Comments on: How to start a quality conversation with someone you don't know http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Thu, 18 Mar 2010 20:16:01 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: tara http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/comment-page-1/#comment-219523 tara Fri, 29 Jan 2010 07:02:59 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-219523 I have the same problem. Also, when i really look people in the eye and listen, I find they usually stop looking at me and forget to be interested in me too. Conversation bores me. It gets to the point where I will forcefully try to act a different way to see if I can manipulate the conversation. Its kind of like my life becomes an act...? if that makes sense. I have the same problem. Also, when i really look people in the eye and listen, I find they usually stop looking at me and forget to be interested in me too. Conversation bores me. It gets to the point where I will forcefully try to act a different way to see if I can manipulate the conversation. Its kind of like my life becomes an act…? if that makes sense.

]]> By: Know your inventory – targeting an audience « Navegating (work) life in Barcelona. Sustainably. http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/comment-page-1/#comment-216512 Know your inventory – targeting an audience « Navegating (work) life in Barcelona. Sustainably. Thu, 17 Dec 2009 05:51:17 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-216512 [...] to understand what the other person is interested in (behavioral) or what s/he wants to talk about at this moment (contextual). Once you understand [...] [...] to understand what the other person is interested in (behavioral) or what s/he wants to talk about at this moment (contextual). Once you understand [...]

]]> By: Party With Old People Over The Holidays, It Might Land You A Job « { Brian J. Jensen } http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/comment-page-1/#comment-216261 Party With Old People Over The Holidays, It Might Land You A Job « { Brian J. Jensen } Sat, 12 Dec 2009 23:05:31 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-216261 [...] so mentally prepare a short, engaging update including keywords that will strike their interest and lead to further conversation. Lastly, don’t forget to look good, lay off the booze and laugh at jokes. With some holiday luck [...] [...] so mentally prepare a short, engaging update including keywords that will strike their interest and lead to further conversation. Lastly, don’t forget to look good, lay off the booze and laugh at jokes. With some holiday luck [...]

]]> By: maysam http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/comment-page-1/#comment-214734 maysam Mon, 23 Nov 2009 21:44:44 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-214734 i realized tht um not a good communicator with my x..he was always angry cuz i dunn talk a lot.otherwise my freinds enjoy my company they say that am funny nd intresting..when it refers to guys i cant be comfortable,i have a date after 2 days with a very hot guy he is my boss he works in the feild of modeling,he is showing intrest bt i dunn knw if he knws me more this will grow,or by silence nd insuitable words its gunna work good. i realized tht um not a good communicator with my x..he was always angry cuz i dunn talk a lot.otherwise my freinds enjoy my company they say that am funny nd intresting..when it refers to guys i cant be comfortable,i have a date after 2 days with a very hot guy he is my boss he works in the feild of modeling,he is showing intrest bt i dunn knw if he knws me more this will grow,or by silence nd insuitable words its gunna work good.

]]> By: MarkMontoya.com » Blog Archive » 4 Lies about social media http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/comment-page-1/#comment-213889 MarkMontoya.com » Blog Archive » 4 Lies about social media Wed, 11 Nov 2009 03:15:23 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-213889 [...] what you cannot do on LinkedIn is build a network. Networks are built on relationships, which grow from conversation. LinkedIn is not for conversations. So you need to go somewhere else to build your network, and [...] [...] what you cannot do on LinkedIn is build a network. Networks are built on relationships, which grow from conversation. LinkedIn is not for conversations. So you need to go somewhere else to build your network, and [...]

]]> By: Sales Engineer http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/comment-page-1/#comment-188291 Sales Engineer Sun, 28 Jun 2009 20:54:13 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-188291 For those who don't yet know and use them, the best words to develop a conversation are 'How' and 'What'. They begin open questions and lead to informative answers. If you add some insightful comments, it doesn't take long for rapport to develop. One caution, you may find yourself to a long monologue and you will need some more <a href="http://seviourbooks.com/articles-by-robert-seviour.htm" rel="nofollow">linguistic tools</a> to deal with this if you have an 'agenda' of your own. For those who don't yet know and use them, the best words to develop a conversation are 'How' and 'What'. They begin open questions and lead to informative answers. If you add some insightful comments, it doesn't take long for rapport to develop.

One caution, you may find yourself to a long monologue and you will need some more linguistic tools to deal with this if you have an 'agenda' of your own.

]]> By: Mirce http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/comment-page-1/#comment-181292 Mirce Fri, 20 Feb 2009 22:11:23 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-181292 Nice said! I'm a kind of introverted..what introverted? I have social phobia to be precise and it is really difficult to make it in the current society. This condition happens mostly during the winter and on parties/trips. Otherwise, I can act normal! WHen I see how others manage to talk about something interesting my mind goes like a new CD. Then I spend hours thinking about that I can not put 2 words together :) What can be done in this situation? Nice said! I'm a kind of introverted..what introverted? I have social phobia to be precise and it is really difficult to make it in the current society.
This condition happens mostly during the winter and on parties/trips. Otherwise, I can act normal!
WHen I see how others manage to talk about something interesting my mind goes like a new CD. Then I spend hours thinking about that I can not put 2 words together :)
What can be done in this situation?

]]> By: Allan Bacon http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/comment-page-1/#comment-179592 Allan Bacon Tue, 20 Jan 2009 00:47:47 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-179592 I love meeting new people & am naturally curious, so this is something that comes easily to me. What works for me is finding areas of common interest. This is especially true when I meet new people (like on a flight, or on a business trip). I just keep asking questions about the topics that interest me. I think that "Everyone is cool" and that if you keep talking, you'll get to what that cool thing is. Starting with "where are you from?" and going from there is great - I just think of everyone as an expert in something - and I just have to keep asking. So if they are from New York, I ask about some things that I saw there on a vacation. I ask anything i've ever wondered about NY. If they are an NFL ref (this happened one time), I ask about what happens when they blow a call, how do they get assigned to games, how do they get into refereeing. It's always amazing what you'll find out if you come from a place of curiousity. But you have to be willing to steer the conversation to the things that interest you. I love meeting new people & am naturally curious, so this is something that comes easily to me.

What works for me is finding areas of common interest. This is especially true when I meet new people (like on a flight, or on a business trip). I just keep asking questions about the topics that interest me.

I think that "Everyone is cool" and that if you keep talking, you'll get to what that cool thing is.

Starting with "where are you from?" and going from there is great – I just think of everyone as an expert in something – and I just have to keep asking. So if they are from New York, I ask about some things that I saw there on a vacation. I ask anything i've ever wondered about NY.

If they are an NFL ref (this happened one time), I ask about what happens when they blow a call, how do they get assigned to games, how do they get into refereeing.

It's always amazing what you'll find out if you come from a place of curiousity. But you have to be willing to steer the conversation to the things that interest you.

]]> By: Engineering soft skills and stepping outside your circle of competence | Chris Gammell's Analog Life http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/comment-page-1/#comment-172103 Engineering soft skills and stepping outside your circle of competence | Chris Gammell's Analog Life Wed, 22 Oct 2008 02:23:39 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-172103 [...] You know what you do a lot of at conventions? You stand around a lot. You know what else you do? You make small talk with strangers. But the skill here is learning how to open people up to talking about more than the OSU football [...] [...] You know what you do a lot of at conventions? You stand around a lot. You know what else you do? You make small talk with strangers. But the skill here is learning how to open people up to talking about more than the OSU football [...]

]]> By: 如何吸引别人的兴趣 - One Leo http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/comment-page-1/#comment-147878 如何吸引别人的兴趣 - One Leo Sun, 25 May 2008 06:26:59 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/09/how-to-start-a-quality-conversation-with-someone-you-dont-know/#comment-147878 [...] while back I wrote about Moira Gunn, and how she is good at interviewing people because she can find what’s [...] [...] while back I wrote about Moira Gunn, and how she is good at interviewing people because she can find what’s [...]

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