Comments on: Is it time to quit your job? http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Thu, 18 Mar 2010 06:43:43 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Sara http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-215281 Sara Wed, 02 Dec 2009 16:34:39 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/#comment-215281 I recently discovered this blog and am reading the entire blog from day one because it offers me such a different perspective. I work in the HR realm. Contrary to popular belief, HR doesn't hold the power. We give advice. If the manager believes in something strong enough... it will happen. We have had a "raise freeze" and have given people raises in the disguise of "equity adjustments" or "misclassification in salary grades". If there is an employee so great that a boss will go to bat for them and jump through hoops... the sky is the limit. So in my opinion, the article is dead on but is missing one key element: the boss has to believe in his or her on authority and power. If the boss does not believe in his or her own authority or power, they will not go to bat for anyone... so when you are choosing a boss, make sure that they believe in themselves and their team. The interview is a two way street. Ask questions. I recently discovered this blog and am reading the entire blog from day one because it offers me such a different perspective. I work in the HR realm. Contrary to popular belief, HR doesn't hold the power. We give advice. If the manager believes in something strong enough… it will happen. We have had a "raise freeze" and have given people raises in the disguise of "equity adjustments" or "misclassification in salary grades". If there is an employee so great that a boss will go to bat for them and jump through hoops… the sky is the limit.

So in my opinion, the article is dead on but is missing one key element: the boss has to believe in his or her on authority and power. If the boss does not believe in his or her own authority or power, they will not go to bat for anyone… so when you are choosing a boss, make sure that they believe in themselves and their team. The interview is a two way street. Ask questions.

]]> By: Taha http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-213739 Taha Sat, 07 Nov 2009 21:16:18 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/#comment-213739 I kind of agree with this. I think the big thing is that despite trying to get your boss to like you... there will always be those inherent personality conflicts that creep into the boss's mind. My biggest problem is that my boss once told me that my personality mirrors once of her kids (this isn't bad- it just makes me more transparent than I would like to be)... hence she can read my moods like an open book! If I'm crabby she knows, if I'm happy she knows. It's easier if you can put up "emotional walls" so to speak, but at the same time, you don;t want to be a robot at work. I kind of agree with this. I think the big thing is that despite trying to get your boss to like you… there will always be those inherent personality conflicts that creep into the boss's mind.

My biggest problem is that my boss once told me that my personality mirrors once of her kids (this isn't bad- it just makes me more transparent than I would like to be)… hence she can read my moods like an open book! If I'm crabby she knows, if I'm happy she knows. It's easier if you can put up "emotional walls" so to speak, but at the same time, you don;t want to be a robot at work.

]]> By: How to assess if your job is right for you in the long run « internSHARE Blog http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-189075 How to assess if your job is right for you in the long run « internSHARE Blog Wed, 15 Jul 2009 20:25:28 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/#comment-189075 [...] Some things to consider when deciding to stay or go: [...] [...] Some things to consider when deciding to stay or go: [...]

]]> By: How to assess if your job is right for you | TalentEgg Career Incubator http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-189070 How to assess if your job is right for you | TalentEgg Career Incubator Wed, 15 Jul 2009 20:02:26 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/#comment-189070 [...] Some things to consider when deciding to stay or go: [...] [...] Some things to consider when deciding to stay or go: [...]

]]> By: When to Walk Away from a Job « Career & Coffee http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-186923 When to Walk Away from a Job « Career & Coffee Sun, 07 Jun 2009 04:51:06 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/#comment-186923 [...] climate we’ve been faced with this past year, there are times when you have to JUST SAY NO and walk away from a [...] [...] climate we’ve been faced with this past year, there are times when you have to JUST SAY NO and walk away from a [...]

]]> By: rpse,aru http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-182176 rpse,aru Tue, 10 Mar 2009 19:13:19 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/#comment-182176 I also would like to know the answer to your problem I also would like to know the answer to your problem

]]> By: Erin http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-177788 Erin Wed, 24 Dec 2008 15:28:03 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/#comment-177788 Brenda I meant I had a problem with the article not with your comment. Your comment proves to me that one of the reasons I think an employee's focus should be on the work and not on sucking up to the boss is because some bosses will not back you up or just don't like you because they are narcissistic people. I've had similar troubles in the past. what angered me most about this article is I came here hoping for good advice from this author and was basically told I wasn't a good enough employee. I'm so sorry you thought I was referring to you. I hope you've found other work where you are appreciated. You know, its funny how some people say its hard to find good employees. I've had trouble finding good employers! Brenda
I meant I had a problem with the article not with your comment. Your comment proves to me that one of the reasons I think an employee's focus should be on the work and not on sucking up to the boss is because some bosses will not back you up or just don't like you because they are narcissistic people. I've had similar troubles in the past. what angered me most about this article is I came here hoping for good advice from this author and was basically told I wasn't a good enough employee.
I'm so sorry you thought I was referring to you. I hope you've found other work where you are appreciated. You know, its funny how some people say its hard to find good employees. I've had trouble finding good employers!

]]> By: Brenda Renner http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-173032 Brenda Renner Sat, 15 Nov 2008 05:51:50 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/#comment-173032 No, my job,Raven, was not to to suck up to the boss...my job was to do my job, which I did! The question was: How in this world to people, like me, us, get wonderful reviews? and then someone decides that they "don't like you" and you basically get "fired"? without references? I came into this office with Excellent references and I leave with nothing? How, now do I get a job? No, my job,Raven, was not to to suck up to the boss…my job was to do my job, which I did! The question was: How in this world to people, like me, us, get wonderful reviews? and then someone decides that they "don't like you" and you basically get "fired"? without references? I came into this office with Excellent references and I leave with nothing? How, now do I get a job?

]]> By: Raven http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-173014 Raven Fri, 14 Nov 2008 18:27:06 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/#comment-173014 I have a problem with this one- I thought your job was to do your job, not suck up to the boss. I have a problem with this one- I thought your job was to do your job, not suck up to the boss.

]]> By: Brenda Renner http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-172694 Brenda Renner Thu, 06 Nov 2008 17:03:46 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2006/01/30/is-it-time-to-quit-your-job/#comment-172694 I had a circumstance, where I was basically forced into quitting a job I loved. I was there for six months, and two months prior to my departure I was given a boss (in the legal field), who was at that time just wonderful. We got along fabulously, she told me over and over again that I was the best she had ever had. My review from her was Excellent across the board. Over Labor Day Weekend, I went into work and upon our return on that Tuesday, she stopped talking to me. When I approached her to discuss the situation, she basically told me that I wasn't a teamplayer, she could not work with me, and she basically berated me verbally. (We also had been to a concert with her son, whom she used to bring into the office and then refused to let him talk to me). I approached management and they said that there was nothing they could do for me and they were 'sorry. I put in my notice, because she stopped talking to me and refused to even acknowledge my good mornings. Now I am unemployed and still wondering: what happened? I believe it was bad management and just really bad luck at a job I truly loved and wanted to stay with the company. I wish there could have been a way to sue. I had a circumstance, where I was basically forced into quitting a job I loved. I was there for six months, and two months prior to my departure I was given a boss (in the legal field), who was at that time just wonderful. We got along fabulously, she told me over and over again that I was the best she had ever had. My review from her was Excellent across the board. Over Labor Day Weekend, I went into work and upon our return on that Tuesday, she stopped talking to me. When I approached her to discuss the situation, she basically told me that I wasn't a teamplayer, she could not work with me, and she basically berated me verbally. (We also had been to a concert with her son, whom she used to bring into the office and then refused to let him talk to me). I approached management and they said that there was nothing they could do for me and they were 'sorry. I put in my notice, because she stopped talking to me and refused to even acknowledge my good mornings. Now I am unemployed and still wondering: what happened? I believe it was bad management and just really bad luck at a job I truly loved and wanted to stay with the company. I wish there could have been a way to sue.

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