Comments on: Don't tell me about admirable moms http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Fri, 29 Aug 2008 22:49:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: A Quiet Simple Life » Blog Archive » thinking hard: motherhood, culture, working and children http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-148991 A Quiet Simple Life » Blog Archive » thinking hard: motherhood, culture, working and children Tue, 17 Jun 2008 18:41:08 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-148991 [...] Don’t tell me about admirable moms [...] [...] Don't tell me about admirable moms [...]

]]> By: The hardest part of my job is that everyone lies about parenting » Brazen Careerist by Penelope Trunk http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-148685 The hardest part of my job is that everyone lies about parenting » Brazen Careerist by Penelope Trunk Tue, 10 Jun 2008 14:44:22 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-148685 [...] journalists writing about moms being moms are not reporting the truth. It is propaganda. It is parents saying that they lived their lives in a way that was good for their kids. But [...] [...] journalists writing about moms being moms are not reporting the truth. It is propaganda. It is parents saying that they lived their lives in a way that was good for their kids. But [...]

]]> By: Jerry http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-124099 Jerry Sat, 15 Dec 2007 04:51:25 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-124099 A bad day with the kids beats even the best day at work. In 10 years work won't remember ( or care) what you did but the kids will remember. A bad day with the kids beats even the best day at work. In 10 years work won't remember ( or care) what you did but the kids will remember.

]]> By: Kolz Blog » Blog Archive » Lose ten pounds in two weeks by changing how you work http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-107730 Kolz Blog » Blog Archive » Lose ten pounds in two weeks by changing how you work Wed, 12 Sep 2007 00:14:09 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-107730 [...] because I really needed to, but mostly it was a way to take a break from being with the kids. The kids are hard. Email is easy. Please, don’t send me emails about how I should take the kids to the park. I’m not saying I [...] [...] because I really needed to, but mostly it was a way to take a break from being with the kids. The kids are hard. Email is easy. Please, don’t send me emails about how I should take the kids to the park. I’m not saying I [...]

]]> By: LaDawn http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-106994 LaDawn Thu, 30 Aug 2007 18:10:29 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-106994 OK, so I'm a bit slow. I only found this post after you linked to it on your latest post. i just wanted to say, AMEN sista! There are days when I am bad at my job and bad at being a mother. Some days I do ok at both. Most days I do one well and the other slips. That's the best that can expected. And this post is one of the honest I've ever seen! Wish I'd read it sooner! OK, so I'm a bit slow. I only found this post after you linked to it on your latest post. i just wanted to say, AMEN sista! There are days when I am bad at my job and bad at being a mother. Some days I do ok at both. Most days I do one well and the other slips. That's the best that can expected. And this post is one of the honest I've ever seen! Wish I'd read it sooner!

]]> By: Natalia http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-53597 Natalia Sat, 07 Apr 2007 04:00:58 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-53597 Being with my son is much easier than being at work for me. I guess I've never cared that much about structure and schedules and only abide by them when it is necessary, as it is at work. My job can be stressful, as most are, but I am lucky that when I leave my workplace I am done for the day. I can relax and play(and cook and clean) and enjoy the company and hilarity that a four old can provide. I am a single mom so there are many things to balance. Enjoying life with what you have right now is number one. I don't care what grade someone might bestow on me if they could. My son says I'm the best. Being with my son is much easier than being at work for me. I guess I've never cared that much about structure and schedules and only abide by them when it is necessary, as it is at work. My job can be stressful, as most are, but I am lucky that when I leave my workplace I am done for the day. I can relax and play(and cook and clean) and enjoy the company and hilarity that a four old can provide. I am a single mom so there are many things to balance. Enjoying life with what you have right now is number one. I don't care what grade someone might bestow on me if they could. My son says I'm the best.

]]> By: Happy Passover from my blended life » Brazen Careerist by Penelope Trunk http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-53020 Happy Passover from my blended life » Brazen Careerist by Penelope Trunk Thu, 05 Apr 2007 17:14:07 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-53020 [...] For example, it’s so hard to be with the kids and not think about work. If nothing else, work is just plain easier to deal with. A blended life is great, but focus on the moment is important, as well. Moving fluidly between such totallly different worlds often makes it hard for me to keep my mind in one place when it needs to be. [...] [...] For example, it's so hard to be with the kids and not think about work. If nothing else, work is just plain easier to deal with. A blended life is great, but focus on the moment is important, as well. Moving fluidly between such totallly different worlds often makes it hard for me to keep my mind in one place when it needs to be. [...]

]]> By: nine months for life » My Mutated Meme http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-48721 nine months for life » My Mutated Meme Tue, 27 Mar 2007 02:25:57 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-48721 [...] 3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. [...] [...] 3. Real moms do not mince words when they present the truth. [...]

]]> By: Suchismita http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-39302 Suchismita Tue, 06 Mar 2007 11:24:24 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-39302 I really liked your article because it is a very realistic take on the whole work life balance issue. Two important points that I took away were that (a) there are no benchmarks for parenting and (b) office life is usually easier than being with kids. But does balance really exist at all ? As a mother who works full time in the banking industry (in India) with a husband who works in investment banking, I dont see too many options for "balance" - it is largely an "either/or" choice and each of us then makes those choices. I really liked your article because it is a very realistic take on the whole work life balance issue. Two important points that I took away were that (a) there are no benchmarks for parenting and (b) office life is usually easier than being with kids.

But does balance really exist at all ? As a mother who works full time in the banking industry (in India) with a husband who works in investment banking, I dont see too many options for "balance" - it is largely an "either/or" choice and each of us then makes those choices.

]]> By: David http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-39024 David Mon, 05 Mar 2007 15:20:48 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2007/03/01/dont-tell-me-about-admirable-moms/#comment-39024 Fair question that deserves an answer...quite simply, I don't know about his schedule. More interestingly, you focused on the kids portion of my comment, not the work place issues and what one might be expected there. I don't believe the 'magical mom' issues are all about how folks balance child care responsibilities. When men and women come to the workplace, they owe something to the organization that pays them and to their co-workers. Fair question that deserves an answer…quite simply, I don't know about his schedule.

More interestingly, you focused on the kids portion of my comment, not the work place issues and what one might be expected there.

I don't believe the 'magical mom' issues are all about how folks balance child care responsibilities. When men and women come to the workplace, they owe something to the organization that pays them and to their co-workers.

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