Comments on: Sometimes work is a welcome distraction

By: What it’s like to have sex with someone with Asperger’s « Spectrumville: A Forum for People with Aspergers Syndrome (Site Blog)

Sun, 23 Jan 2011 19:00:52 +0000

[...] if the person leaves the room to get some water. So that’s why I was able to have a kid (and a miscarriage) only having sex two [...]

By: Sex « Levned og meninger

Sex « Levned og meninger — Sun, 28 Nov 2010 11:03:35 +0000

[...] if the person leaves the room to get some water. So that’s why I was able to have a kid (and a miscarriage) only having sex two [...]

By: mamasmouth.com :: What it’s like to have sex with someone with Asperger’s :: http://www.mamasmouth.com

Mon, 22 Nov 2010 02:54:04 +0000

[...] if the person leaves the room to get some water. So that’s why I was able to have a kid (and a miscarriage) only having sex two [...]

By: Tweeting a miscarriage

Tweeting a miscarriage — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 07:26:56 +0000

[...] situation was very different: This was a baby she very much wanted to have. In a post titled "Sometimes Work Is a Welcome Distraction," she tersely explained: "I am four months pregnant. But the baby is dead, inside me, [...]

By: Jenny

Jenny — Wed, 05 May 2010 05:06:31 +0000

I so wish that I had read this post when it was written and I was 28 years old and about to get married and before years of infertility, miscarriages and pain. After having a missed miscarriage like this, I knew one thing was for certain, I could never have an abortion. I probably would be extremely inconvenienced by a pregnancy now with two kids, but I couldn't have an abortion. I am not judging Penelope though. I am just speaking for myself. After wanting a life so badly and losing it, I cannot imagine it. But more importantly, I look back on what I thought about children before I had them. I look back on life without these wonderful human beings, and I don't trust myself to decide who lives and who dies. I couldn't decide that. That child that I didn't want to give birth could have looked more like me than my husband, liked to dance or sing more than my son, or draw more than my daughter. She/he could be the one that saves my life when I fall into a pool when I am 80. I don't know, but after hating God for infertility and miscarriages, I know that I don't want to be Him and make those kinds of decisions. This is not a judgement against her decision – just where I am now. I spent my 20s as a very angry, pro-choice feminist law student and attorney fighting for my right to an abortion and absolutely ignorant of my biological clock. I want women to have the right to choose, but unfortunately the knowledge of the extreme kind of pain that can result from that choice may only be experienced many years after the choice has been made. It takes knowledge of oneself and alot of educating oneself to make such a decision.

By: Christie

Christie — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 00:28:57 +0000

Okay. i know I'm late to the ballgame. I am in shock over the horrible, cruel, judgemental things people have said. I'm 38 with a 20 years old and a 3 year old. I've never had an abortion but have had a welcome miscarriage while at work. None of us truly know what Penelope was going through during each of her pregnancies, nor do we know the true reasons behind her choices or feelings. I AM glad she chose to discuss them in an open forum while knowing she would be subject to abuse. It takes either a strong or a completely befuddled person to do this. Obviously she is strong and intelligent.
I appreciate the fact that she talks openly about situations that most of us hide. Few people knew I was having a miscarriage at work (while working in a hospital as a nurse taking care of critically ill people). Even fewer knew that I was happy about it. It was haarder to fake the expected sadness than it was to miscarry. I would not trade my children for anything but to have had that child with such a miserable abusive man would have been a fate worse than death. Without a child together he stalked me for 4 more years after the relationship was over. a kid together??? Bury me now.
Penelope, I thank you for letting the world know what you were going through. People may not understand your methods or tone but really, who cares? besides, how can you get across emotion in a tweet or a few words. I just want to thank you and give you kudos.

By: A Tweet Too Far? Having a Miscarriage in a Board Meeting and Tweeting It — Holy Hormones, Honey!

Fri, 20 Nov 2009 06:01:51 +0000

[...] a blog post at the time, she said I am four months pregnant. But the baby is dead, inside me, and must be removed. I am [...]

By: em

em — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 09:15:53 +0000

yo.

i respect you, and infact i thought your tweet was pretty cool.

By: Wendi

Wendi — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 17:30:32 +0000

Your post is precious. Not in a cutesy "ooh so prey-scious" way but in a sweet, beautiful and treasured way. We all react to death in different ways; and also according to who it is that died. I have only had six people die that I was related to – both grandmothers and grandfathers, a great aunt and great-grandmother. I handled each death differently. Some hit me more than others. My paternal grandmother was very sick. My maternal grandmother was not, her death was a shock. And again, grandparents; not my husband or even my own parents.

Not having children or even being pregnant, I cannot imagine how you are feeling; nor could I even assume to suggest how you should have coped with the news of your child. How you cope is between you and your family. We are not here to judge.

By: Cora

Cora — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 18:25:48 +0000

Penelope,

I must say that when I saw you on Rick Sanchez and read your tweet, I was outraged. It came across to me as if you had absolutely no value for human life whatsoever. Reading your blogs, though, I see that that's not the case. I'm not going to say that I agree with all the choices you have made. I think that, as adults, we should be able to agree to disagree without anyone being labeled as ignorant or bigoted or sexist or whatever other terms tend to be thrown around. Whether I agree with your choices or not, however, I see that you ARE human and you DO feel, and I appreciate your openness in sharing what have been incredibly traumatic, life-altering events for you. I'm glad that this miscarriage wasn't the last word for you, and that you were blessed with two little ones later. I truly wish you the best, and I hope that your honesty makes a difference in the lives of other women who have gone or will go through similar things.