Comments on: Forget about asking yourself if you’re likeable http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/09/21/forget-about-asking-yourself-if-youre-likeable/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Sun, 20 Jul 2008 11:08:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Eva http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/09/21/forget-about-asking-yourself-if-youre-likeable/#comment-133608 Eva Thu, 03 Jan 2008 20:48:46 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/09/21/forget-about-asking-yourself-if-youre-likeable/#comment-133608 What strikes me is that numbers four and five are contradictory. I guess I think of convictions entailing an idea of right and wrong, which means judgment about what falls into which categories. What strikes me is that numbers four and five are contradictory. I guess I think of convictions entailing an idea of right and wrong, which means judgment about what falls into which categories.

]]> By: laurence haughton http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/09/21/forget-about-asking-yourself-if-youre-likeable/#comment-1043 laurence haughton Wed, 27 Sep 2006 20:34:54 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/09/21/forget-about-asking-yourself-if-youre-likeable/#comment-1043 I came over because of the smart comment you left on businesspundit. C'mon, this list is awful. Ditch the whole thing. "Make people laugh" or "flatter, flatter, flatter" will beat everything on that list of "chicken soup" strategies. PS I like it when you are judgmental. I came over because of the smart comment you left on businesspundit.

C’mon, this list is awful. Ditch the whole thing. “Make people laugh” or “flatter, flatter, flatter” will beat everything on that list of “chicken soup” strategies.

PS I like it when you are judgmental.

]]> By: Emily http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/09/21/forget-about-asking-yourself-if-youre-likeable/#comment-1042 Emily Tue, 26 Sep 2006 20:18:24 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/09/21/forget-about-asking-yourself-if-youre-likeable/#comment-1042 (Thought I'd responded to this before but I guess it didn't take...) "Control your insecurities" is a good one - I once nervously but perversely confessed to a group of people I was trying to impress how scared I was of public speaking, which they were asking me to do. Felt like an idiot for days afterwards. I don't know about likeability, but it sure wasn't professional! (Thought I’d responded to this before but I guess it didn’t take…)

“Control your insecurities” is a good one - I once nervously but perversely confessed to a group of people I was trying to impress how scared I was of public speaking, which they were asking me to do. Felt like an idiot for days afterwards. I don’t know about likeability, but it sure wasn’t professional!

]]> By: Penelope Trunk http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/09/21/forget-about-asking-yourself-if-youre-likeable/#comment-1041 Penelope Trunk Mon, 25 Sep 2006 04:11:11 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/09/21/forget-about-asking-yourself-if-youre-likeable/#comment-1041 Good point, Chris. On the Meyers-Briggs test I'm an ENTJ, and I like that. So maybe I should not try so hard to stop judging. But I have a feeling that I'm off the deep end on the J. I wish I could, one day, take the test and wonder, for one moment, if I'm maybe a P. Maybe then I would feel a little more balanced.... and be more likeable, of course :) Good point, Chris. On the Meyers-Briggs test I’m an ENTJ, and I like that. So maybe I should not try so hard to stop judging. But I have a feeling that I’m off the deep end on the J. I wish I could, one day, take the test and wonder, for one moment, if I’m maybe a P. Maybe then I would feel a little more balanced…. and be more likeable, of course :)

]]> By: Chris Yeh http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/09/21/forget-about-asking-yourself-if-youre-likeable/#comment-1040 Chris Yeh Fri, 22 Sep 2006 18:20:14 +0000 http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/09/21/forget-about-asking-yourself-if-youre-likeable/#comment-1040 The item I'd most need to work is eliminating judgments. On all the Meyers-Briggs tests, I'm always heavily on the Judging side versus the Perceiving side. On the other hand, I think that my ability to form quick judgments is a strength, not a weakness. Perhaps the item should be phrased, "Be open to changing your mind, and don't let judgments prejudice your actions." Not as clear, though! The item I’d most need to work is eliminating judgments.

On all the Meyers-Briggs tests, I’m always heavily on the Judging side versus the Perceiving side.

On the other hand, I think that my ability to form quick judgments is a strength, not a weakness.

Perhaps the item should be phrased, “Be open to changing your mind, and don’t let judgments prejudice your actions.” Not as clear, though!

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