Comments on: Your bad mood at the office is from you, not the job http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Sun, 21 Mar 2010 06:44:20 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: K http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/comment-page-1/#comment-216227 K Sat, 12 Dec 2009 04:32:40 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/#comment-216227 I couldn't agree with this post more. People need to realize they are in control of their happiness. You choose to let work wear you down...you let it get to you, and you choose to stay there and take it. Yes, staying at a company that makes you miserable because of the "good pay" is your CHOICE. Find another perspective, or if your job is really that horrible, find another one. I couldn't agree with this post more.

People need to realize they are in control of their happiness. You choose to let work wear you down…you let it get to you, and you choose to stay there and take it.

Yes, staying at a company that makes you miserable because of the "good pay" is your CHOICE.

Find another perspective, or if your job is really that horrible, find another one.

]]> By: Sardar Mohkim Khan http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/comment-page-1/#comment-206893 Sardar Mohkim Khan Mon, 05 Oct 2009 13:00:52 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/#comment-206893 It is so true. But i think that is so because people just use it as an escape goat. The only thing that make your workplace good or bad [inclusive of your work] is what is your input and how enthusiastic you really are. It is so true. But i think that is so because people just use it as an escape goat. The only thing that make your workplace good or bad [inclusive of your work] is what is your input and how enthusiastic you really are.

]]> By: abdo http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/comment-page-1/#comment-183974 abdo Wed, 15 Apr 2009 19:02:31 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/#comment-183974 (><) i agree with the previous comment 100%, and the problem is that u can't leave cuz they pay good salary and there is no other chances, i also blame any manager who don't care about his employees happiness & relaxation in work or discuss the problems with them, i do envy google staff & offices :& (><) i agree with the previous comment 100%, and the problem is that u can't leave cuz they pay good salary and there is no other chances, i also blame any manager who don't care about his employees happiness & relaxation in work or discuss the problems with them, i do envy google staff & offices :&

]]> By: Liz http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/comment-page-1/#comment-180122 Liz Thu, 29 Jan 2009 14:33:37 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/#comment-180122 well... I would have to disagree with this main article. I am in a perfectly fine mood on the way to work, but soon after I get there Im in a bad mood. Some mornings are worse than others. I think im just burnt out. I dont fit in here and Im sick of working with all males. I despise this crap hole city that I work for. Sitting on my butt all day gets so old and Id rather have a regular job. There are many other reasons why my job just drains me. I feel im getting dumber just working here. :sigh: im soo bored... well… I would have to disagree with this main article. I am in a perfectly fine mood on the way to work, but soon after I get there Im in a bad mood. Some mornings are worse than others. I think im just burnt out. I dont fit in here and Im sick of working with all males. I despise this crap hole city that I work for. Sitting on my butt all day gets so old and Id rather have a regular job. There are many other reasons why my job just drains me. I feel im getting dumber just working here. :sigh: im soo bored…

]]> By: MJ http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/comment-page-1/#comment-164764 MJ Wed, 13 Aug 2008 13:39:34 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/#comment-164764 Anyone who thinks this has NOT worked in my industry - it is hard to keep a great mood when a mentally ill narcissist is throwing coffee cups at your secretary's head or having a screaming fit down the hall. And of course, most workplaces in my industry do not have "No Asshole" policies so this stuff is tolerated as long as the screamer is bringing in a few bucks. Welcome to the practice of law, folks, don't forget to bring your bottle of Tums. If you want to keep your good mood, move to a place where management is responsible and colleagues are expected to behave as though sane (there are a few). Anyone who thinks this has NOT worked in my industry – it is hard to keep a great mood when a mentally ill narcissist is throwing coffee cups at your secretary's head or having a screaming fit down the hall. And of course, most workplaces in my industry do not have "No Asshole" policies so this stuff is tolerated as long as the screamer is bringing in a few bucks. Welcome to the practice of law, folks, don't forget to bring your bottle of Tums. If you want to keep your good mood, move to a place where management is responsible and colleagues are expected to behave as though sane (there are a few).

]]> By: Rebecca http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/comment-page-1/#comment-164723 Rebecca Wed, 13 Aug 2008 09:58:19 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/#comment-164723 'Your bad mood at the office is from you, not the job' INCORRECT. I drove to work in a perfectly lovely mood this morning. I sat down- logged on my computer, made a cup of tea, and still felt perfectly lovely. Now, however (and i've only been here two hours!) i am in a disgusting mood- and IT IS- oh it VERY MUCH IS the job... And the answer is not as simple as just leaving and finding something else. This job is too well paid to do such a thing. And i do have a second job (which pays hardly anything- but i'm doing it because it is interesting and fulfilling, only i only have time at the weekends to do it)... SO BLEH. 'Your bad mood at the office is from you, not the job'

INCORRECT.

I drove to work in a perfectly lovely mood this morning. I sat down- logged on my computer, made a cup of tea, and still felt perfectly lovely.

Now, however (and i've only been here two hours!) i am in a disgusting mood- and IT IS- oh it VERY MUCH IS the job…

And the answer is not as simple as just leaving and finding something else. This job is too well paid to do such a thing. And i do have a second job (which pays hardly anything- but i'm doing it because it is interesting and fulfilling, only i only have time at the weekends to do it)…

SO BLEH.

]]> By: knockNrod http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/comment-page-1/#comment-129631 knockNrod Mon, 24 Dec 2007 03:09:09 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/#comment-129631 I would agree with this finding to a great extent, but there are a number of nagging issues that remain to be resolved. The study quoted indicates that peoples' moods are effected to a greater degree in early morning, mood-setting events, but it doesn't explore why. My personal experience in this regard is that people are more impacted by early events out of wish fulfillment. When something good (or bad) happens early in the morning, people have a tendency to view this as "It's a good [or bad] day." Not, "It's a good [or bad] moment," but an entire day. Five minutes into your day, and you've already decided how the next 23 hours and 55 minutes are going to be coloured. Having worked at Savannah River Site, where there's hardly a chance to experience a good commute, I also know that I would encounter nothing throughout my workday but testy people. Even though I might be capable of living in the moment and avoid wish-fulfillment, when everyone around you is bound and determined to have a bad day, it's hard to experience anything but a series of bad moments whenever you encounter such a group. Of course, in the end, I did take responsibility for my own happiness. I left. I would agree with this finding to a great extent, but there are a number of nagging issues that remain to be resolved. The study quoted indicates that peoples' moods are effected to a greater degree in early morning, mood-setting events, but it doesn't explore why. My personal experience in this regard is that people are more impacted by early events out of wish fulfillment. When something good (or bad) happens early in the morning, people have a tendency to view this as "It's a good [or bad] day." Not, "It's a good [or bad] moment," but an entire day. Five minutes into your day, and you've already decided how the next 23 hours and 55 minutes are going to be coloured.

Having worked at Savannah River Site, where there's hardly a chance to experience a good commute, I also know that I would encounter nothing throughout my workday but testy people. Even though I might be capable of living in the moment and avoid wish-fulfillment, when everyone around you is bound and determined to have a bad day, it's hard to experience anything but a series of bad moments whenever you encounter such a group.

Of course, in the end, I did take responsibility for my own happiness. I left.

]]> By: JenK http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/comment-page-1/#comment-107821 JenK Wed, 12 Sep 2007 23:28:05 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/#comment-107821 Yes and no on the interacting with others at home thing. If I come home to a blaring TV, I want to hide in my room - just like high school. If I come home to a quiet, empty home, I have no pressure, no need to *do* anything. It's one of the few things I miss about being single. I know, I'm insane. :) Yes and no on the interacting with others at home thing. If I come home to a blaring TV, I want to hide in my room – just like high school.

If I come home to a quiet, empty home, I have no pressure, no need to *do* anything. It's one of the few things I miss about being single.

I know, I'm insane. :)

]]> By: bauhaus_sea http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/comment-page-1/#comment-848 bauhaus_sea Sun, 30 Jul 2006 19:06:08 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/#comment-848 Here's a classic case of someone unhappy in their job and taking it out on others. Classic train wreck: <a href="http://www.thestranger.com/lineout/2006/07/fired_kexp_dj_clears.php#more" rel="nofollow">http://www.thestranger.com/lineout/2006/07/fired_kexp_dj_clears.php#more</a> While he may have a valid case, his lack of emotional intelligence negates that validity. Here's a classic case of someone unhappy in their job and taking it out on others. Classic train wreck: http://www.thestranger.com/lineout/2006/07/fired_kexp_dj_clears.php#more

While he may have a valid case, his lack of emotional intelligence negates that validity.

]]> By: David Christiansen http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/comment-page-1/#comment-847 David Christiansen Sun, 30 Jul 2006 15:12:58 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/07/27/your-bad-mood-at-the-office-is-from-you-not-the-job/#comment-847 Here's a thought that occurred to me as I read the comments and thought about my own work life: One key way to manage your own happiness is actively doing something to eliminate the things that make you unhappy. You don't always have to quit your job - sometimes people use the mobility of today's job market as an enabler to avoid confronting problems. While it is often an appropriate thing to do, we should not quit just because we are afraid to confront trouble. Sometimes we have to take a risk that can lead to change in the organization we belong to. Here's a thought that occurred to me as I read the comments and thought about my own work life: One key way to manage your own happiness is actively doing something to eliminate the things that make you unhappy. You don't always have to quit your job – sometimes people use the mobility of today's job market as an enabler to avoid confronting problems. While it is often an appropriate thing to do, we should not quit just because we are afraid to confront trouble. Sometimes we have to take a risk that can lead to change in the organization we belong to.

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