Comments on: The difficult convergence: Work and family by age 30 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Sun, 14 Mar 2010 20:06:12 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: rJs http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/comment-page-1/#comment-184409 rJs Tue, 21 Apr 2009 22:07:34 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/#comment-184409 Holy crap! I just realized this was written 3 years ago. I had just turned 31 then! I wonder what my 31-year-old-self would have said. Holy crap! I just realized this was written 3 years ago. I had just turned 31 then! I wonder what my 31-year-old-self would have said.

]]> By: rJs http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/comment-page-1/#comment-184407 rJs Tue, 21 Apr 2009 21:55:07 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/#comment-184407 "A lot of women cross the 30 threshold and suddenly are on the hamster wheel - frantically making sure everyone else is on the same track and they aren't 'falling behind,' in some category." And many men cross the 30 threshold feeling the same way. I'm trying not to fall into that trap. I'm 34, and have had great experiences since graduating college (I moved to New York City, got a good publishing job, lived in a Zen Temple for a year (in Brooklyn), quit my job at 29 to live in Berlin for 1/2 a year, traveled, made some excellent people, and now have a great girlfriend. Now, having said (and done) all that, I still feel inadequate. And it seems that our country is hyper-obsessed with age, which I internalize too much for my own good. I've got so many more miles ahead, so many more dreams. But I understand the 30 year mark because I obsessed over it myself. I set steps for myself, which for the most part I've made. But it is all too linear. Please, don't rush. Stories come from unique circumstances. Be your own story, not a polished package. Even in Japanese art, with all its intricacies, the artist skews the painting ever so slightly so its more interesting. We're all born complete human beings. Learn to let go once and awhile and it might not be so painful. "A lot of women cross the 30 threshold and suddenly are on the hamster wheel – frantically making sure everyone else is on the same track and they aren't 'falling behind,' in some category."

And many men cross the 30 threshold feeling the same way. I'm trying not to fall into that trap. I'm 34, and have had great experiences since graduating college (I moved to New York City, got a good publishing job, lived in a Zen Temple for a year (in Brooklyn), quit my job at 29 to live in Berlin for 1/2 a year, traveled, made some excellent people, and now have a great girlfriend.
Now, having said (and done) all that, I still feel inadequate. And it seems that our country is hyper-obsessed with age, which I internalize too much for my own good. I've got so many more miles ahead, so many more dreams.
But I understand the 30 year mark because I obsessed over it myself. I set steps for myself, which for the most part I've made.
But it is all too linear. Please, don't rush. Stories come from unique circumstances. Be your own story, not a polished package. Even in Japanese art, with all its intricacies, the artist skews the painting ever so slightly so its more interesting.
We're all born complete human beings. Learn to let go once and awhile and it might not be so painful.

]]> By: Will Gen Y ruin local community? | Bizzy Women http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/comment-page-1/#comment-184250 Will Gen Y ruin local community? | Bizzy Women Sun, 19 Apr 2009 09:28:06 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/#comment-184250 [...] family and settle down – indeed, research shows that is our every intention. But we are doing so at a later age, and by then, it may be too late and the world too different for local community to [...] [...] family and settle down – indeed, research shows that is our every intention. But we are doing so at a later age, and by then, it may be too late and the world too different for local community to [...]

]]> By: Will Gen Y will ruin local community? | Modite http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/comment-page-1/#comment-183885 Will Gen Y will ruin local community? | Modite Wed, 15 Apr 2009 05:02:20 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/#comment-183885 [...] family and settle down – indeed, research shows that is our every intention. But we are doing so at a later age, and by then, it may be too late and the world too different for local community to [...] [...] family and settle down – indeed, research shows that is our every intention. But we are doing so at a later age, and by then, it may be too late and the world too different for local community to [...]

]]> By: How to tell your boss that you’re pregnant « My Gen Y Life http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/comment-page-1/#comment-182859 How to tell your boss that you’re pregnant « My Gen Y Life Sat, 21 Mar 2009 23:19:04 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/#comment-182859 [...] If you’re at all like me and feel you’ve made the most of your early twenties, your late twenties can be an exciting time for starting a family. After all the average age in the U.S. for having your first child is 25, and you’re not getting any younger! [...] [...] If you're at all like me and feel you've made the most of your early twenties, your late twenties can be an exciting time for starting a family. After all the average age in the U.S. for having your first child is 25, and you're not getting any younger! [...]

]]> By: JerryRansom http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/comment-page-1/#comment-178912 JerryRansom Wed, 07 Jan 2009 13:51:08 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/#comment-178912   The team discussed security and transportation issues with the Secretary of Homeland Security and local police jurisdictions.Authorities say as many as 3 million people could flood the National Mall for the event. Meanwhile, Barack Obama has picked the Bible that will be used to swear him into office. The former Illinois Senator will use the same Holy Book Abraham Lincoln used at his inauguration in 1861. <a href="http://coolvideo.webfreeze.org/video" rel="nofollow">Obama will be........... </A>   The team discussed security and transportation issues with the Secretary of Homeland Security and local police jurisdictions.Authorities say as many as 3 million people could flood the National Mall for the event. Meanwhile, Barack Obama has picked the Bible that will be used to swear him into office. The former Illinois Senator will use the same Holy Book Abraham Lincoln used at his inauguration in 1861. Obama will be………..

]]> By: JMN http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/comment-page-1/#comment-178701 JMN Fri, 02 Jan 2009 20:40:07 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/#comment-178701 My colleague and I are conducting a research study on how people manage work and family roles. If you or anyone you know is employed and faced with managing multiple roles, would you please consider taking or sharing this survey? We are especially interested in those individuals that spend some time telecommuting (i.e., working from home), but the survey is open to non-telecommuters as well. Basically if you are employed you are eligible to participate. If desired, participants will have an opportunity to be entered into a drawing for a $50.00 Amazon.com gift card. You can read more about the survey by accessing the following link (note: if clicking on the link does not work, copy and paste it into your browser.) http://tinyurl.com/workandfamily We really appreciate your time either participating in the survey or sharing the survey with others. Thanks so much. Happy New Year! My colleague and I are conducting a research study on how people manage work and family roles. If you or anyone you know is employed and faced with managing multiple roles, would you please consider taking or sharing this
survey? We are especially interested in those individuals that spend some time telecommuting (i.e., working from home), but the survey is open to non-telecommuters as well. Basically if you are employed you are eligible to
participate.

If desired, participants will have an opportunity to be entered into a drawing for a $50.00 Amazon.com gift card. You can read more about the survey by accessing the following link (note: if clicking on the link does
not work, copy and paste it into your browser.)

http://tinyurl.com/workandfamily

We really appreciate your time either participating in the survey or sharing the survey with others. Thanks so much.

Happy New Year!

]]> By: regina http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/comment-page-1/#comment-173679 regina Tue, 25 Nov 2008 09:38:11 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/#comment-173679 How boring; another throw away 'lifestyle' book telling us how to live our one and only lives. It's narrow minded and ageist to decree that people need to have everthing in their lives in a particular place by the age of 30. Some of the most wonderful debut books in the world were written by people much much older than 30. Anyone who buys into Marshall Forbes clap trap needs to grow a mind of their own. How boring; another throw away 'lifestyle' book telling us how to live our one and only lives. It's narrow minded and ageist to decree that people need to have everthing in their lives in a particular place by the age of 30. Some of the most wonderful debut books in the world were written by people much much older than 30. Anyone who buys into Marshall Forbes clap trap needs to grow a mind of their own.

]]> By: Modite - Gen Y women – out of the workplace woods? http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/comment-page-1/#comment-139012 Modite - Gen Y women – out of the workplace woods? Tue, 25 Mar 2008 03:16:37 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/#comment-139012 [...] when I read advice that tells me I have to get married and have babies before I’m thirty. I guess it’s smart advice, but it [...] [...] when I read advice that tells me I have to get married and have babies before I’m thirty. I guess it’s smart advice, but it [...]

]]> By: Women: Career vs. Kids vs. tick tick tick | Bill Cammack http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/comment-page-1/#comment-138505 Women: Career vs. Kids vs. tick tick tick | Bill Cammack Sat, 15 Mar 2008 18:14:56 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/12/28/the-difficult-convergence-work-and-family-by-age-30/#comment-138505 [...] Penelope Trunk: “For example, sixty percent of women with MBAs are working at home, and an epidemic number of women are leaving corporate life when their children come. Women approaching age thirty face these statistics.” [...] [...] Penelope Trunk: "For example, sixty percent of women with MBAs are working at home, and an epidemic number of women are leaving corporate life when their children come. Women approaching age thirty face these statistics." [...]

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