with someone you don’t know. […]

]]> By: Modite - 7 steps to getting meetings with movers and shakers http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-113111 Modite - 7 steps to getting meetings with movers and shakers Mon, 26 Nov 2007 18:35:52 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-113111 [...] and Celebrity #3. Must they cluster? Go and introduce yourself anyway. You are not a chicken. Go! You don’t have to have a lot to say. Just introduce yourself, set the stage for a meeting, and gracefully [...] […] and Celebrity #3. Must they cluster? Go and introduce yourself anyway. You are not a chicken. Go! You don’t have to have a lot to say. Just introduce yourself, set the stage for a meeting, and gracefully […]

]]> By: Queercents » Networking and Self-Marketing, Meet the Thriving Introvert (Part 1 of a 2 Part Series) http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-108818 Queercents » Networking and Self-Marketing, Meet the Thriving Introvert (Part 1 of a 2 Part Series) Thu, 27 Sep 2007 01:35:35 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-108818 [...] for trying to discover interesting things about other people, something Penelope suggests in “How to start a quality conversation with someone you don’t know.” Basically, show people that you care to listen about what’s important to them; worry less [...] […] for trying to discover interesting things about other people, something Penelope suggests in “How to start a quality conversation with someone you don’t know.” Basically, show people that you care to listen about what’s important to them; worry less […]

]]> By: melanie gao http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-103700 melanie gao Wed, 11 Jul 2007 14:44:22 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-103700 Charity I love your analogy - striking a conversation with someone unknown is like opening a package and not knowing what to expect. I will think of that next time I approach someone to start a conversation. Charity I love your analogy - striking a conversation with someone unknown is like opening a package and not knowing what to expect. I will think of that next time I approach someone to start a conversation.

]]> By: Charity Mudzongo http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-103693 Charity Mudzongo Wed, 11 Jul 2007 09:42:44 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-103693 I have learnt never to pre-judge people negatively before striking a conversation because sometimes, they can actually see it through me and it affects the conversation altogether. Striking a conversation with someone unknown is almost like opening a package and not knowing what to expect inside until its opened.... I have learnt never to pre-judge people negatively before striking a conversation because sometimes, they can actually see it through me and it affects the conversation altogether. Striking a conversation with someone unknown is almost like opening a package and not knowing what to expect inside until its opened….

]]> By: Charity Mudzongo http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-103692 Charity Mudzongo Wed, 11 Jul 2007 09:32:40 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-103692 I have also found that it is important not to pre-judge people before striking a conversation, I have often been left dumbfolded and amazed at how wrong I had been in my pre-judgement. People are not always what they seems.... I have also found that it is important not to pre-judge people before striking a conversation, I have often been left dumbfolded and amazed at how wrong I had been in my pre-judgement. People are not always what they seems….

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