Comments on: Moving back home with your parents is a good career move

By: Olivia

Olivia — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 08:59:53 +0000

Interesting comments, really got me thinking now. I've only just moved to another city for study, three weeks ago, and i'm missing home so badly, regretting the decision to come here. It seems to be the thing everyone in Perth (and all around Australia) does at my age (23), move to Melbourne, for more 'opportunities', but honestly, it's so hard to get a job, and they pay less here.
I'm wondering if it's all worth it, whether I should just go back home and study there.
Plus, I get along well with my parents.
I keep looking at one way airfares……

By: Realtor

Realtor — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 14:27:36 +0000

I too had to move in with my parents for two years. I was sick of my job, in television decided on a change. I spent all my savings for a graduate degree, and moved back in. It was fun living with my parents, of course I had to sacrifice privacy. However, I dont think anyone can achieve anything without a few sacrifices.

By: the not me

the not me — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 09:20:05 +0000

I am almost 33 years old and have never moved out of my parents house. They do charge me rent because I have a job, but it's a job that goes nowhere. I graduated college 8 years ago, but I still don't have enough money to move out. The rising cost of everything has forced me to stay put. Until the cost of living stops increasing and starts decreasing, there is no way I will ever be able to move out of my parents house. My college degree is a four year degree in art. But now there's no art jobs to be found. I'm screwed.

By: Nancy

Nancy — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 03:29:00 +0000

I'm in the same situation. I have a degree and a college diploma and can't seem to get ahead. I'm now working towards a masters. Three years ago I decided to come home to help my father die gracefully and with some humour as my mother is emotionally abusive. I thought I'd be able to pay off debt while living at home, which I have but because they live in a rural area it is very difficult to find a good paying job or any job for that matter. When my father passed in January, my mother begged me to stay and I now feel stuck. I would love to move to the city but I can't afford the rent and damage deposit. I took a job at the local daycare and my mother loves to ridicule me about it and tell me I'm an embarrassment after all the schooling I did. She quickly forgets that I sacrificed my life and work to move home and help out. I told her I'm studying hoping to get my masters and she belittles me about that as well. I, like you, feel I've gained 10 years on my back having to deal with this woman, who I call my roommate. I've never really fit in with this family. My friends have always said so. I've now decided to use this situation to my benefit and try and block out her nasty words. So, those of you lucky to have the Beaver Cleaver family, move home and save money, and for those of you like myself, good luck!

By: Jww7

Jww7 — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 03:17:00 +0000

I have been stuck with my parents for the last 14 months. It was the worst mistake I ever made, barring going back to school. I have lost all my self-esteem and have pretty much given up. It was deteriorated my relationship with my parents to the point where I honestly hate them. When and if I ever get out, I'm never coming back. It may make financial sense, but the wear and tear on you emotions may make it more costly then starving on your own.

By: Jay

Jay — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 18:07:00 +0000

I'm surprised that this is such a big issue in the western world. Most people in India live with their parents, often even after getting married; the only exception is if you have to move away for work. Having done it myself (briefly, during my first job out of college), it's not too bad and not disempowering at all, if you contribute to the household expenses and/or pay rent. It saves you a lot of money and is great for the environment (every boomeranger is one less separate household contributing to the emissions problem). And strong, cordial family ties are good for everyone in the long run. If you act like an adult (pick up after yourself, pay for stuff, take responsibility), you will/should be treated like an adult, no matter where you live.

By: Kat9997

Kat9997 — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 14:06:00 +0000

i am about to graduate in 2012 and im torn between moving in with my bf at 22 and continuing to live with my parents. i spent college commuting from my parents house to school. although it has been a very big advantage for me not having to take out loans for a dorm room im itching to move out. but parents are a very good financial crutch when you are starting out.

By: Tusk-King

Tusk-King — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 03:30:15 +0000

Al, I 100% agree with you, there is nothing wrong with moving back in to get your life in order, sometimes its needed, there's no shame in it.

By: Al

Al — Sat, 20 Aug 2011 22:02:08 +0000

I like this article – I too have college debt and am moving back to my hometown to live with my dad and hopefully get a job in my field where there is less competition and more caring people.

I'd just like to point out – I lived in South Korea for a year teaching ESL, where I saved up about 10,000 dollars, all of which went back into school, and I still ended up 10,000 dollars in debt.

In South Korea, and much of Asia, it's not only NORMAL to live with your parents until you get married, or decide you want to move out, parents there encourage it. It's not really financially feasible to move out in South Korea as you have to have "key money" to put down on an apartment, generally between 10,000-50,000 dollars.

I guess what I want to say is I don't think moving back in with your parents is a failure – and besides, I think it fosters something we are missing in much of our "independent" culture in the west – and that is interaction between the generations on a daily basis. I mean, living on my own, I talk to my parents about once a week, and I get the highlights. But, really, you can't be close with someone unless you're in each other's life. Those are the people who count – the people who show up and continue to show up. I like my parents, and I know that I have a better relationship with them then when I left for college – because we can connect as adults.

I think it's attitude of people that makes "boomerangers" feel like children again. But we're not children at all, and in fact moving back in with parents so that the rest of the world will treat us as adults – in terms of employment and allowing time to pursue dreams instead of just settling is not a failure at all.

I think people need an attitude adjustment, and to look at the reality of starting out as a young adult today. If you haven't walked in those shoes, made sandwiches or cleaned hotel rooms when you have a BA, well guess what? Maybe you should try it and see how you like living a life where there is no family, no connection, and your hours make it impossible to see beyond your next paycheque. Middle class kids living in poverty when they don't have to is madness.

I'm not vouching for a free ride, but I am saying that sometimes you have to fall back in order to rally the troupes. And honestly, I know that I love being around people that I love and respect. And when I'm in a better position, I will move out.

Life is so short. Why waste it being away from the people you love to do work you hate?

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