Comments on: How to tell your boss you quit: Artfully shift the balance of power http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Sun, 08 Nov 2009 04:20:06 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: kz http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-190476 kz Mon, 10 Aug 2009 21:54:57 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/#comment-190476 hey, i have been in my job now for just 2months, and is not a bad job i quite enjoy it and the people i work with, but i am planning to go back to the place i was before, and i having a hard time deciding what i should do, i have only been in my job for 2months and i feel bad, and i dont want to tell them where i am moving to, but feel like they will ask to many questions, i dont no what to do!!! hey, i have been in my job now for just 2months, and is not a bad job i quite enjoy it and the people i work with, but i am planning to go back to the place i was before, and i having a hard time deciding what i should do, i have only been in my job for 2months and i feel bad, and i dont want to tell them where i am moving to, but feel like they will ask to many questions, i dont no what to do!!!

]]> By: Tia http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-189163 Tia Sat, 18 Jul 2009 01:25:10 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/#comment-189163 Hi. Right now I am at a petstore where I am working less than 20 hours a week. I've been there for about a year. I have this boss who is very nasty and sarcastic to people. I've graduated from college receiving my bachelors degree in animal science. The reason why I am working at this store is because I got laid off from a company due to the economy. With this new boss, I've tried explaining to her that I have my degree, I have a daughter and a husband to support.I need to be a full time worker making more than just eight dollars and hour. I've even explained to her that I was behind in my rent due to this reason and that I was about to get evicted because I was not working enough hours nor was Igetting paid enough to match my bills. The boss even refused to train me on the cash register in order for me to get more hours. I only take care of animals and that's it. I've never made employee of the month since I've been there (Let me remind you that I am the only black woman on the job). I work my ass off and do more than the company expects of me and as soon as a white person is hired, they are automatically employee of the month a week after they are trained. I am never recognized for my work. I've talked to this boss over and over and she just showed me that she didn't care. Now yesterday she found out that I've applied to another job about 3 months ago. She asked me was I looking for a new Job and I told her not at the moment because around the time that she asked me, I really wasn't but now I am. She treated me as if I never even existed. She's already upset because She found out that one person has an interview and she tried to work with the girl, which is one of her favorites. Now she is pissed at me. She walks around slamming doors, ignoring me and huffing when I ask her questions. She's even been rude to me in front of customers but this was before she found out about me applying to somewhere else. I told her that I wasn't applying anywhere at the moment because she is the type of boss that will try to lessen my hours even more in order to get me to quit. I know because she's done that to someone else in the company. She told me herself but it had nothing to do with them finding another job. Was I wrong in this case? Hi. Right now I am at a petstore where I am working less than 20 hours a week. I've been there for about a year. I have this boss who is very nasty and sarcastic to people. I've graduated from college receiving my bachelors degree in animal science. The reason why I am working at this store is because I got laid off from a company due to the economy. With this new boss, I've tried explaining to her that I have my degree, I have a daughter and a husband to support.I need to be a full time worker making more than just eight dollars and hour. I've even explained to her that I was behind in my rent due to this reason and that I was about to get evicted because I was not working enough hours nor was Igetting paid enough to match my bills. The boss even refused to train me on the cash register in order for me to get more hours. I only take care of animals and that's it. I've never made employee of the month since I've been there (Let me remind you that I am the only black woman on the job). I work my ass off and do more than the company expects of me and as soon as a white person is hired, they are automatically employee of the month a week after they are trained. I am never recognized for my work. I've talked to this boss over and over and she just showed me that she didn't care. Now yesterday she found out that I've applied to another job about 3 months ago. She asked me was I looking for a new Job and I told her not at the moment because around the time that she asked me, I really wasn't but now I am. She treated me as if I never even existed. She's already upset because She found out that one person has an interview and she tried to work with the girl, which is one of her favorites. Now she is pissed at me. She walks around slamming doors, ignoring me and huffing when I ask her questions. She's even been rude to me in front of customers but this was before she found out about me applying to somewhere else. I told her that I wasn't applying anywhere at the moment because she is the type of boss that will try to lessen my hours even more in order to get me to quit. I know because she's done that to someone else in the company. She told me herself but it had nothing to do with them finding another job. Was I wrong in this case?

]]> By: Katrina http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-189153 Katrina Fri, 17 Jul 2009 17:25:19 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/#comment-189153 Hello I have been at my job for 10 months. I work in Washington dc because last year my now ex and I moved to DC. I moved to Maryland and the commute is very long. I work at a coffee shop, and I have gotten a .75 raise (making my pay 8.75 and hour plus tips). I really do not like it there one bit, nothing ever changes. Communication skills are lacking, and the manager is not doing her job. There are other little aspects that annoy me about working in a coffee shop pertaining health. I also do not get along with everyone I work with. I work with a 70 year old woman who works the bean counter, who used to be the manager so we complain back and fourth about the place. The other day she verbally attacked me because I had a seering headache and my shoulder hurt so bad I could move my arm so I had to leave early. She called me a crybaby and other names and now I do not feel comfortable around her. I have gotten an interview to work as a Nanny, which is my passion, in Maryland where I live now. It would pay 100 a day four days a week and it would open plenty of doors for me because I would be able to get a care also. Here is my question: If I get this new job, I want to quit my current one but I am not traveling 2 hours into DC just to quit. I would like to call, even though I know that is probably not protocol. I would like to have some help with what I should say and how to keep my cool. I have butted heads with my manager on several occasions. Another thing, Is that my manager does like when we call her at home because her boyfriend works nights and he needs to sleep. If I get this job Monday, I will have to call the store, and talk to my co-worker who is playing part manager. He would have to tell my manager, but I do not think this is a good idea, but if it is the only thing that works, I am willing to do it. Can you please offer me some advice? ready to move on in md Hello

I have been at my job for 10 months. I work in Washington dc because last year my now ex and I moved to DC. I moved to Maryland and the commute is very long. I work at a coffee shop, and I have gotten a .75 raise (making my pay 8.75 and hour plus tips). I really do not like it there one bit, nothing ever changes. Communication skills are lacking, and the manager is not doing her job. There are other little aspects that annoy me about working in a coffee shop pertaining health. I also do not get along with everyone I work with. I work with a 70 year old woman who works the bean counter, who used to be the manager so we complain back and fourth about the place. The other day she verbally attacked me because I had a seering headache and my shoulder hurt so bad I could move my arm so I had to leave early. She called me a crybaby and other names and now I do not feel comfortable around her.
I have gotten an interview to work as a Nanny, which is my passion, in Maryland where I live now. It would pay 100 a day four days a week and it would open plenty of doors for me because I would be able to get a care also.
Here is my question: If I get this new job, I want to quit my current one but I am not traveling 2 hours into DC just to quit. I would like to call, even though I know that is probably not protocol. I would like to have some help with what I should say and how to keep my cool. I have butted heads with my manager on several occasions. Another thing, Is that my manager does like when we call her at home because her boyfriend works nights and he needs to sleep. If I get this job Monday, I will have to call the store, and talk to my co-worker who is playing part manager. He would have to tell my manager, but I do not think this is a good idea, but if it is the only thing that works, I am willing to do it. Can you please offer me some advice?
ready to move on in md

]]> By: Natasha http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-188086 Natasha Tue, 23 Jun 2009 01:21:44 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/#comment-188086 Hey. Ive just started working working at this office and i think my manager is bipolar. She has moments where she blows up at me but then there are others where she's crying and thanking me for helping because i relieve the stress she's under. we've grown rather close, but i dont know what to say to her. i've written a letter but i want to also say it to her face. im looking for exact wording or maybe a line or two to use. for example,"we need to talk?" Hey. Ive just started working working at this office and i think my manager is bipolar.
She has moments where she blows up at me but then there are others where she's crying and thanking me for helping because i relieve the stress she's under. we've grown rather close, but i dont know what to say to her.
i've written a letter but i want to also say it to her face.

im looking for exact wording or maybe a line or two to use.
for example,"we need to talk?"

]]> By: Amy http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-187783 Amy Thu, 18 Jun 2009 14:15:40 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/#comment-187783 Thank you so much i really needed some advice. Thank you so much i really needed some advice.

]]> By: Steve http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-187746 Steve Thu, 18 Jun 2009 04:52:40 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/#comment-187746 Dont forget that although she is your boss, she's human too. Dont get too worried about telling her the situation, as good bosses are understanding about that. Your education is most important. Im 40 and just recently gave my 3 weeks notice, and it doesnt really get any easier. Definitely write up the resignation letter...there are good templates out there for that. Be sure to thank them for the opportunity and let them know what date is your last day at work. Dont forget that although she is your boss, she's human too. Dont get too worried about telling her the situation, as good bosses are understanding about that. Your education is most important. Im 40 and just recently gave my 3 weeks notice, and it doesnt really get any easier. Definitely write up the resignation letter…there are good templates out there for that. Be sure to thank them for the opportunity and let them know what date is your last day at work.

]]> By: Amy http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-187491 Amy Tue, 16 Jun 2009 20:58:43 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/#comment-187491 Hi, im 17 years old and i have a part time job while still in highschool. Im starting grade 12 next year and i just dont know how to tell my manager that i need to quit once September starts. Schools getting harder and harder, and with the courses i have (math, chemistry, biology..etc...) It requires hours of homework each day. My manager is nice, im just a little intimidated by her. I really really need the guts to just tell her. I get nervous when talking to her and i cant imagine myself telling her im quitting. I wrote a resignation letter today and she wants us to tell her now if we are quitting in september. By september i will be working there for a year. How do i tell her verbally? I know i will ask to speak to her in private and once we're in the office im not sure how im gona say it all!!! (this is my first job) Hi, im 17 years old and i have a part time job while still in highschool. Im starting grade 12 next year and i just dont know how to tell my manager that i need to quit once September starts. Schools getting harder and harder, and with the courses i have (math, chemistry, biology..etc…)

It requires hours of homework each day. My manager is nice, im just a little intimidated by her. I really really need the guts to just tell her. I get nervous when talking to her and i cant imagine myself telling her im quitting. I wrote a resignation letter today and she wants us to tell her now if we are quitting in september. By september i will be working there for a year.

How do i tell her verbally? I know i will ask to speak to her in private and once we're in the office im not sure how im gona say it all!!! (this is my first job)

]]> By: Diana http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-187366 Diana Sun, 14 Jun 2009 12:50:54 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/#comment-187366 Hello! I am ready to quit! I come from a background of 7 years of working at home in the medical field. Well, an in-house hospital job came along and I took it and I've hated it ever since (been here 6 months). A few weeks ago, I inquired about the part-time position they had open in my department. I currently work second shift, but the part-time is days and would still give me insurance, etc. I was told it JUST got filled that day - ok fine. No problem. 2 days later, my boss called me into a hallway and told me she didn't "appreciate my attack" on her about going part-time and that I had cost her precious sleep and made her physically ill about it. I now have some time off this week and next and I know I am going to find an at-home job in that time frame. Since I return back to work on a Wednesday, but want to give 2-weeks' notice, should I make a special trip into work on Monday to let her know I am giving full notice? Yes, this boss does scare me a little bit, and after "attacking" her like that, I'm HIGHLY nervous and keep freaking out about how/when to quit! This is a job that in the future may send people home to work, so I don't want to burn any permanent bridges by just quitting on the spot, but I do need to get out of here. EVERY reason I had for not wanting to work in-house has happened: politics, drama, evil people, etc you name it. Thanks!! Hello! I am ready to quit! I come from a background of 7 years of working at home in the medical field. Well, an in-house hospital job came along and I took it and I've hated it ever since (been here 6 months). A few weeks ago, I inquired about the part-time position they had open in my department. I currently work second shift, but the part-time is days and would still give me insurance, etc. I was told it JUST got filled that day – ok fine. No problem. 2 days later, my boss called me into a hallway and told me she didn't "appreciate my attack" on her about going part-time and that I had cost her precious sleep and made her physically ill about it.

I now have some time off this week and next and I know I am going to find an at-home job in that time frame. Since I return back to work on a Wednesday, but want to give 2-weeks' notice, should I make a special trip into work on Monday to let her know I am giving full notice? Yes, this boss does scare me a little bit, and after "attacking" her like that, I'm HIGHLY nervous and keep freaking out about how/when to quit! This is a job that in the future may send people home to work, so I don't want to burn any permanent bridges by just quitting on the spot, but I do need to get out of here.

EVERY reason I had for not wanting to work in-house has happened: politics, drama, evil people, etc you name it.

Thanks!!

]]> By: Steve http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-186377 Steve Wed, 27 May 2009 23:38:03 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/#comment-186377 Based on the great relationship you have with your boss, I would speak with them about flex time or some other arrangement. Perhaps time off to take 1 or 2 classes a week, or come in early, take the class, then leave late. It is difficult being an only parent, so that may be difficult considering child care. Based on the great relationship you have with your boss, I would speak with them about flex time or some other arrangement. Perhaps time off to take 1 or 2 classes a week, or come in early, take the class, then leave late. It is difficult being an only parent, so that may be difficult considering child care.

]]> By: Steve http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-186376 Steve Wed, 27 May 2009 23:21:19 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/08/01/how-to-tell-your-boss-you-quit-artfully-shift-the-balance-of-power/#comment-186376 Most likely they are only using you to train the new person and dont really care about you. 2 1/2 months is too much notice. The company should have processes or training in place for this. 2 weeks should suffice, unless you have some other stipulation related to your position. Managers and directors are required to give 4 weeks notice at my company, but the only real thing they can do is not pay out vacation time....figure out what its worth to you to stay that extra 2 months... Most likely they are only using you to train the new person and dont really care about you. 2 1/2 months is too much notice. The company should have processes or training in place for this. 2 weeks should suffice, unless you have some other stipulation related to your position. Managers and directors are required to give 4 weeks notice at my company, but the only real thing they can do is not pay out vacation time….figure out what its worth to you to stay that extra 2 months…

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