Comments on: Don't tell me about admirable moms http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Sun, 21 Mar 2010 13:59:21 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Alora http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/comment-page-1/#comment-179527 Alora Sun, 18 Jan 2009 03:37:07 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-179527 I would be careful of that assumption. The thing I most remember about my mother is that she tried to hide from the things that she didn't like about her life by being a mother. Instead of genuinely being happy as a parent, she was desperate at being unhappy in her life and not having an identity she was happy with that wasn't entirely defined by either her husband or kids. Twenty years after her death, the lesson I learned most from my mother is that if you can't find some way to make yourself happy -- whether it's work or anything else -- trying to hide out from your failures in life by focusing exclusively on parenting doesn't work. It doesn't make you happy, and your kids know you are living a lie. I would be careful of that assumption. The thing I most remember about my mother is that she tried to hide from the things that she didn't like about her life by being a mother. Instead of genuinely being happy as a parent, she was desperate at being unhappy in her life and not having an identity she was happy with that wasn't entirely defined by either her husband or kids. Twenty years after her death, the lesson I learned most from my mother is that if you can't find some way to make yourself happy — whether it's work or anything else — trying to hide out from your failures in life by focusing exclusively on parenting doesn't work. It doesn't make you happy, and your kids know you are living a lie.

]]> By: Forgotten Meme « Cost of Living http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/comment-page-1/#comment-173750 Forgotten Meme « Cost of Living Tue, 25 Nov 2008 19:06:12 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-173750 [...] Real moms do not mince words when they present the [...] [...] Real moms do not mince words when they present the [...]

]]> By: The real mom meme « Madness. Mommified. http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/comment-page-1/#comment-173168 The real mom meme « Madness. Mommified. Tue, 18 Nov 2008 13:11:05 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-173168 [...] 3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. [...] [...] 3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. [...]

]]> By: Re-entry and a meme « me + three http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/comment-page-1/#comment-173076 Re-entry and a meme « me + three Sun, 16 Nov 2008 01:50:46 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-173076 [...] 3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. [...] [...] 3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. [...]

]]> By: meme - with a twist « mommymae http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/comment-page-1/#comment-173028 meme - with a twist « mommymae Sat, 15 Nov 2008 01:43:56 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-173028 [...] moms go on vacation and learn to play traffic cop. 3. Real moms brag about their kids. 4. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. 5. Real moms juggle. 6. Real moms “resist the guilt and embrace the journey” 7. Real moms [...] [...] moms go on vacation and learn to play traffic cop. 3. Real moms brag about their kids. 4. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. 5. Real moms juggle. 6. Real moms “resist the guilt and embrace the journey” 7. Real moms [...]

]]> By: Real Mums | Sleepless Nights http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/comment-page-1/#comment-172968 Real Mums | Sleepless Nights Thu, 13 Nov 2008 22:47:39 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-172968 [...] 3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. [...] [...] 3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. [...]

]]> By: Natalie http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/comment-page-1/#comment-172955 Natalie Thu, 13 Nov 2008 15:37:29 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-172955 Wow! I found you from the "Real Mom Meme". Thanks for an eye-opening viewpoint! I think your most poignant line is "Because any type of engaging work is easier than being with kids." And here I was feeling guilty for thinking exactly that! Wow! I found you from the "Real Mom Meme". Thanks for an eye-opening viewpoint!

I think your most poignant line is "Because any type of engaging work is easier than being with kids." And here I was feeling guilty for thinking exactly that!

]]> By: The Real Mom Meme « One Woman’s Journey http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/comment-page-1/#comment-172938 The Real Mom Meme « One Woman’s Journey Wed, 12 Nov 2008 20:52:20 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-172938 [...] 3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. [...] [...] 3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. [...]

]]> By: The Real Mom Meme « Jenty’s Ramblings http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/comment-page-1/#comment-172936 The Real Mom Meme « Jenty’s Ramblings Wed, 12 Nov 2008 20:18:45 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-172936 [...] 3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. [...] [...] 3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. [...]

]]> By: The Real Mom Meme « A Bad Mommy’s Blog http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/comment-page-1/#comment-172573 The Real Mom Meme « A Bad Mommy’s Blog Tue, 04 Nov 2008 08:01:27 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-172573 [...] 3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. [...] [...] 3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. [...]

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