Comments on: My first day of marriage counseling http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Fri, 19 Mar 2010 22:36:18 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Tanya http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/comment-page-5/#comment-221888 Tanya Tue, 02 Mar 2010 06:59:59 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/#comment-221888 Wow! You are a good writer. That was beautiful. I've been there. I know what you are saying. I dont know how this turned out for you yet as I see this is an older article.. but one thing for sure.. You are lucky... at least he turned up! Though I desperately loved my spouse and tried my best to organize counseling, I could never get him to one solitary session. My spouse just left me one day... and that was it! It has literally taken me years to get over (if I am yet??) the terrible shock, humiliation, disappointment, anger, rejection, betrayal.. God I could go on all day.. that I have felt. Thanks for your nice writing! ;) Wow! You are a good writer. That was beautiful. I've been there. I know what you are saying. I dont know how this turned out for you yet as I see this is an older article.. but one thing for sure.. You are lucky… at least he turned up!

Though I desperately loved my spouse and tried my best to organize counseling, I could never get him to one solitary session. My spouse just left me one day… and that was it! It has literally taken me years to get over (if I am yet??) the terrible shock, humiliation, disappointment, anger, rejection, betrayal.. God I could go on all day.. that I have felt.

Thanks for your nice writing! ;)

]]> By: sadya http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/comment-page-5/#comment-221528 sadya Wed, 24 Feb 2010 12:31:22 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/#comment-221528 you know its a good thing you redesigned/re-categorized your blog , otherwise i wouldn't have stumbled on this blog entry. I wonder what you think about this entry of yours now , especially the comments from all those guys concerned about your then husband's privacy. i think i like your comment better than your post - that life is lonely, and though I'm single , i can see all around me that marriage is lonely too. you know its a good thing you redesigned/re-categorized your blog , otherwise i wouldn't have stumbled on this blog entry. I wonder what you think about this entry of yours now , especially the comments from all those guys concerned about your then husband's privacy. i think i like your comment better than your post – that life is lonely, and though I'm single , i can see all around me that marriage is lonely too.

]]> By: Ivan http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/comment-page-5/#comment-221526 Ivan Wed, 24 Feb 2010 11:33:37 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/#comment-221526 Wow, over the top blog post Wow, over the top blog post

]]> By: Maria http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/comment-page-5/#comment-221525 Maria Wed, 24 Feb 2010 11:30:48 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/#comment-221525 This is really a superb article, thanks This is really a superb article, thanks

]]> By: Why do I love Penelope Trunk? | Blog post about another gal's blog posts | Flackrabbit: PR Flack / Writer / Geek http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/comment-page-5/#comment-219945 Why do I love Penelope Trunk? | Blog post about another gal's blog posts | Flackrabbit: PR Flack / Writer / Geek Wed, 03 Feb 2010 00:18:03 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/#comment-219945 [...] she’s doling out career advice and the next she’s giving you the play by play on her marriage counseling sessions. Then there was her farmer. And then there wasn’t. You won’t have to wonder [...] [...] she's doling out career advice and the next she's giving you the play by play on her marriage counseling sessions. Then there was her farmer. And then there wasn't. You won't have to wonder [...]

]]> By: Brandon http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/comment-page-1/#comment-209390 Brandon Sat, 10 Oct 2009 16:11:29 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/#comment-209390 Awesome post man. You gave me some food for thought. My wife had an affair and we are in the fire. I am a Christian man and dont believe in divorce. I too was a stay at home dad and experienced some of what you shared. Great post. Awesome post man. You gave me some food for thought. My wife had an affair and we are in the fire. I am a Christian man and dont believe in divorce. I too was a stay at home dad and experienced some of what you shared. Great post.

]]> By: Much Ado about Penelope Trunk’s Miscarriage | The Personal Finance Playbook http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/comment-page-5/#comment-205888 Much Ado about Penelope Trunk’s Miscarriage | The Personal Finance Playbook Fri, 02 Oct 2009 10:06:44 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/#comment-205888 [...] her writing. Every once in awhile, she writes something that’s thoughtful and touching and sad and beautiful. I love that she’s honest and vulnerable (and indecisive) about things that I [...] [...] her writing. Every once in awhile, she writes something that's thoughtful and touching and sad and beautiful. I love that she's honest and vulnerable (and indecisive) about things that I [...]

]]> By: wood folding chairs http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/comment-page-5/#comment-200369 wood folding chairs Wed, 16 Sep 2009 15:41:27 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/#comment-200369 Going through marriage counseling is never easy. The bottom line here is the ego of both spouses. Either one has to master the art of giving way when the situation call for it. Who says that marriage is an easy thing? Going through marriage counseling is never easy. The bottom line here is the ego of both spouses. Either one has to master the art of giving way when the situation call for it. Who says that marriage is an easy thing?

]]> By: D. James Rice http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/comment-page-5/#comment-197175 D. James Rice Fri, 04 Sep 2009 18:00:30 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/#comment-197175 Some sort of marriage counseling is needed in all marriages... You just need to figure out which works best for you... Marriage counseling is always a click away.. Some sort of marriage counseling is needed in all marriages… You just need to figure out which works best for you… Marriage counseling is always a click away..

]]> By: Cindy http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/comment-page-5/#comment-190424 Cindy Mon, 10 Aug 2009 12:12:59 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/07/05/my-first-day-of-marriage-counseling/#comment-190424 I discovered you a few months ago and I can't rip my eyes away, even when I disagree. This one I sought out tonight, this morning actually, at 5.53 AM as I'm pulling myself together to face a day of building my business, be "present" for my sons, look for a job for "right now" money while I build my business, put up with their teen attitude, having just seen their grandfather, my ex's dad, show up for his once yearly visit pretending everything is okay even though his grandchildren have zero relationship with his son, their dad, and I'm facing foreclosure, short sale, bankruptcy or whatever direction I choose because his son, is completely disconnected from his children and doesn't care. The legal system is a joke. I'm done. I'm into survival mode. He'd look at it as a victory if I fell apart. Even so, there I was with the boys making nice for their sake. I even spend holidays taking my boys to see their dad's side of the family because it seems like the right thing to do. I'm changing my mind about that right at about the 5 year mark of being divorced from him, facing all that I do. You have a lot of ambition. You were definitely the alpha male in your relationship, yet, yet, you are the one who thinks about their violin lessons and everything else. What the heck? Why do we buy into this? Why? Because we'd kill for our children and even the best of men, who would knock down walls for their own, can't emulate what comes naturally to a woman who is a mom. Cindy I discovered you a few months ago and I can't rip my eyes away, even when I disagree. This one I sought out tonight, this morning actually, at 5.53 AM as I'm pulling myself together to face a day of building my business, be "present" for my sons, look for a job for "right now" money while I build my business, put up with their teen attitude, having just seen their grandfather, my ex's dad, show up for his once yearly visit pretending everything is okay even though his grandchildren have zero relationship with his son, their dad, and I'm facing foreclosure, short sale, bankruptcy or whatever direction I choose because his son, is completely disconnected from his children and doesn't care. The legal system is a joke. I'm done. I'm into survival mode. He'd look at it as a victory if I fell apart.

Even so, there I was with the boys making nice for their sake. I even spend holidays taking my boys to see their dad's side of the family because it seems like the right thing to do. I'm changing my mind about that right at about the 5 year mark of being divorced from him, facing all that I do.

You have a lot of ambition. You were definitely the alpha male in your relationship, yet, yet, you are the one who thinks about their violin lessons and everything else.

What the heck? Why do we buy into this? Why? Because we'd kill for our children and even the best of men, who would knock down walls for their own, can't emulate what comes naturally to a woman who is a mom.

Cindy

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