Comments on: Use self-esteem as a career tool

By: Queercents » Coaching is an Investment Not an Expense

Queercents » Coaching is an Investment Not an Expense — Mon, 08 Oct 2007 19:09:07 +0000

[…] up in addition to my personal experience. Penelope Trunk makes several great points in her take on “Using self esteem as a career tool”: Some of you will argue that celebrity status has nothing to do with self-esteem. But I can’t […]

By: maol symbolisch » Selbstwertgefühl als Karrierehilfe

maol symbolisch » Selbstwertgefühl als Karrierehilfe — Sat, 21 Apr 2007 08:22:25 +0000

[…] Penelope Trunk vom Brazen Careerist in Use self-esteem as a career tool darüber, wie wichtig Selbstwertgefühl und Achtung der eigenen Stärken und Schwächen für jeden einzelnen ist. Beeindruckt hat mich folgende Beobachtung: I think self-esteem will be different soon. After all, millenniels are the self-esteem generation, and maybe they will commodify self-esteem in a way that is not even accessible to Seth or me. Their parents brought them up with the idea that the most important thing was self-esteem - they played soccer games where everyone’s a winner becuase everybody played. […]

By: Devin Reams.com - Everyone is Watching

Devin Reams.com - Everyone is Watching — Fri, 06 Apr 2007 03:00:40 +0000

[…] We may think everyone cares about our every little detail. Perhaps we were brought up with a higher level of self esteem and self importance. We’re raised to believe that we’re all winners and we’re all important (Thanks, Mom). But, do people really care about what we’re always doing? […]

By: TOMAS

TOMAS — Thu, 05 Apr 2007 18:37:46 +0000

Nice post, but surely you can find two much-much-much better examples of individuals that embody a high sense of self-esteem. Paris Hilton is one person that I would not ask anyone to look up to.

By: Caitlin

Caitlin — Tue, 03 Apr 2007 14:22:00 +0000

The only thing more destructive than low self esteem is overly high self esteem. Self esteem should be based on respect for yourself and a healthy and realistic appraisal of your abilities and talents. Yet too often it’s based on blind self regard, a la Paris Hilton.

By: Paradox of Choice « One Life To Live….

Paradox of Choice « One Life To Live…. — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 08:09:09 +0000

[…] Paradox of Choice 1 04 2007 One word that I have been hearing much more often in recent times is ‘self-esteem’. There has been enough talk of self-esteem being an important component of the development of any individual. Be it the workplace or outside of it, I think that’s the only real thing that keeps people going. In this article, the part that struck me was “A lot of self-esteem is dependent on self-knowledge. Knowing what you want and what’s important to you”. […]

By: Chris Yeh

Chris Yeh — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 06:45:09 +0000

Penelope,

I’m fascinated by your link between millenials and the celebrity culture. It may certainly explain the reality TV explosion–after all, Gen Y clearly supplies most of its participants.

I do believe that you’re on to something. I recall reading an article about how our modern parenting style (along with the somewhat problematic emphasis on self-esteem as a means rather than an end) was much tougher on the parent and tended to produce kids who overestimated their abilities…the flip side was that those “arrogant” kids were much more likely to succeed in today’s free agent world.

I also think that the comments reveal a very real tendency to confuse self-confidence with arrogance. My own definition (still have yet to blog this post, but what the heck, I’ll use it here) is as follows:

Self-confidence means not worrying about what other people think of you.

Arrogance means not worrying about how other people feel about you.

The difference is subtle but enormous.

On a final note, I want to quote from the brilliant author Lois McMaster Bujold (http://chrisyeh.blogspot.com/2005/07/why-isnt-it-fun-to-read.html), who ends her Hugo-winning novel, “The Warrior’s Apprentice” with the following evaluation of the titular protagonist:

“I think he’ll make a terrible ensign. But he’ll make a fine general staff officer someday.”

* * * * * *
Love the distinction between self-confidence and arrogance. So true.

Penelope

By: tamar

tamar — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 21:50:01 +0000

Another word to add to the discussion on identifying and attaining self-esteem: humility. Humility has integrity, shares the light, and sparks others to become co-winners in the bid for healthy prosocial self-esteem.

By: Greg Paskill

Greg Paskill — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 20:54:19 +0000

One potential drawback about displaying a high sense of confidence is that it may label you as “difficult to manage.” In fact, some with high self-esteem may deliberately mask it from corporate view simply to land the job offer via that ingredient employers obsess about today: fit!

Employers may say in their job postings they want independent out-of-the-box thinkers and self-starters. Yet how long will a maverick last? Employers have their unwritten rules which say, “I will give you a job offer, a promotion, a plump assignment only if you love me back my way.”

You may indeed generate results. However, if you didn’t produce them according to rules and procedures (no matter how legal, ethical and industry-accepted your methods are), you do not get the 3 R’s of Respect, Reward and Recognition. And that’s the time you really need that high self-esteem to take your job hunting and performance skills elsewhere.

By: Karen

Karen — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 01:44:33 +0000

Just FYI, that whole breakup thing was a hoax. http://www.usatoday.com/tech/news/2007-02-27-youtube-hoax_x.htm?csp=34

I don’t agree with much in your blog. To have unshakeable confidence when everyone around you is calling you a horse’s rear end just shows a lack of introspection. Sometimes we need to honestly look at ourselves and, if necessary, go buy that saddle.

* * * * * * *

Oh, so upsetting about the hoax. But thanks for telling me.

-Penelope