I got an apartment with my boyfriend at a young age and I didn't make my desires for equality with household duties clear in the beginning. Bad mistake because now I'm trippin' over breadcrumbs. This post helped me see that this problem can and will grow if I let it.

I think that this is the most telling quote from the entire post – "But Donna’s problem persists: she thinks a parent should be at home, and she doesn’t want to be that parent."

Normally I would question why a high-powered couple, neither of whom actually wants to stay home and raise kids would have kids in the first place.

Normally I would point out that the person who feels the most strongly about an issue – let's say… crumbs on the cutting board – is going to end up being the one who has to man up and wipe the crumbs into the sink. Waiting for one's partner (who has expressed an indifference toward bread crumbs) to suddenly develop a strong desire to clean up the crumbs is both an exercise in futility and a guaranteed path toward arguments and resentment.

I would also suggest that the couple in question look into getting an au pair or a nanny. That way the kids can stay home and the parents don't have to.

What kind of resolution (if any) was there in this case? I am curious…