Comments on: The long-distance relationship goes mainstream: 3 tips for survival http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:29:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Karr http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-270701 Karr Sat, 04 Feb 2012 22:56:32 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/#comment-270701 Penelope, What terrible job market are you talking about? I am a Gen Xers and college for most of us would have been done 1990-1996. They were prime time for jobs and unemployment was extrememly low. I can recall employers hiring people and being willing to train even for college graduate level jobs it was THAT good. Maybe you aren't really in sync with the time that gen Xers would have come out of school. It certainly was NOT a depressed market. My ex and I built a huge nestegg, bought not one but two homes, and had very stable employment. We lost that towards the end of the last decade, not the 90's. The 90's were a time for building. Our mistakes as Xers was thinking times would stay at least moderately similar like they were for our parents--we never anticipated a SEVERE recession. That said, my ex husband was a long distance relationship at first and I've been in one now for a few years since my divorce. The technology makes it easier, but the one I had with my ex was carried on in '94. Penelope,
What terrible job market are you talking about? I am a Gen Xers and college for most of us would have been done 1990-1996. They were prime time for jobs and unemployment was extrememly low. I can recall employers hiring people and being willing to train even for college graduate level jobs it was THAT good. Maybe you aren't really in sync with the time that gen Xers would have come out of school. It certainly was NOT a depressed market. My ex and I built a huge nestegg, bought not one but two homes, and had very stable employment. We lost that towards the end of the last decade, not the 90's. The 90's were a time for building. Our mistakes as Xers was thinking times would stay at least moderately similar like they were for our parents–we never anticipated a SEVERE recession. That said, my ex husband was a long distance relationship at first and I've been in one now for a few years since my divorce. The technology makes it easier, but the one I had with my ex was carried on in '94.

]]> By: Andriy http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-265908 Andriy Mon, 12 Dec 2011 17:45:03 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/#comment-265908 Long distance relationship is really hard. There are a lot of things that you have to consider even before you and your partner engage in this kind of set up. Most couples en up breaking up since they can't handle the pressure and distance between them. Long distance relationship is really hard. There are a lot of things that you have to consider even before you and your partner engage in this kind of set up. Most couples en up breaking up since they can't handle the pressure and distance between them.

]]> By: Samuel Christian http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-265313 Samuel Christian Tue, 06 Dec 2011 09:30:28 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/#comment-265313 Awesome blog, I enjoyed reading your articles. Awesome blog, I enjoyed reading your articles.

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]]> By: Rabbit Hutch http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-258545 Rabbit Hutch Mon, 22 Aug 2011 13:57:35 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/#comment-258545 Long distance relationship is really a tough call. There are a lot of sacrifices that needs to be done. There are a lot of things as well that you have to consider. One of the problems in long distance relationship is temptation since you or your partner can/may be easily tempted by people surrounding you. Another things that is very challenging is the communication. You have to have constant communication with your partner to settle things and also to talk about your relationship and also your daily life apart from each other. Long distance relationship is really a tough call. There are a lot of sacrifices that needs to be done. There are a lot of things as well that you have to consider. One of the problems in long distance relationship is temptation since you or your partner can/may be easily tempted by people surrounding you. Another things that is very challenging is the communication. You have to have constant communication with your partner to settle things and also to talk about your relationship and also your daily life apart from each other.

]]> By: Probiotics http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-257619 Probiotics Tue, 09 Aug 2011 17:19:39 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/#comment-257619 Being in a long distance relationship is really hard. There are a lot of things that you have to consider. However the main issue is how to constantly have good communication? For starters it is really hard, aside from the fact that you are apart from each other you have to make your partner happy despite the distance so you have to call each other every now and then and remind him/her how much you miss them. Always make an effort to contact them, that's what I have learned through my experience. And this article also help broaden/widen up my horizon in this matter. Thanks! Being in a long distance relationship is really hard. There are a lot of things that you have to consider. However the main issue is how to constantly have good communication? For starters it is really hard, aside from the fact that you are apart from each other you have to make your partner happy despite the distance so you have to call each other every now and then and remind him/her how much you miss them. Always make an effort to contact them, that's what I have learned through my experience. And this article also help broaden/widen up my horizon in this matter. Thanks!

]]> By: Sheila http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-253368 Sheila Tue, 21 Jun 2011 08:35:15 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/#comment-253368 This is one interesting write-up. I have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years. What we did when we were away is that we constantly call each other and chat on the internet just to overcome the distance. This is one interesting write-up. I have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years. What we did when we were away is that we constantly call each other and chat on the internet just to overcome the distance.

]]> By: trent http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-229163 trent Mon, 28 Jun 2010 11:40:37 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/18/the-long-distance-relationship-goes-mainstream-3-tips-for-survival/#comment-229163 hey jus responding to the post above...stay with the relationship..ive been in a ldr for 3 of 4 years being together...you said that u plan on moving to florida to be with him evenually...thats good that u have a plan...my advice would be to comit to moving there and really give the move a chance. speaking from experiance.. My girlfriend and i started dating in the last half of our senior year of highschool. We decided to make it work because we simply werent ready to end it. A great but tough decision. Not so much because i didnt love her but because being in a ldr scares me in a way. Anyway, we made it work for the first 2 years and we had both planned on her moving to my college town and going to a jc. She moved up and it was great but apperently it wasnt good enough for her to stay...towards the end of that year she told me that she was going back home to wait for me to graduate there. We decided to stay together and our relationship is going pretty good as we just hit 4 years a couple weeks ago. My only problem is that i still have angry feelings about her moving here for a year and then leaving...its as if she didn't like being with me enough to way out the things she missed from home...i know that i surrended a fantasy college life, with the women and the frat deal, but i gave that all up because i thought i would only have to be "that guy in a ldr" for 2 years!! i dont know i get mad at her for it still and i think part of me will always be upset with her decision to go back to our home state, cali. I graduate in two months and i plan to move home and start in my mind, a real relationship. After 4 years of college i can hapily say that i have never slept with another woman but i cant say i havnt thought about it. Theres been nights where ive gone out to the bars and have gotten to the point where a girl wants to take me home and ill always bail. I have made out with multaple girls (while drinking) but in my moments of weakness i never went further..in a way i feel like pushing that envelope keeps me confident in knowing that even though im in a long distance realtionship and have been off the market for a while,,,that i can still attract other women. Its not like i go out and look for this its jus sometimes it happens and i never know what to think... I dont kno wat i think about it all, sometime i guess i wish i had done things differently but then again i wouldnt have her,,sorry to ramble i dont do these ever and i randomly found myself googleing stuff about my relationship...first time in 4 years ive ever done that!! well thanks for reading, please let me kno that im not a dick boyfriend and that ill be allright...obviously ive got issues but i dont know why ive all of a sudden confronted the way i feel about everything...prob because i move to the same city REAL soon...anyways thanks hey jus responding to the post above…stay with the relationship..ive been in a ldr for 3 of 4 years being together…you said that u plan on moving to florida to be with him evenually…thats good that u have a plan…my advice would be to comit to moving there and really give the move a chance. speaking from experiance..

My girlfriend and i started dating in the last half of our senior year of highschool. We decided to make it work because we simply werent ready to end it. A great but tough decision. Not so much because i didnt love her but because being in a ldr scares me in a way. Anyway, we made it work for the first 2 years and we had both planned on her moving to my college town and going to a jc. She moved up and it was great but apperently it wasnt good enough for her to stay…towards the end of that year she told me that she was going back home to wait for me to graduate there. We decided to stay together and our relationship is going pretty good as we just hit 4 years a couple weeks ago.

My only problem is that i still have angry feelings about her moving here for a year and then leaving…its as if she didn't like being with me enough to way out the things she missed from home…i know that i surrended a fantasy college life, with the women and the frat deal, but i gave that all up because i thought i would only have to be "that guy in a ldr" for 2 years!! i dont know i get mad at her for it still and i think part of me will always be upset with her decision to go back to our home state, cali. I graduate in two months and i plan to move home and start in my mind, a real relationship.

After 4 years of college i can hapily say that i have never slept with another woman but i cant say i havnt thought about it. Theres been nights where ive gone out to the bars and have gotten to the point where a girl wants to take me home and ill always bail. I have made out with multaple girls (while drinking) but in my moments of weakness i never went further..in a way i feel like pushing that envelope keeps me confident in knowing that even though im in a long distance realtionship and have been off the market for a while,,,that i can still attract other women. Its not like i go out and look for this its jus sometimes it happens and i never know what to think…

I dont kno wat i think about it all, sometime i guess i wish i had done things differently but then again i wouldnt have her,,sorry to ramble i dont do these ever and i randomly found myself googleing stuff about my relationship…first time in 4 years ive ever done that!! well thanks for reading, please let me kno that im not a dick boyfriend and that ill be allright…obviously ive got issues but i dont know why ive all of a sudden confronted the way i feel about everything…prob because i move to the same city REAL soon…anyways thanks

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