Should I wait to find a new job or say goodbye now and save myself the aches and pain? (we are all getting older!)

Here is what I want to tell you. Your board follows some sort of Society Act: look it up, and resign, following the section and sub-section numbers provided. So, for example "I regret to inform the Board that, as of this date and effective immediately, I resign from my obligations. I understand that, under Section X.X of the Society Act that I must surrender all materials to the board, and have thus provided them herein."

Basically, you need to quit.

I know the economy sucks, but the alternative is that people will find out what is going on there, and your reputation will end up becoming damaged. Write something like "Due to time constraints, I will no longer be able to perform my duties as…." Thank them for the opportunity, and then make sure the materials are sent back via FEDEX or another registered service, so they can't come back at you.

I sympathize with your situation, but if they are doing the kinds of things that my board did, you don't want to be a part of it. You've got back up. You're at your folk's place, so while it's not ideal, at least you're not in dire straights. And you've got a car–something I can only dream of at this point. So you're better off than most. But if people are talking–and they are, believe me–then you want to put as much distance from that place as possible, because sooner or later, they'll pin it on you. I'm guessing you're not as old as many of the other members, and the older ones always pin crap on the younger ones. It happened to me.

Good luck! And remember: no more not-for-profits. They're evil and built to stay that way.

Mikey

Since November 2007, I have worked as the coordinator for a non-profit in my hometown. I am very blessed for this position because I have been able to live with my parents (save some money and be with them during some tough times including my younger sister who is in high school). I have been able to afford to purchase a nice reliable car, I was driving my deceased great-grandmothers car that I would have to paddle like a flintstone. I have also lots of great worthy experiences and develop new skills and learned a lot.

However, I have been through some serious issues that my predescessor had left behind such as staff members doing horrible and unethical decision making (child using our business computers for porn – yeah!, lying on grant applications, no paper trails on how funds were purchased most of the time, using work phone for long distance and very long personal calls, and sooo much other crap). I have had two colleagues (one is my predecessor's mother-in-law – yea!) both have done things such as go to conferences that are for community's youth – they take their kids or grandkids no others unless their kid has a friend, they are rarely turning in paperwork and financial records to our supervisor on time if so its late and always erroed, the "mother-in-law" has threatened other offices' staff about stupid issues yet our supervisor (which is a board) won't do anything except a slap on the wrist, and I am constantly told by these colleagues how I do my job. I am not saying that I am perfect and I actually don't mind people's guidance, but when it comes to the point where they are just being rude, dumb (if I may say so), and extremely unethical thats just wrong. For example, part of my job besides supervising my five staff members, run a non-profit, and also take care of a maintenace of a community center (which houses lots of other offices including these two individuals).

My executive committee members constantly talk about oh poor so and so they have a lot going on in their personal life, hello – I have a life too (I have never said that except you know I have personal issues too but I don't bring them to the office).

I am just dying to get away from here. I am applying to other places, but with this economy I feel like its going to take forever. I know the smart thing to do is to keep working until I find another place, but this effecting my health, my sleep, my eating habits, and so fourth. I know that's not healthy and I have tried for so long to not let get to me, which I am doing pretty good if I may say so considering all the stuff I have been through. It has been since November 2007, nothing has changed. The staff member had a position with a term, which eneded this past November (2008). Well, some of my board members said they agreed she needed to go, well this other colleague has hired her… no one has said anything! The board is over all three of us..

As you can see, it would be a great book for supervisors…I am just sooo tired of people backstabbing, lying, gossiping, trying to damage other people, and then acting with a smile and crying to be the drama people. I have to say I kept my ethics, values, and myself from doing anything wrong, which I mean I have been honest, straight forward, hard working, committeed to my job, and so fourth.

I am just soooo tired of it all and I know every job we have we go through stuff like this, but it just seems like 100% worse than what we normally go through…

Okay, sorry for the blabbing..what should I do?

stick it to him. dont make him feel good about treatin you like crap or he will continue to treat others like that

make a difference!