Comments on: How to get along with difficult co-workers http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Thu, 09 Feb 2012 13:32:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: EMFHAAC http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-266369 EMFHAAC Sun, 18 Dec 2011 13:10:54 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/#comment-266369 There's nothing wrong with you really, these people are scared of people who are strong enough not to latch on to the groupthink mentality. The saddest thing about these people is when they're by themselves they don't have the balls to say something to you. Only when they're around their pack of fools. There's nothing wrong with you really, these people are scared of people who are strong enough not to latch on to the groupthink mentality. The saddest thing about these people is when they're by themselves they don't have the balls to say something to you. Only when they're around their pack of fools.

]]> By: EMFHAAC http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-266367 EMFHAAC Sun, 18 Dec 2011 12:54:57 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/#comment-266367 Damn right, some logic here. Damn right, some logic here.

]]> By: EMFHAAC http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-266366 EMFHAAC Sun, 18 Dec 2011 12:54:19 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/#comment-266366 What a joke, the real world is about cliques and pettiness in the workplace. You better join the team if you know what's good for you. You better suggest you're of the same breed (religion, sexual preference, willing to accept abuse)... or you'll know what the curb is. Introverts are evil! They don't talk and they're weird! Take away their jobs. Groupthink and ignorance is the reason people can get away with saying that good social skills at work show empathy, as opposed to those who naturally feel empathy for others but lack the social skills that the popular kids frame as "normal" or "good." What a joke, the real world is about cliques and pettiness in the workplace. You better join the team if you know what's good for you. You better suggest you're of the same breed (religion, sexual preference, willing to accept abuse)… or you'll know what the curb is. Introverts are evil! They don't talk and they're weird! Take away their jobs. Groupthink and ignorance is the reason people can get away with saying that good social skills at work show empathy, as opposed to those who naturally feel empathy for others but lack the social skills that the popular kids frame as "normal" or "good."

]]> By: MW http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-265653 MW Sat, 10 Dec 2011 14:24:12 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/#comment-265653 I am an assistant manager in a place with 18 women who all get along with each other,accept one. The manager. She treats people with no respect. Until I came on the seen she ruled with intimidation.Since I came on the seen 4 years ago and saw how she has treated people and have had many sassy fights about it,she has baked off. But still has many unreasonable moments. The head of our food service has told me to keep with putting her in her place because he doesn't get as many phone calls about her as he did before.He used to get complaints daily. but here is the deal. I can't stand her. I can't stand to hear her voice any more. She makes us all crazy. Her boss avoids phone calls from her because he knows what a drama queen she is. Now my question is How do I get along with her? We are supposed to be partners! I can't deal with her control issues. But until she retires or I quit we have to get along. After we have a blow up fight I feel aweful about myself. I really don't like that. I need to find a better way to get along with her. Do you have any suggestions. I am trying to make it a better place to work and my dislike for her isn't good for morale of the rest of the people! I am an assistant manager in a place with 18 women who all get along with each other,accept one. The manager. She treats people with no respect. Until I came on the seen she ruled with intimidation.Since I came on the seen 4 years ago and saw how she has treated people and have had many sassy fights about it,she has baked off. But still has many unreasonable moments.
The head of our food service has told me to keep with putting her in her place because he doesn't get as many phone calls about her as he did before.He used to get complaints daily.
but here is the deal. I can't stand her. I can't stand to hear her voice any more. She makes us all crazy. Her boss avoids phone calls from her because he knows what a drama queen she is.
Now my question is How do I get along with her? We are supposed to be partners!
I can't deal with her control issues. But until she retires or I quit we have to get along.
After we have a blow up fight I feel aweful about myself. I really don't like that.
I need to find a better way to get along with her.
Do you have any suggestions.
I am trying to make it a better place to work and my dislike for her isn't good for morale of the rest of the people!

]]> By: Sent http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-264835 Sent Mon, 28 Nov 2011 03:27:00 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/#comment-264835 What's wrong with being an individual who is genuine? You are narrow in categorizing people into two groups: high and low self-monitors. And what's this jealousy accusation? It is ridiculous. I'm an introvert and I am glad to be who I am, wherever I am. I admit I have a hard time being social at work and in public, but I am not jealous of high self-monitors or outgoing people. You need to check your article's assumptions. And your assertion that it is important to be liked by everyone is ludicrous. Like some famous actress said, "If everyone likes you, you're not doing it right." Think about it before you write another article. What's wrong with being an individual who is genuine? You are narrow in categorizing people into two groups: high and low self-monitors. And what's this jealousy accusation? It is ridiculous. I'm an introvert and I am glad to be who I am, wherever I am. I admit I have a hard time being social at work and in public, but I am not jealous of high self-monitors or outgoing people. You need to check your article's assumptions. And your assertion that it is important to be liked by everyone is ludicrous. Like some famous actress said, "If everyone likes you, you're not doing it right." Think about it before you write another article.

]]> By: allie http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-260165 allie Wed, 14 Sep 2011 09:13:00 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/#comment-260165 wORKPLACE GOSSIP IS THE WORSE THING:  i WORKED 13 DIFFERENT JOBS BECAUSE i HAD A SERIOUS MENTAL ILLNESS SINCE EARLY CHILDHOOD.  i WAS ALREADY TEASE BUT NEVER BEAT UP BECAUSE WHEN THAT SHIT STARTEDTHEIR BEHIND WOULD GET BEAT.  i NEVER STARTED ANY TROUBLE BUT BECAUSE i WAS LABELED AS The crazy the nut i was different and a target to make fun of.  on these13difernt jobs I worked I can say only two real good friends came of it..  Now the men never tease...thy not I was not only mentally ill but very atttractive and of course they didn't want to ruin their chance of trying to get sex or whatever they wanted with me.This too was offensive to me when I would refused their advances they would then commence to oh that old crazy bitch and  a lot of unnecessary bad mouthing.Also I have always been a person who worked hard always was early for work ,got awards for my excellent work habits.  I was highly crizitized for being an excellent employee but what really got to me was sure I did have a serious mental disorder but when the igorant co-workers learn I was winning  a cash award fully knowing I was a dedicated worker they say why are they giving that old retarded "B" an  award.This was one thing I found totally offensive because retardation is center around your IQ and I did have amental disability but I was not born mental retarded and ignorant scornful people need to learn that mentally ill is not the same asmental retardation.  I get sickof hearing people saying I should have just reported these people for teasing me while I tried so hard to ignore them by putting my time into my work and not arguing with stupid people but this not just cursing them out or kicking their asses as they deserve causeme great physically and emotional problems due to keeping  my feelings in trying to ignore the evil, scornfulness of ignorant people someof which even had the nerve to brag on their being a christian because they when to church but not really followed the bible to LOVE EVERYONE EVEN AN ENMEY OF WHICH THEY MADE THEMSELVES TO ME ALWAYS APPROACHING ME WITH SCORN,DECEPTION NOTHING BUT EVIL.   NO ONE DOES ANYTHING ABOUT THIS.   THE ONLY CASE I WON DUE TO DISCRIMINITIONON DISABILTY WAS MY BOSS UNDERPAYING ME SIMPLY BECAUSE I WAS MENTALLY DISABLE YET THE MOST QUALIFIED, LONGEST EMPLOYED AT COMPANY IN MY FIELD NOT TO MENTION I WON THE EMPLOYEE OF THE YEAR TWO TIMES . THEN IF I WAS AN EXCELLENT EMPLOYEE WHY SHOULDN'T I GET EQUAL PAY.  BUT THIS HURTFUL GOSSIP AND SCORN ON THE  JOB IT IS A HARDER CASE TO PROVE....THE BEST THING  IS TO MOVE ON TO THE NEXT JOB AND WHAT I LEARN ABOUT MY WORKING IS I WORKED ONLY ONE JOB I DIDN'T ENCOUNTER THIS HOWEVER IT WAS ONLY TEMPORARY AND THAT WAS I WORK IN A SMALL OFFICE AT ACOLLEGE WA THE ONLY CLEARICAL PERSON AND THE PROFESSORS HAD NO TIME TO BE TRYING TO INSULT ME OR BE CRITICAL AND THEY WERE MORE INTELLIGENT.  INTELLIGENT ENOUGH TO KNOW THAT EVEN THOUGHT I WAS MENTALLY ILL ASLONG AS I COULD PERFORM HIGHLY , CAUSE NO HARMTO ANYONE I WAS LIKE ANYONE ELSE. THIS SITUAITON THEN MADE ME SOON KNOW A CO-WORKER IS NEVER A FRIEND AND RECENTLY I HAVE LEARN A NEIGHBOR IS NEVER A FRIEND.   TREAT THEM ON THE G SYSTEM.  GOOD MORNING, GOOD BY, GOOD DAY, GENERAL CONVERSATIONNOTHING PERSONAL AND IF THEY GET ON MY NEVERS SLAM A DOOR IN THEIR FACE WITH A GOOD RIDENCE! wORKPLACE GOSSIP IS THE WORSE THING:  i WORKED 13 DIFFERENT JOBS BECAUSE i HAD A SERIOUS MENTAL ILLNESS SINCE EARLY CHILDHOOD.  i WAS
ALREADY TEASE BUT NEVER BEAT UP BECAUSE WHEN THAT SHIT STARTEDTHEIR
BEHIND WOULD GET BEAT.  i NEVER STARTED ANY TROUBLE BUT BECAUSE i WAS
LABELED AS The crazy the nut i was different and a target to make fun of.  on these13difernt
jobs I worked I can say only two real good friends came of it..  Now the men never tease…thy not I was not only mentally ill but very atttractive and of course they didn't want to ruin their
chance of trying to get sex or whatever they wanted with me.This too was offensive to me
when I would refused their advances they would then commence to oh that old crazy bitch
and  a lot of unnecessary bad mouthing.Also I have always been a person who worked hard
always was early for work ,got awards for my excellent work habits.  I was highly crizitized
for being an excellent employee but what really got to me was sure I did have a serious
mental disorder but when the igorant co-workers learn I was winning  a cash award
fully knowing I was a dedicated worker they say why are they giving that old retarded "B"
an  award.This was one thing I found totally offensive because retardation is center around
your IQ and I did have amental disability but I was not born mental retarded and ignorant
scornful people need to learn that mentally ill is not the same asmental retardation. 
I get sickof hearing people saying I should have just reported these people for teasing me
while I tried so hard to ignore them by putting my time into my work and not arguing with
stupid people but this not just cursing them out or kicking their asses as they deserve causeme
great physically and emotional problems due to keeping  my feelings in trying to ignore the evil, scornfulness of ignorant people someof which even had the nerve to brag on their being a christian because they when to church but not really followed the bible to LOVE EVERYONE
EVEN AN ENMEY OF WHICH THEY MADE THEMSELVES TO ME ALWAYS APPROACHING ME WITH SCORN,DECEPTION NOTHING BUT EVIL.   NO ONE DOES
ANYTHING ABOUT THIS.   THE ONLY CASE I WON DUE TO DISCRIMINITIONON DISABILTY WAS MY BOSS UNDERPAYING ME SIMPLY BECAUSE I WAS MENTALLY DISABLE YET THE MOST QUALIFIED, LONGEST EMPLOYED AT COMPANY IN MY FIELD NOT TO MENTION I WON THE EMPLOYEE OF THE YEAR TWO TIMES . THEN IF I WAS AN EXCELLENT EMPLOYEE WHY SHOULDN'T I GET EQUAL PAY.  BUT THIS HURTFUL
GOSSIP AND SCORN ON THE  JOB IT IS A HARDER CASE TO PROVE….THE BEST THING  IS TO MOVE ON TO THE NEXT JOB AND WHAT I LEARN ABOUT MY WORKING
IS I WORKED ONLY ONE JOB I DIDN'T ENCOUNTER THIS HOWEVER IT WAS ONLY TEMPORARY AND THAT WAS I WORK IN A SMALL OFFICE AT ACOLLEGE WA THE ONLY CLEARICAL PERSON AND THE PROFESSORS HAD NO TIME TO BE TRYING TO INSULT ME OR BE CRITICAL AND THEY WERE MORE INTELLIGENT.  INTELLIGENT ENOUGH TO KNOW THAT EVEN THOUGHT I WAS MENTALLY ILL ASLONG AS I COULD PERFORM HIGHLY , CAUSE NO HARMTO ANYONE I WAS LIKE ANYONE ELSE.
THIS SITUAITON THEN MADE ME SOON KNOW A CO-WORKER IS NEVER A FRIEND
AND RECENTLY I HAVE LEARN A NEIGHBOR IS NEVER A FRIEND.   TREAT THEM ON
THE G SYSTEM.  GOOD MORNING, GOOD BY, GOOD DAY, GENERAL CONVERSATIONNOTHING PERSONAL AND IF THEY GET ON MY NEVERS SLAM A DOOR
IN THEIR FACE WITH A GOOD RIDENCE!

]]> By: Dealing with Difficult People at the Office « Career Startups http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-254330 Dealing with Difficult People at the Office « Career Startups Wed, 06 Jul 2011 14:15:32 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/#comment-254330 [...] to adapt to different people and different situations is a big part of the work world. How you get along with difficult co-workers has a lot to do with social psychology and training yourself to become someone people want to work [...] [...] to adapt to different people and different situations is a big part of the work world. How you get along with difficult co-workers has a lot to do with social psychology and training yourself to become someone people want to work [...]

]]> By: Ginny http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-253750 Ginny Tue, 28 Jun 2011 13:57:46 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/#comment-253750 Amanda, I agree with you also. I have very high standards and will not deviate from the "right" path. My co workers deviate and take short cuts at the expensive of teaching children and giving them every advantage. They do not share any resources and they never include me in any of their activities. I am like a man without a country because I will not be something I am not. You are not being yourself at all if you are totally changing yourself to suit others. People are jealous of those who do what they are suppose to and over achieve. They are rexentful and do not want to keep the pace. I do not fault them for not keeping the pave with me but I do look down and frown upon not doing your job to the best of your ability. My favorite poem isd Man in The Glass. I intend to be able to look in the mirror at the end of my life and be able to save "Job well done". These chameloens could care less because they have changed so much that they would not know their tral selves it they bite themselves in the butt! Be true to your self, either peole like you or not, I do not feel the need to get along with those that stand for nothing and have no backbone to be their own person and not change their personality according to which way the wind blows. I can not stand people like that. They are two faced. Be YOURSELF and realize there will always so me peole who do not like you, screw them, do your job and have other friends who are more like you. You will never feel good about yourself if you are a "jelly fish". This is one of the most untrue articles I have ever read. Amanda, I agree with you also. I have very high standards and will not deviate from the "right" path. My co workers deviate and take short cuts at the expensive of teaching children and giving them every advantage. They do not share any resources and they never include me in any of their activities. I am like a man without a country because I will not be something I am not. You are not being yourself at all if you are totally changing yourself to suit others. People are jealous of those who do what they are suppose to and over achieve. They are rexentful and do not want to keep the pace. I do not fault them for not keeping the pave with me but I do look down and frown upon not doing your job to the best of your ability. My favorite poem isd Man in The Glass. I intend to be able to look in the mirror at the end of my life and be able to save "Job well done". These chameloens could care less because they have changed so much that they would not know their tral selves it they bite themselves in the butt! Be true to your self, either peole like you or not, I do not feel the need to get along with those that stand for nothing and have no backbone to be their own person and not change their personality according to which way the wind blows. I can not stand people like that. They are two faced. Be YOURSELF and realize there will always so me peole who do not like you, screw them, do your job and have other friends who are more like you. You will never feel good about yourself if you are a "jelly fish". This is one of the most untrue articles I have ever read.

]]> By: Tim Wayne http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/comment-page-1/#comment-252221 Tim Wayne Tue, 31 May 2011 04:52:46 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/06/26/how-to-get-along-with-difficult-co-workers/#comment-252221 I think you may have ran into my father somewhere down the line. I think you may have ran into my father somewhere down the line.

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