I still dream of the world where good parents–working outside the home and inside the home–support each others’ choices. Suppporting choices that work best for the entire family– mom, dad and children–regardless of where the work is taking place.

We (parents) don’t know what we are “supposed” to be doing. The choices are hard, but once we make them, we have invested a great deal of emotional energy in the choice and we feel the need to defend it. It is not realistic that there can be a satisfying world of people saying “ok, fine, do what you want,” when the stakes are so high.

There is an inevitable tension; you can’t learn without multiple perspectives, but then, once you make a choice, it is easy to be defensive because further discussion challenges your decision.

So, to keep learning, you have to supress the urge to tell “busybody know it alls” to go f themselves when they say things like “My son has never seen a television.” Well, good for freakin you. My 2-year old knows how to operate our DVD player.

The thing about all these people writing blogs about their day-to-day activities is that we know have an infinite supply of viewpoints making it possible to find some kind of validation for just about any choice. But I think we still long for some authority to bless our own choices because, just because somebody else made the same choice and posted it up on their website…that doesn’t really make it the right choice for anyone but her.

I’d make a parallel with Françoise Giroud sentence:
“Equality between men and women will be achieved when non-competent women have high-responsability jobs”