Comments on: Leave the family business to know if you should stay http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/ Advice at the intersection of work and life Thu, 18 Mar 2010 04:31:53 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: professional seo http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/comment-page-1/#comment-221698 professional seo Sat, 27 Feb 2010 17:26:59 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/#comment-221698 Success comes only from discipline training and loving your work. Great blog, fantastic informations. thanks. Success comes only from discipline training and loving your work. Great blog, fantastic informations. thanks.

]]> By: 67 vanner http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/comment-page-1/#comment-217943 67 vanner Wed, 13 Jan 2010 15:54:34 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/#comment-217943 I just gave my notice to my father last night. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. The family business is all I have ever known. I feel like I have given up and let everyone down by leaving. But I just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I'm constantly trying to do what is right for the business and what my father wants that I feel my needs are not being met. I'm working towards his retirement and not mine. And although that may sound selfish...I am expected to buy the business and by that time I am 40 with a large financial commitment, just begining to work towards my retirement. I feel like I am buying myself a job...that I will work even harder at then I am now. So finally I have decided to leave. I'm scared but I also know today is the rest of MY life. I'm not sure how things could have been different...family businesses are very complicated relationships. We know how to emotionally manipulate each other into certain situations and it becomes very unhealthy. I'm hoping our father son relationship will benefit from my departure, but at this point it has to get worse before it can get better. I just gave my notice to my father last night. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. The family business is all I have ever known. I feel like I have given up and let everyone down by leaving. But I just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I'm constantly trying to do what is right for the business and what my father wants that I feel my needs are not being met. I'm working towards his retirement and not mine. And although that may sound selfish…I am expected to buy the business and by that time I am 40 with a large financial commitment, just begining to work towards my retirement. I feel like I am buying myself a job…that I will work even harder at then I am now. So finally I have decided to leave. I'm scared but I also know today is the rest of MY life. I'm not sure how things could have been different…family businesses are very complicated relationships. We know how to emotionally manipulate each other into certain situations and it becomes very unhealthy. I'm hoping our father son relationship will benefit from my departure, but at this point it has to get worse before it can get better.

]]> By: 2base-tl http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/comment-page-1/#comment-217430 2base-tl Thu, 07 Jan 2010 14:37:55 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/#comment-217430 I found your blog on google and read a few of your other posts. I just added you to my Google News Reader. Keep up the good work Look forward to reading more from you in the future. I found your blog on google and read a few of your other posts. I just added you to my Google News Reader. Keep up the good work Look forward to reading more from you in the future.

]]> By: Anonymous http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/comment-page-1/#comment-215666 Anonymous Sun, 06 Dec 2009 17:18:04 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/#comment-215666 Well that was a awesome read, thanks dean Well that was a awesome read, thanks dean

]]> By: Coupon Script http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/comment-page-1/#comment-215434 Coupon Script Fri, 04 Dec 2009 23:41:49 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/#comment-215434 Bravo, great article. Thanks for the effort to put it together. Bravo, great article. Thanks for the effort to put it together.

]]> By: otes http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/comment-page-1/#comment-214457 otes Thu, 19 Nov 2009 23:48:59 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/#comment-214457 Every man is the builder of a temple called his body. Every man is the builder of a temple called his body.

]]> By: Mike Poplar http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/comment-page-1/#comment-213749 Mike Poplar Sun, 08 Nov 2009 01:12:22 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/#comment-213749 Really good blog you have here. I found you on yahoo. I am going to add you to my google reader. Really good blog you have here. I found you on yahoo. I am going to add you to my google reader.

]]> By: Ronda http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/comment-page-1/#comment-203584 Ronda Sat, 26 Sep 2009 16:49:11 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/#comment-203584 wow way cool products! wow way cool products!

]]> By: Melissa http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/comment-page-1/#comment-198128 Melissa Tue, 08 Sep 2009 01:30:47 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/#comment-198128 For me it would have been easier NOT having a family business. As an only child (20 yrs ago) I somehow feel this absolute to make my parents proud even if it means sacrificing what I want, which I don't even know what that is. Thing is, I started the business with my father a couple years ago (still critical where I am needed to help run it) and and feeling more and more lost in life. Especially since I hate what I do. I dream of just leaving my life behind to experience one that I've never had. A life where I don't put my parents wishes for me first over the wishes for myself. In the business I have I would be set. Never have to worry about money or losing my job. As I get older I feel more and more lost and tried to make myself believe this is what I want. If I don't know myself, how do I know that this may actually be what I want or even what I don't want. I have nothing holding me back, i.e. responsibilities, spouse/children, obligations or commitments except the fact that I would lose the relationship I have with my parents. My short story may sound very sad and depressing, but reading this article helps me to realize that what I think I need to do is what I actually need to do. For me it would have been easier NOT having a family business. As an only child (20 yrs ago) I somehow feel this absolute to make my parents proud even if it means sacrificing what I want, which I don't even know what that is. Thing is, I started the business with my father a couple years ago (still critical where I am needed to help run it) and and feeling more and more lost in life. Especially since I hate what I do. I dream of just leaving my life behind to experience one that I've never had. A life where I don't put my parents wishes for me first over the wishes for myself. In the business I have I would be set. Never have to worry about money or losing my job. As I get older I feel more and more lost and tried to make myself believe this is what I want. If I don't know myself, how do I know that this may actually be what I want or even what I don't want.
I have nothing holding me back, i.e. responsibilities, spouse/children, obligations or commitments except the fact that I would lose the relationship I have with my parents.

My short story may sound very sad and depressing, but reading this article helps me to realize that what I think I need to do is what I actually need to do.

]]> By: amber http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/comment-page-1/#comment-193878 amber Wed, 26 Aug 2009 05:04:48 +0000 http://lolindrath.dyndns.org/lolindrath/wordpress/2003/02/17/leave-the-family-business-to-know-if-you-should-stay/#comment-193878 interesting information. but really nice and good point However I don't have a family business interesting information. but really nice and good point However I don't have a family business

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